Originally Posted by
123LuckyMom
I respectfully disagree. Here's why. If YOU take your son to the surgeon, and the surgeon examines his ears, and he gets even the tiniest sense that he's there because his ears are problematic, then YOU have been the one to clue him in that there is something about him that needs to be fixed. This happened with my mother and my sister, and it caused pretty serious repercussions. No child should feel that his mother, of all people, thinks he is anything less than adorable. Of course you DO think he is adorable, and I'm not criticizing. I'm just offering another perspective. If, on the other hand, he comes to you some day and says, "I wish my ears weren't so big," or any other similar comment, you can say, "Well, if you want your ears to look different, we can see if that's possible. I bet it is." Then you are helping him make a positive, wanted change in his appearance. It seems like a much better, emotionally safer scenario to me. You're not going to let him endure constant teasing. The first time he has a negative ear-related experience, you can have the conversation with him. If he goes ahead with the surgery, he'll have a sense of confidence that he solved a problem for himself. If he doesn't, he'll know that it's his choice to keep his ears the way they are, and the teasing won't scar him. In either scenario, he will have identified whether there is a problem and whether he wants to address it, and you will have done nothing but help him carry out his wishes. I really think that's best, though I completely understand the impulse to want to shield him from even the comments that are happening now and he's not hearing and from that first, painful experience of teasing, but I wouldn't. I'd wait.