Does your SO attend non-routine appts for your child?

[wellyes]

No. DD is being evaluated for anxiety and possible ADHD. It's a whole lot of appointments. We talk before, we obviously talk after. But we don't need to be physically present for every thing. One of the benefits of being a SAHP is that the other parent isn't obligated to use vacation time for appointments.

If an appointment coincides with a day he's off, yes, I expect him to come. That happened last week when MA had a holiday the rest of the world doesn't bother with (Patriot's Day).

[Pear]

We both attend almost all appointments, so I would certainly expect my partner to be there for something bigger than an ear ache.

[okinawama]

No, not usually. Thankfully, we haven't had many non-routine issues, but the ones that we have had ( speech evals on both boys, ENT visits, MRSA issues) he hasn't come. No sense in both of us taking off work. I'd rather him save his sick days and use them when one of the boys are sick, so I don't have to take a day off of work.

[carolinacool]

I want to add that in both my and DH's cases, we don't really have to claim sick time or vacation time for a normal visit. If we take an hour or 90 minutes for an appointment, we'll work through lunch, stay later or work a little from home. It all evens out in the end.

[wencit]

I handle almost everything, but I'm a SAHM, so it's much easier for me to get to appointments than it is for DH. He also works 45 miles away, so that's a big factor, too. We try to save any PTO days for family-related fun things. Fortunately - knock on wood - we have not had many non-routine appointments with either kid, but unless it's something really major, I expect to handle these things myself.

[flashy09]

No because I would rather he stayed home with DD2 at the moment. The only non routine thing has been a VGOC on DD1 though, nothing really very serious. If it was something scary/serious I would get a sitter and bring him.

[MMMommy]

This. DH rarely attends, routine, non-routine, doesn't matter.

This. I usually handle solo. If the appointment falls on a weekend, DH might go.

[JamiMac]

No, I would not expect him to do that. I am a sahm though, so I do all appointments.


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[elephantmeg]

He did go to the psych intro evals for both kids (where we discussed the issues) and the result appointment but I do the routine ones solo and the testing ones too. He went to the first appoitment for both kids but I couldn't drive yet. He went to both level 2 u/s but not otherwise. He doesn't go to yearly exams. I did call him to come help once-I had taken both kids by myself (1 and 3 yo and they couldn't get blood on the 1 yo and DS was being a handfull. He worked 5 min away so he was able to come for 15 min or so to help out. I ended up sticking DD (I'm a peds nurse and the pedi knew me from work) so I couldn't have done that while keeping up with DS.

The only specialist appointments were with DD after her burn where we had to drive 45 min to UVA. I don't think he went to any of those-except the one where it was snowing hard and he drove

[boolady]

No, he does not. We both WOH FT, DH has a 1.5 hour commute, and he has far less PTO than I do. We both have to use PTO if we need to take DD to an appt., so I try to do all appts. so that he does not use all of his up. Because of his commute, if he attended an appt., even at 9 a.m., he'd end up having to take several hours of PTO just to attend. It's not doable for us at all. ETA: Even if it was easier for us to accomplish, I doubt we would both attend non-routine appointments unless they were for something very serious. Each is able to accurately report to the other what happened and what the doctor had to say.