I think I just need to type this out because I am torn.
Last year, DH and I seriously discussed me quitting my job and freelancing. We agreed to give it "another year" to see how things went at my work, if work/life balance could improve.
Work/life balance has improved...but not by much. The industry I'm in cycles during the year, and we are in a busy cycle now so I expect to be working many nights/weekends. However, this year has also seemed pretty much non-stop since January. The company is taking small steps to try to fix the workload issue. I emphasize small because it's not really enough, but it is a positive that the company is moving in the right direction.
Anyway, my job is client-facing and can be extremely stressful and is very demanding but my clients love me and specifically ask for me. I was so stressed out last year that this is why DH and I discussed me quitting. For a variety of reasons (one being that I want to be self-sufficient if anything should happen to DH), I have stuck it out. This year quitting (and freelancing) has been CONSTANTLY on my mind.
Until this week.
I found out that my company is giving me a retention bonus - and all I have to do is still be here at this time next year. It's a lot of money. I was seriously gobsmacked. And then if that wasn't enough, I was told that I'd get a 5-10% raise in June, and then will be promoted to a senior leadership position at the end of the year, along with another raise (likely 8-10%). Given that I just barely make a six-digit salary...that's a lot of money. The retention bonus is also a lot...well into the thousands. All of which sounds grand...but with that comes greater responsibility (and also potentially greater power to enact change), and more travel.
So now I'm torn. Stick it out? A promotion would theoretically improve my freelance prospects. Not to mention ALL THE MONEY they threw at me. I'm frankly shocked...I've never been in a situation before where my company finds me THAT valuable. And it's weird too because I have not made ANY mention of potentially wanting to leave at all. I get along really well with all of my coworkers, and I have their ear (including folks in upper management). I work hard and fight to make deadlines (at my own detriment) in order to not let my clients down. And apparently I'm good at customer service (still bizarre to me, given that I'm a major introvert) and my clients have on multiple occasions sent emails to my boss or upper management specifically calling me or my team out for the work that I/we did for them. I really wonder how the heck I got this far.
If I stick it out, I would need to work hard at improving my work/life balance...if that means speaking up more for contract support, being better about delegating, etc...but I also want my team to be happy. I've stressed the importance of work/life balance to every one of my direct reports and so far it's killed me to feel like I can't "make good on" my philosophy...but with this promotion maybe I will have more power to do that.
Ugh. I know it's a good situation to be in but the bottom line is my work/life balance needs to improve. Maybe the easy answer is "stick it out for one year, get the retention bonus, promotion, and raises, and then decide". I don't know. Quitting to freelance would mean a drastic cut in our household income given how much I will be making by the end of the year. But money cannot buy happiness, I know. And at the same time, I think that if I could figure out HOW, I could figure out how to strike a balance (whatever that might be) with this job and be OK with it. And to throw a wrench in the works, a successful freelancer could make twice what I currently make. I know freelancers who are doing this right now!!
DH completely supports whatever decision I want to make. But he was also clearly gobsmacked at everything my company threw at me LOL.
Has anyone BTDT or want to just give opinions so I can think through this?