Rules for texting?
What are your family's rules for texting in the middle school crowd?
DD got a new phone at Christmas, and her friends (6th graders) have been getting phones as well. DD is excited to start texting with friends, and we agree it's about time to let her (she's texted us and her sisters for months now). But, we're stuck on "appropriate" limit setting and rules. Phone is in the living room generally, and only allowed in her bedroom if the 2/4/5yos are here. It's not password protected, except to buy/download things, and only I know the password.
So, the current "what to do about" is who she is allowed to text. We told her to get her <specifically named> BFF's phone number, so that they could text. She's a good kid, they like to hang out, they are equally socially awkward, not concerned about them texting inappropriate things. (While interested in boys, neither has enough interest to actually talk/hang-out/"date" a boy yet, so I'm not worried about pressure to sext or such.) However, DD then gave her phone number to another child (whose name we hear, but who we have never met), and DD got her number (though, it turns out, it had too many digits). Then this "unknown-to-us" friend texted DD last night. DD lied about who it was ("It's my best friend!" but refused to say it was specifically named friend above), and if we (DH or I) gave permission to text with this person.
Are we ridiculous expecting her to only text with kids we know? She's got 4-5 good friends, 3 whom we've met, and allow texting with anyone of them that we've met except for 1 (because she's seriously boy crazy with zero parental involvement and seeks adult male attention).
What are your family's rules for texting, especially when the child is pretty oblivious re: social situations and new to texting?
--Mimi
Mom to Lala (2004), Bonus Mom to Big Sis 1 (1991) and Big Sis 2 (1992)
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