Originally Posted by
jren
Another thought is the unexpected nature of the death.... I wouldn't judge.
The death was unexpected, but the funeral was a week after the death, so there was time to pick clothing. I'm not judging. I thought everyone looked appropriate, if everyday, and as I said, of the three family members there (all women), two were wearing pants and a sweater. I just wondered if *I* looked a little wrong in my outfit, and if heels were way out and I hadn't noticed. And it was funny for me to have assumed that my hometown, something I thought I knew, was one way in terms of funeral fashion, and that I had gotten it wrong.
I do think presence meant more than fashion. I remember going to a funeral a few years ago for a girl who died of cancer. I remember nothing about my clothing choices or anyone else's, but I do remember the huge attendance and how obvious it was that people just wanted to be there because they cared. That is part of all funerals.
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