My very high functioning, but very much lacking in social skills child was pulled from public school and now attends a very small autism school. The public school kept telling me that my child was a "very unique situation", but "the evidence shows" their way will work! It did not and we will be dealing with the fallout of their decisions for years to come.
Now, the private school is saying that they have never seen the current behavior and want to "punish" DC for behavior that is within the disability and that the school CREATED! The child does "not want friends" because friendships are very confusing and hard; the day is very long and DC needs "down" time that does not always include socializing. But the school pushed the issue (hard) so DC made a "friend" and now DC is a "bully". Um, this is what DC has learned about "friendship", this is what was modeled since the beginning of school experiences. Of course, calling DC a "bully" has created a bully because now DC is the dictionary definition (yep, research was done to fit the "mold")! I warned the school that this would happen, but now DC is in trouble and being punished for the behavior!!! DC even asked the other child if she was being a bully and the other child said "absolutely not". So I have a confused mess on my hands and a battle with the school pending. My child cannot be so unusual that the "experts" have not seen this before!
We have a meeting with the school coming up and I am horrible at expressing myself when stressed. I need to be DC's advocate, but am terrified of being railroaded by the school (in the half hour they allocated for this meeting)! This is supposed to be a really understanding environment, but the other child seems to be their priority!
Update: Well, that did not go well. This child is going to make a super interesting adult (and is a super interesting child), but DC certainly does not fit in a school social environment. Off to research other education options...