Thank you for sharing your experience. My purpose of talking about fertility & complications are because I've been beside too many friends, patients and family members just completely lost and blindsided by some possible realities. I feel there is such pushback for people to say "it's all good" that women feel real guilt when things don't turn out as easy as everyone says it is. I experience fertility issues and a late stage miscarriage which were sad for me, but I felt much more prepared to cope with them and easier to move through it because I was fortunate enough to know the realities.
And sometimes it IS a good thing that happens with unexpected pregnancies, but still hard. I had a friend who was told she would most likely never get pregnant without IVF because of her bad endometriosis that was blocking her tubes. She had one son which was a complicated pregnancy. Then got pregnant with twins, and she was tiny, in the hospital for months, they had to take the twins 6 weeks early. Then because she wasn't using birth control, she wound up pregnant with her 4th when the twins were 4 mo old. He husband traveled internationally all the time, she had 4 under 3, luckily she had the money to hire a part time nanny to help. And somewhere in there she wound up needing a kidney operation for a congenital issue that she didn't know she had that was brought out by the stress of the pregnancies. Does she regret her 4 kids? No. Does she still think this is not the way she wished it would play out? Yes.