So I've been focused on getting stuff into a budget and after working with Mint for a few months I recently set up a YNAB budget. And well it was PERFECT. Plan was to see if it works for a couple of months and then cement it. Well today DH was supposed to get cash for the after school babysitter INSTEAD he gave that money to our monthly housekeeper who tried to give it back as I had already paid her but he insisted she take it (she speaks almost no English) and she thought it was a bonus. This has blown up my budget. I am not comfortable asking for the money back and we technically have the money but ARGH.