Originally Posted by
PZMommy
I dont know. The boy went on to say how he is having a birthday party tomorrow and made a big deal about how he didn’t invite DS because he is a fake friend. The mom is a bit rude herself, so I can easily say her saying this. My DS could care less about the birthday party thing, he just wants to be friends still. They aren’t in the same class this year (they were last year), so they don’t have much contact with each other aside from recess. I told my DS he can keep inviting him to play, but if he says no, then he needs to go and find some of his other friends to play with.
Since autism can be hereditary, the mom may be on the spectrum herself, which could cause her to come across as rude. (Or she could just be rude for other reasons.) I think you told your DS the right thing. These boys are 8, and I suspect they will be more adept at working it out without the mothers' involvement anyway. The other boy is probably confused, too.
When I was 11, my mom told me I couldn't play with another girl anymore (I still don't really know why), but she didn't give me any skills to actually make the break. So when school started again, I was rude to the girl because I didn't really know how to tell her that I wasn't allowed to play with her anymore. So in that sense your son is lucky--the other boy explained his side of the story.
I'm sorry he's having to deal with this situation.
DS '04 "Boogaboo"
DD '08 "Lilybear"