Originally Posted by
SnuggleBuggles
But aren’t the gifts for the kiddo? Why would you be offsetting the event costs? Would you think the parents split the $ with the child? How would that work?
This has come up in wedding threads too. Generally, in the NY tri-state area (and maybe in other communities too), gifts for these types of events (weddings, bar mitzvahs) are monetary and determined somewhat by what one estimates a guest plate is costing the hosts. It's just how it is done. Parents pay, gifts go to offspring -- but still, this is how an amount is traditionally determined.
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