Would you ask for these back?

[basil]

When I was 16 years old my parents bought me a pair of hiking boots for a trip we went on.

I went to college and moved out and left the hiking boots in my closet at my parents' house.

A few years ago (i.e. 15+ years after I left them behind), my mother cleaned out my closet and SIL happened to be there and took my hiking boots. The other day I saw them in her hallway. I haven't ever seen her wear them. They are over 20 years old.

I'm going hiking this weekend and I don't have other hiking boots. I could wear sneakers. But I'm going to her house tonight and just wondered if it would be terribly rude for me to ask to borrow them back.

WWYD?

[georgiegirl]

You can’t ask for them back. Just suck it up and buy new hiking boots. I’m not an expert, but 20 year old boots seem really old. They might not be comfortable anymore and I assume the materials have degraded.


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[Kindra178]

Agree with Georgie. Please don't ask for them back. It's bizarre that your sil has them and would be even more weird for you to ask for them back.

[boolady]

Agree with Georgie. Please don't ask for them back. It's bizarre that your sil has them and would be even more weird for you to ask for them back.

[m4nash]

You say ask to borrow them back. What do you mean? I think it would be fine to ask to borrow them. But it would be odd, but not necessarily rude, to ask for them back for good.

[basil]

Borrow them back meaning ask to wear them for the hike this weekend then give them back to her. I don’t think I would consider asking her to borrow boots if they hadn’t originally been mine before. I probably will eventually buy new boots but wouldn’t have time to do that for this weekend.

[123LuckyMom]

Borrow them back meaning ask to wear them for the hike this weekend then give them back to her. I don’t think I would consider asking her to borrow boots if they hadn’t originally been mine before. I probably will eventually buy new boots but wouldn’t have time to do that for this weekend.

Yes, this would be very strange. Do whatever you would have done if you hadn’t seen the boots at your SIL’s house. They’re not your boots anymore. If you’d wanted them, 15 or more years ago was the time to reclaim them. Unless you’d feel comfortable asking your SIL to borrow her boots if they were hers from a store and had no connection to you, don’t ask for these simply because they were yours 20 years ago. Go buy new boots or make do.


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[SnuggleBuggles]

Buy your own boots. Don’t ask to borrow those ones.
Shoes worn by someone else aren’t comfy anyway.


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[Smillow]

I kept a pair of hiking boots I bought when I was 16. When I tried to use the in my mid thirties they were extremely uncomfortable because the insole had deteriorated- and the hadn’t been used. I would get new shoes!

[basil]

Buy your own boots. Don’t ask to borrow those ones.
Shoes worn by someone else aren’t comfy anyway.


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I don’t think she has ever worn them.