Originally Posted by
AustenFan
I'm spitting mad at our small group right now. We host a small community group from our church that meets weekly in our home to discuss our church's sermons, eat a meal together, and encourage each other. In the summers, we don't meet regularly but are supposed to do service projects together. We have a commitment problem, so instead of coming up with my own ideas, I asked our members what they wanted to do for service projects. A couple people mentioned serving dinner at a homeless shelter. I got the information, I found a chance to serve, I sent out the details a month ago, and one person committed. It's an hour away (actually an hour and a half in traffic), but I said I'd go with her since she wanted to go. Now it's the week of the event, and she suddenly is telling me she can't get out of work in time to go. I told the people at the homeless shelter that two of us were coming to help. It's not like painting a room or something where they can just find another group to come do it later--we're helping prepare and serve a meal to 50+ people! And the homeless shelter has a policy that under 16 year olds can't help in the kitchen, so I can't even bring my kids to participate. So DH can't go with me because he has to stay home with the kids. So now I am going to have to drive through LA in rush hour traffic, the night before my family flies out of town, by myself, to do a service project that other people wanted "us" as a group to do, because when I commit to something I actually do it.
I care about the homeless in our city, and I am sure this service opportunity is a real help to the staff at the shelter. In other circumstances, this would be a great thing for our family to be involved in. But I have four young children at home (everyone else in our group is single and childless). We are getting ready to foster a medically fragile special needs child, which is going to be hard and uncomfortable (and involved dozens and dozens of hours of trainings during which I left my kids behind already at inconvenient times). I am the last person who needs to be adding more service projects to my plate right now. I don't want or need to come up with extra burdens on my time in which I can't involve my family. I am so angry I could cry.