Ok, What Do I Wear?

[anonomom]

I'm going to be a bridesmaid in a wedding in October. It's a daytime wedding (I think late morning or early afternoon), and the brides say I can wear whatever I want. The only required element of my outfit is the flat sneakers everyone in the wedding party will be wearing.

My usual preferred dress silhouette is a fit-and-flare that comes to right below my knee, but I have tree-trunk legs and if I'm wearing sneakers, I'm tempted to wear a maxi dress because I know the sneakers won't be flattering. But of course, most maxi dresses are either super-casual mumu-looking things (at least in plus sizes), or are formal evening gowns. I'd love to go formal, but it feels like that might be overdoing it for a daytime wedding.

For example, is this ok?:
https://www.kiyonna.com/plus-size-cl...gowns/13130902

Or something like this?
https://www.macys.com/shop/product/l...ess?ID=2991477

I adore this one, but it seems like it could be a little much:

https://www.macys.com/shop/product/c...xoCFrwQAvD_BwE

Thoughts? Advice?

[SnuggleBuggles]

Of those, only your 3rd would I consider for a daytime wedding but I wouldn’t choose it either. I’ll think on it but all of those are too dressy and, unless she said black, I would pick a color. The black (at least those) look way too dressy. What color are the sneakers?


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[anonomom]

They're purple

[SnuggleBuggles]

Things that catch my eye
Looks a bit dressier with the high low hem but would look cute with sneakers
https://shop.nordstrom.com/s/charles...=navy%20floral
Colorful, casual maxi dress
https://www.modcloth.com/shop/dresse...?extended=true
Dressy material, casual dress, cute wrap style to be flattering
https://www.modcloth.com/shop/dresse...?extended=true
Neutral
https://www.modcloth.com/shop/dresse...?extended=true
https://www.modcloth.com/shop/dresse...?extended=true
https://www.modcloth.com/shop/dresse...?extended=true

https://www.modcloth.com/shop/dresse...?extended=true

Fun, summery print fit and flare
https://www.modcloth.com/shop/dresse...?extended=true

[Smillow]

I like #3.

[carolinacool]

Fellow plus size girl here who loves fit and flare. I understand where you’re coming from about your legs, but I totally agree that maxi dresses in plus size can be challenging. Honestly, I think the bride should give you all a little more direction. Or are you the only one?

I’m about to run out and can look a little bit more later, but what about this from Lane Bryant? I think it could be cute with purple sneakers. I think LB had been killing it with dresses for the past few months so I would take a quick peak through the line. I think a Short dress with sneakers might not look as bad as you think it would. I think could be cute .

https://www.lanebryant.com/dot-mesh-...lor/0000008003

This one:
https://www.lanebryant.com/back-cuto...lor/0000009515

I have this one in this color, but it was available in black at one time.
https://www.lanebryant.com/sleeveles...lor/0000079668

[SnuggleBuggles]

Fellow plus size girl here who loves fit and flare. I understand where you’re coming from about your legs, but I totally agree that maxi dresses in plus size can be challenging. Honestly, I think the bride should give you all a little more direction. Or are you the only one?

I’m about to run out and can look a little bit more later, but what about this from Lane Bryant? I think it could be cute with purple sneakers. I think LB had been killing it with dresses for the past few months so I would take a quick peak through the line. I think a Short dress with sneakers might not look as bad as you think it would. I think could be cute .

https://www.lanebryant.com/dot-mesh-...lor/0000008003

This one:
https://www.lanebryant.com/back-cuto...lor/0000009515

I have this one in this color, but it was available in black at one time.
https://www.lanebryant.com/sleeveles...lor/0000079668

Those are really cute!


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[mommy111]

I think no 3 is perfect for a wedding. You can minimize the accessories. I would send it to her and ask if she’s OK with it, or coordinate with the other brides maids honestly. She’s trying to be nice but I think the bridesmaids should touch base and make sure they’re not all over the place in terms of formality/style eg you don’t want one bridesmaid in some of the print dresses upstream, someone else in a cotton broderie and someone else in an evening gown

[carolinacool]

I think no 3 is perfect for a wedding. You can minimize the accessories. I would send it to her and ask if she’s OK with it, or coordinate with the other brides maids honestly. She’s trying to be nice but I think the bridesmaids should touch base and make sure they’re not all over the place in terms of formality/style eg you don’t want one bridesmaid in some of the print dresses upstream, someone else in a cotton broderie and someone else in an evening gown

Agreed. The options I linked to above definitely aren’t formal, but if someone tells me I’m wearing sneakers in a wedding, that’s where my mind goes to.

Also, since the brides are requesting sneakers, I think they might want you to wear a dress where you can actually see the sneakers. I’ve seen photo galleries of bridesmaids wearing cowboy boots, and the dresses are short enough for you to see that.

[sariana]

Do you know what the brides will be wearing? What is the length of their dresses? Or are they even wearing dresses? A maxi dress might be too much regardless if they are wearing knee-length dresses.

They have purple shoes but didn't give any guidance for a color scheme? Interesting.