UPDATE: So the teacher told DS to throw his pass away on Friday I talked to the principal when I went to take him clothes the day of his accident because she was talking to DS when I got to the office. She had asked me what was going on because she knows DS and knows that's not something he would typically have happen. I received a few texts from the teacher the night I posted the original message asking what had happened and how she doesn't know why DS would feel like he couldn't go. I have a feeling the principal had already talked to her because she then said "Well, I can consider getting rid of his pass." I then emailed the principal and told her what had happened fully. I'm not sure who decided to throw the pass away exactly, but glad it got taken care of. I have a feeling the teacher doesn't like me now that I've called her out on this and feeding PB cookies to the class. Oh well!!
I need some outside opinions on a situation. DS is in 4th grade. He has a 504 that allows him bathroom use whenever he needs it due to constipation issues and the bladder being overactive. His teacher this year has a "pass". The kids are allowed to have 5 trips to the bathroom each week. If they use none of those trips, they get a "dollar" towards using in the store they are allowed to go to each month. They get these dollars for positive behaviors but this one seems not really an incentive to do anything well but hold your pee. There is a matrix the teachers are to use, but then they are allowed to give them for their own items as well. She gives them for not using your passes. So today DS had an accident because he was waiting for her to mark his pass and he couldn't wait any longer. Am I crazy here or is it not right for him to have a pass? He is supposed to be allowed to go whenever. He shouldn't be "punished" for having to go. If he uses his 5 passes, he has to move his clip. I don't care if he has to move it, but he does, and so he'll hold it because he'll also lose a dollar for moving his clip. And in my mind he shouldn't be losing his "dollar" because he has to go. He can't help it. He's supposed to be drinking water all day long which makes him have to go. I'm not wrong on this one am I? He's supposed to be having free bathroom trips.