No advice but now looking forward to watching the Fair Play documentary with DH! Thanks to whoever recommended it along with the book and card deck!
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08-06-2023 #11
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08-10-2023 #12
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Very sorry OP. I can commiserate.
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08-13-2023 #13
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OP here - thanks to each of you for your advice, commiseration and support. Each person’s insight gave me a lot to think about and I’m sorry I’m not the only one going through it because it is hard! I’ve been very inward focused this week thinking and processing. It’s hard for me to even express my needs, so when I do and they are ignored, it is like a multiplier.
I do think DH is starting to get some of it. I’ve been pretty bold and aggressive with immediately calling him out on the spot for things that underscore what I’ve been trying to get through to him. Some of the times, it has created a fight / friction, and that’s okay! Other times, he sees where I am coming from.
I have always wanted us to work out but some things fundamentally have to change for this to be a workable relationship.
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