I haven’t read the other replies but my methods are generally more strict/conservative that other posters. I have 3 kids who like video games. My oldest 2 enjoy playing them as a break from homework or with friends. But they have many other hobbies too and video games aren’t an obsession. With ds3, they are an obsession/addiction. There is nothing he would rather be doing than playing video games- alone or with friends it doesn’t matter. The only other thing he enjoys doing is putting together jigsaw puzzles or watching YouTube videos. We make him participate in club sports at school, he’s a Life Scout in the BSA scouts, he downhill skis and is a reader and alterserver at church. He has a part time job as a bagger at a grocery store too. He hates all those things even though he is good at them and frequently gets complements. He used to complain daily about all of those other things but I’ve started to repeatedly point out that if he wants a family with children (which he says he really does) then he has to get used to doing things in life he doesn’t love doing. And most of all, he’s got to figure out what he wants ti do for a job, day-in, day-out for years. He won’t figure that out by hiding in his video games.
He’s made big progress over the last year and a half. He still plays almost every day but he does this with friends after he finishes his homework and rewrites his notes from the day. His grades are A’s and B’s. He keeps his room cleaner than his siblings, he does his chores, and he’s been good about managing his medicine. As long as video games are played after every other expectation is met (and he agrees my expectations are not excessive),, I’m ok with them.
Last edited by gatorsmom; 12-29-2023 at 02:56 PM.
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