To answer your question, I filled out most of the Common app boxes because they were just busy work. It’s just data entry. But both ds1 and ds2 had to write and rewrite their essays, get them proofread by teachers at school, and enter those themselves. They asked their recommenders and followed up with them for their letters of recommendation. I reminded them of deadlines and other tasks. Once I introduced them to their ACT tutor, they were responsible for making zoom appointments to study and the extra homework the tutor assigned. Ds1 needed the handholding (but has become so much more confident and independent now in his second year of college), and ds2 just needed some initial help to get started. After we submitted the first 7 applications, he’s taken over the rest of the process completely. Both boys were responsible for everything else to do with college after the Common App was submitted. This wasn’t the first time they had important deadlines to meet. Both are Eagle Scouts so they took paperwork and deadlines seriously. And their middle and high school are brutal about enforcing deadlines and doing your own work.
I’m so sorry about the merit aid situation. Maybe the BFF indicated she was interested in a major this school has had a hard time filling this year. Or she wrote an essay that touched a counselors heart. Who can say why these things turn out this way? But I understand the frustration. It sucks for your dd.
Last edited by gatorsmom; 03-15-2024 at 01:34 PM.
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