I can relate to this! My kid loved one and has pretty much refused to look at the highly ranked school.
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I can relate to this! My kid loved one and has pretty much refused to look at the highly ranked school.
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The thing with larger schools, once you are there, and begin your major, join clubs, the size can not be an issue. DD goes to a school of 50k, we are from a small city of 140k but she's joined clubs, sports and has found her place. I'm always amazed when she calls me to talk while walking across campus how often she says, oh hi, to someone she's passing, or when we visit how often she runs into people. Her classes are more specific each year and lots of parents say the same thing. And the wide variety of clubs, organizations, etc is also am advantage.
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I just had dinner with two girls who go to one of the largest universities in the nation (well over 50k students) and I asked them about the size and they said the same thing you said--they joined clubs and met their friends and found their place. One of them said she had been very introverted and shy when she started as a freshman but has become very social and much more extroverted since she has started college. I thought that was interesting as I would think a shy, introverted student might be overwhelmed by a school that size. I am sure it varies person to person though.
Just want to say that (far too many years ago, lol) my parents were in your exact situation with me. They DID push me to take the time to look at the other school I wasn't fixated on -- they did it in a "we support whatever choice you make, but we'd really like you to at least visit and know your options fully" sort of way. They helped make sure I did in fact see all the great things about the school I wasn't considering, while also buying me gear from the school I thought I loved and being clear they'd support whatever choice I made. They never said a single negative thing about my "favorite" school, they just helped me see positives at a different one. I'll be honest that I visited the school I wasn't considering mostly just to satisfy my parents and thank them for the efforts they'd put into helping me with the college search....but then I loved it there, and ultimately chose that school. It was the right choice for me and I've never had a single regret. We *still* talk about how grateful I am to them that they had the vision to see a bigger picture than I could at the time.
This all to say, our kids should definitely be making this decision themselves, but as a parent you also might be seeing things they aren't, and lovingly helping to guide them to consider all their options is very different from pushing your opinions on them.
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Yeah I’d agree. It’s too much off a financial difference to justify.
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I think there is a definite place and time that a parent can still have the final say. I know plenty of families that have had to say, no, even though it's hard. Kids at 18 just can not fathom what long reaching implications of loans and spending over 100k (even if the family can spend that). When there is a great university that is 140k less, unless there is something so unique, or 140k is a drop in the bucket fine, but that is a huge difference.
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