The other poster have included such great info. With ds2 there wasn’t too much to consider. We were prepared to pay for his reach school and he got in so that was a pretty easy decision. The decision was a lot harder two years ago for ds1. He was our first kid to go on his wild ride. When it came down to the final decision he went on a couple of school tours to remind him of the atmosphere. That second trip to the schools made all the difference deciding. He was in a better state of mind the second time he visited.
After ds1 received his acceptance I said the same thing your daughter said about trying to get into more reach schools. But everything turned out fine. The school is a good fit for him.
" I object to violence because when it appears to do good, the good is only temporary; the evil it does is permanent." Mahatma Gandhi
"This is the ultimate weakness of violence: It multiplies evil and violence in the universe. It doesn't solve any problems." Martin Luther King, Jr.