Originally Posted by
anonomom
I thought I was doing so well at this college thing, but I gotta be honest, my plan to be the cool, supportive but detached mom is teetering a little.
All throughout this process, I've noticed DC focusing in on just one school at a time, to the exclusion of all others (even as they filled out apps to those schools). I've refrained from commenting, because I understand that was in part my kid's effort not to fall in love with any school before they were admitted. This past weekend, they were at an admitted students day for one (perfectly lovely, excellent) school when they received their admission to another school that I honestly think
If it were a matter of DC having evaluated both schools and deciding on one of them, I'd be fine. But I see DC zeroing in on the one school without taking the time to discover all of the amazing things at the other school, and it bothers me. There's so much there that's unique and special that I know they'd love, if only they took the time to look! I'm trying hard not to push too much, but it's difficult.
You aren’t failing in your job. I saw my kids do that too. It’s normal- the school puts a hard sell on the admitted students and your kid has been wowed by the sales job the schools do. Just keep talking to them, visit the other school if you can, and give it some time for the sales pitches to wear off. Of course I don’t know your dc but if they have given serious thought to both schools and are teetering between the two, my guess is that both schools would be good for them. That there probably isn’t that much difference in the quality of the experiences at both schools. I mean, they would have noticed that by now, wouldn’t they?
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