DH want me to opt for an elective c-section after first birth

[okinawama]

During my first birth my husband was down on the "business end" of things when my son experienced shoulder dystocia and was stuck for about 2 minutes ( that labor was epidural free, I was given the option to push anyway I wanted, but chose my back, my son wasn't all that large 8lbs 2oz).

I am seeing a midwife, who is completely positive/supportive of a natural delivery for me ( the only risk factor I have is a prior dystocia) and up until recently, I was pretty positive that I was going that route. However, I have had to see 2 different OB's in the practice because the MW was unavailable for my appointment, and rather than cancel I saw whoever was available. Of course, after reading over my chart, they both asked me to strongly consider a C-section to avoid another dystocia.

After those appointments, my husband has expressed that he feels that the risks outweigh the benefits of going for a natural delivery and he feels that we should opt for an elective c-section.

I do see his point, after research, I realized that my chance for another dystocia goes up to 10-16 percent (instead of the .8-4% for women who've never had dystocia issues) and while there is no way to predict if it will happen again a prior dystocia is one of the largest indicators. He also worries that the stakes are high, if something does happen, the results can be terrible.

So, he is clearly worried ( a bit traumatized even) and would like us to go the c-section route. I am now on the fence, I still feel very confident in my body and midwife, but feel like I need to consider/respect how my husband feels as well. Would you go along with a C-section in this situation?