Actual quote from my boss:

[Lynnie]

"Wow. Look at all these tight fitting jeans. I like casual fridays. Go on there and walk across the room. Let me see you shake it."

This was to me and the woman who had gastric bypass surgery 7 months ago.

He followed up with her: "I saw you bending over to pick up those papers. You wouldn't have been able to do that six months ago."

[elliput]

sexual harassment contact HR now

[jgriffin]

OMG! I agree with Erica: run, don't walk, to HR!

Ewwwww!!!!

[bcky2]

that would so tick me off. i agree, go to hr about it.

[almostamom]

What a moron! A trip to HR is definitely in order.

[tarynsmum]

:o :o :o :o :o

That is nuts. What a (Richard's nickname)!

[Lynnie]

This is wierd: now I have a "Carrie Bradshaw-like voice" speaking in my head asking questions like she would when she did the voice overs in sex in the city.

But, in thinking about this ( - I am fairly certain I will not go to HR about this for various reasons, although it was not the first inappropriate thing he said, and it did actually make me uncomfortable - the whole being told to walk across the room, even in a joking way was quite offensive and demeaning -)I wonder:

how much are women to blame who do put up with this kind of thing so that someone in a pretty high position thinks its acceptable behavior. Is not saying anything and just blowing it off, while maybe better for the individual, just perpetuating the problem, and making it worse for society. And, who will feel the most heat should an investigation be made ? If it is annoying but no big deal to the individual, but evidence of a pervasive problem in society, should we expect the individuals to report it and suffer the consequences for the good of society ?

And, should the boss be told first that his behavior is offensive ? Personally, I'd have no qualms telling him; while he can fire me, I don't feel threatened by that, and think he might appreciate knowing, cause I really think he's clueless. I was just to stunned to say anything.

And, now, outside the carrie bradshaw voice, I wonder how retaliation would work. Would a certain someone who may be on the internet too much at work be busted for that... ??

Ah. well, since I am not writing a column, I don't have the answers. Do feel slightly guilty towards society and women in general for choosing not to say anything about this. May tell him it made me uncomfortable. And will definitely make a mental note not to wear these jeans to work. yick.

[candybomiller]

insert jaw dropping smilie -----> here.

[ChunkyNicksChunkyMom]

Next time he is wearing jeans tell him that his package might be shown to better advantage if he would try out a different fit of jean. Seriously.
Susan

#1 Nick 11-18-04
#2 Kate 04-26-06