Crazy FIL....

[Kungjo]

Been stewing about this for a while. Crazy FIL is paranoid and has numerous phobias that drive me crazy. None of these behaviors physically harm anyone but I believe that MIL has been mentally abused by FIL for years. It drives me crazy that no one does anything about it. She's clearly unhappy, but doesn't want to consider divorce because in her own words, "she created the monster (FIL) after staying with him for all these years so she's sticking with him." WTF?

Another thing that drives me crazy is that she guilts her 5 kids (my husband included) into sending her money by saying that FIL is not giving her enough to support the household of <<2>> people (MIL and FIL). I say so what? Ask him for more money. Don't make your kids send you money when you are VERY WELL TO DO (they own tons of property and collect retirement and social security). 2 BILS still live in condos, we live in an apartment, and 2 SILs own houses. All have 2 to 4 kids. Half of the property and wealth MIL AND FIL own is hers by law. She should be able to access it.

She needs to get out of the situation and realizes it but won't do it. And she doesn't want the kids to do anything. My husband dreads going back home for the holidays because he knows that they will lay a whole bunch of guilt on him. Holiday gatherings with them have never been any fun and I don't want to go back. I feel like telling my husband this, but we only go back for Thanksgiving and Christmas so I feel like I shouldn't place any additional pressure on him. AND I want my DDs to get to know their grandparents no matter how crazy ther are. SIgh!!!

Thanks for listening. Just needed to get this off my chest

[npace19147]

IL relationships are tough! Probably best for all if you swallow it IRL, but that's what this forum is for, right? :) GL!