Dh said that I lost my sense of style!

[tina-t]

Ouch! He said that I used to dress up nicely and wear skirts and dresses. Now, all I wear are khakis and jeans with shirts. I don't really wear make-up except for foundation and lip gloss. I still fix my hair everyday and take a shower everyday.

I don't feel like wearing skirts and dresses anymore specially now that ds is running around like crazy and I have to keep up with him. Can I still look fashionable while wearing comfortable clothes? It also does not help that our budget shrunk. We just bought a house and poured our money into the down payment. So new clothes are not in the budget for a long time!

[brigmaman]

Ok, if *you* feel the need to change things here are a few suggestions:
I think that it just takes a few pieces to give you that little bit of style. I am just starting to come out of my 9 month rut. I'm on a major budget as well. I bought 2 very comfortable skirts that are casual enough to wear daily with flip-flops but can also be dressed up a bit.
Maybe you could just spruce up a few details. How about a new pair of shoes- stylish, narrow "sneakers" perhaps? I've found Target has some great deals on trendy, yet not teeny-bopper looking clothes and accessories.

Ouch! That hurts!

I think it is pretty difficult to look stylish all the time while being spit up on, squatting off and on all day, playing on the floor, lifting your kid in and out of the car/stroller/whatever...the list goes on!

My only advice would be to invest in a pair of really good fitting jeans, but that can be a tall task!

[mommy_someday]

My advice: tell your DH he's lucky that you fix your hair and shower daily! I never wear makeup unless it's a special occasion and my hair is always in a knot or a ponytail on the back of my head (to keep it out of reach of little hands!). I would love to get a shower on a daily basis, but right now it's more like every other day. Tell HIM to put on a skirt/dress and some trendy, uncomfortable shoes and try chasing your DS for an hour. I bet he'd think twice about complaining about what you wear! Seriously, parenting is a messy job. You don't see babysitters or day care providers coming to work in skirts! How would they sit in the floor and play with the kiddos? What you wear during the day is kind of like your work uniform, KWIM? Construction workers don't wear tuxedos on a job and moms shouldn't have to wear anything that isn't practical for daily living - unless *they* want to, of course.

Sorry...I got a little ticked for you. Hope he comes to his senses and starts appreciating you a little more...

[jd11365]

Yeah, DH asked why I didn't wear a skirt and heels anymore a few months ago. He almost ended up with a skirt and heels where he didn't want them!

Um, should I take her to swim lessons in my skirt and heels, or better yet, the playground?

Moron.

Ahhh, that felt good.

He has since learned his lesson. ;)

and have to say why...

it was all due to the only 10 minutes of Satruday Night Live that I have seen in a long time. They did that typical commercial spoof segment and had on "MOMS JEANS"..."sure to be loved by all moms"...

and it was a bunch of ill fit jeans covering bellys and derriers in a way that scared me to death...

I think it is easy to lose our sense of style with all we have on our plates...

[daisymommy]

Ouch! That does hurt :( I think maybe he needs a day as a stay-at-home-dad while wearing a suit and tie :) And you get to run off and spend the day at the spa!

Sometimes men just have no idea what we put up with and do all day as mommies. As long as you are showering, brushing your teeth and wearing relatively clean clothes each day, he should be happy!

Maybe he can book a babysitter for a night and you can have the chance to get dressed up and go out someplace nice to eat for dinner? This is what I propose to DH when it is apparent I am not looking like a super model for far too long--ha. It does work though!

[C99]

Although Sarah manages well in looking stylish (every time I've seen her, anyway!), I do agree w/ her. It is really hard to look stylish and put-together. I find it difficult to wear most of the current fashions b/c they seem too fussy or won't work well w/ BFing access or slinging. I feel good on the days that I can manage a HA sport skirt and slides!

[deborah_r]

Wow. I think you should go out and buy a bunch of clothes, and let him pick up an extra job or something to pay for them, since your sense of style (or lack there of) is so important to him. I know what you mean about not wanting to spend the money on them, and I know for myself if I start buying some clothes, it inevitably leads to buying more and more. If I just stay out of the stores, I save us money! Also, I know some people can look super-stylish on a budget, but I think some people just have a flair for that, and I definitely don't!

As far as looking fashionable, I don't know. I have never much cared for keeping up with fashions, and it irritates me how quickly they change. I just don't see why it is so important. I try to buy the bare minimum of what I need to be decently clothed on a daily basis. Fortunately for me, my DH could give a crap less about fashion too. His biggest laments are when he can't find the exact kind of Merrell shoe or Ray-Ban sunglasses he used to wear 15 years ago!

I'm sorry your DH was so insensitive.

[trumansmom]

LOL!! I found myself laughing hysterically at that skit! And I mean hysterically as in out-of-control-so-much-that-it-was-a-little-bit-scary-and-irrational hysterically.

It hit me a little too close to home. On the upside, it sent me to the mall! :)

Jeanne
Mom to Truman 11/01 and Eleanor 4/04
Independent Consultant, Do-Re-Me & You!