Opinions needed - neighbor's daughter's graduation...

[BillK]

I'll set this up:

We live in a small town - we're friendly with our neighbors - not "come over for coffee friendly" - just polite when we see each other outside (we say "hello" and that's really about it) and we wave as we pass each other in our cars. If I happen to be outside mowing the lawn and a neighbor is too - we may chat for a few minutes.

When we adopted Zach - 3 of our 7 neighbors actually sent a card or brought us a gift (not that we expected anything but it comes into play later). The 3 neighbors that did send us some kind of acknowledgement that we adopted are ironically enough - also the 3 neighbors I'd say we're closest to. The others asked about him when they saw us all out but that was it. The neighbor I'm posting about is one that only asked about Zach when she saw us all going for a walk and never made any effort to acknowledge the adoption.

This neighbor has 2 children - 1 that's through college and out on his own (and also a very nice young man) - the other is her daughter who just graduated high school. My opinion of her is less than favorable - it's been 11 years since they've been our neighbors and she's never once spoken to my wife or I and never once waved to us (unlike her older brother who was always extremely polite and friendly) - heck I don't think she's ever done a single thing to even acknowledge we exist.

Anyway (sorry this is so godawful long) - we got a graduation party invitation to the son's graduation about 5 years back - and while we didn't go - we did send him $20 in a card. Well the other day - you guessed it - we got another invite for the daughter who I can't stand (she's a little bee-eye-tee-see-aech imho).

What are you folk's opinions?

As I said before we aren't super friendly with this woman and her daughter - and I don't feel the daughter gives 2 craps about us anyway - so I feel like we don't need to do anything. My wife asked me to post to see what you all felt - since if it were totally my call I'd do jack and ^*^@ for her.

Sorry it was so long - I hope it's coherent as I'm pretty tired while typing it.

edit: corrected my horrible spelling

[bubbaray]

In the circumstances you describe, I wouldn't go, nor would I send a gift.

JMHO -- good luck with your decision!

Melissa

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[mamica]

I agree!

[crl]

I probably wouldn't do anything.

[Wife_and_mommy]

I agree with PP's. You could also send a card just to be nice and semi-equitable.



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[alexsmommy]

I'd do nothing. To me, it sounds like fishing for more gifts. Ridiculous.
Alaina
Alex Feb '03

[goodnightmoon]

I agree with the pp's. I might send a card, but that's still more than she deserves.

Laura
mommy to Eva Marie 2/16/05

[BaileyBea]

Bill - the most I would do is send a card but that's it! Nothing more.

I have a neighbor who has never acknowledged DS's birth even though she lives next door to me and her son is exactly 1 month older than DS. We could have been friends, but she's not friendly. We did things for them when their DS was born (gift, food, card) but we never got a Thank You card or acknowledgement.

We dropped them from the xmas card list, party invites etc. So we gather with the neighbors who are friendly only. No regrets! Who has time for people who aren't friendly or cool to you?

[Jenn98]

I would send a card with $20 and wish her well at college, that's hopefully too far away to come home often. I would not attend the party unless you wanted to socialize with other neighbors, or you wanted some free food ;)

[ErinMC]

NAK - I completely agree.

Erin

Mom to Chase Feb. 04
... and Baby Logan! May 20, 2006