Would you be upset if your spouse stopped was not wearing a wedding band?

[kozachka]

I have noticed that DH is no longer wearing his wedding band. He took it off as it was giving him calluses in summer. I told him it was not acceptable for him to not wear his wedding band and if size is a problem he should re-size it or just take it off for the night as I do. DH thinks I am overanalyzing this.

[MarisaSF]

I guess if you have reason to be suspicious, yes, I'd be pissed.
However, if you trust that he is faithful and the callous story checks out, it wouldn't be an issue.

I know several married men (and some married women) who just don't like rings and never wear one. It's only an issue if there's an issue. Not wearing a ring does not make a spouse unfaithful, but offering a dubious reason for not wearing one would raise my suspicions.

My DH takes his band off when he goes to the gym to lift weights. He jokes that the hot women are going to hit on him. He flatters himself. :P I know he is kidding.

BTW, haven't talked with you in a while! Hope you are well!

[nupe]

DH has hardly ever worn his wedding band. It is really just too much trouble for him to deal with as he would be taking it off frequently for things he does at work, the gym etc. And he would misplace it in no time, so this is the alternative. I think he is correct, he would end up misplacing it. So this way at least we know where it is. It bothered me when we were first married, but now it no longer does. On a side note, I wear my ering, but not my wedding band since my ering has a wide band already; and I do wear another piece of jewelry that symbolizes that we are married in his culture.

[mecawa]

My husband wore his wedding band for the first two months we were married and that was it. He had to keep taking it off for work and he didn't want to lose it. He now can wear it all the time but doesn't because it no longer fits and needs to be resized, which we just haven't had the time to do. When I was growing up my father never wore his wedding ring and my brother in law never wears his either. So, I think there is a lot of men who just don't wear one.

[bethie_73]

When we first got married, I had to say, "if you don't wear your wedding band, I won't either" and that worked. But I have to say somewhere around year 10 both of us stopped wearing them. Our fingers have changed and we both need them re sized, but its not a high priority.

Although if I thought there was some other reason he wasn't wearing it, I'd be pretty p!ssed. It happened over time and we are both guilty of it so....

[lizajane]

i have gained 30lbs and i hardly ever wear mine. (ETA: because it hurts so much to get it on and off, and no i don't want to size it and STAY 30lbs overweight...) i get an occasional tease for DH, but not often.

[o_mom]

I haven't worn mine in 5 years. I couldn't wear it at the end of my first pregnancy because of the swelling. Afterwards it wasn't the right size any longer. I figured I may as well wait until I am done changing sizes to get it refitted. Also, my engagement ring and wedding band are welded together and the diamond sticks out so much that I'm afraid I will scratch the kids with it.

DH still wears his almost all the time and only takes it off when he is doing something where it may get damaged.

[LBW]

DH has always been sporadic about wearing his wedding band. He likes to work on cars, and he's often working with tools and heavy equipment at work. So, he only puts it on when a.) he knows he won't damage it and b.) he remembers. So, not that often! It doesn't bother me.

[BillK]

I wear mine during the work week - but don't on the weekends - my wife rarely wears hers. Neither of us care.

[Wife_and_mommy]

We both always wear our rings. I couldn't wear mine for a bit while pg with DD and it drove me nuts. DH will occasionally leaves his in the shower.

My FIL has had about 300 rings over his 40 years of marriage--seriously. He plays with them so is always losing them.

I'd also say that if you're suspicious it's probably not without reason.