Mad at dh...over something that happened in a dream- any other btdt?

[SnuggleBuggles]

I am miffed IRL about a few dh things but nothing major. However, in my dreams they have turned into big, big issues (moving the family to Belize with no notice, having an affair...) and this morning I woke up just so mad. I can't shake it and I know I am mad about the dream not the fact that he didn't help to pick up last nigt. Does this ever happen to anyone else??

Beth

[BabyMine]

Oh I have been there plenty of times. It usually takes me awhile to calm down and I wake up drained of energy. Then I tell my husband about them. He usually laughs but then we actually start a conversation about why I am having these dreams. It helps to talk out the dreams.

[Snow mom]

Originally Posted by SnuggleBuggles

Does this ever happen to anyone else??

Yup, I have on occasion been angry/ upset about something that happened in a dream rather than IRL. Seems awfully irrational but I still try to acknowledge my feelings. Like the pp I would recommend discussing it the best you can with your DH. It can be hard to explain, "I had this dream and now I feel angry about..." but hopefully it will lead to better communication about what is bothering IRL.

[daisyd]

It happens to my DH, but not me . I do wake up feeling upset IRL about something in a dream at times, but it usually has to do with work.

[LarsMal]

DH woke up mad at me last weekend- b/c of a dream. In the dream we got in a HUGE fight and he couldn't shake it in the morning.

I've had them, too, but not recently.

[infomama]

We have both been there. It's just crazy how a dream can evoke all kinds of angry and worrisome feelings. We just talk about the dream and reassure each other. Those mornings are few and far between but they are just the worst.

[salsah]

it has happened to me a lot (always the same -- he has an affair in the dream). it is so draining. it never occurred to me to discuss it with dh.

[LMPC]

Oh yeah, this happens. Most of the time it is unrelated to real life. We talk about it, which seems to help the feelings resolve. Dreams are weird, right?

[m448]

Only when I'm pregnant LOL. Those are some awful dreams. I spill them to Dh and we can usually get a good laugh out of them. The worst was a dream when I was pregnant with son #2. The dream involved him having a blatant affair. As in, "good bye honey, I'm going to visit my girlfriend" blatant. I woke up wanting to fist fight, pregnant belly and all. LOL

If you knew my husband you'd know how preposterous that dream was and I told him about it. He hugged me, we laughed. Every now and then I'll bring up the dream affair in jest. Since I know my dreams get more vivid during pregnancy I expect it now. He's had similar dreams and they affect him differently but we talk about them just the same and just discussing the dream brings up very productive conversation.

[Melaine]

I dreamed my best friend (who is pregnant) had her baby and wouldn't let me see him. She called a few days later and I simply felt distant from her and sort of ended the conversation early. Later it occurred to me it might subconsciously be the dream!!! lol