S/O on the nightwear thread: How do you handle nudity in your house?

[Toba]

My son has no respect for privacy whatsoever. We have just started really getting on him about it in the recent months ... like a time-out when he walks into the bathroom without knocking.

I have potty problems (IBS) so I'm in there quite frequently unfortunately. He could be mesmerized by a brand new toy, but it's like he has a sixth sense that SOMEONE is in the bathroom. And he'll just walk in. And want to sit down on his stool and discuss whatever is on his mind. Now, I sit there and listen for his footsteps and warn him that I'm in the potty and he is not to come in. So then he'll try and have a serious conversation through the door. He just doesn't get it ... we let it go for so long, now he's just ... I don't know ... desensitized about it or something maybe? Is this normal?

My son is joined at my hip, so if I'm in my room, he's in my room. Which makes it difficult to get dressed. He often jumps in the shower with me or my husband. He very rarely took baths even in infanthood .... he always took a shower with one of us. Now he's five, and he just doesn't understand that he's at an age now that we all need our privacy.

[kijip]

My son fairly recently gained a sense of modesty/privacy...ie does not want the bathroom door open, wants to change in private etc. He is 6. I understand that to be the age that kids often start to want more privacy. Until they want privacy, I don't think they respect it much.

[Toba]

That gives me hope, Katie! Only one more year to go until I can get dressed in private!!! YAY!

[Fairy]

Dude. I'm THERE. DS is going to be 5 in a month, and today we went to the bathroom, as we both really had to go, and it was a one room jobber, so ya do what ya gotta do. I have my period. He said, MOMMY! THERE'S RED POOP! I said, no honey, it's something else. So, I explained in a very superficial way what a period is. It's only mommies, and it's only sometimes, and it's normal. Don't worry about it. Oh, ok, Mommy.

It's a total party in the bathroom at our hosue. We are now starting to tell him that this is not ok, we like privacy, and if we're in the potty, you are not. He's generally taking well to this. Showers are a different story. Working on it. Slooooowly. *sigh*

[Kitten007]

Originally Posted by Fairy

Dude. I'm THERE. DS is going to be 5 in a month, and today we went to the bathroom, as we both really had to go, and it was a one room jobber, so ya do what ya gotta do. I have my period. He said, MOMMY! THERE'S RED POOP! I said, no honey, it's something else.

Too funny!!!! I hope I don't hear that one day! I would die laughing!

[pharmjenn]

My DS is not yet 2yo, so I don't have your problems yet. But, we are pretty open in our house. My DH won't go the bathroom with anyone around, whereas, I am like whatever. He is going to have to get over that once we start potty training. I want DS to see how a man does it, it seems like that would make the process somewhat simpler.
My DS even followed my sister into the bathroom last week and she was fine with it (she has 3yo twin boys)

As for general nudity, we go to nudist parks, so we have seen all types and don't feel the need to hide the body. I cover up for comfort, and am teaching DS about how some things are best done in private (like playing with himself during bath time and diaper changes, not in the park etc)

[BeachBum]

My DS is 4. He doesn't seem bothered by my nudity, and is occasionally modest about his own. I don't think we are there yet, but I do wonder if I will have to set boundaries (ie is it weird to take a bath with mom still? I have a giant tub) or if they will just develop on their own. It's also tough right now because we also have infants. If I let them bathe with me, but not him I know he would be really hurt.

[billysmommy]

Originally Posted by kijip

My son fairly recently gained a sense of modesty/privacy...ie does not want the bathroom door open, wants to change in private etc. He is 6. I understand that to be the age that kids often start to want more privacy. Until they want privacy, I don't think they respect it much.

This is exactly where we are too

[cuca_]

My oldest DD started becoming concerned about privacy a little before she turned six. I think that they talked about privacy and safety in Kindergarten, and she grew very aware of this. Unfortunately the only privacy she is really concerned with is hers, not mine. She will still open the bathroom door when I'm in there, although she is definitely understanding when I remind her that I need privacy and ask her to close the door. Of course, I still have two others that have no concept of privacy, especially my one year old who cannot see anyone in the shower without jumping in!!