Help!!! I can't deal with the "all purple" phase anymore.

[sansdieu]

So... I don't know exactly when this got started; and it started innocently enough, where DD would be picking her clothes for daycare. She'd be matching colors and picking things with flowers on them, and everybody was happy. Somehow, that turned into a nightmare, where she tries to find purple or lavender items only (including socks). And it's no longer enough to have something purple ON the clothing; the entire thing has to be purple or lavender.

Right now, at least once a day, I have to face an hour-long "all purple" temper-tantrum (typically, more often, because she's bound to spill something on her clothes at least once). Unless I actually have an all-purple outfit lined up, that is, which I don't (and I refuse to replace her entire wardrobe). It seems to be getting worse, too -- this morning, DD only wanted to read the purple book and eat purple yogurt. I hate to think what will happen tomorrow.

So far, I have tried (and failed):

* letting her choose one outfit out of two
* pre-selecting her outfit
* selecting her outfits the night before
* letting her walk around top-less (or bottom-less, depending which piece she has a problem with).

Forcing her into a non-purple outfit typically doesn't work (she can take off most items herself). Letting her run around naked doesn't walk either 'coz she just screams her head off. The way it typically runs its course is that I get tired of her screaming and try to get her distracted and dressed. By then, I'm usually late for work (or whatever other appointment I've had). And this strategy seems to be less and less effective each day -- and the struggle is getting longer and longer.


Any suggestions, please?????

[kijip]

Honestly? We just bought (and washed) a heck of a lot of orange/red clothing when he was about 3. And that gave way to acceptance of all bright colors. I think in passes in most kids faster if it does not become a power struggle and fight.

[ladysoapmaker]

I am so happy that DD#1 wasn't that bad. She still wants purple but she has branched out to other colors such as pink and blue and red.

You may want to play up the specialness of the all purple outfit and how it can't be worn everyday because it will fall apart faster....

Good luck...Hopefully this will pass soon

Jen

[KrisM]

We are pink. I have lots of pink for her to wear. I bought most used and just wash it so there is something to change into. It's just easier than the power struggle.

[ha98ed14]

Take $5 and go to Goodwill and buy some purple shirts. The phase will not last forever. This is a battle you don't have to fight. She will outgrow it and it is making your life miserable.

[Toba]

My suggestion, I know, won't help you. Send her over to me. I am a purple fiend. I'd be at every store buying everything purple.

Maybe buy a bunch of purple things (I buy most of DS's clothing at outlets, there are lots of them around here) and run the washing machine a lot until it passes? I know that's more work and $, but ...

[fivi2]

One dd is into purple, but not to that extent!

Could you buy a special purple something that she could wear everyday (not clothes) - like a hair bow, or a purple purse (and read the book about Lily's purple purse), or a bunch of purple socks, or purple tennis shoes, or bracelet, or necklace, or sunglasses... (you get the idea ) That way you wouldn't have to buy a bunch of new clothes?

Just a thought! Good luck!

[bubbaray]

I'd just go with the flow. Buy some inexpensive purple items. Maybe take her shopping with you and she picks out new items (probably purple, but maybe other colors too).

I'd like to say its a phase, but we're still in Pinkville here. At least DD#1 will now wear more than just pink, but still.

At least she's not wanting to dye her hair purple or pink. I'm waiting for that one, LOL.

[KrisM]

Originally Posted by bubbaray

At least she's not wanting to dye her hair purple or pink. I'm waiting for that one, LOL.

DD was in tears after her first hair cut. Tears. Because she thought if she got her hair cut it would be PINK! So, yes, she has a small pink hair extension that she wears daily. It's hot pink.

[catsnkid]

what about dying her clothes?