October --Multiples Mom Chat

[BeachBum]

Welcome to October!
Here is a link to last month's thread

http://www.windsorpeak.com/vbulletin...d.php?t=335513

[BeachBum]

sleep
We had to separate ours (they are 8 mo now). They definitely woke each other up--contrary to what the books say!

Yes, I'm one who said I followed what Weissbluth says about sleeping and no mine aren't STTN. But I do feel like sleeping (and attitude when awake) is so much better since following the book.


As for us--
Keep your fingers crossed. We are going on a cruise in a few weeks. It will either be a much needed reprieve or a very expensive mistake! HA HA.
We are doing Disney and they have the (pay) nursery as well as a splash area for babies. I plan on spending a lot of time on our balcony while the babies sleep.
Hopefully it will be a fun family time as well as time for DH and I to connect....I feel like we haven't had an adult conversation in months.

[Momof3Labs]

Is it already October? I go back to work in 6.5 weeks - wah.

Still pumping and bottle feeding here. I'm almost ready to give up hope that they will nurse. But now that I'm on Zoloft, I think that I'm okay with that!

[fivi2]

Have fun on your cruise! I think it will be a blast.

My cute story for the day:

As I posted in the Lounge, DD1 is giving me a hard time. In a moment of bad parenting the other day, I (permanently) took away one of her stuffed toys - a rabbit (not a top tier toy, more like a mid-level toy). So today she starts asking for it and gets upset when I tell her it isn't coming back. Her twin disappears while I am comforting DD1.

A little bit later DD2 shows up with a "rabbit" she has created out of construction paper. She has glued shapes together (circle head, rectangle body, triangle ears, long rectangle legs) and drawn a face on it. She hands it to her sister and says: "Here DD1, I made you a new bunny. We'll figure out how to make it fuzzy tomorrow."

It was the most adorable thing ever!

[fivi2]

Originally Posted by Momof3Labs

Is it already October? I go back to work in 6.5 weeks - wah.

Still pumping and bottle feeding here. I'm almost ready to give up hope that they will nurse. But now that I'm on Zoloft, I think that I'm okay with that!

I probably mentioned this already, but...

I was going insane trying to pump and nurse, etc. (And I only have the twins). It lifted a huge weight when I decided to quit attempting to direct nurse and "just" pump. Honestly, I understand the arguments that it is easier to nurse once they get the hang of it, but for me it made a huge difference once I made that decision.

Pumping sucked, I won't lie. But I lasted 11 months, and I think that if I had tried to continue nursing and pumping I would have given up much sooner. It was hard because it seems that the goal of most people is to work toward nursing, but honestly I think the best decision I made was just to pump.

Please, don't think I am trying to discourage you. A lot of people can make nursing work. But, it is okay if you choose to do something else!

[missliss55]

I agree with you. I pump and bottle feed my 4 month old twins. I would have loved to breastfeed my twins like I did my older girls, but it just didn't work out. My DH keeps reminding me that they are getting breast milk and that is what is important. I felt very free after I decided to just pump. I think you have to do what works best for you. I am also not opposed to formula. I am going to try and pump as long as I can, but with 4 children under the age of 6 life sure is crazy. :-)

[BeachBum]

fivi2--that is such a cute, sweet story. what a great sister!

[dowlinal]

My boys are four months now and I am really starting to enjoy them. Today they both gave me my first kisses from them. It completely melted my heart. I also think it's really sweet that their first kisses ever went to each other.

I am having a minor nursing problem. Nick won't take a bottle from me unless I've already nursed him, so when I am alone with the boys, I always seem to end up nursing Nick a lot more than Alex. I can hold both boys and nurse Nick while bottlefeeding Alex, but not the opposite. Nick probably gets 80% breastmilk while I think Alex is only getting like 50-60%. I don't know what to do about this or if I should just be happy that we're still getting by.

[Melaine]

I also gave up nursing because neither of them were actually latching properly, and pumped and fed from about 2 months. When they were around 4-5 months old I went to just formula. It was a hard choice, and I definitely had some guilt and sadness. I think the odds are really against you when you have preemie twins though so I tell myself those four months of breast milk were better than nothing. It was certainly easier when I stopped trying unsuccessfully to get them to nurse. But we were having 0% success so it was really just frustration.

[longamkl]

BeachBum, I'll be anxious to hear how your cruise goes. We are going on a vacation at the end of November - I completely get wanting to reconnect with my husband. But I am worried about the flight (5 hours) and the condo where we will stay - babyproofing issues, sleep adjustment issues etc. It may not be much of a vacation at all. I'm picturing lots of time sitting on our balcony while the babies are sleeping too!