How do we feel about impersonal thank you cards...

[gatorsmom]

Stuffed in the birthday party goody bags rather than sent after the party? Last year the thank yous didn't get sent at all because I was helping my dad with cancer diagnosis 3 weeks after the party. Insert smiley with bag on head. We did, however open the gifts during the party and the boys said thank you in person to everyone, if that counts.

So this time I was considering doing the thank you cards ahead with a "thanks for coming to the party" type of message. There is the chance that we will not get to opening gifts during the party because I have so many activities planned. How would you feel about that? With the way our summer is going I can't be sure I'll get them sent again.

[SnuggleBuggles]

Hate them. Sorry. I think that I'd rather just take the in person "thank you" when opening the gift and then no hand written ty than an impersonal note in the goody bag. If you aren't opening the gifts at the party then I really think a personal ty needs to be sent. I hate when my gifts just disappear into the void with 0 acknowledgment. I didn't get Christmas tys sent out this years and still feel terribly guilty about that but I figure we're all allowed to mess up once.

Beth

[TwinFoxes]

I personally wouldn't do them. But I may be the only person on earth that actually likes writing thank you cards. If I received one, I wouldn't be offended, but I would think "gee, you shouldn't gone through so much trouble." I'd get over it though.

[nov04]

They bother me honestly. Someone went to the trouble of choosing a gift and attending, they should receive a personalized ty card. I can understand if someone went through a trauma and they forgot or had no time, but it should be the exception imo.

[♥ms.pacman♥]

Originally Posted by SnuggleBuggles

Hate them. Sorry. I think that I'd rather just take the in person "thank you" when opening the gift and then no hand written ty than an impersonal note in the goody bag. If you aren't opening the gifts at the party then I really think a personal ty needs to be sent. I hate when my gifts just disappear into the void with 0 acknowledgment. I didn't get Christmas tys sent out this years and still feel terribly guilty about that but I figure we're all allowed to mess up once.

Beth

i agree, think mass generic thank yous are pretty tacky, sorry. i get that sometimes people get wrapped up in things or family emergencies come up and we dont' have time to send TY's out..that is fine, totally excusable, i'm sure no one would hold that over your head. but i wouldn't know about purposely planning not to send TY's out and doing a generic one in advance...i don't know, to me, that is worse than not sending Ty's all, bc it's like you've already decided it's not worth your time, KWIM?

[WolfpackMom]

Yeah, I dont feel good about them either. It would seem impersonal like you say and honestly kind of lazy. I would feel better if the impersonal was sent after the party, lol, a card that said thank you for coming and the gift etc without saying what the gift exactly was, at least that would seem to be a little more effort.

[sste]

Well, I am not a fan of impersonal ones . . . on the other hand, I think thank you cards are a significant drain on the finite minutes comprising our human lives! I like to receive thank you cards or some acknowledgement only when it is a mailed gift and I am worried the recipient didn't receive it OR it is a pretty large, expensive, or exceptionally unique or thoughtful gift. But, I hate to have our friends mailing thank you notes for the $8 board book I got their kid as b-day gifrt.

Just curious as to whether e-vite or another online invitation place has a follow up "e-thank you card." To me, this would be genius on the part of e-vite or a like service - - the email addresses would all be there from the initial evite and ideally queued up in a separate thank you section, you type a few personalized lines and click send, and no paper/gas waste (in fact you can even include your signature line and your email thank you will look env. responsible).

[vonfirmath]

Originally Posted by sste

Well, I am not a fan of impersonal ones . . . on the other hand, I think thank you cards are a significant drain on the finite minutes comprising our human lives! I like to receive thank you cards or some acknowledgement only when it is a mailed gift and I am worried the recipient didn't receive it

I'm here. I hand delivered the gift to the party? Thank you not necessary. If I get one, fine. If not, I won't notice. A generic thank you in the bag would just get tossed. Its pretty meaningless.

[Andi98989]

Originally Posted by sste

Well, I am not a fan of impersonal ones . . . on the other hand, I think thank you cards are a significant drain on the finite minutes comprising our human lives! I like to receive thank you cards or some acknowledgement only when it is a mailed gift and I am worried the recipient didn't receive it OR it is a pretty large, expensive, or exceptionally unique or thoughtful gift. But, I hate to have our friends mailing thank you notes for the $8 board book I got their kid as b-day gifrt.

[SunCB]

Would not do it!