Not sure we are ready for daughters...

[BDKmom]

So some of us around here are not sure that we are super psyched about being moms of daughters. We need all of you ladies and gents who already have DDs to let us in on how awesome they are.

Extra points if you throw in some stuff about how much your DSs adore their sisters.

[Indianamom2]

Well, my situation is a bit different since DD is my firstborn and she is almost 5 years older than Ds. DD has been a really sweet helper with Ds and he brings out a very tender and loving side in her. She would defend him to the death.

Ds ADORES everything about DD. He thinks she is awesome and on the rare occasions that I have to discipline him, he runs to DD for comfort. They get along great (most of the time) and really do love each other. They play well together and since they aren't fighting over the same toys and clothes, it works well.

Think of it this way...you get the best of both worlds.

[Radosti]

Me to Josh, 3.5: Josh, do you love your sister? (she's two)
Josh: she is not my sister, she's my princess!

She is such a sweet and easygoing child. A friend once Joked that she must be God's gift to me for not totally losing it when I found out I was pregnant only 8 months after Josh was born.

Both boys dote on her. It's very sweet.

[BDKmom]

Originally Posted by Radosti

Me to Josh, 3.5: Josh, do you love your sister? (she's two)
Josh: she is not my sister, she's my princess!

Ok, this brought tears to my eyes. So sweet! This is so what I hope for!

[buddyleebaby]

The relationship between a mother and her daughter is different than that of a mother and her son. I am not saying that one is better than the other- they are both unique and special. I think it is a true blessing to be able to experience both.

[♥ms.pacman♥]

oh, i got plenty of stories!

the other day, we were reading CHugga Chugga Choo Choo (the book i always read to DS before his nap). One one page there are a lot of figurines, one of them a princess, with pretty hair, flowing dress, etc. I ask him, "what's that?" And he says "That's a princess." then he adds, happily, " Like [DD]!" Awww!!

I know that DS often gets annoyed with DD for grabbing his toys, but I have to cut him some slack..he is only 2 years old after all. Sometimes he sees DD wanting to play with his trains, and he hands her a train, saying "You can play with Percy!" Soo cute.

Also, a couple months ago or so DD was fussing and I was about to nurse her in our playroom (my My Brest Friend is usually in DD's room, so i wasn't going to use a pillow). DS saw me sit down to nurse DD, he says "I can go bring the Boppy!" and goes and gets the Boppy from the TV room and brings it back to me, all proud of himself. I was so amazed. Despite being jealous often, and being very boyish (no nurturing tendencies, no wanting to treat DD as his baby or anything) he really has been really helpful to me with DD...if i ask him to hand me a diaper or burp cloth he would often do it.

I also can really see DS being protective of his little sister. He got mad once at an outing where an other baby was chewing on (her own) Sophie Giraffe toy (DD has the same one). He was like "No! that's not yours! That's [DD]'s!!" He was really upset because he thought this other baby was using something that was DDs. It was cute. I think when they get older there will be other instances where DS will be protective of DD. Growing up I just had one younger brother, who for the most part annoyed me (LOL). I would be so jealous of my friends with older brothers who could stick up for them at school and such, and who they could look up to.

eta: i should add, my DD is such a sweet, cheerful little girl. Yes, she can be a drama queen at times, but then other times she can just be so incredibly sweet and loving. OUr sitter is always joking, "Can I take her home with me??". She has such a sweet laugh, she is like a little ray of sunshine.

[KpbS]

My boys could not adore their sister any more. They fight to go into her room when she wakes up, DS2 volunteers to sing to her when she is sad, and DS1 is always looking out for her and cheering her on as she is learning to walk/talk/etc. She is so lucky to have them

[american_mama]

I adore having daughters. I like that I experienced some of the common milestones that will happen in their lives... social relationships, puberty, love, work and family balance, pregnany and birth, motherhood. I like that my memories of my own life, what I liked and disliked about my mother-daughter relationship and my development as a girl, can help me guide them. I like that they will probably be mothers themselves one day (I have two daughters, so odds are somebody's going to have a baby) and that I can be close to this reproductive phase of life again, from a distance.

I am not intimidated by the supposed challenges of raising girls. I try not to polarize things by saying, "She's all girl whereas *I* was such a tomboy, I just don't know how to handle a girly girl." (I hear sentiments like this a lot). Instead, I look for commonality in my girlhood interests and my daughters', or in DH's interests and our daughters. I look for things they do that show them in different lights: i.e. realizing most of the time, DD does X but she also sometimes does Y that show her varied nature, not just a "girly girl" or "tomboy." I minimize their media exposure and stay silent about concerns about my own appearance and body image. But I try not to create forbidden fruit: moderation in all things: for example, no to watching music videos, yes to listening to popular music, yes to modest popular clothes, no to slutty popular clothes, yes to toy requests, no to roaming the very gender-stratified world of Toys r Us.

Daughters are great. I have noticed that many women who feel un-sure about having daughters had problematic relationships with their own sisters or mothers. I think those negative memories of the past give you a clue as to what to change with your own child, what mistakes you can avoid, things your mother did that you definitely don't want to emulate.

I am very lucky to have a boy and two girls. Two genders makes boy/girl differences an ordinary part of life from the earliest years: your kids have exposure to different anatomy, different friends and interest, different styles of communication. It enriches them. It also enriches you as a mom because you learn about the realm of boys and of girls. I adore having children of both genders, but I can tell you, I would have been very sad if I hadn't had at least one daughter.

[gatorsmom]

My boys all dote on their sister. Her twin, Greenbean once said, "I love you, Sisi, your my big brudder." Yesterday they were running around playing Indiana Jones. Greenbean was Indiana and Sisi was Marion Ravenwood running around with her frying pan to hit the bad guys. They were finding the lost Ark of the Covenant.

Sisi is the best behaved child I have ever had. And that is saying something because Gator was a very easy child. She has probably had less than 5 time outs in her whole life. She loves to help and does everything I ask her. And she is always dancing around in the house singing little songs to herself. DH jokes that it's too bad she is such an unhappy child.

[ChristinaLucia]

I have two DDs and they are the best things ever. I would have two more if I could.