WOHPs with school age dc -

[lcarlson90]

My DS will be in 2nd grade next year and we have never had any play dates with friends from school. That is fine with me because between sports and cub scouts DS has a pretty full schedule.

[niccig]

DS does aftercare at his school 2-3 days a week, so plenty of playing going on. I try to get a playdate in whenever we can, DS asks and other kids ask me for playdates. Sometimes DS will go home with someone rather than go to aftercare and I'll pick him up at their house.

[fivi2]

My girls do aftercare, and we see non-school friends (or cousins) on weekends, I am just starting to feel that they are being left out because I don't do playdate type activities with girls in their class. They haven't said anything (they do ask to have people over, but nothing specific about feeling left out), but I notice girls talking about things they did together. Maybe it is different with girls? I don't know - nothing mean or exclusive at all - just other kids developing friendships in a way that I don't really provide for my girls, if that makes sense...

We had one school friend (her mom) that kept trying to make plans, and we were always (legitimately) busy and now she has stopped asking. I feel bad, but we were truly busy, and I did try to reciprocate when we weren't... I dont know I guess just more mommy guilt

[lovin2shop]

We do them pretty often, probably one to two times a week. This is primarily because DH has a flexible schedule and is around often. It kind of cracks me (and bums me out at the same time) that my SAHM friends call my DH to coordinate playdates. Having said all that, I still feel like my older DS is still a bit "on the fringe" with the other SAHM kidlings who are his really good friends at school. But, on the flip side of that, DS is also in the after school program and is friends with these other kids also. So, I guess it all washes out right?

I think it is good to facilitate the playdates to a certain degree, but I don't think it is worth going to extraordinary lengths or giving up a lot of precious family time.

[ZeeBaby]

I don't really see the need to do play dates when kids are in school all day with the kids and do aftercare. Maybe I am just too overwhelmed being a WOHM. I could only do weekends. Maybe in the fall, bu the girls have a lot of activities then too.