tnrnchick74
12-23-2007, 11:25 PM
Ok, this is my first venting post...
I'm almost 17 weeks pregnant. I feel fat, not "glowing" or with a beautiful baby bump...just fat and ugly.
Top that off with lots of stress at home & work. I'm currently living with my mother.
AND I'm moving into a new house Jan 3. My boyfriend is supposedly moving in with me from NC in Feb. I'm shelling out a lot of $$ to get moved into the house and he's complaining that I'm asking him for part of the $$ needed. We BOTH have lots of bills. We BOTH have $$ issues right now. Did I mention that I'm living with my mother currently?
So I get the nagging from my Mom (who doesn't like my boyfriend). And for the past 3 weeks my boyfriend and I haven't done much or anything but fight...about everything. And to hear him, its ALL my fault. *I* don't communicate well enough. *I* don't understand what HE'S going through being seperated from me. *I* don't do this or do that.
I'm tired of being the root of everyone's problems. I feel like me and this baby have ruined everyone's life and no one is excited about the baby except me. I'm SO tired of being blamed for every fight...but most of all I'm tired of all the fighting in general. I can't handle it anymore.
Some days I wonder if it wouldn't just be easier for everyone involved, for me to raise this baby by myself...to move out from here and isolate myself from everyone who is dragging me down. Have I mentioned that I currently live with my mother and she HATES my boyfriend?? Everday its another jab at him. I don't put up with it; I have set boundaries. So THEN she responds with limiting my "kitchen time". I'm currently allowed to store a limited number of items in the fridge/freezer...and ONLY use the microwave to cook foods. I have offered to pay additional $$ to cover the utilities I use, but that was turned down because it would be "too confusing to figure out". So I end up eating out a lot...and trying to give my baby the best nutrition, I try to stay away from fast food. Well tonight, the boyfriend starts arguing with me about how much $$ I spend on eating out when I'm supposedly so strapped for $$. So I guess I'm supposed to lock myself in my room and only eat protein bars and drink water??
I'm sorry that occassionally I want something HOT, something other than protein bars and other things that don't have to be cooked or stored in the fridge/freezer.
And tomorrow we are doing the "Family Christmas"...but I have been told that I am not invited to the gift swapping because they didn't buy anything for me (at my request because I can't afford to buy them gifts right now and pay all the moving expenses and medical bills). So I guess I will be spending the "family time" eating a plate of food (hopefully Christmas dinner of some sort) in my room while I listen to everyone else open their gifts.
Its a sad day when you just wish you were working an additional shift or 2 because people there actually treat you like a human being...and because the cafeteria food is actually really good.
Sorry this is so long and so depressing. Thanks for listening.
I'm almost 17 weeks pregnant. I feel fat, not "glowing" or with a beautiful baby bump...just fat and ugly.
Top that off with lots of stress at home & work. I'm currently living with my mother.
AND I'm moving into a new house Jan 3. My boyfriend is supposedly moving in with me from NC in Feb. I'm shelling out a lot of $$ to get moved into the house and he's complaining that I'm asking him for part of the $$ needed. We BOTH have lots of bills. We BOTH have $$ issues right now. Did I mention that I'm living with my mother currently?
So I get the nagging from my Mom (who doesn't like my boyfriend). And for the past 3 weeks my boyfriend and I haven't done much or anything but fight...about everything. And to hear him, its ALL my fault. *I* don't communicate well enough. *I* don't understand what HE'S going through being seperated from me. *I* don't do this or do that.
I'm tired of being the root of everyone's problems. I feel like me and this baby have ruined everyone's life and no one is excited about the baby except me. I'm SO tired of being blamed for every fight...but most of all I'm tired of all the fighting in general. I can't handle it anymore.
Some days I wonder if it wouldn't just be easier for everyone involved, for me to raise this baby by myself...to move out from here and isolate myself from everyone who is dragging me down. Have I mentioned that I currently live with my mother and she HATES my boyfriend?? Everday its another jab at him. I don't put up with it; I have set boundaries. So THEN she responds with limiting my "kitchen time". I'm currently allowed to store a limited number of items in the fridge/freezer...and ONLY use the microwave to cook foods. I have offered to pay additional $$ to cover the utilities I use, but that was turned down because it would be "too confusing to figure out". So I end up eating out a lot...and trying to give my baby the best nutrition, I try to stay away from fast food. Well tonight, the boyfriend starts arguing with me about how much $$ I spend on eating out when I'm supposedly so strapped for $$. So I guess I'm supposed to lock myself in my room and only eat protein bars and drink water??
I'm sorry that occassionally I want something HOT, something other than protein bars and other things that don't have to be cooked or stored in the fridge/freezer.
And tomorrow we are doing the "Family Christmas"...but I have been told that I am not invited to the gift swapping because they didn't buy anything for me (at my request because I can't afford to buy them gifts right now and pay all the moving expenses and medical bills). So I guess I will be spending the "family time" eating a plate of food (hopefully Christmas dinner of some sort) in my room while I listen to everyone else open their gifts.
Its a sad day when you just wish you were working an additional shift or 2 because people there actually treat you like a human being...and because the cafeteria food is actually really good.
Sorry this is so long and so depressing. Thanks for listening.