quikeye
01-30-2004, 04:11 AM
Hi all, I've been reading & lightly posting to these forums since I found out I was pregnant, but never thought I would need BF'ing advice (novice, I know!!) But I'd like a little advice, or maybe someone telling me this is normal? :)
DS arrived on Sunday, and I was (still am!) very gung-ho about BF'ing... But I can't seem to find a good rhythm/latch with him, or at least I don't think so. Every time I try to BF according to his cues (and at least every 2 hours), it's been a struggle for him to latch on. He opens his mouth wide, I pull him in, and he holds on for about 2 seconds before opening his mouth again, or pushes me away (literally) with his arms/hands, or shakes his head back & forth away from the breast, (all the time with a heartbreaking cry!) or just generally refuses to latch on. I've tried several positions/holds (cross-cradle & football mainly, since I can actually try and move his head in when he opens up)-- as well as sitting, standing, pillow positions, boppy... Doesn't really seem to matter, since every BF attempt takes at least a good 15 minutes before he will latch on... And now since my milk has come in, he's only feeding for 10-15 minutes on one side before dropping off to sleep and refusing to open his mouth again til the next feed (the 1st 2 days of colostrum, he would feed for 20-30 minutes and more; I know he was getting less then and had to feed for longer, but it seems like such a short time to me!) When he does latch, it's a good one (no nipple pain, areola all the way back...) it's just SUCH a struggle to get him to latch on in the 1st place!
I guess I just want to know if anyone has any advice or positions or something that may enlighten me why DS refuses to latch without a fight... No thrush that I can see, and he does seem to prefer the football hold (when he finally settles enough to try it!)-- so maybe he prefers eating in a semi-sitting position... I wouldn't worry as much except that his ped is a little concerned about getting close to the 10% weightloss and also that he had only had 2 BM's after his 1st nite in the hospital after being born (he's worried about jaundice & bilirubin buildup, though he had a good 3 BM's today that are much less meconium & more poopy, yay!!) :) But though the ped has been really supportive, he has been talking about supplementation-- which is something I REALLY don't want to do right now, being so early in the game (though I was able to pump myself with the PY I bought for returning to work in a few months, so we know it's not a lack of production...) I'd just like to be able to know we're on the right track, and maybe that this is going to be okay (so I can get the formula out of my mind already!)
Well, I know I'm worried just since this is new, and I want so much for it to work (and I don't want to get discouraged), but it's hard thinking I'm doing something wrong... Is it normal for babies to fuss so much at latching on at this age? He took to the breast right away after birth (no medications during labor), but it's just been way uphill from here. I probably will consult with a LC soon, but I just need a little "been there, done that" advice from some moms... :) Thanks in advance all...
Aija & Kai 1/25/04
DS arrived on Sunday, and I was (still am!) very gung-ho about BF'ing... But I can't seem to find a good rhythm/latch with him, or at least I don't think so. Every time I try to BF according to his cues (and at least every 2 hours), it's been a struggle for him to latch on. He opens his mouth wide, I pull him in, and he holds on for about 2 seconds before opening his mouth again, or pushes me away (literally) with his arms/hands, or shakes his head back & forth away from the breast, (all the time with a heartbreaking cry!) or just generally refuses to latch on. I've tried several positions/holds (cross-cradle & football mainly, since I can actually try and move his head in when he opens up)-- as well as sitting, standing, pillow positions, boppy... Doesn't really seem to matter, since every BF attempt takes at least a good 15 minutes before he will latch on... And now since my milk has come in, he's only feeding for 10-15 minutes on one side before dropping off to sleep and refusing to open his mouth again til the next feed (the 1st 2 days of colostrum, he would feed for 20-30 minutes and more; I know he was getting less then and had to feed for longer, but it seems like such a short time to me!) When he does latch, it's a good one (no nipple pain, areola all the way back...) it's just SUCH a struggle to get him to latch on in the 1st place!
I guess I just want to know if anyone has any advice or positions or something that may enlighten me why DS refuses to latch without a fight... No thrush that I can see, and he does seem to prefer the football hold (when he finally settles enough to try it!)-- so maybe he prefers eating in a semi-sitting position... I wouldn't worry as much except that his ped is a little concerned about getting close to the 10% weightloss and also that he had only had 2 BM's after his 1st nite in the hospital after being born (he's worried about jaundice & bilirubin buildup, though he had a good 3 BM's today that are much less meconium & more poopy, yay!!) :) But though the ped has been really supportive, he has been talking about supplementation-- which is something I REALLY don't want to do right now, being so early in the game (though I was able to pump myself with the PY I bought for returning to work in a few months, so we know it's not a lack of production...) I'd just like to be able to know we're on the right track, and maybe that this is going to be okay (so I can get the formula out of my mind already!)
Well, I know I'm worried just since this is new, and I want so much for it to work (and I don't want to get discouraged), but it's hard thinking I'm doing something wrong... Is it normal for babies to fuss so much at latching on at this age? He took to the breast right away after birth (no medications during labor), but it's just been way uphill from here. I probably will consult with a LC soon, but I just need a little "been there, done that" advice from some moms... :) Thanks in advance all...
Aija & Kai 1/25/04