caffeinedreams
07-07-2003, 10:38 PM
My mom and sister just announced they are going to Europe this fall with 2 other relatives. Last summer, they took a 2-week trip with my sister's 3 kids and I was not invited--my mom said to me "You and Davis (my DH) can afford trips. Your sister can't, so I am going to treat her." This time around, mom claims my sister is paying her own way, but I don't buy that because my sister is a single mom with a lower-paying job who has to get money from my parents to pay for everyday needs, including my mom buying her a new car a year ago and making the payments for her. My mom said to me "We did not invite you because we knew you could not go." No, we can't because we can't afford it right now and my husband is in school, so he could not go at that time even if we could afford it, and if we could afford for one to go, I can't just go because the good price they are getting is based upon an even number of people going and I would throw that off.
My DH is a full-time student and we have a child, so we are really no better off financially than my sister, and my mom already pays for practically everything for my sister and her kids, which she does not do for me or mine. My family and I have not taken a vacation in a few years for financial reasons. I don't expect everything to be equal all the time and I certainly don't want or need to be financially supported by my mother, but this has really ticked me off. I bit my tongue the last time they took a trip and did not say anything, but this is way too much IMO. Even if my sister paid her own way, I know my mom would pay for her meals and all other daily expenses.
Then, to top it off, my mother suggested that I could babysit my nieces while they are gone! I was so shocked by all this that I did not say anything, but the more I think about it, the madder I get.
I guess I just want to know if I am being unreasonable here or if I have a right to be totally angered by this. I don't want to be a childish brat, but the idea that they are planning a trip to Europe that I'm not invited on and then have the gall to suggest I babysit has me livid.
Any opinions are welcome, and it does help to vent a bit here!
My DH is a full-time student and we have a child, so we are really no better off financially than my sister, and my mom already pays for practically everything for my sister and her kids, which she does not do for me or mine. My family and I have not taken a vacation in a few years for financial reasons. I don't expect everything to be equal all the time and I certainly don't want or need to be financially supported by my mother, but this has really ticked me off. I bit my tongue the last time they took a trip and did not say anything, but this is way too much IMO. Even if my sister paid her own way, I know my mom would pay for her meals and all other daily expenses.
Then, to top it off, my mother suggested that I could babysit my nieces while they are gone! I was so shocked by all this that I did not say anything, but the more I think about it, the madder I get.
I guess I just want to know if I am being unreasonable here or if I have a right to be totally angered by this. I don't want to be a childish brat, but the idea that they are planning a trip to Europe that I'm not invited on and then have the gall to suggest I babysit has me livid.
Any opinions are welcome, and it does help to vent a bit here!