SeekerMage
03-08-2004, 04:16 AM
Angelas bio mom had a baby this past week..."Big Sigh!" for those of you who dont know Angela was taken away from her due to neglect, poor parenting and a gazillion other reasons (bio mom is our cousin).....and of course she is now married (her and hubby have about two brain cells between them and thats saying a lot) and has another baby 6 days old and the fun is already beginning!
DH and I went to his parents to drop the girls off for a well needed day alone and just as we were getting ready to leave, she showed up with baby and hubby, un announced and pretty much unwelcome. (MIL exact mumbled words were oh SH** when she saw them) Sooo we missed our movie and had to stick around for two hours gritting our teeth while she tried to show off the baby. So much for our needed break and of course this now puts Angela into another tail spin of acting up...she hasnt seen bio mom in months and now she has a new baby, yeah more frustration for me! Granted, I love all babys and it was nice to get to see him, but its sooo hard to watch the things she was doing without wanting to grab him and take him away! Dont get me wrong, I know each parent is different but atleast most have common sense on most things!
He was two weeks early - they induced due to high blood pressure...he was 7 lbs and 19 inches and is a little peanut....well he is now barely 6 pounds 10 ounces, is very jaundice - his little nose was pure yellow and his feet purple, and of course wanting to sleep. She had him dressed in an thin undershirt and overalls that were too big...no socks, no long sleeves etc. Its Chicago and today was a very cold and windy day! Granted I understand the overalls being big because he is tiny, but for gods sake put some socks on him and wrap him in a stinken blanket! She was trying to feed him some formula while she was there, and the bottle she had had a nipple which was too fast (she is nursing too) and god only knows how long it was sitting out since she was out since early that morning and it was now 2, and he hadnt eaten in over three hours...she would feed him about two minutes then take it away and burp and talk and talk then play then see if he wanted more....Just feed him already! Then it was look he opened his eyes, come on open your eyes...you can do it....gees all he does is sleep, he will wake up Im sure, see his eyes are open as she jiggles him around..Just let him sleep!!!!! She finally handed him to me so I wrapped him in a blanket,,,which she insisted he wouldnt like, he seemed fine to me, maybe his poor little ice cubes of feet were finally getting warm! I then gave him an ounce of the bottle, which surprise surprise he was eating fine since I didnt keep taking it away!~ and then he went back to sleep. I wont even go into her changing his diaper and how sore his little bum looked and that they didnt have anything to put on it, not even anything on the circumcisim site and how she ranted and raved because he filled his diaper just after she changed it etc....
Atleast he is good natured, probably afraid to be otherwise.....but it worrys me because he seems to be sleeping to long and not eating enough and she of course isnt waking him enough to eat. he isnt being cared for like he should.(I know not every parent is perfect but sheesh he is a baby not a toy to show off at your every whim)..they had several other places they were going that day...6 days old and already out and about in the cold not dressed warm enough! I just dont need this stress nor does my MIL who will now be putting up with several drop in visits (they stop by and stay for atleast an hour or two without calling etc even visiting her at work) I hate to see children being mistreated in any way and this breaks my heart. We were fortunate enough to be able to take Angela, but it has been extremely hard on us and challenging every day. Atleast they seem to have support in his family, which they are already taking advantage of, I just hope it doesnt wear out soon and that maybe she will get some common sence. I think Im adding DCFS to speed dial just in case.....sigh
DH and I went to his parents to drop the girls off for a well needed day alone and just as we were getting ready to leave, she showed up with baby and hubby, un announced and pretty much unwelcome. (MIL exact mumbled words were oh SH** when she saw them) Sooo we missed our movie and had to stick around for two hours gritting our teeth while she tried to show off the baby. So much for our needed break and of course this now puts Angela into another tail spin of acting up...she hasnt seen bio mom in months and now she has a new baby, yeah more frustration for me! Granted, I love all babys and it was nice to get to see him, but its sooo hard to watch the things she was doing without wanting to grab him and take him away! Dont get me wrong, I know each parent is different but atleast most have common sense on most things!
He was two weeks early - they induced due to high blood pressure...he was 7 lbs and 19 inches and is a little peanut....well he is now barely 6 pounds 10 ounces, is very jaundice - his little nose was pure yellow and his feet purple, and of course wanting to sleep. She had him dressed in an thin undershirt and overalls that were too big...no socks, no long sleeves etc. Its Chicago and today was a very cold and windy day! Granted I understand the overalls being big because he is tiny, but for gods sake put some socks on him and wrap him in a stinken blanket! She was trying to feed him some formula while she was there, and the bottle she had had a nipple which was too fast (she is nursing too) and god only knows how long it was sitting out since she was out since early that morning and it was now 2, and he hadnt eaten in over three hours...she would feed him about two minutes then take it away and burp and talk and talk then play then see if he wanted more....Just feed him already! Then it was look he opened his eyes, come on open your eyes...you can do it....gees all he does is sleep, he will wake up Im sure, see his eyes are open as she jiggles him around..Just let him sleep!!!!! She finally handed him to me so I wrapped him in a blanket,,,which she insisted he wouldnt like, he seemed fine to me, maybe his poor little ice cubes of feet were finally getting warm! I then gave him an ounce of the bottle, which surprise surprise he was eating fine since I didnt keep taking it away!~ and then he went back to sleep. I wont even go into her changing his diaper and how sore his little bum looked and that they didnt have anything to put on it, not even anything on the circumcisim site and how she ranted and raved because he filled his diaper just after she changed it etc....
Atleast he is good natured, probably afraid to be otherwise.....but it worrys me because he seems to be sleeping to long and not eating enough and she of course isnt waking him enough to eat. he isnt being cared for like he should.(I know not every parent is perfect but sheesh he is a baby not a toy to show off at your every whim)..they had several other places they were going that day...6 days old and already out and about in the cold not dressed warm enough! I just dont need this stress nor does my MIL who will now be putting up with several drop in visits (they stop by and stay for atleast an hour or two without calling etc even visiting her at work) I hate to see children being mistreated in any way and this breaks my heart. We were fortunate enough to be able to take Angela, but it has been extremely hard on us and challenging every day. Atleast they seem to have support in his family, which they are already taking advantage of, I just hope it doesnt wear out soon and that maybe she will get some common sence. I think Im adding DCFS to speed dial just in case.....sigh