NEVE and TRISTAN
03-11-2004, 12:43 AM
There is an "older" (a good 62 year old) women in our neighborhood who gets highly depressed but gives Tristan little $5 toys here and there and always has been nice to me. She is very lonely, but has supplied an excellent home to one of my rescue pups and I like her...but at times have to tolerate some of her moods and opinions. I use to wish my mom was like her (mom gives no toys or offerings except B-day and Christmas-not $1) but then when she gets opinionated about parenting and if T is too hot...too cold...to thirsty...not thirsty enough I am thankful my mom is how she is...
So today I organized a tea party at a tea house a good 35 minutes from my home for her, several of us went and I was in my car alone with her...
I told her I was pregnant and she said out loud " GOOD!!!!!...you can stop all that adoption stuff"...with her nose all krinkled up as if in disgust over the thoughts of adoption and what I could possibly be "stuck" with...
I was so livid...I pulled my passive agressive personality out of the hat and replied calmly about 45 seconds later, that I am suprised total strangers have said to me before "oh my don't adopt...keep trying"...I told her I reamed a women out for that statement and have decided that those who don't have anything nice to say about my adopting won't have the luxury of being exposed to my kids...I played it off as if to compalin about others remarks and not hers necessarily BUT she got the point!!!!
Obviously this isn't the first time she has made such comments...but I am certain she won't make them again :)....
Neve
http://home.nc.rr.com/ourbabytristan
AKA "mama2be"-forgot password
and Baby Boy Tristan born @UNC
Feb 25, 2003
Brother to 3 pups "gees" and 2 kitties
So today I organized a tea party at a tea house a good 35 minutes from my home for her, several of us went and I was in my car alone with her...
I told her I was pregnant and she said out loud " GOOD!!!!!...you can stop all that adoption stuff"...with her nose all krinkled up as if in disgust over the thoughts of adoption and what I could possibly be "stuck" with...
I was so livid...I pulled my passive agressive personality out of the hat and replied calmly about 45 seconds later, that I am suprised total strangers have said to me before "oh my don't adopt...keep trying"...I told her I reamed a women out for that statement and have decided that those who don't have anything nice to say about my adopting won't have the luxury of being exposed to my kids...I played it off as if to compalin about others remarks and not hers necessarily BUT she got the point!!!!
Obviously this isn't the first time she has made such comments...but I am certain she won't make them again :)....
Neve
http://home.nc.rr.com/ourbabytristan
AKA "mama2be"-forgot password
and Baby Boy Tristan born @UNC
Feb 25, 2003
Brother to 3 pups "gees" and 2 kitties