cdlamis
03-22-2004, 06:37 PM
Long story but here it is:
At our weekly family get together this last weekend with DH's family (separate rant!), it was decided that we all would go to a Sunday baseball game with the whole family sometime in April. It would be the in-laws, DH's Grandma, DH's sister and family, etc. There were only 2 weekends in April that everyone could go and the one that was chosen was DH's birthday. DH was ok with that. His family is VERY important to him and he probably thought it would be neat to spend his b-day with them.
Here is the problem- I have to work that day (and I told them this when we discussed the ball game plans) and would have to go to the ball game late (and alone) or I may have to miss it all together. DH and I also agreed that we may have my mom watch Julia that day since she would not enjoy the game and would want to walk around the whole time.
I am a bit ticked because there is a good chance that DH will spend the afternoon of his birthday without me or Julia. I work that morning so I really won't see him or get the chance to celebrate his birthday until that night. It seems as if no one really cares that his wife may have had other plans on his birthday and I am mad at DH for not suggesting another day for the game to be with me/Julia that day. PArt of me can't understand why DH doesn't realize that he has his own family now. Maybe I am way off but it seems as if his mom has a tight hold on him still. In the last 5 years we have been married, she has always baked his birthday cake for his family birthday celebrations. I don't think she realizes I may want to bake his cake. Ok now I am rambling and complaining about old stuff.
ETA- I work that morning and would get home by 1pm. The game starts at noon so I would not see him until that night if he goes to the game.
Be honest- am I being selfish or immature? Or I am too hormonal right now? Am I putting too much importance on THE day? I know we can still celebrate his birthday the day before.
Thanks for letting me vent!
Daniella
Mom to Julia 6-13-02
http://www.shutterfly.com/osi.jsp?i=67b0de21b35d0802848f *December pictures
At our weekly family get together this last weekend with DH's family (separate rant!), it was decided that we all would go to a Sunday baseball game with the whole family sometime in April. It would be the in-laws, DH's Grandma, DH's sister and family, etc. There were only 2 weekends in April that everyone could go and the one that was chosen was DH's birthday. DH was ok with that. His family is VERY important to him and he probably thought it would be neat to spend his b-day with them.
Here is the problem- I have to work that day (and I told them this when we discussed the ball game plans) and would have to go to the ball game late (and alone) or I may have to miss it all together. DH and I also agreed that we may have my mom watch Julia that day since she would not enjoy the game and would want to walk around the whole time.
I am a bit ticked because there is a good chance that DH will spend the afternoon of his birthday without me or Julia. I work that morning so I really won't see him or get the chance to celebrate his birthday until that night. It seems as if no one really cares that his wife may have had other plans on his birthday and I am mad at DH for not suggesting another day for the game to be with me/Julia that day. PArt of me can't understand why DH doesn't realize that he has his own family now. Maybe I am way off but it seems as if his mom has a tight hold on him still. In the last 5 years we have been married, she has always baked his birthday cake for his family birthday celebrations. I don't think she realizes I may want to bake his cake. Ok now I am rambling and complaining about old stuff.
ETA- I work that morning and would get home by 1pm. The game starts at noon so I would not see him until that night if he goes to the game.
Be honest- am I being selfish or immature? Or I am too hormonal right now? Am I putting too much importance on THE day? I know we can still celebrate his birthday the day before.
Thanks for letting me vent!
Daniella
Mom to Julia 6-13-02
http://www.shutterfly.com/osi.jsp?i=67b0de21b35d0802848f *December pictures