boys2enough
06-18-2004, 02:46 PM
This is obviously piggy-backing on Flagger's post in the lounge. I have been thinking why it does not mean the same thing to DH? Last night I told him about Flagger's post, and he said, (in addition to saying, "I like this guy already!" lol) "I LOVE Father's Day because it is NOT Mother's Day!"
I think why Father's Day does not mean the same thing to him because
1. he gets up whenever he feels like to on the weekend anyway
2. he does not have to take care of the kids, esp. the little one, anyway
3. on the weekend, he pretty much sits around the house and relax anyway
4. he gets to buy whatever "toys" he wants anyway, Father's Day or not
5. he does not help around the house regularly anyway
6. And yes, he has to mow the lawn on the weekend anyway, Father's Day or not
I know I am making my DH sound like a jerk. He really is a nice man. We just sort of divide our duties between us: inside vs outside the house chores, and he usually takes our 6 yo out biking and other fun stuff while I take care of the more difficult DS2. But Father's Day does not come with any "extra" fringe benefits for him, kwim? Ok, maybe some gifts, but he can buy them if he wants to any day of the year. Oh, yeah, on that day I am also not allowed to nag him for not helping around the house. So maybe that's something.
Similarly I get antsy around Mother's Day because I never get a rest on Mother's Day. No breakfast in bed, no "I take the kids you go out," no "I'll clean the house etc." Ok, I went out shopping by myself that day, but it was when DS2 was taking a nap... Just like every other regular Sunday. But his sleeping in and not helping around the house become even more annoying on the day that is supposed to be "My Day Off." Ok, maybe "suppoed to" is too strong a phrase. But "I would love to"...
Maybe we should just "abolish" Father's Day and Mother's Day in our household and reinstate it when the kids are older.
Thank you for listening.
Cheers, Lin
Mom to 2 wild boys
D 3/98
G 11/02
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I think why Father's Day does not mean the same thing to him because
1. he gets up whenever he feels like to on the weekend anyway
2. he does not have to take care of the kids, esp. the little one, anyway
3. on the weekend, he pretty much sits around the house and relax anyway
4. he gets to buy whatever "toys" he wants anyway, Father's Day or not
5. he does not help around the house regularly anyway
6. And yes, he has to mow the lawn on the weekend anyway, Father's Day or not
I know I am making my DH sound like a jerk. He really is a nice man. We just sort of divide our duties between us: inside vs outside the house chores, and he usually takes our 6 yo out biking and other fun stuff while I take care of the more difficult DS2. But Father's Day does not come with any "extra" fringe benefits for him, kwim? Ok, maybe some gifts, but he can buy them if he wants to any day of the year. Oh, yeah, on that day I am also not allowed to nag him for not helping around the house. So maybe that's something.
Similarly I get antsy around Mother's Day because I never get a rest on Mother's Day. No breakfast in bed, no "I take the kids you go out," no "I'll clean the house etc." Ok, I went out shopping by myself that day, but it was when DS2 was taking a nap... Just like every other regular Sunday. But his sleeping in and not helping around the house become even more annoying on the day that is supposed to be "My Day Off." Ok, maybe "suppoed to" is too strong a phrase. But "I would love to"...
Maybe we should just "abolish" Father's Day and Mother's Day in our household and reinstate it when the kids are older.
Thank you for listening.
Cheers, Lin
Mom to 2 wild boys
D 3/98
G 11/02
http://instagiber.net/smiliesdotcom/kao/otn/pnoodles.gif