farsk
10-18-2004, 11:32 AM
I am so angry...so angry that I have the shakes (ever get that mad?)
My mother just called and said that I HAD to come up with some way to get MIL "more involved" in Ellen's life, because Ellen's teachers at school "feel sorry for her"
Feel sorry for this, MIL.....
1. Completely cutting off any good will and affection that we had established (we used to eat lunch together 2x week, go to auctions, etc.) when DH and I announced our engagement.
2. Buying your Son-IL a guitar for Christmas and getting me a 1/2 hour massage. (note the inequity)
3. Making rude and hateful comments every turn
4. Jockeying (sp?) for a seat next to my husband at all times
5. Bitching about me and the way I raise Ellen to your daughter, "Can you BELIEVE she'd STILL BREASTFEEDING!?"
6. The condescending looks, eyebrow raises, and general snarkyness
7. Turning down opportunities to spend time with your son and granddaughter (we just ate)
8. The belief that your car will not drive itself to our home
9. The belief that your phone only receives calls and doesn't make them
10. General commentary on my parenting choices to everyone who will listen.
MIL comes to school sometimes during her lunch to play with Ellen. Sometimes, I have taken lunch late and she comes in when I am there. I have not burdened Ellen's teachers (who I consider friends) with this information as it does not paint a flattering picture of MIL, other than to be generally displeased when she is in the room. Now I'm the bitch? Why would I want to subject myself to someone who puts me down at every turn? Why does she NOT take up the opportunity to spend time with her son and granddaughter when given the chance?
Thanks for letting me blow off some steam. Shaking is now to a minimum.
My mother just called and said that I HAD to come up with some way to get MIL "more involved" in Ellen's life, because Ellen's teachers at school "feel sorry for her"
Feel sorry for this, MIL.....
1. Completely cutting off any good will and affection that we had established (we used to eat lunch together 2x week, go to auctions, etc.) when DH and I announced our engagement.
2. Buying your Son-IL a guitar for Christmas and getting me a 1/2 hour massage. (note the inequity)
3. Making rude and hateful comments every turn
4. Jockeying (sp?) for a seat next to my husband at all times
5. Bitching about me and the way I raise Ellen to your daughter, "Can you BELIEVE she'd STILL BREASTFEEDING!?"
6. The condescending looks, eyebrow raises, and general snarkyness
7. Turning down opportunities to spend time with your son and granddaughter (we just ate)
8. The belief that your car will not drive itself to our home
9. The belief that your phone only receives calls and doesn't make them
10. General commentary on my parenting choices to everyone who will listen.
MIL comes to school sometimes during her lunch to play with Ellen. Sometimes, I have taken lunch late and she comes in when I am there. I have not burdened Ellen's teachers (who I consider friends) with this information as it does not paint a flattering picture of MIL, other than to be generally displeased when she is in the room. Now I'm the bitch? Why would I want to subject myself to someone who puts me down at every turn? Why does she NOT take up the opportunity to spend time with her son and granddaughter when given the chance?
Thanks for letting me blow off some steam. Shaking is now to a minimum.