Is it wrong to be jealous when you hear others are pregnant?

[SpaceGal]

DH and I decided when DS was one year old to start trying for #2. Of course, it's been quite challenging "baby making" when we're completely exhuasted day to day and DS still is in our room. But lately I guess maybe my biological clock is going and I'm really getting "stressed" month to month as time goes on and still nothing. And ever since we decided to start trying (nothing active trying but like whatever happens happens kind of trying) DH tells me he wants a big family...well in that case we best waste no time if you know what I mean. Until this past month, it was just whenever we had time to do the deed...I told DH we're going at it this month and I've been reading Taking Charge of your Fertility. Granted he wouldn't complain about the "deed" but I confessed to him how I've been feeling upset that it has not happened yet. Plus it didn't take any planning with DS it just sorta happened on it's own. Hope that wasn't too much information.

For me, I'm a SAHM right now, and it works but I suppose I have been feeling like "useless" just being a SAHM...not that I'm useless but I get "so DS is one now what are you doing with your life?" thing a lot. And the "you went to college and all you want to do is stay home and watch your kid and have more babies?!?!?" So I'm frustrated. Grr....plus there's my mom who says it was wrong to have a baby to begin with why have another stress. Ugh I know more a gripe or "bitch" post.

We also have friends that recently had their #2 by accident without much effort and before their #1 even turned one. Then two friends told me they are pregnant and I feel awful feeling jealous. One was a former boss of mine. She's pregnant with her #2 and an old friend that I had a falling out with and now we've reconnected. I'm happy for my old friend since she's preggies with #1 and it's a good time foe her to have a baby in my opinion. *sigh* I felt bad since I had griped to her about not being pregnant yet prior to finding out today since she kept pumping me with morning sickness and baby pregnancy questions. I told her don't worry about me but I am really happy for you and I'm here for you if you need.

Sorry not really a bitch but just wondering if others felt this way when they were TTC.

[SpaceGal]

DH and I decided when DS was one year old to start trying for #2. Of course, it's been quite challenging "baby making" when we're completely exhuasted day to day and DS still is in our room. But lately I guess maybe my biological clock is going and I'm really getting "stressed" month to month as time goes on and still nothing. And ever since we decided to start trying (nothing active trying but like whatever happens happens kind of trying) DH tells me he wants a big family...well in that case we best waste no time if you know what I mean. Until this past month, it was just whenever we had time to do the deed...I told DH we're going at it this month and I've been reading Taking Charge of your Fertility. Granted he wouldn't complain about the "deed" but I confessed to him how I've been feeling upset that it has not happened yet. Plus it didn't take any planning with DS it just sorta happened on it's own. Hope that wasn't too much information.

For me, I'm a SAHM right now, and it works but I suppose I have been feeling like "useless" just being a SAHM...not that I'm useless but I get "so DS is one now what are you doing with your life?" thing a lot. And the "you went to college and all you want to do is stay home and watch your kid and have more babies?!?!?" So I'm frustrated. Grr....plus there's my mom who says it was wrong to have a baby to begin with why have another stress. Ugh I know more a gripe or "bitch" post.

We also have friends that recently had their #2 by accident without much effort and before their #1 even turned one. Then two friends told me they are pregnant and I feel awful feeling jealous. One was a former boss of mine. She's pregnant with her #2 and an old friend that I had a falling out with and now we've reconnected. I'm happy for my old friend since she's preggies with #1 and it's a good time foe her to have a baby in my opinion. *sigh* I felt bad since I had griped to her about not being pregnant yet prior to finding out today since she kept pumping me with morning sickness and baby pregnancy questions. I told her don't worry about me but I am really happy for you and I'm here for you if you need.

Sorry not really a bitch but just wondering if others felt this way when they were TTC.

[SpaceGal]

DH and I decided when DS was one year old to start trying for #2. Of course, it's been quite challenging "baby making" when we're completely exhuasted day to day and DS still is in our room. But lately I guess maybe my biological clock is going and I'm really getting "stressed" month to month as time goes on and still nothing. And ever since we decided to start trying (nothing active trying but like whatever happens happens kind of trying) DH tells me he wants a big family...well in that case we best waste no time if you know what I mean. Until this past month, it was just whenever we had time to do the deed...I told DH we're going at it this month and I've been reading Taking Charge of your Fertility. Granted he wouldn't complain about the "deed" but I confessed to him how I've been feeling upset that it has not happened yet. Plus it didn't take any planning with DS it just sorta happened on it's own. Hope that wasn't too much information.

For me, I'm a SAHM right now, and it works but I suppose I have been feeling like "useless" just being a SAHM...not that I'm useless but I get "so DS is one now what are you doing with your life?" thing a lot. And the "you went to college and all you want to do is stay home and watch your kid and have more babies?!?!?" So I'm frustrated. Grr....plus there's my mom who says it was wrong to have a baby to begin with why have another stress. Ugh I know more a gripe or "bitch" post.

We also have friends that recently had their #2 by accident without much effort and before their #1 even turned one. Then two friends told me they are pregnant and I feel awful feeling jealous. One was a former boss of mine. She's pregnant with her #2 and an old friend that I had a falling out with and now we've reconnected. I'm happy for my old friend since she's preggies with #1 and it's a good time foe her to have a baby in my opinion. *sigh* I felt bad since I had griped to her about not being pregnant yet prior to finding out today since she kept pumping me with morning sickness and baby pregnancy questions. I told her don't worry about me but I am really happy for you and I'm here for you if you need.

Sorry not really a bitch but just wondering if others felt this way when they were TTC.

[SpaceGal]

DH and I decided when DS was one year old to start trying for #2. Of course, it's been quite challenging "baby making" when we're completely exhuasted day to day and DS still is in our room. But lately I guess maybe my biological clock is going and I'm really getting "stressed" month to month as time goes on and still nothing. And ever since we decided to start trying (nothing active trying but like whatever happens happens kind of trying) DH tells me he wants a big family...well in that case we best waste no time if you know what I mean. Until this past month, it was just whenever we had time to do the deed...I told DH we're going at it this month and I've been reading Taking Charge of your Fertility. Granted he wouldn't complain about the "deed" but I confessed to him how I've been feeling upset that it has not happened yet. Plus it didn't take any planning with DS it just sorta happened on it's own. Hope that wasn't too much information.

For me, I'm a SAHM right now, and it works but I suppose I have been feeling like "useless" just being a SAHM...not that I'm useless but I get "so DS is one now what are you doing with your life?" thing a lot. And the "you went to college and all you want to do is stay home and watch your kid and have more babies?!?!?" So I'm frustrated. Grr....plus there's my mom who says it was wrong to have a baby to begin with why have another stress. Ugh I know more a gripe or "bitch" post.

We also have friends that recently had their #2 by accident without much effort and before their #1 even turned one. Then two friends told me they are pregnant and I feel awful feeling jealous. One was a former boss of mine. She's pregnant with her #2 and an old friend that I had a falling out with and now we've reconnected. I'm happy for my old friend since she's preggies with #1 and it's a good time foe her to have a baby in my opinion. *sigh* I felt bad since I had griped to her about not being pregnant yet prior to finding out today since she kept pumping me with morning sickness and baby pregnancy questions. I told her don't worry about me but I am really happy for you and I'm here for you if you need.

Sorry not really a bitch but just wondering if others felt this way when they were TTC.

[SpaceGal]

DH and I decided when DS was one year old to start trying for #2. Of course, it's been quite challenging "baby making" when we're completely exhuasted day to day and DS still is in our room. But lately I guess maybe my biological clock is going and I'm really getting "stressed" month to month as time goes on and still nothing. And ever since we decided to start trying (nothing active trying but like whatever happens happens kind of trying) DH tells me he wants a big family...well in that case we best waste no time if you know what I mean. Until this past month, it was just whenever we had time to do the deed...I told DH we're going at it this month and I've been reading Taking Charge of your Fertility. Granted he wouldn't complain about the "deed" but I confessed to him how I've been feeling upset that it has not happened yet. Plus it didn't take any planning with DS it just sorta happened on it's own. Hope that wasn't too much information.

For me, I'm a SAHM right now, and it works but I suppose I have been feeling like "useless" just being a SAHM...not that I'm useless but I get "so DS is one now what are you doing with your life?" thing a lot. And the "you went to college and all you want to do is stay home and watch your kid and have more babies?!?!?" So I'm frustrated. Grr....plus there's my mom who says it was wrong to have a baby to begin with why have another stress. Ugh I know more a gripe or "bitch" post.

We also have friends that recently had their #2 by accident without much effort and before their #1 even turned one. Then two friends told me they are pregnant and I feel awful feeling jealous. One was a former boss of mine. She's pregnant with her #2 and an old friend that I had a falling out with and now we've reconnected. I'm happy for my old friend since she's preggies with #1 and it's a good time foe her to have a baby in my opinion. *sigh* I felt bad since I had griped to her about not being pregnant yet prior to finding out today since she kept pumping me with morning sickness and baby pregnancy questions. I told her don't worry about me but I am really happy for you and I'm here for you if you need.

Sorry not really a bitch but just wondering if others felt this way when they were TTC.

[SpaceGal]

DH and I decided when DS was one year old to start trying for #2. Of course, it's been quite challenging "baby making" when we're completely exhuasted day to day and DS still is in our room. But lately I guess maybe my biological clock is going and I'm really getting "stressed" month to month as time goes on and still nothing. And ever since we decided to start trying (nothing active trying but like whatever happens happens kind of trying) DH tells me he wants a big family...well in that case we best waste no time if you know what I mean. Until this past month, it was just whenever we had time to do the deed...I told DH we're going at it this month and I've been reading Taking Charge of your Fertility. Granted he wouldn't complain about the "deed" but I confessed to him how I've been feeling upset that it has not happened yet. Plus it didn't take any planning with DS it just sorta happened on it's own. Hope that wasn't too much information.

For me, I'm a SAHM right now, and it works but I suppose I have been feeling like "useless" just being a SAHM...not that I'm useless but I get "so DS is one now what are you doing with your life?" thing a lot. And the "you went to college and all you want to do is stay home and watch your kid and have more babies?!?!?" So I'm frustrated. Grr....plus there's my mom who says it was wrong to have a baby to begin with why have another stress. Ugh I know more a gripe or "bitch" post.

We also have friends that recently had their #2 by accident without much effort and before their #1 even turned one. Then two friends told me they are pregnant and I feel awful feeling jealous. One was a former boss of mine. She's pregnant with her #2 and an old friend that I had a falling out with and now we've reconnected. I'm happy for my old friend since she's preggies with #1 and it's a good time foe her to have a baby in my opinion. *sigh* I felt bad since I had griped to her about not being pregnant yet prior to finding out today since she kept pumping me with morning sickness and baby pregnancy questions. I told her don't worry about me but I am really happy for you and I'm here for you if you need.

Sorry not really a bitch but just wondering if others felt this way when they were TTC.

[SpaceGal]

DH and I decided when DS was one year old to start trying for #2. Of course, it's been quite challenging "baby making" when we're completely exhuasted day to day and DS still is in our room. But lately I guess maybe my biological clock is going and I'm really getting "stressed" month to month as time goes on and still nothing. And ever since we decided to start trying (nothing active trying but like whatever happens happens kind of trying) DH tells me he wants a big family...well in that case we best waste no time if you know what I mean. Until this past month, it was just whenever we had time to do the deed...I told DH we're going at it this month and I've been reading Taking Charge of your Fertility. Granted he wouldn't complain about the "deed" but I confessed to him how I've been feeling upset that it has not happened yet. Plus it didn't take any planning with DS it just sorta happened on it's own. Hope that wasn't too much information.

For me, I'm a SAHM right now, and it works but I suppose I have been feeling like "useless" just being a SAHM...not that I'm useless but I get "so DS is one now what are you doing with your life?" thing a lot. And the "you went to college and all you want to do is stay home and watch your kid and have more babies?!?!?" So I'm frustrated. Grr....plus there's my mom who says it was wrong to have a baby to begin with why have another stress. Ugh I know more a gripe or "bitch" post.

We also have friends that recently had their #2 by accident without much effort and before their #1 even turned one. Then two friends told me they are pregnant and I feel awful feeling jealous. One was a former boss of mine. She's pregnant with her #2 and an old friend that I had a falling out with and now we've reconnected. I'm happy for my old friend since she's preggies with #1 and it's a good time foe her to have a baby in my opinion. *sigh* I felt bad since I had griped to her about not being pregnant yet prior to finding out today since she kept pumping me with morning sickness and baby pregnancy questions. I told her don't worry about me but I am really happy for you and I'm here for you if you need.

Sorry not really a bitch but just wondering if others felt this way when they were TTC.

[SpaceGal]

DH and I decided when DS was one year old to start trying for #2. Of course, it's been quite challenging "baby making" when we're completely exhuasted day to day and DS still is in our room. But lately I guess maybe my biological clock is going and I'm really getting "stressed" month to month as time goes on and still nothing. And ever since we decided to start trying (nothing active trying but like whatever happens happens kind of trying) DH tells me he wants a big family...well in that case we best waste no time if you know what I mean. Until this past month, it was just whenever we had time to do the deed...I told DH we're going at it this month and I've been reading Taking Charge of your Fertility. Granted he wouldn't complain about the "deed" but I confessed to him how I've been feeling upset that it has not happened yet. Plus it didn't take any planning with DS it just sorta happened on it's own. Hope that wasn't too much information.

For me, I'm a SAHM right now, and it works but I suppose I have been feeling like "useless" just being a SAHM...not that I'm useless but I get "so DS is one now what are you doing with your life?" thing a lot. And the "you went to college and all you want to do is stay home and watch your kid and have more babies?!?!?" So I'm frustrated. Grr....plus there's my mom who says it was wrong to have a baby to begin with why have another stress. Ugh I know more a gripe or "bitch" post.

We also have friends that recently had their #2 by accident without much effort and before their #1 even turned one. Then two friends told me they are pregnant and I feel awful feeling jealous. One was a former boss of mine. She's pregnant with her #2 and an old friend that I had a falling out with and now we've reconnected. I'm happy for my old friend since she's preggies with #1 and it's a good time foe her to have a baby in my opinion. *sigh* I felt bad since I had griped to her about not being pregnant yet prior to finding out today since she kept pumping me with morning sickness and baby pregnancy questions. I told her don't worry about me but I am really happy for you and I'm here for you if you need.

Sorry not really a bitch but just wondering if others felt this way when they were TTC.

[SpaceGal]

DH and I decided when DS was one year old to start trying for #2. Of course, it's been quite challenging "baby making" when we're completely exhuasted day to day and DS still is in our room. But lately I guess maybe my biological clock is going and I'm really getting "stressed" month to month as time goes on and still nothing. And ever since we decided to start trying (nothing active trying but like whatever happens happens kind of trying) DH tells me he wants a big family...well in that case we best waste no time if you know what I mean. Until this past month, it was just whenever we had time to do the deed...I told DH we're going at it this month and I've been reading Taking Charge of your Fertility. Granted he wouldn't complain about the "deed" but I confessed to him how I've been feeling upset that it has not happened yet. Plus it didn't take any planning with DS it just sorta happened on it's own. Hope that wasn't too much information.

For me, I'm a SAHM right now, and it works but I suppose I have been feeling like "useless" just being a SAHM...not that I'm useless but I get "so DS is one now what are you doing with your life?" thing a lot. And the "you went to college and all you want to do is stay home and watch your kid and have more babies?!?!?" So I'm frustrated. Grr....plus there's my mom who says it was wrong to have a baby to begin with why have another stress. Ugh I know more a gripe or "bitch" post.

We also have friends that recently had their #2 by accident without much effort and before their #1 even turned one. Then two friends told me they are pregnant and I feel awful feeling jealous. One was a former boss of mine. She's pregnant with her #2 and an old friend that I had a falling out with and now we've reconnected. I'm happy for my old friend since she's preggies with #1 and it's a good time foe her to have a baby in my opinion. *sigh* I felt bad since I had griped to her about not being pregnant yet prior to finding out today since she kept pumping me with morning sickness and baby pregnancy questions. I told her don't worry about me but I am really happy for you and I'm here for you if you need.

Sorry not really a bitch but just wondering if others felt this way when they were TTC.

[Jenn98]

While I have not BTDT, I think feeling jealous is totally normal. Don't beat yourself up for it. You can't control how you feel, you can only control how you act. I know it must hurt, but smile and be happy for people. Just keep trying and I'm sure you'll be posting an announcement soon!

And I know this won't really make you feel better, but some of us, who were surprised by #2's impatience to get here, are a little envious of those of you who get to plan when your next one comes. I'm due at Christmas and my two will be 17 months apart, so I feel overwhelmed sometimes. I guess the grass is always greener on the other side. ;)

Good luck!
Jenn

[Jenn98]

While I have not BTDT, I think feeling jealous is totally normal. Don't beat yourself up for it. You can't control how you feel, you can only control how you act. I know it must hurt, but smile and be happy for people. Just keep trying and I'm sure you'll be posting an announcement soon!

And I know this won't really make you feel better, but some of us, who were surprised by #2's impatience to get here, are a little envious of those of you who get to plan when your next one comes. I'm due at Christmas and my two will be 17 months apart, so I feel overwhelmed sometimes. I guess the grass is always greener on the other side. ;)

Good luck!
Jenn

[Jenn98]

While I have not BTDT, I think feeling jealous is totally normal. Don't beat yourself up for it. You can't control how you feel, you can only control how you act. I know it must hurt, but smile and be happy for people. Just keep trying and I'm sure you'll be posting an announcement soon!

And I know this won't really make you feel better, but some of us, who were surprised by #2's impatience to get here, are a little envious of those of you who get to plan when your next one comes. I'm due at Christmas and my two will be 17 months apart, so I feel overwhelmed sometimes. I guess the grass is always greener on the other side. ;)

Good luck!
Jenn

[Jenn98]

While I have not BTDT, I think feeling jealous is totally normal. Don't beat yourself up for it. You can't control how you feel, you can only control how you act. I know it must hurt, but smile and be happy for people. Just keep trying and I'm sure you'll be posting an announcement soon!

And I know this won't really make you feel better, but some of us, who were surprised by #2's impatience to get here, are a little envious of those of you who get to plan when your next one comes. I'm due at Christmas and my two will be 17 months apart, so I feel overwhelmed sometimes. I guess the grass is always greener on the other side. ;)

Good luck!
Jenn

[Jenn98]

While I have not BTDT, I think feeling jealous is totally normal. Don't beat yourself up for it. You can't control how you feel, you can only control how you act. I know it must hurt, but smile and be happy for people. Just keep trying and I'm sure you'll be posting an announcement soon!

And I know this won't really make you feel better, but some of us, who were surprised by #2's impatience to get here, are a little envious of those of you who get to plan when your next one comes. I'm due at Christmas and my two will be 17 months apart, so I feel overwhelmed sometimes. I guess the grass is always greener on the other side. ;)

Good luck!
Jenn

[Jenn98]

While I have not BTDT, I think feeling jealous is totally normal. Don't beat yourself up for it. You can't control how you feel, you can only control how you act. I know it must hurt, but smile and be happy for people. Just keep trying and I'm sure you'll be posting an announcement soon!

And I know this won't really make you feel better, but some of us, who were surprised by #2's impatience to get here, are a little envious of those of you who get to plan when your next one comes. I'm due at Christmas and my two will be 17 months apart, so I feel overwhelmed sometimes. I guess the grass is always greener on the other side. ;)

Good luck!
Jenn

[Jenn98]

While I have not BTDT, I think feeling jealous is totally normal. Don't beat yourself up for it. You can't control how you feel, you can only control how you act. I know it must hurt, but smile and be happy for people. Just keep trying and I'm sure you'll be posting an announcement soon!

And I know this won't really make you feel better, but some of us, who were surprised by #2's impatience to get here, are a little envious of those of you who get to plan when your next one comes. I'm due at Christmas and my two will be 17 months apart, so I feel overwhelmed sometimes. I guess the grass is always greener on the other side. ;)

Good luck!
Jenn

[Jenn98]

While I have not BTDT, I think feeling jealous is totally normal. Don't beat yourself up for it. You can't control how you feel, you can only control how you act. I know it must hurt, but smile and be happy for people. Just keep trying and I'm sure you'll be posting an announcement soon!

And I know this won't really make you feel better, but some of us, who were surprised by #2's impatience to get here, are a little envious of those of you who get to plan when your next one comes. I'm due at Christmas and my two will be 17 months apart, so I feel overwhelmed sometimes. I guess the grass is always greener on the other side. ;)

Good luck!
Jenn

[Jenn98]

While I have not BTDT, I think feeling jealous is totally normal. Don't beat yourself up for it. You can't control how you feel, you can only control how you act. I know it must hurt, but smile and be happy for people. Just keep trying and I'm sure you'll be posting an announcement soon!

And I know this won't really make you feel better, but some of us, who were surprised by #2's impatience to get here, are a little envious of those of you who get to plan when your next one comes. I'm due at Christmas and my two will be 17 months apart, so I feel overwhelmed sometimes. I guess the grass is always greener on the other side. ;)

Good luck!
Jenn

[karolyp]

I totally hear you on this one. While I would love to start TTC for #2, the timing is just not right. :( And I just loved being pregnant and miss it (crazy huh?)!! My first pregnancy with DD was very easy and I just loved the feeling of having a little miracle inside, kwim?! Plus I just think that pregnancy is just soo beautiful too. So I have to admit that I get a little green eyed too. But I just have to remember that I am so blessed with DD and to cherish everyday with her.

[karolyp]

I totally hear you on this one. While I would love to start TTC for #2, the timing is just not right. :( And I just loved being pregnant and miss it (crazy huh?)!! My first pregnancy with DD was very easy and I just loved the feeling of having a little miracle inside, kwim?! Plus I just think that pregnancy is just soo beautiful too. So I have to admit that I get a little green eyed too. But I just have to remember that I am so blessed with DD and to cherish everyday with her.

[karolyp]

I totally hear you on this one. While I would love to start TTC for #2, the timing is just not right. :( And I just loved being pregnant and miss it (crazy huh?)!! My first pregnancy with DD was very easy and I just loved the feeling of having a little miracle inside, kwim?! Plus I just think that pregnancy is just soo beautiful too. So I have to admit that I get a little green eyed too. But I just have to remember that I am so blessed with DD and to cherish everyday with her.

[karolyp]

I totally hear you on this one. While I would love to start TTC for #2, the timing is just not right. :( And I just loved being pregnant and miss it (crazy huh?)!! My first pregnancy with DD was very easy and I just loved the feeling of having a little miracle inside, kwim?! Plus I just think that pregnancy is just soo beautiful too. So I have to admit that I get a little green eyed too. But I just have to remember that I am so blessed with DD and to cherish everyday with her.

[karolyp]

I totally hear you on this one. While I would love to start TTC for #2, the timing is just not right. :( And I just loved being pregnant and miss it (crazy huh?)!! My first pregnancy with DD was very easy and I just loved the feeling of having a little miracle inside, kwim?! Plus I just think that pregnancy is just soo beautiful too. So I have to admit that I get a little green eyed too. But I just have to remember that I am so blessed with DD and to cherish everyday with her.

[karolyp]

I totally hear you on this one. While I would love to start TTC for #2, the timing is just not right. :( And I just loved being pregnant and miss it (crazy huh?)!! My first pregnancy with DD was very easy and I just loved the feeling of having a little miracle inside, kwim?! Plus I just think that pregnancy is just soo beautiful too. So I have to admit that I get a little green eyed too. But I just have to remember that I am so blessed with DD and to cherish everyday with her.

[karolyp]

I totally hear you on this one. While I would love to start TTC for #2, the timing is just not right. :( And I just loved being pregnant and miss it (crazy huh?)!! My first pregnancy with DD was very easy and I just loved the feeling of having a little miracle inside, kwim?! Plus I just think that pregnancy is just soo beautiful too. So I have to admit that I get a little green eyed too. But I just have to remember that I am so blessed with DD and to cherish everyday with her.

[karolyp]

I totally hear you on this one. While I would love to start TTC for #2, the timing is just not right. :( And I just loved being pregnant and miss it (crazy huh?)!! My first pregnancy with DD was very easy and I just loved the feeling of having a little miracle inside, kwim?! Plus I just think that pregnancy is just soo beautiful too. So I have to admit that I get a little green eyed too. But I just have to remember that I am so blessed with DD and to cherish everyday with her.

[karolyp]

I totally hear you on this one. While I would love to start TTC for #2, the timing is just not right. :( And I just loved being pregnant and miss it (crazy huh?)!! My first pregnancy with DD was very easy and I just loved the feeling of having a little miracle inside, kwim?! Plus I just think that pregnancy is just soo beautiful too. So I have to admit that I get a little green eyed too. But I just have to remember that I am so blessed with DD and to cherish everyday with her.

[janeybwild]

Absolutely not. Wishing something for yourself doesn't stop you being glad for someone else. We were where you are trying to get pregnant with Dana. Seems like we started before others, but had a hard time. I was amazed at the green monsters that popped up for me from time to time, usually around pregnancy in people I cared little or less about. It took the removal of some life stressors (selling a house), a HSG test, and careful timing for us. Sounds ike you are on the right road with Taking Charge of Your Fertility. Everybody tells you to stop worrying, it will happen. Easier said than done right? Hang in there :)

[janeybwild]

Absolutely not. Wishing something for yourself doesn't stop you being glad for someone else. We were where you are trying to get pregnant with Dana. Seems like we started before others, but had a hard time. I was amazed at the green monsters that popped up for me from time to time, usually around pregnancy in people I cared little or less about. It took the removal of some life stressors (selling a house), a HSG test, and careful timing for us. Sounds ike you are on the right road with Taking Charge of Your Fertility. Everybody tells you to stop worrying, it will happen. Easier said than done right? Hang in there :)

[janeybwild]

Absolutely not. Wishing something for yourself doesn't stop you being glad for someone else. We were where you are trying to get pregnant with Dana. Seems like we started before others, but had a hard time. I was amazed at the green monsters that popped up for me from time to time, usually around pregnancy in people I cared little or less about. It took the removal of some life stressors (selling a house), a HSG test, and careful timing for us. Sounds ike you are on the right road with Taking Charge of Your Fertility. Everybody tells you to stop worrying, it will happen. Easier said than done right? Hang in there :)

[janeybwild]

Absolutely not. Wishing something for yourself doesn't stop you being glad for someone else. We were where you are trying to get pregnant with Dana. Seems like we started before others, but had a hard time. I was amazed at the green monsters that popped up for me from time to time, usually around pregnancy in people I cared little or less about. It took the removal of some life stressors (selling a house), a HSG test, and careful timing for us. Sounds ike you are on the right road with Taking Charge of Your Fertility. Everybody tells you to stop worrying, it will happen. Easier said than done right? Hang in there :)

[janeybwild]

Absolutely not. Wishing something for yourself doesn't stop you being glad for someone else. We were where you are trying to get pregnant with Dana. Seems like we started before others, but had a hard time. I was amazed at the green monsters that popped up for me from time to time, usually around pregnancy in people I cared little or less about. It took the removal of some life stressors (selling a house), a HSG test, and careful timing for us. Sounds ike you are on the right road with Taking Charge of Your Fertility. Everybody tells you to stop worrying, it will happen. Easier said than done right? Hang in there :)

[janeybwild]

Absolutely not. Wishing something for yourself doesn't stop you being glad for someone else. We were where you are trying to get pregnant with Dana. Seems like we started before others, but had a hard time. I was amazed at the green monsters that popped up for me from time to time, usually around pregnancy in people I cared little or less about. It took the removal of some life stressors (selling a house), a HSG test, and careful timing for us. Sounds ike you are on the right road with Taking Charge of Your Fertility. Everybody tells you to stop worrying, it will happen. Easier said than done right? Hang in there :)

[janeybwild]

Absolutely not. Wishing something for yourself doesn't stop you being glad for someone else. We were where you are trying to get pregnant with Dana. Seems like we started before others, but had a hard time. I was amazed at the green monsters that popped up for me from time to time, usually around pregnancy in people I cared little or less about. It took the removal of some life stressors (selling a house), a HSG test, and careful timing for us. Sounds ike you are on the right road with Taking Charge of Your Fertility. Everybody tells you to stop worrying, it will happen. Easier said than done right? Hang in there :)

[janeybwild]

Absolutely not. Wishing something for yourself doesn't stop you being glad for someone else. We were where you are trying to get pregnant with Dana. Seems like we started before others, but had a hard time. I was amazed at the green monsters that popped up for me from time to time, usually around pregnancy in people I cared little or less about. It took the removal of some life stressors (selling a house), a HSG test, and careful timing for us. Sounds ike you are on the right road with Taking Charge of Your Fertility. Everybody tells you to stop worrying, it will happen. Easier said than done right? Hang in there :)

[janeybwild]

Absolutely not. Wishing something for yourself doesn't stop you being glad for someone else. We were where you are trying to get pregnant with Dana. Seems like we started before others, but had a hard time. I was amazed at the green monsters that popped up for me from time to time, usually around pregnancy in people I cared little or less about. It took the removal of some life stressors (selling a house), a HSG test, and careful timing for us. Sounds ike you are on the right road with Taking Charge of Your Fertility. Everybody tells you to stop worrying, it will happen. Easier said than done right? Hang in there :)

[dules]

Well....we spent 4 years and had 6 miscarriages before getting pg with DD via IVF. I had friends who were not even dating their spouses to be who met, dated, got engaged, married and had a baby before we even got pg and stayed that way. So I'd say I know what you mean about the jealousy.

I can't really say I've BTDT on the second child thing. This may be a function of what we went through to have DD but I'm going to throw it out there to see if it helps you feel better about it too, especially when people make comments to you about it. I just look at my DD and think how fabulously, wonderfully, incredibly lucky I am to have her. And I know in my heart that if there is to be another child, then there will, but that there is no way that I could feel more fortunate with two (or three, or more) than I do with my one sweet little girl. :)

I hope your dream comes true for you soon.

Best,
Mary

[dules]

Well....we spent 4 years and had 6 miscarriages before getting pg with DD via IVF. I had friends who were not even dating their spouses to be who met, dated, got engaged, married and had a baby before we even got pg and stayed that way. So I'd say I know what you mean about the jealousy.

I can't really say I've BTDT on the second child thing. This may be a function of what we went through to have DD but I'm going to throw it out there to see if it helps you feel better about it too, especially when people make comments to you about it. I just look at my DD and think how fabulously, wonderfully, incredibly lucky I am to have her. And I know in my heart that if there is to be another child, then there will, but that there is no way that I could feel more fortunate with two (or three, or more) than I do with my one sweet little girl. :)

I hope your dream comes true for you soon.

Best,
Mary

[dules]

Well....we spent 4 years and had 6 miscarriages before getting pg with DD via IVF. I had friends who were not even dating their spouses to be who met, dated, got engaged, married and had a baby before we even got pg and stayed that way. So I'd say I know what you mean about the jealousy.

I can't really say I've BTDT on the second child thing. This may be a function of what we went through to have DD but I'm going to throw it out there to see if it helps you feel better about it too, especially when people make comments to you about it. I just look at my DD and think how fabulously, wonderfully, incredibly lucky I am to have her. And I know in my heart that if there is to be another child, then there will, but that there is no way that I could feel more fortunate with two (or three, or more) than I do with my one sweet little girl. :)

I hope your dream comes true for you soon.

Best,
Mary

[dules]

Well....we spent 4 years and had 6 miscarriages before getting pg with DD via IVF. I had friends who were not even dating their spouses to be who met, dated, got engaged, married and had a baby before we even got pg and stayed that way. So I'd say I know what you mean about the jealousy.

I can't really say I've BTDT on the second child thing. This may be a function of what we went through to have DD but I'm going to throw it out there to see if it helps you feel better about it too, especially when people make comments to you about it. I just look at my DD and think how fabulously, wonderfully, incredibly lucky I am to have her. And I know in my heart that if there is to be another child, then there will, but that there is no way that I could feel more fortunate with two (or three, or more) than I do with my one sweet little girl. :)

I hope your dream comes true for you soon.

Best,
Mary

[dules]

Well....we spent 4 years and had 6 miscarriages before getting pg with DD via IVF. I had friends who were not even dating their spouses to be who met, dated, got engaged, married and had a baby before we even got pg and stayed that way. So I'd say I know what you mean about the jealousy.

I can't really say I've BTDT on the second child thing. This may be a function of what we went through to have DD but I'm going to throw it out there to see if it helps you feel better about it too, especially when people make comments to you about it. I just look at my DD and think how fabulously, wonderfully, incredibly lucky I am to have her. And I know in my heart that if there is to be another child, then there will, but that there is no way that I could feel more fortunate with two (or three, or more) than I do with my one sweet little girl. :)

I hope your dream comes true for you soon.

Best,
Mary

[dules]

Well....we spent 4 years and had 6 miscarriages before getting pg with DD via IVF. I had friends who were not even dating their spouses to be who met, dated, got engaged, married and had a baby before we even got pg and stayed that way. So I'd say I know what you mean about the jealousy.

I can't really say I've BTDT on the second child thing. This may be a function of what we went through to have DD but I'm going to throw it out there to see if it helps you feel better about it too, especially when people make comments to you about it. I just look at my DD and think how fabulously, wonderfully, incredibly lucky I am to have her. And I know in my heart that if there is to be another child, then there will, but that there is no way that I could feel more fortunate with two (or three, or more) than I do with my one sweet little girl. :)

I hope your dream comes true for you soon.

Best,
Mary

[dules]

Well....we spent 4 years and had 6 miscarriages before getting pg with DD via IVF. I had friends who were not even dating their spouses to be who met, dated, got engaged, married and had a baby before we even got pg and stayed that way. So I'd say I know what you mean about the jealousy.

I can't really say I've BTDT on the second child thing. This may be a function of what we went through to have DD but I'm going to throw it out there to see if it helps you feel better about it too, especially when people make comments to you about it. I just look at my DD and think how fabulously, wonderfully, incredibly lucky I am to have her. And I know in my heart that if there is to be another child, then there will, but that there is no way that I could feel more fortunate with two (or three, or more) than I do with my one sweet little girl. :)

I hope your dream comes true for you soon.

Best,
Mary

[dules]

Well....we spent 4 years and had 6 miscarriages before getting pg with DD via IVF. I had friends who were not even dating their spouses to be who met, dated, got engaged, married and had a baby before we even got pg and stayed that way. So I'd say I know what you mean about the jealousy.

I can't really say I've BTDT on the second child thing. This may be a function of what we went through to have DD but I'm going to throw it out there to see if it helps you feel better about it too, especially when people make comments to you about it. I just look at my DD and think how fabulously, wonderfully, incredibly lucky I am to have her. And I know in my heart that if there is to be another child, then there will, but that there is no way that I could feel more fortunate with two (or three, or more) than I do with my one sweet little girl. :)

I hope your dream comes true for you soon.

Best,
Mary

[dules]

Well....we spent 4 years and had 6 miscarriages before getting pg with DD via IVF. I had friends who were not even dating their spouses to be who met, dated, got engaged, married and had a baby before we even got pg and stayed that way. So I'd say I know what you mean about the jealousy.

I can't really say I've BTDT on the second child thing. This may be a function of what we went through to have DD but I'm going to throw it out there to see if it helps you feel better about it too, especially when people make comments to you about it. I just look at my DD and think how fabulously, wonderfully, incredibly lucky I am to have her. And I know in my heart that if there is to be another child, then there will, but that there is no way that I could feel more fortunate with two (or three, or more) than I do with my one sweet little girl. :)

I hope your dream comes true for you soon.

Best,
Mary

[mudder17]

We were one of those fortunate ones who got pg on our first try for #2 (but it took us 8 months for #1), but we didn't start until the day before Kaya turned 2, so about a year later than where you are now. But I felt the longing every time I heard about someone becoming pregnant because I really did miss being pregnant. But I tried not to let it get to me because I knew we weren't ready. I know that's a little different from your situation because you and your DH do feel you're ready. But don't worry about feeling jealous--as Jenn said, it's normal and it's exactly what you feel, so you shouldn't feel guilty about it. Just try to smile and be happy for the others and know that your time will come when it's right.


Eileen

http://www.windsorpeak.com/dc/user_files/33732.gif for Leah
http://www.windsorpeak.com/dc/user_files/33734.gif 27 months...
http://tickers.baby-gaga.com/t/catcatcvi20040222_-6_Kaya+is.png
Kaya will be a sister, ~11/14/06!

[mudder17]

We were one of those fortunate ones who got pg on our first try for #2 (but it took us 8 months for #1), but we didn't start until the day before Kaya turned 2, so about a year later than where you are now. But I felt the longing every time I heard about someone becoming pregnant because I really did miss being pregnant. But I tried not to let it get to me because I knew we weren't ready. I know that's a little different from your situation because you and your DH do feel you're ready. But don't worry about feeling jealous--as Jenn said, it's normal and it's exactly what you feel, so you shouldn't feel guilty about it. Just try to smile and be happy for the others and know that your time will come when it's right.


Eileen

http://www.windsorpeak.com/dc/user_files/33732.gif for Leah
http://www.windsorpeak.com/dc/user_files/33734.gif 27 months...
http://tickers.baby-gaga.com/t/catcatcvi20040222_-6_Kaya+is.png
Kaya will be a sister, ~11/14/06!

[mudder17]

We were one of those fortunate ones who got pg on our first try for #2 (but it took us 8 months for #1), but we didn't start until the day before Kaya turned 2, so about a year later than where you are now. But I felt the longing every time I heard about someone becoming pregnant because I really did miss being pregnant. But I tried not to let it get to me because I knew we weren't ready. I know that's a little different from your situation because you and your DH do feel you're ready. But don't worry about feeling jealous--as Jenn said, it's normal and it's exactly what you feel, so you shouldn't feel guilty about it. Just try to smile and be happy for the others and know that your time will come when it's right.


Eileen

http://www.windsorpeak.com/dc/user_files/33732.gif for Leah
http://www.windsorpeak.com/dc/user_files/33734.gif 27 months...
http://tickers.baby-gaga.com/t/catcatcvi20040222_-6_Kaya+is.png
Kaya will be a sister, ~11/14/06!

[mudder17]

We were one of those fortunate ones who got pg on our first try for #2 (but it took us 8 months for #1), but we didn't start until the day before Kaya turned 2, so about a year later than where you are now. But I felt the longing every time I heard about someone becoming pregnant because I really did miss being pregnant. But I tried not to let it get to me because I knew we weren't ready. I know that's a little different from your situation because you and your DH do feel you're ready. But don't worry about feeling jealous--as Jenn said, it's normal and it's exactly what you feel, so you shouldn't feel guilty about it. Just try to smile and be happy for the others and know that your time will come when it's right.


Eileen

http://www.windsorpeak.com/dc/user_files/33732.gif for Leah
http://www.windsorpeak.com/dc/user_files/33734.gif 27 months...
http://tickers.baby-gaga.com/t/catcatcvi20040222_-6_Kaya+is.png
Kaya will be a sister, ~11/14/06!

[mudder17]

We were one of those fortunate ones who got pg on our first try for #2 (but it took us 8 months for #1), but we didn't start until the day before Kaya turned 2, so about a year later than where you are now. But I felt the longing every time I heard about someone becoming pregnant because I really did miss being pregnant. But I tried not to let it get to me because I knew we weren't ready. I know that's a little different from your situation because you and your DH do feel you're ready. But don't worry about feeling jealous--as Jenn said, it's normal and it's exactly what you feel, so you shouldn't feel guilty about it. Just try to smile and be happy for the others and know that your time will come when it's right.


Eileen

http://www.windsorpeak.com/dc/user_files/33732.gif for Leah
http://www.windsorpeak.com/dc/user_files/33734.gif 27 months...
http://tickers.baby-gaga.com/t/catcatcvi20040222_-6_Kaya+is.png
Kaya will be a sister, ~11/14/06!

[mudder17]

We were one of those fortunate ones who got pg on our first try for #2 (but it took us 8 months for #1), but we didn't start until the day before Kaya turned 2, so about a year later than where you are now. But I felt the longing every time I heard about someone becoming pregnant because I really did miss being pregnant. But I tried not to let it get to me because I knew we weren't ready. I know that's a little different from your situation because you and your DH do feel you're ready. But don't worry about feeling jealous--as Jenn said, it's normal and it's exactly what you feel, so you shouldn't feel guilty about it. Just try to smile and be happy for the others and know that your time will come when it's right.


Eileen

http://www.windsorpeak.com/dc/user_files/33732.gif for Leah
http://www.windsorpeak.com/dc/user_files/33734.gif 27 months...
http://tickers.baby-gaga.com/t/catcatcvi20040222_-6_Kaya+is.png
Kaya will be a sister, ~11/14/06!

[mudder17]

We were one of those fortunate ones who got pg on our first try for #2 (but it took us 8 months for #1), but we didn't start until the day before Kaya turned 2, so about a year later than where you are now. But I felt the longing every time I heard about someone becoming pregnant because I really did miss being pregnant. But I tried not to let it get to me because I knew we weren't ready. I know that's a little different from your situation because you and your DH do feel you're ready. But don't worry about feeling jealous--as Jenn said, it's normal and it's exactly what you feel, so you shouldn't feel guilty about it. Just try to smile and be happy for the others and know that your time will come when it's right.


Eileen

http://www.windsorpeak.com/dc/user_files/33732.gif for Leah
http://www.windsorpeak.com/dc/user_files/33734.gif 27 months...
http://tickers.baby-gaga.com/t/catcatcvi20040222_-6_Kaya+is.png
Kaya will be a sister, ~11/14/06!

[mudder17]

We were one of those fortunate ones who got pg on our first try for #2 (but it took us 8 months for #1), but we didn't start until the day before Kaya turned 2, so about a year later than where you are now. But I felt the longing every time I heard about someone becoming pregnant because I really did miss being pregnant. But I tried not to let it get to me because I knew we weren't ready. I know that's a little different from your situation because you and your DH do feel you're ready. But don't worry about feeling jealous--as Jenn said, it's normal and it's exactly what you feel, so you shouldn't feel guilty about it. Just try to smile and be happy for the others and know that your time will come when it's right.


Eileen

http://www.windsorpeak.com/dc/user_files/33732.gif for Leah
http://www.windsorpeak.com/dc/user_files/33734.gif 27 months...
http://tickers.baby-gaga.com/t/catcatcvi20040222_-6_Kaya+is.png
Kaya will be a sister, ~11/14/06!

[mudder17]

We were one of those fortunate ones who got pg on our first try for #2 (but it took us 8 months for #1), but we didn't start until the day before Kaya turned 2, so about a year later than where you are now. But I felt the longing every time I heard about someone becoming pregnant because I really did miss being pregnant. But I tried not to let it get to me because I knew we weren't ready. I know that's a little different from your situation because you and your DH do feel you're ready. But don't worry about feeling jealous--as Jenn said, it's normal and it's exactly what you feel, so you shouldn't feel guilty about it. Just try to smile and be happy for the others and know that your time will come when it's right.


Eileen

http://www.windsorpeak.com/dc/user_files/33732.gif for Leah
http://www.windsorpeak.com/dc/user_files/33734.gif 27 months...
http://tickers.baby-gaga.com/t/catcatcvi20040222_-6_Kaya+is.png
Kaya will be a sister, ~11/14/06!

[maestramommy]

Well, we just ended a week of thinking I MIGHT be pregnant (just got AF yesterday on day 38!), and wondering what in the heck we were going to do because dd is only 8.5 months. But I was actually wondering how I was gonna tell a loved one because she just miscarried. So I don't really have BTDT advice, but I totally think it's normal to be happy for someone and jealous at the same time. I was actually a little disappointed that I turned out to be not preg. because it would've been exciting to have gotten so without even intending to! But really I'm so enjoying dd right now it's nice to know it'll be just us for a little while longer. Every day since I got pregnant with her is a gift because the whole experience has been amazingly easy.

FWIW we got preg. on the 4th try following "Taking Charge" but my feeling was that even if you do everything right, those swimmers and your egg have a mind of their own sometimes so there is still quite a bit that is totally not under your control.

[maestramommy]

Well, we just ended a week of thinking I MIGHT be pregnant (just got AF yesterday on day 38!), and wondering what in the heck we were going to do because dd is only 8.5 months. But I was actually wondering how I was gonna tell a loved one because she just miscarried. So I don't really have BTDT advice, but I totally think it's normal to be happy for someone and jealous at the same time. I was actually a little disappointed that I turned out to be not preg. because it would've been exciting to have gotten so without even intending to! But really I'm so enjoying dd right now it's nice to know it'll be just us for a little while longer. Every day since I got pregnant with her is a gift because the whole experience has been amazingly easy.

FWIW we got preg. on the 4th try following "Taking Charge" but my feeling was that even if you do everything right, those swimmers and your egg have a mind of their own sometimes so there is still quite a bit that is totally not under your control.

[maestramommy]

Well, we just ended a week of thinking I MIGHT be pregnant (just got AF yesterday on day 38!), and wondering what in the heck we were going to do because dd is only 8.5 months. But I was actually wondering how I was gonna tell a loved one because she just miscarried. So I don't really have BTDT advice, but I totally think it's normal to be happy for someone and jealous at the same time. I was actually a little disappointed that I turned out to be not preg. because it would've been exciting to have gotten so without even intending to! But really I'm so enjoying dd right now it's nice to know it'll be just us for a little while longer. Every day since I got pregnant with her is a gift because the whole experience has been amazingly easy.

FWIW we got preg. on the 4th try following "Taking Charge" but my feeling was that even if you do everything right, those swimmers and your egg have a mind of their own sometimes so there is still quite a bit that is totally not under your control.

[maestramommy]

Well, we just ended a week of thinking I MIGHT be pregnant (just got AF yesterday on day 38!), and wondering what in the heck we were going to do because dd is only 8.5 months. But I was actually wondering how I was gonna tell a loved one because she just miscarried. So I don't really have BTDT advice, but I totally think it's normal to be happy for someone and jealous at the same time. I was actually a little disappointed that I turned out to be not preg. because it would've been exciting to have gotten so without even intending to! But really I'm so enjoying dd right now it's nice to know it'll be just us for a little while longer. Every day since I got pregnant with her is a gift because the whole experience has been amazingly easy.

FWIW we got preg. on the 4th try following "Taking Charge" but my feeling was that even if you do everything right, those swimmers and your egg have a mind of their own sometimes so there is still quite a bit that is totally not under your control.

[maestramommy]

Well, we just ended a week of thinking I MIGHT be pregnant (just got AF yesterday on day 38!), and wondering what in the heck we were going to do because dd is only 8.5 months. But I was actually wondering how I was gonna tell a loved one because she just miscarried. So I don't really have BTDT advice, but I totally think it's normal to be happy for someone and jealous at the same time. I was actually a little disappointed that I turned out to be not preg. because it would've been exciting to have gotten so without even intending to! But really I'm so enjoying dd right now it's nice to know it'll be just us for a little while longer. Every day since I got pregnant with her is a gift because the whole experience has been amazingly easy.

FWIW we got preg. on the 4th try following "Taking Charge" but my feeling was that even if you do everything right, those swimmers and your egg have a mind of their own sometimes so there is still quite a bit that is totally not under your control.

[maestramommy]

Well, we just ended a week of thinking I MIGHT be pregnant (just got AF yesterday on day 38!), and wondering what in the heck we were going to do because dd is only 8.5 months. But I was actually wondering how I was gonna tell a loved one because she just miscarried. So I don't really have BTDT advice, but I totally think it's normal to be happy for someone and jealous at the same time. I was actually a little disappointed that I turned out to be not preg. because it would've been exciting to have gotten so without even intending to! But really I'm so enjoying dd right now it's nice to know it'll be just us for a little while longer. Every day since I got pregnant with her is a gift because the whole experience has been amazingly easy.

FWIW we got preg. on the 4th try following "Taking Charge" but my feeling was that even if you do everything right, those swimmers and your egg have a mind of their own sometimes so there is still quite a bit that is totally not under your control.

[maestramommy]

Well, we just ended a week of thinking I MIGHT be pregnant (just got AF yesterday on day 38!), and wondering what in the heck we were going to do because dd is only 8.5 months. But I was actually wondering how I was gonna tell a loved one because she just miscarried. So I don't really have BTDT advice, but I totally think it's normal to be happy for someone and jealous at the same time. I was actually a little disappointed that I turned out to be not preg. because it would've been exciting to have gotten so without even intending to! But really I'm so enjoying dd right now it's nice to know it'll be just us for a little while longer. Every day since I got pregnant with her is a gift because the whole experience has been amazingly easy.

FWIW we got preg. on the 4th try following "Taking Charge" but my feeling was that even if you do everything right, those swimmers and your egg have a mind of their own sometimes so there is still quite a bit that is totally not under your control.

[maestramommy]

Well, we just ended a week of thinking I MIGHT be pregnant (just got AF yesterday on day 38!), and wondering what in the heck we were going to do because dd is only 8.5 months. But I was actually wondering how I was gonna tell a loved one because she just miscarried. So I don't really have BTDT advice, but I totally think it's normal to be happy for someone and jealous at the same time. I was actually a little disappointed that I turned out to be not preg. because it would've been exciting to have gotten so without even intending to! But really I'm so enjoying dd right now it's nice to know it'll be just us for a little while longer. Every day since I got pregnant with her is a gift because the whole experience has been amazingly easy.

FWIW we got preg. on the 4th try following "Taking Charge" but my feeling was that even if you do everything right, those swimmers and your egg have a mind of their own sometimes so there is still quite a bit that is totally not under your control.

[maestramommy]

Well, we just ended a week of thinking I MIGHT be pregnant (just got AF yesterday on day 38!), and wondering what in the heck we were going to do because dd is only 8.5 months. But I was actually wondering how I was gonna tell a loved one because she just miscarried. So I don't really have BTDT advice, but I totally think it's normal to be happy for someone and jealous at the same time. I was actually a little disappointed that I turned out to be not preg. because it would've been exciting to have gotten so without even intending to! But really I'm so enjoying dd right now it's nice to know it'll be just us for a little while longer. Every day since I got pregnant with her is a gift because the whole experience has been amazingly easy.

FWIW we got preg. on the 4th try following "Taking Charge" but my feeling was that even if you do everything right, those swimmers and your egg have a mind of their own sometimes so there is still quite a bit that is totally not under your control.

[Queensgirl]

Oh boy, do I sympathize with you on this one. It's totally normal to have those feelings-you certainly don't mean any harm & they are just emotions that arise during this ttc period.

I'm the last of my friends, co- workers, and family to be without a child. It's really, really tough at times. Especially since the majority of people I know got pregnant " by chance" and some of those kids are now teenagers! Also, many of the young children I worked with are now parents themselves!

I can't help but feel a small twinge of "why them and not me?" when someone announces they're expecting, but I try not to let it consume me. I'm actually very happy for that individual, yet their circumstances just brings to light what I don't have yet (or may never have).

So, no I don't think it's wrong to feel a little of that jealousy- just don't let it overwhelm your thoughts. BTW, I think SAHMs are wonderful and deserve a lot of credit (along with other moms, of course). I think it's a huge sacrifice you're making and how fortunate you can go that route. Good Luck on your ttc journey!

[Queensgirl]

Oh boy, do I sympathize with you on this one. It's totally normal to have those feelings-you certainly don't mean any harm & they are just emotions that arise during this ttc period.

I'm the last of my friends, co- workers, and family to be without a child. It's really, really tough at times. Especially since the majority of people I know got pregnant " by chance" and some of those kids are now teenagers! Also, many of the young children I worked with are now parents themselves!

I can't help but feel a small twinge of "why them and not me?" when someone announces they're expecting, but I try not to let it consume me. I'm actually very happy for that individual, yet their circumstances just brings to light what I don't have yet (or may never have).

So, no I don't think it's wrong to feel a little of that jealousy- just don't let it overwhelm your thoughts. BTW, I think SAHMs are wonderful and deserve a lot of credit (along with other moms, of course). I think it's a huge sacrifice you're making and how fortunate you can go that route. Good Luck on your ttc journey!

[Queensgirl]

Oh boy, do I sympathize with you on this one. It's totally normal to have those feelings-you certainly don't mean any harm & they are just emotions that arise during this ttc period.

I'm the last of my friends, co- workers, and family to be without a child. It's really, really tough at times. Especially since the majority of people I know got pregnant " by chance" and some of those kids are now teenagers! Also, many of the young children I worked with are now parents themselves!

I can't help but feel a small twinge of "why them and not me?" when someone announces they're expecting, but I try not to let it consume me. I'm actually very happy for that individual, yet their circumstances just brings to light what I don't have yet (or may never have).

So, no I don't think it's wrong to feel a little of that jealousy- just don't let it overwhelm your thoughts. BTW, I think SAHMs are wonderful and deserve a lot of credit (along with other moms, of course). I think it's a huge sacrifice you're making and how fortunate you can go that route. Good Luck on your ttc journey!

[Queensgirl]

Oh boy, do I sympathize with you on this one. It's totally normal to have those feelings-you certainly don't mean any harm & they are just emotions that arise during this ttc period.

I'm the last of my friends, co- workers, and family to be without a child. It's really, really tough at times. Especially since the majority of people I know got pregnant " by chance" and some of those kids are now teenagers! Also, many of the young children I worked with are now parents themselves!

I can't help but feel a small twinge of "why them and not me?" when someone announces they're expecting, but I try not to let it consume me. I'm actually very happy for that individual, yet their circumstances just brings to light what I don't have yet (or may never have).

So, no I don't think it's wrong to feel a little of that jealousy- just don't let it overwhelm your thoughts. BTW, I think SAHMs are wonderful and deserve a lot of credit (along with other moms, of course). I think it's a huge sacrifice you're making and how fortunate you can go that route. Good Luck on your ttc journey!

[Queensgirl]

Oh boy, do I sympathize with you on this one. It's totally normal to have those feelings-you certainly don't mean any harm & they are just emotions that arise during this ttc period.

I'm the last of my friends, co- workers, and family to be without a child. It's really, really tough at times. Especially since the majority of people I know got pregnant " by chance" and some of those kids are now teenagers! Also, many of the young children I worked with are now parents themselves!

I can't help but feel a small twinge of "why them and not me?" when someone announces they're expecting, but I try not to let it consume me. I'm actually very happy for that individual, yet their circumstances just brings to light what I don't have yet (or may never have).

So, no I don't think it's wrong to feel a little of that jealousy- just don't let it overwhelm your thoughts. BTW, I think SAHMs are wonderful and deserve a lot of credit (along with other moms, of course). I think it's a huge sacrifice you're making and how fortunate you can go that route. Good Luck on your ttc journey!

[Queensgirl]

Oh boy, do I sympathize with you on this one. It's totally normal to have those feelings-you certainly don't mean any harm & they are just emotions that arise during this ttc period.

I'm the last of my friends, co- workers, and family to be without a child. It's really, really tough at times. Especially since the majority of people I know got pregnant " by chance" and some of those kids are now teenagers! Also, many of the young children I worked with are now parents themselves!

I can't help but feel a small twinge of "why them and not me?" when someone announces they're expecting, but I try not to let it consume me. I'm actually very happy for that individual, yet their circumstances just brings to light what I don't have yet (or may never have).

So, no I don't think it's wrong to feel a little of that jealousy- just don't let it overwhelm your thoughts. BTW, I think SAHMs are wonderful and deserve a lot of credit (along with other moms, of course). I think it's a huge sacrifice you're making and how fortunate you can go that route. Good Luck on your ttc journey!

[Queensgirl]

Oh boy, do I sympathize with you on this one. It's totally normal to have those feelings-you certainly don't mean any harm & they are just emotions that arise during this ttc period.

I'm the last of my friends, co- workers, and family to be without a child. It's really, really tough at times. Especially since the majority of people I know got pregnant " by chance" and some of those kids are now teenagers! Also, many of the young children I worked with are now parents themselves!

I can't help but feel a small twinge of "why them and not me?" when someone announces they're expecting, but I try not to let it consume me. I'm actually very happy for that individual, yet their circumstances just brings to light what I don't have yet (or may never have).

So, no I don't think it's wrong to feel a little of that jealousy- just don't let it overwhelm your thoughts. BTW, I think SAHMs are wonderful and deserve a lot of credit (along with other moms, of course). I think it's a huge sacrifice you're making and how fortunate you can go that route. Good Luck on your ttc journey!

[Queensgirl]

Oh boy, do I sympathize with you on this one. It's totally normal to have those feelings-you certainly don't mean any harm & they are just emotions that arise during this ttc period.

I'm the last of my friends, co- workers, and family to be without a child. It's really, really tough at times. Especially since the majority of people I know got pregnant " by chance" and some of those kids are now teenagers! Also, many of the young children I worked with are now parents themselves!

I can't help but feel a small twinge of "why them and not me?" when someone announces they're expecting, but I try not to let it consume me. I'm actually very happy for that individual, yet their circumstances just brings to light what I don't have yet (or may never have).

So, no I don't think it's wrong to feel a little of that jealousy- just don't let it overwhelm your thoughts. BTW, I think SAHMs are wonderful and deserve a lot of credit (along with other moms, of course). I think it's a huge sacrifice you're making and how fortunate you can go that route. Good Luck on your ttc journey!

[Queensgirl]

Oh boy, do I sympathize with you on this one. It's totally normal to have those feelings-you certainly don't mean any harm & they are just emotions that arise during this ttc period.

I'm the last of my friends, co- workers, and family to be without a child. It's really, really tough at times. Especially since the majority of people I know got pregnant " by chance" and some of those kids are now teenagers! Also, many of the young children I worked with are now parents themselves!

I can't help but feel a small twinge of "why them and not me?" when someone announces they're expecting, but I try not to let it consume me. I'm actually very happy for that individual, yet their circumstances just brings to light what I don't have yet (or may never have).

So, no I don't think it's wrong to feel a little of that jealousy- just don't let it overwhelm your thoughts. BTW, I think SAHMs are wonderful and deserve a lot of credit (along with other moms, of course). I think it's a huge sacrifice you're making and how fortunate you can go that route. Good Luck on your ttc journey!

[buddyleebaby]

No. I think everyone goes through it to some extent when they are thinking about or actively ttc.
I would be jealous of pregnant friends before my dh and I even started trying for dd, because I wanted the whole pregnancy experience but I knew it was just not the right time. It wasn't that I wasn't happy for them, it was just that I was a little sad for myself.

[buddyleebaby]

No. I think everyone goes through it to some extent when they are thinking about or actively ttc.
I would be jealous of pregnant friends before my dh and I even started trying for dd, because I wanted the whole pregnancy experience but I knew it was just not the right time. It wasn't that I wasn't happy for them, it was just that I was a little sad for myself.

[buddyleebaby]

No. I think everyone goes through it to some extent when they are thinking about or actively ttc.
I would be jealous of pregnant friends before my dh and I even started trying for dd, because I wanted the whole pregnancy experience but I knew it was just not the right time. It wasn't that I wasn't happy for them, it was just that I was a little sad for myself.

[buddyleebaby]

No. I think everyone goes through it to some extent when they are thinking about or actively ttc.
I would be jealous of pregnant friends before my dh and I even started trying for dd, because I wanted the whole pregnancy experience but I knew it was just not the right time. It wasn't that I wasn't happy for them, it was just that I was a little sad for myself.

[buddyleebaby]

No. I think everyone goes through it to some extent when they are thinking about or actively ttc.
I would be jealous of pregnant friends before my dh and I even started trying for dd, because I wanted the whole pregnancy experience but I knew it was just not the right time. It wasn't that I wasn't happy for them, it was just that I was a little sad for myself.

[buddyleebaby]

No. I think everyone goes through it to some extent when they are thinking about or actively ttc.
I would be jealous of pregnant friends before my dh and I even started trying for dd, because I wanted the whole pregnancy experience but I knew it was just not the right time. It wasn't that I wasn't happy for them, it was just that I was a little sad for myself.

[buddyleebaby]

No. I think everyone goes through it to some extent when they are thinking about or actively ttc.
I would be jealous of pregnant friends before my dh and I even started trying for dd, because I wanted the whole pregnancy experience but I knew it was just not the right time. It wasn't that I wasn't happy for them, it was just that I was a little sad for myself.

[buddyleebaby]

No. I think everyone goes through it to some extent when they are thinking about or actively ttc.
I would be jealous of pregnant friends before my dh and I even started trying for dd, because I wanted the whole pregnancy experience but I knew it was just not the right time. It wasn't that I wasn't happy for them, it was just that I was a little sad for myself.

[buddyleebaby]

No. I think everyone goes through it to some extent when they are thinking about or actively ttc.
I would be jealous of pregnant friends before my dh and I even started trying for dd, because I wanted the whole pregnancy experience but I knew it was just not the right time. It wasn't that I wasn't happy for them, it was just that I was a little sad for myself.

[elliput]

I don't think so, especially since I can remember feeling that way before DD came along. I was both excited for my friends and jealous at the same time. The thing that really got under my skin, was when I would hear someone complain about not being PG after only trying for a couple of months, and I was going on 5+ years.

[elliput]

I don't think so, especially since I can remember feeling that way before DD came along. I was both excited for my friends and jealous at the same time. The thing that really got under my skin, was when I would hear someone complain about not being PG after only trying for a couple of months, and I was going on 5+ years.

[elliput]

I don't think so, especially since I can remember feeling that way before DD came along. I was both excited for my friends and jealous at the same time. The thing that really got under my skin, was when I would hear someone complain about not being PG after only trying for a couple of months, and I was going on 5+ years.

[elliput]

I don't think so, especially since I can remember feeling that way before DD came along. I was both excited for my friends and jealous at the same time. The thing that really got under my skin, was when I would hear someone complain about not being PG after only trying for a couple of months, and I was going on 5+ years.

[elliput]

I don't think so, especially since I can remember feeling that way before DD came along. I was both excited for my friends and jealous at the same time. The thing that really got under my skin, was when I would hear someone complain about not being PG after only trying for a couple of months, and I was going on 5+ years.

[elliput]

I don't think so, especially since I can remember feeling that way before DD came along. I was both excited for my friends and jealous at the same time. The thing that really got under my skin, was when I would hear someone complain about not being PG after only trying for a couple of months, and I was going on 5+ years.

[elliput]

I don't think so, especially since I can remember feeling that way before DD came along. I was both excited for my friends and jealous at the same time. The thing that really got under my skin, was when I would hear someone complain about not being PG after only trying for a couple of months, and I was going on 5+ years.

[elliput]

I don't think so, especially since I can remember feeling that way before DD came along. I was both excited for my friends and jealous at the same time. The thing that really got under my skin, was when I would hear someone complain about not being PG after only trying for a couple of months, and I was going on 5+ years.

[elliput]

I don't think so, especially since I can remember feeling that way before DD came along. I was both excited for my friends and jealous at the same time. The thing that really got under my skin, was when I would hear someone complain about not being PG after only trying for a couple of months, and I was going on 5+ years.

[TaChapm]

I remember getting upset when everyone around us was getting pregnant and we were struggling though IVF. I don't think the feelings are necessarily jealous feelings because I was always happy for our friends and family however I was sad for what we didn't have. It is hard to describe.

I am sorry you and DH are having troubles but I would say your feelings are totally normal. You can't help feel that way.

Hang in there!

Tara
Mommy to Jackson 11-10-02
Tyler William 6-9-05
OMG!!! It's a GIRL!! Due September 5, 2006!

http://b4.lilypie.com/gzWfm8.png

http://b1.lilypie.com/kLMem8.png

http://bd.lilypie.com/UEZ3m8.png

[TaChapm]

I remember getting upset when everyone around us was getting pregnant and we were struggling though IVF. I don't think the feelings are necessarily jealous feelings because I was always happy for our friends and family however I was sad for what we didn't have. It is hard to describe.

I am sorry you and DH are having troubles but I would say your feelings are totally normal. You can't help feel that way.

Hang in there!

Tara
Mommy to Jackson 11-10-02
Tyler William 6-9-05
OMG!!! It's a GIRL!! Due September 5, 2006!

http://b4.lilypie.com/gzWfm8.png

http://b1.lilypie.com/kLMem8.png

http://bd.lilypie.com/UEZ3m8.png

[TaChapm]

I remember getting upset when everyone around us was getting pregnant and we were struggling though IVF. I don't think the feelings are necessarily jealous feelings because I was always happy for our friends and family however I was sad for what we didn't have. It is hard to describe.

I am sorry you and DH are having troubles but I would say your feelings are totally normal. You can't help feel that way.

Hang in there!

Tara
Mommy to Jackson 11-10-02
Tyler William 6-9-05
OMG!!! It's a GIRL!! Due September 5, 2006!

http://b4.lilypie.com/gzWfm8.png

http://b1.lilypie.com/kLMem8.png

http://bd.lilypie.com/UEZ3m8.png

[TaChapm]

I remember getting upset when everyone around us was getting pregnant and we were struggling though IVF. I don't think the feelings are necessarily jealous feelings because I was always happy for our friends and family however I was sad for what we didn't have. It is hard to describe.

I am sorry you and DH are having troubles but I would say your feelings are totally normal. You can't help feel that way.

Hang in there!

Tara
Mommy to Jackson 11-10-02
Tyler William 6-9-05
OMG!!! It's a GIRL!! Due September 5, 2006!

http://b4.lilypie.com/gzWfm8.png

http://b1.lilypie.com/kLMem8.png

http://bd.lilypie.com/UEZ3m8.png

[TaChapm]

I remember getting upset when everyone around us was getting pregnant and we were struggling though IVF. I don't think the feelings are necessarily jealous feelings because I was always happy for our friends and family however I was sad for what we didn't have. It is hard to describe.

I am sorry you and DH are having troubles but I would say your feelings are totally normal. You can't help feel that way.

Hang in there!

Tara
Mommy to Jackson 11-10-02
Tyler William 6-9-05
OMG!!! It's a GIRL!! Due September 5, 2006!

http://b4.lilypie.com/gzWfm8.png

http://b1.lilypie.com/kLMem8.png

http://bd.lilypie.com/UEZ3m8.png

[TaChapm]

I remember getting upset when everyone around us was getting pregnant and we were struggling though IVF. I don't think the feelings are necessarily jealous feelings because I was always happy for our friends and family however I was sad for what we didn't have. It is hard to describe.

I am sorry you and DH are having troubles but I would say your feelings are totally normal. You can't help feel that way.

Hang in there!

Tara
Mommy to Jackson 11-10-02
Tyler William 6-9-05
OMG!!! It's a GIRL!! Due September 5, 2006!

http://b4.lilypie.com/gzWfm8.png

http://b1.lilypie.com/kLMem8.png

http://bd.lilypie.com/UEZ3m8.png

[TaChapm]

I remember getting upset when everyone around us was getting pregnant and we were struggling though IVF. I don't think the feelings are necessarily jealous feelings because I was always happy for our friends and family however I was sad for what we didn't have. It is hard to describe.

I am sorry you and DH are having troubles but I would say your feelings are totally normal. You can't help feel that way.

Hang in there!

Tara
Mommy to Jackson 11-10-02
Tyler William 6-9-05
OMG!!! It's a GIRL!! Due September 5, 2006!

http://b4.lilypie.com/gzWfm8.png

http://b1.lilypie.com/kLMem8.png

http://bd.lilypie.com/UEZ3m8.png

[TaChapm]

I remember getting upset when everyone around us was getting pregnant and we were struggling though IVF. I don't think the feelings are necessarily jealous feelings because I was always happy for our friends and family however I was sad for what we didn't have. It is hard to describe.

I am sorry you and DH are having troubles but I would say your feelings are totally normal. You can't help feel that way.

Hang in there!

Tara
Mommy to Jackson 11-10-02
Tyler William 6-9-05
OMG!!! It's a GIRL!! Due September 5, 2006!

http://b4.lilypie.com/gzWfm8.png

http://b1.lilypie.com/kLMem8.png

http://bd.lilypie.com/UEZ3m8.png

[TaChapm]

I remember getting upset when everyone around us was getting pregnant and we were struggling though IVF. I don't think the feelings are necessarily jealous feelings because I was always happy for our friends and family however I was sad for what we didn't have. It is hard to describe.

I am sorry you and DH are having troubles but I would say your feelings are totally normal. You can't help feel that way.

Hang in there!

Tara
Mommy to Jackson 11-10-02
Tyler William 6-9-05
OMG!!! It's a GIRL!! Due September 5, 2006!

http://b4.lilypie.com/gzWfm8.png

http://b1.lilypie.com/kLMem8.png

http://bd.lilypie.com/UEZ3m8.png

[pittsburghgirl]

Your feelings are so normal, don't beat yourself up. And don't feel like you are wasting yourself being a SAHM. I have a Master's degree and I am (most days) thrilled to be a SAHM -- I am using my education to be a better mom.

It took us 5 years to conceive DS (ultimately via IVF) and we would like another, but since we won't go the medical route again we don't have a lot of expectations. Yet I am still jealous each time someone else comes up pregnant (usually with very little effort) - I really would like to do it again.

Take care and let yourself feel what you feel!

Marilee
mommy to James
http://lilypie.com/baby2/040120/1/1/1/-5/.png

[pittsburghgirl]

Your feelings are so normal, don't beat yourself up. And don't feel like you are wasting yourself being a SAHM. I have a Master's degree and I am (most days) thrilled to be a SAHM -- I am using my education to be a better mom.

It took us 5 years to conceive DS (ultimately via IVF) and we would like another, but since we won't go the medical route again we don't have a lot of expectations. Yet I am still jealous each time someone else comes up pregnant (usually with very little effort) - I really would like to do it again.

Take care and let yourself feel what you feel!

Marilee
mommy to James
http://lilypie.com/baby2/040120/1/1/1/-5/.png

[pittsburghgirl]

Your feelings are so normal, don't beat yourself up. And don't feel like you are wasting yourself being a SAHM. I have a Master's degree and I am (most days) thrilled to be a SAHM -- I am using my education to be a better mom.

It took us 5 years to conceive DS (ultimately via IVF) and we would like another, but since we won't go the medical route again we don't have a lot of expectations. Yet I am still jealous each time someone else comes up pregnant (usually with very little effort) - I really would like to do it again.

Take care and let yourself feel what you feel!

Marilee
mommy to James
http://lilypie.com/baby2/040120/1/1/1/-5/.png

[pittsburghgirl]

Your feelings are so normal, don't beat yourself up. And don't feel like you are wasting yourself being a SAHM. I have a Master's degree and I am (most days) thrilled to be a SAHM -- I am using my education to be a better mom.

It took us 5 years to conceive DS (ultimately via IVF) and we would like another, but since we won't go the medical route again we don't have a lot of expectations. Yet I am still jealous each time someone else comes up pregnant (usually with very little effort) - I really would like to do it again.

Take care and let yourself feel what you feel!

Marilee
mommy to James
http://lilypie.com/baby2/040120/1/1/1/-5/.png

[pittsburghgirl]

Your feelings are so normal, don't beat yourself up. And don't feel like you are wasting yourself being a SAHM. I have a Master's degree and I am (most days) thrilled to be a SAHM -- I am using my education to be a better mom.

It took us 5 years to conceive DS (ultimately via IVF) and we would like another, but since we won't go the medical route again we don't have a lot of expectations. Yet I am still jealous each time someone else comes up pregnant (usually with very little effort) - I really would like to do it again.

Take care and let yourself feel what you feel!

Marilee
mommy to James
http://lilypie.com/baby2/040120/1/1/1/-5/.png

[pittsburghgirl]

Your feelings are so normal, don't beat yourself up. And don't feel like you are wasting yourself being a SAHM. I have a Master's degree and I am (most days) thrilled to be a SAHM -- I am using my education to be a better mom.

It took us 5 years to conceive DS (ultimately via IVF) and we would like another, but since we won't go the medical route again we don't have a lot of expectations. Yet I am still jealous each time someone else comes up pregnant (usually with very little effort) - I really would like to do it again.

Take care and let yourself feel what you feel!

Marilee
mommy to James
http://lilypie.com/baby2/040120/1/1/1/-5/.png

[pittsburghgirl]

Your feelings are so normal, don't beat yourself up. And don't feel like you are wasting yourself being a SAHM. I have a Master's degree and I am (most days) thrilled to be a SAHM -- I am using my education to be a better mom.

It took us 5 years to conceive DS (ultimately via IVF) and we would like another, but since we won't go the medical route again we don't have a lot of expectations. Yet I am still jealous each time someone else comes up pregnant (usually with very little effort) - I really would like to do it again.

Take care and let yourself feel what you feel!

Marilee
mommy to James
http://lilypie.com/baby2/040120/1/1/1/-5/.png

[pittsburghgirl]

Your feelings are so normal, don't beat yourself up. And don't feel like you are wasting yourself being a SAHM. I have a Master's degree and I am (most days) thrilled to be a SAHM -- I am using my education to be a better mom.

It took us 5 years to conceive DS (ultimately via IVF) and we would like another, but since we won't go the medical route again we don't have a lot of expectations. Yet I am still jealous each time someone else comes up pregnant (usually with very little effort) - I really would like to do it again.

Take care and let yourself feel what you feel!

Marilee
mommy to James
http://lilypie.com/baby2/040120/1/1/1/-5/.png

[pittsburghgirl]

Your feelings are so normal, don't beat yourself up. And don't feel like you are wasting yourself being a SAHM. I have a Master's degree and I am (most days) thrilled to be a SAHM -- I am using my education to be a better mom.

It took us 5 years to conceive DS (ultimately via IVF) and we would like another, but since we won't go the medical route again we don't have a lot of expectations. Yet I am still jealous each time someone else comes up pregnant (usually with very little effort) - I really would like to do it again.

Take care and let yourself feel what you feel!

Marilee
mommy to James
http://lilypie.com/baby2/040120/1/1/1/-5/.png

[deenass]

um, I felt that way when I WASN'T trying to conceive, and wasn't even ready to THINK about it! In a 3 month period of time, I found out that 16 women I knew were pregnant, and now that DS is three, EVERY woman I know who has a child the same age as mine, already has two and someare pg with #3! (And when I say everyone, even my OB, who was pg when I delivered DS, has had #2).

For me, it wasn't only jealousy (how stupid to be jealous of something I didn't even WANT at the time) but I was wondering what was wrong with me, I mean everyone else had two, why didn't I want two, or even want to think about two.

Now that I am thinking about #2, I'm still glad that I waited, but it doesn't make me not want to rip the eyes out of some of my friends heads when I hear about their preganncies!!!

[deenass]

um, I felt that way when I WASN'T trying to conceive, and wasn't even ready to THINK about it! In a 3 month period of time, I found out that 16 women I knew were pregnant, and now that DS is three, EVERY woman I know who has a child the same age as mine, already has two and someare pg with #3! (And when I say everyone, even my OB, who was pg when I delivered DS, has had #2).

For me, it wasn't only jealousy (how stupid to be jealous of something I didn't even WANT at the time) but I was wondering what was wrong with me, I mean everyone else had two, why didn't I want two, or even want to think about two.

Now that I am thinking about #2, I'm still glad that I waited, but it doesn't make me not want to rip the eyes out of some of my friends heads when I hear about their preganncies!!!

[deenass]

um, I felt that way when I WASN'T trying to conceive, and wasn't even ready to THINK about it! In a 3 month period of time, I found out that 16 women I knew were pregnant, and now that DS is three, EVERY woman I know who has a child the same age as mine, already has two and someare pg with #3! (And when I say everyone, even my OB, who was pg when I delivered DS, has had #2).

For me, it wasn't only jealousy (how stupid to be jealous of something I didn't even WANT at the time) but I was wondering what was wrong with me, I mean everyone else had two, why didn't I want two, or even want to think about two.

Now that I am thinking about #2, I'm still glad that I waited, but it doesn't make me not want to rip the eyes out of some of my friends heads when I hear about their preganncies!!!

[deenass]

um, I felt that way when I WASN'T trying to conceive, and wasn't even ready to THINK about it! In a 3 month period of time, I found out that 16 women I knew were pregnant, and now that DS is three, EVERY woman I know who has a child the same age as mine, already has two and someare pg with #3! (And when I say everyone, even my OB, who was pg when I delivered DS, has had #2).

For me, it wasn't only jealousy (how stupid to be jealous of something I didn't even WANT at the time) but I was wondering what was wrong with me, I mean everyone else had two, why didn't I want two, or even want to think about two.

Now that I am thinking about #2, I'm still glad that I waited, but it doesn't make me not want to rip the eyes out of some of my friends heads when I hear about their preganncies!!!

[deenass]

um, I felt that way when I WASN'T trying to conceive, and wasn't even ready to THINK about it! In a 3 month period of time, I found out that 16 women I knew were pregnant, and now that DS is three, EVERY woman I know who has a child the same age as mine, already has two and someare pg with #3! (And when I say everyone, even my OB, who was pg when I delivered DS, has had #2).

For me, it wasn't only jealousy (how stupid to be jealous of something I didn't even WANT at the time) but I was wondering what was wrong with me, I mean everyone else had two, why didn't I want two, or even want to think about two.

Now that I am thinking about #2, I'm still glad that I waited, but it doesn't make me not want to rip the eyes out of some of my friends heads when I hear about their preganncies!!!

[deenass]

um, I felt that way when I WASN'T trying to conceive, and wasn't even ready to THINK about it! In a 3 month period of time, I found out that 16 women I knew were pregnant, and now that DS is three, EVERY woman I know who has a child the same age as mine, already has two and someare pg with #3! (And when I say everyone, even my OB, who was pg when I delivered DS, has had #2).

For me, it wasn't only jealousy (how stupid to be jealous of something I didn't even WANT at the time) but I was wondering what was wrong with me, I mean everyone else had two, why didn't I want two, or even want to think about two.

Now that I am thinking about #2, I'm still glad that I waited, but it doesn't make me not want to rip the eyes out of some of my friends heads when I hear about their preganncies!!!

[deenass]

um, I felt that way when I WASN'T trying to conceive, and wasn't even ready to THINK about it! In a 3 month period of time, I found out that 16 women I knew were pregnant, and now that DS is three, EVERY woman I know who has a child the same age as mine, already has two and someare pg with #3! (And when I say everyone, even my OB, who was pg when I delivered DS, has had #2).

For me, it wasn't only jealousy (how stupid to be jealous of something I didn't even WANT at the time) but I was wondering what was wrong with me, I mean everyone else had two, why didn't I want two, or even want to think about two.

Now that I am thinking about #2, I'm still glad that I waited, but it doesn't make me not want to rip the eyes out of some of my friends heads when I hear about their preganncies!!!

[deenass]

um, I felt that way when I WASN'T trying to conceive, and wasn't even ready to THINK about it! In a 3 month period of time, I found out that 16 women I knew were pregnant, and now that DS is three, EVERY woman I know who has a child the same age as mine, already has two and someare pg with #3! (And when I say everyone, even my OB, who was pg when I delivered DS, has had #2).

For me, it wasn't only jealousy (how stupid to be jealous of something I didn't even WANT at the time) but I was wondering what was wrong with me, I mean everyone else had two, why didn't I want two, or even want to think about two.

Now that I am thinking about #2, I'm still glad that I waited, but it doesn't make me not want to rip the eyes out of some of my friends heads when I hear about their preganncies!!!

[deenass]

um, I felt that way when I WASN'T trying to conceive, and wasn't even ready to THINK about it! In a 3 month period of time, I found out that 16 women I knew were pregnant, and now that DS is three, EVERY woman I know who has a child the same age as mine, already has two and someare pg with #3! (And when I say everyone, even my OB, who was pg when I delivered DS, has had #2).

For me, it wasn't only jealousy (how stupid to be jealous of something I didn't even WANT at the time) but I was wondering what was wrong with me, I mean everyone else had two, why didn't I want two, or even want to think about two.

Now that I am thinking about #2, I'm still glad that I waited, but it doesn't make me not want to rip the eyes out of some of my friends heads when I hear about their preganncies!!!

[hez]

Nope, it's not wrong. It's perfectly natural. I have two halves to my brain-- one that's publicly happy for folks, the other that's privately miserable.

The trick is keeping the miserable piece in its appropriate personal place and let the happy side shine for the expecting folks. It's not that easy-- especially if you get blindsided in person. I'm getting better with practice, unfortunately.

Hugs. I told my mom and sister that it's rude to ask childbearing women about their TTC plans (you never know what's going on in their lives) in the context of someone else we know, and wonder of wonders, they've stopped asking me now. If your mom doesn't take gentle hints, you may need to bash her over the head with a plain old, "This subject is closed for discussion." It's your decision and life, not hers.

Hugs.

[hez]

Nope, it's not wrong. It's perfectly natural. I have two halves to my brain-- one that's publicly happy for folks, the other that's privately miserable.

The trick is keeping the miserable piece in its appropriate personal place and let the happy side shine for the expecting folks. It's not that easy-- especially if you get blindsided in person. I'm getting better with practice, unfortunately.

Hugs. I told my mom and sister that it's rude to ask childbearing women about their TTC plans (you never know what's going on in their lives) in the context of someone else we know, and wonder of wonders, they've stopped asking me now. If your mom doesn't take gentle hints, you may need to bash her over the head with a plain old, "This subject is closed for discussion." It's your decision and life, not hers.

Hugs.

[hez]

Nope, it's not wrong. It's perfectly natural. I have two halves to my brain-- one that's publicly happy for folks, the other that's privately miserable.

The trick is keeping the miserable piece in its appropriate personal place and let the happy side shine for the expecting folks. It's not that easy-- especially if you get blindsided in person. I'm getting better with practice, unfortunately.

Hugs. I told my mom and sister that it's rude to ask childbearing women about their TTC plans (you never know what's going on in their lives) in the context of someone else we know, and wonder of wonders, they've stopped asking me now. If your mom doesn't take gentle hints, you may need to bash her over the head with a plain old, "This subject is closed for discussion." It's your decision and life, not hers.

Hugs.

[hez]

Nope, it's not wrong. It's perfectly natural. I have two halves to my brain-- one that's publicly happy for folks, the other that's privately miserable.

The trick is keeping the miserable piece in its appropriate personal place and let the happy side shine for the expecting folks. It's not that easy-- especially if you get blindsided in person. I'm getting better with practice, unfortunately.

Hugs. I told my mom and sister that it's rude to ask childbearing women about their TTC plans (you never know what's going on in their lives) in the context of someone else we know, and wonder of wonders, they've stopped asking me now. If your mom doesn't take gentle hints, you may need to bash her over the head with a plain old, "This subject is closed for discussion." It's your decision and life, not hers.

Hugs.

[hez]

Nope, it's not wrong. It's perfectly natural. I have two halves to my brain-- one that's publicly happy for folks, the other that's privately miserable.

The trick is keeping the miserable piece in its appropriate personal place and let the happy side shine for the expecting folks. It's not that easy-- especially if you get blindsided in person. I'm getting better with practice, unfortunately.

Hugs. I told my mom and sister that it's rude to ask childbearing women about their TTC plans (you never know what's going on in their lives) in the context of someone else we know, and wonder of wonders, they've stopped asking me now. If your mom doesn't take gentle hints, you may need to bash her over the head with a plain old, "This subject is closed for discussion." It's your decision and life, not hers.

Hugs.

[hez]

Nope, it's not wrong. It's perfectly natural. I have two halves to my brain-- one that's publicly happy for folks, the other that's privately miserable.

The trick is keeping the miserable piece in its appropriate personal place and let the happy side shine for the expecting folks. It's not that easy-- especially if you get blindsided in person. I'm getting better with practice, unfortunately.

Hugs. I told my mom and sister that it's rude to ask childbearing women about their TTC plans (you never know what's going on in their lives) in the context of someone else we know, and wonder of wonders, they've stopped asking me now. If your mom doesn't take gentle hints, you may need to bash her over the head with a plain old, "This subject is closed for discussion." It's your decision and life, not hers.

Hugs.

[hez]

Nope, it's not wrong. It's perfectly natural. I have two halves to my brain-- one that's publicly happy for folks, the other that's privately miserable.

The trick is keeping the miserable piece in its appropriate personal place and let the happy side shine for the expecting folks. It's not that easy-- especially if you get blindsided in person. I'm getting better with practice, unfortunately.

Hugs. I told my mom and sister that it's rude to ask childbearing women about their TTC plans (you never know what's going on in their lives) in the context of someone else we know, and wonder of wonders, they've stopped asking me now. If your mom doesn't take gentle hints, you may need to bash her over the head with a plain old, "This subject is closed for discussion." It's your decision and life, not hers.

Hugs.

[hez]

Nope, it's not wrong. It's perfectly natural. I have two halves to my brain-- one that's publicly happy for folks, the other that's privately miserable.

The trick is keeping the miserable piece in its appropriate personal place and let the happy side shine for the expecting folks. It's not that easy-- especially if you get blindsided in person. I'm getting better with practice, unfortunately.

Hugs. I told my mom and sister that it's rude to ask childbearing women about their TTC plans (you never know what's going on in their lives) in the context of someone else we know, and wonder of wonders, they've stopped asking me now. If your mom doesn't take gentle hints, you may need to bash her over the head with a plain old, "This subject is closed for discussion." It's your decision and life, not hers.

Hugs.

[hez]

Nope, it's not wrong. It's perfectly natural. I have two halves to my brain-- one that's publicly happy for folks, the other that's privately miserable.

The trick is keeping the miserable piece in its appropriate personal place and let the happy side shine for the expecting folks. It's not that easy-- especially if you get blindsided in person. I'm getting better with practice, unfortunately.

Hugs. I told my mom and sister that it's rude to ask childbearing women about their TTC plans (you never know what's going on in their lives) in the context of someone else we know, and wonder of wonders, they've stopped asking me now. If your mom doesn't take gentle hints, you may need to bash her over the head with a plain old, "This subject is closed for discussion." It's your decision and life, not hers.

Hugs.

[mamato1]

Totally natural to feel jealous. DH and I have decided to just have one child. If it were completely up to me we would have a second one. So while I am truly at peace with our decision, I will admit to being jealous when friends of mine get pregnant. I am sad about never getting to be pregnant again.

Best of wishes to you as you try for #2!

Chris

Mama to Brendan (aka Boomer) 01/04


http://b3.lilypie.com/FnI6m5/.png

[mamato1]

Totally natural to feel jealous. DH and I have decided to just have one child. If it were completely up to me we would have a second one. So while I am truly at peace with our decision, I will admit to being jealous when friends of mine get pregnant. I am sad about never getting to be pregnant again.

Best of wishes to you as you try for #2!

Chris

Mama to Brendan (aka Boomer) 01/04


http://b3.lilypie.com/FnI6m5/.png

[mamato1]

Totally natural to feel jealous. DH and I have decided to just have one child. If it were completely up to me we would have a second one. So while I am truly at peace with our decision, I will admit to being jealous when friends of mine get pregnant. I am sad about never getting to be pregnant again.

Best of wishes to you as you try for #2!

Chris

Mama to Brendan (aka Boomer) 01/04


http://b3.lilypie.com/FnI6m5/.png

[mamato1]

Totally natural to feel jealous. DH and I have decided to just have one child. If it were completely up to me we would have a second one. So while I am truly at peace with our decision, I will admit to being jealous when friends of mine get pregnant. I am sad about never getting to be pregnant again.

Best of wishes to you as you try for #2!

Chris

Mama to Brendan (aka Boomer) 01/04


http://b3.lilypie.com/FnI6m5/.png

[mamato1]

Totally natural to feel jealous. DH and I have decided to just have one child. If it were completely up to me we would have a second one. So while I am truly at peace with our decision, I will admit to being jealous when friends of mine get pregnant. I am sad about never getting to be pregnant again.

Best of wishes to you as you try for #2!

Chris

Mama to Brendan (aka Boomer) 01/04


http://b3.lilypie.com/FnI6m5/.png

[mamato1]

Totally natural to feel jealous. DH and I have decided to just have one child. If it were completely up to me we would have a second one. So while I am truly at peace with our decision, I will admit to being jealous when friends of mine get pregnant. I am sad about never getting to be pregnant again.

Best of wishes to you as you try for #2!

Chris

Mama to Brendan (aka Boomer) 01/04


http://b3.lilypie.com/FnI6m5/.png

[mamato1]

Totally natural to feel jealous. DH and I have decided to just have one child. If it were completely up to me we would have a second one. So while I am truly at peace with our decision, I will admit to being jealous when friends of mine get pregnant. I am sad about never getting to be pregnant again.

Best of wishes to you as you try for #2!

Chris

Mama to Brendan (aka Boomer) 01/04


http://b3.lilypie.com/FnI6m5/.png

[mamato1]

Totally natural to feel jealous. DH and I have decided to just have one child. If it were completely up to me we would have a second one. So while I am truly at peace with our decision, I will admit to being jealous when friends of mine get pregnant. I am sad about never getting to be pregnant again.

Best of wishes to you as you try for #2!

Chris

Mama to Brendan (aka Boomer) 01/04


http://b3.lilypie.com/FnI6m5/.png

[mamato1]

Totally natural to feel jealous. DH and I have decided to just have one child. If it were completely up to me we would have a second one. So while I am truly at peace with our decision, I will admit to being jealous when friends of mine get pregnant. I am sad about never getting to be pregnant again.

Best of wishes to you as you try for #2!

Chris

Mama to Brendan (aka Boomer) 01/04


http://b3.lilypie.com/FnI6m5/.png

[KBecks]

I think it's normal to be jealous, and it's OK as long as it doesn't get in the way of your friendships. If it does, then it may be time to re-check the perspective.

[KBecks]

I think it's normal to be jealous, and it's OK as long as it doesn't get in the way of your friendships. If it does, then it may be time to re-check the perspective.

[KBecks]

I think it's normal to be jealous, and it's OK as long as it doesn't get in the way of your friendships. If it does, then it may be time to re-check the perspective.

[KBecks]

I think it's normal to be jealous, and it's OK as long as it doesn't get in the way of your friendships. If it does, then it may be time to re-check the perspective.

[KBecks]

I think it's normal to be jealous, and it's OK as long as it doesn't get in the way of your friendships. If it does, then it may be time to re-check the perspective.

[KBecks]

I think it's normal to be jealous, and it's OK as long as it doesn't get in the way of your friendships. If it does, then it may be time to re-check the perspective.

[KBecks]

I think it's normal to be jealous, and it's OK as long as it doesn't get in the way of your friendships. If it does, then it may be time to re-check the perspective.

[KBecks]

I think it's normal to be jealous, and it's OK as long as it doesn't get in the way of your friendships. If it does, then it may be time to re-check the perspective.

[KBecks]

I think it's normal to be jealous, and it's OK as long as it doesn't get in the way of your friendships. If it does, then it may be time to re-check the perspective.

[megs4413]

we're ttc right now and my best friend just had a pregnancy scare...she went off bc for no apparent reason and then her period was a week late...she took a test at my house today and i'm ashamed to say...i hoped it was negative! I couldn't take seeing another person get pg so easily when we've been trying and trying and can't get it to happen for us!

I relate to the....you just stay at home? thing....my aunt actually said, "but you're so smart! You should be DOING something with your life!" How unbelievably narrow-minded is that? I AM doing something with my life! I am raising my children! It's weird when peopel wonder what I do all day now that "Maddie is a big girl" like being 14 mos is being autonomus....she still can't do anything for herself! Sure she's not an infant, but honestly I think infants are easier cause you don't have to chase/entertain/discipline them. I get more sleep at night but get more worn out during the day!

I have learned that I can only receive validation from myself (and sometimes Dh) for the value of what I do. It also helps when I see DD learn a skill or a word that we've been working on during the day together. I also like thinking about the amazing bond that we are creating by having this special time just to us....only WE know what we do all day...only WE (ok really I) will remember these times together....it's just me and my girl (and hopefully a little bro or sis someday soon!) and it's like a special secret club...i know it's cheesy and dorky, but it helps to realize the exclusivity of it all--i didn't get stuck here, yk? I progressed to here...it's not a step backward from college...it's a step forward! It takes a remarkable amount of skill and determination and patience...and generousity...etc......etc.....

Raising a child is the most important job on earth and kudos to you for doing it!

[megs4413]

we're ttc right now and my best friend just had a pregnancy scare...she went off bc for no apparent reason and then her period was a week late...she took a test at my house today and i'm ashamed to say...i hoped it was negative! I couldn't take seeing another person get pg so easily when we've been trying and trying and can't get it to happen for us!

I relate to the....you just stay at home? thing....my aunt actually said, "but you're so smart! You should be DOING something with your life!" How unbelievably narrow-minded is that? I AM doing something with my life! I am raising my children! It's weird when peopel wonder what I do all day now that "Maddie is a big girl" like being 14 mos is being autonomus....she still can't do anything for herself! Sure she's not an infant, but honestly I think infants are easier cause you don't have to chase/entertain/discipline them. I get more sleep at night but get more worn out during the day!

I have learned that I can only receive validation from myself (and sometimes Dh) for the value of what I do. It also helps when I see DD learn a skill or a word that we've been working on during the day together. I also like thinking about the amazing bond that we are creating by having this special time just to us....only WE know what we do all day...only WE (ok really I) will remember these times together....it's just me and my girl (and hopefully a little bro or sis someday soon!) and it's like a special secret club...i know it's cheesy and dorky, but it helps to realize the exclusivity of it all--i didn't get stuck here, yk? I progressed to here...it's not a step backward from college...it's a step forward! It takes a remarkable amount of skill and determination and patience...and generousity...etc......etc.....

Raising a child is the most important job on earth and kudos to you for doing it!

[megs4413]

we're ttc right now and my best friend just had a pregnancy scare...she went off bc for no apparent reason and then her period was a week late...she took a test at my house today and i'm ashamed to say...i hoped it was negative! I couldn't take seeing another person get pg so easily when we've been trying and trying and can't get it to happen for us!

I relate to the....you just stay at home? thing....my aunt actually said, "but you're so smart! You should be DOING something with your life!" How unbelievably narrow-minded is that? I AM doing something with my life! I am raising my children! It's weird when peopel wonder what I do all day now that "Maddie is a big girl" like being 14 mos is being autonomus....she still can't do anything for herself! Sure she's not an infant, but honestly I think infants are easier cause you don't have to chase/entertain/discipline them. I get more sleep at night but get more worn out during the day!

I have learned that I can only receive validation from myself (and sometimes Dh) for the value of what I do. It also helps when I see DD learn a skill or a word that we've been working on during the day together. I also like thinking about the amazing bond that we are creating by having this special time just to us....only WE know what we do all day...only WE (ok really I) will remember these times together....it's just me and my girl (and hopefully a little bro or sis someday soon!) and it's like a special secret club...i know it's cheesy and dorky, but it helps to realize the exclusivity of it all--i didn't get stuck here, yk? I progressed to here...it's not a step backward from college...it's a step forward! It takes a remarkable amount of skill and determination and patience...and generousity...etc......etc.....

Raising a child is the most important job on earth and kudos to you for doing it!

[megs4413]

we're ttc right now and my best friend just had a pregnancy scare...she went off bc for no apparent reason and then her period was a week late...she took a test at my house today and i'm ashamed to say...i hoped it was negative! I couldn't take seeing another person get pg so easily when we've been trying and trying and can't get it to happen for us!

I relate to the....you just stay at home? thing....my aunt actually said, "but you're so smart! You should be DOING something with your life!" How unbelievably narrow-minded is that? I AM doing something with my life! I am raising my children! It's weird when peopel wonder what I do all day now that "Maddie is a big girl" like being 14 mos is being autonomus....she still can't do anything for herself! Sure she's not an infant, but honestly I think infants are easier cause you don't have to chase/entertain/discipline them. I get more sleep at night but get more worn out during the day!

I have learned that I can only receive validation from myself (and sometimes Dh) for the value of what I do. It also helps when I see DD learn a skill or a word that we've been working on during the day together. I also like thinking about the amazing bond that we are creating by having this special time just to us....only WE know what we do all day...only WE (ok really I) will remember these times together....it's just me and my girl (and hopefully a little bro or sis someday soon!) and it's like a special secret club...i know it's cheesy and dorky, but it helps to realize the exclusivity of it all--i didn't get stuck here, yk? I progressed to here...it's not a step backward from college...it's a step forward! It takes a remarkable amount of skill and determination and patience...and generousity...etc......etc.....

Raising a child is the most important job on earth and kudos to you for doing it!

[megs4413]

we're ttc right now and my best friend just had a pregnancy scare...she went off bc for no apparent reason and then her period was a week late...she took a test at my house today and i'm ashamed to say...i hoped it was negative! I couldn't take seeing another person get pg so easily when we've been trying and trying and can't get it to happen for us!

I relate to the....you just stay at home? thing....my aunt actually said, "but you're so smart! You should be DOING something with your life!" How unbelievably narrow-minded is that? I AM doing something with my life! I am raising my children! It's weird when peopel wonder what I do all day now that "Maddie is a big girl" like being 14 mos is being autonomus....she still can't do anything for herself! Sure she's not an infant, but honestly I think infants are easier cause you don't have to chase/entertain/discipline them. I get more sleep at night but get more worn out during the day!

I have learned that I can only receive validation from myself (and sometimes Dh) for the value of what I do. It also helps when I see DD learn a skill or a word that we've been working on during the day together. I also like thinking about the amazing bond that we are creating by having this special time just to us....only WE know what we do all day...only WE (ok really I) will remember these times together....it's just me and my girl (and hopefully a little bro or sis someday soon!) and it's like a special secret club...i know it's cheesy and dorky, but it helps to realize the exclusivity of it all--i didn't get stuck here, yk? I progressed to here...it's not a step backward from college...it's a step forward! It takes a remarkable amount of skill and determination and patience...and generousity...etc......etc.....

Raising a child is the most important job on earth and kudos to you for doing it!

[megs4413]

we're ttc right now and my best friend just had a pregnancy scare...she went off bc for no apparent reason and then her period was a week late...she took a test at my house today and i'm ashamed to say...i hoped it was negative! I couldn't take seeing another person get pg so easily when we've been trying and trying and can't get it to happen for us!

I relate to the....you just stay at home? thing....my aunt actually said, "but you're so smart! You should be DOING something with your life!" How unbelievably narrow-minded is that? I AM doing something with my life! I am raising my children! It's weird when peopel wonder what I do all day now that "Maddie is a big girl" like being 14 mos is being autonomus....she still can't do anything for herself! Sure she's not an infant, but honestly I think infants are easier cause you don't have to chase/entertain/discipline them. I get more sleep at night but get more worn out during the day!

I have learned that I can only receive validation from myself (and sometimes Dh) for the value of what I do. It also helps when I see DD learn a skill or a word that we've been working on during the day together. I also like thinking about the amazing bond that we are creating by having this special time just to us....only WE know what we do all day...only WE (ok really I) will remember these times together....it's just me and my girl (and hopefully a little bro or sis someday soon!) and it's like a special secret club...i know it's cheesy and dorky, but it helps to realize the exclusivity of it all--i didn't get stuck here, yk? I progressed to here...it's not a step backward from college...it's a step forward! It takes a remarkable amount of skill and determination and patience...and generousity...etc......etc.....

Raising a child is the most important job on earth and kudos to you for doing it!

[megs4413]

we're ttc right now and my best friend just had a pregnancy scare...she went off bc for no apparent reason and then her period was a week late...she took a test at my house today and i'm ashamed to say...i hoped it was negative! I couldn't take seeing another person get pg so easily when we've been trying and trying and can't get it to happen for us!

I relate to the....you just stay at home? thing....my aunt actually said, "but you're so smart! You should be DOING something with your life!" How unbelievably narrow-minded is that? I AM doing something with my life! I am raising my children! It's weird when peopel wonder what I do all day now that "Maddie is a big girl" like being 14 mos is being autonomus....she still can't do anything for herself! Sure she's not an infant, but honestly I think infants are easier cause you don't have to chase/entertain/discipline them. I get more sleep at night but get more worn out during the day!

I have learned that I can only receive validation from myself (and sometimes Dh) for the value of what I do. It also helps when I see DD learn a skill or a word that we've been working on during the day together. I also like thinking about the amazing bond that we are creating by having this special time just to us....only WE know what we do all day...only WE (ok really I) will remember these times together....it's just me and my girl (and hopefully a little bro or sis someday soon!) and it's like a special secret club...i know it's cheesy and dorky, but it helps to realize the exclusivity of it all--i didn't get stuck here, yk? I progressed to here...it's not a step backward from college...it's a step forward! It takes a remarkable amount of skill and determination and patience...and generousity...etc......etc.....

Raising a child is the most important job on earth and kudos to you for doing it!

[megs4413]

we're ttc right now and my best friend just had a pregnancy scare...she went off bc for no apparent reason and then her period was a week late...she took a test at my house today and i'm ashamed to say...i hoped it was negative! I couldn't take seeing another person get pg so easily when we've been trying and trying and can't get it to happen for us!

I relate to the....you just stay at home? thing....my aunt actually said, "but you're so smart! You should be DOING something with your life!" How unbelievably narrow-minded is that? I AM doing something with my life! I am raising my children! It's weird when peopel wonder what I do all day now that "Maddie is a big girl" like being 14 mos is being autonomus....she still can't do anything for herself! Sure she's not an infant, but honestly I think infants are easier cause you don't have to chase/entertain/discipline them. I get more sleep at night but get more worn out during the day!

I have learned that I can only receive validation from myself (and sometimes Dh) for the value of what I do. It also helps when I see DD learn a skill or a word that we've been working on during the day together. I also like thinking about the amazing bond that we are creating by having this special time just to us....only WE know what we do all day...only WE (ok really I) will remember these times together....it's just me and my girl (and hopefully a little bro or sis someday soon!) and it's like a special secret club...i know it's cheesy and dorky, but it helps to realize the exclusivity of it all--i didn't get stuck here, yk? I progressed to here...it's not a step backward from college...it's a step forward! It takes a remarkable amount of skill and determination and patience...and generousity...etc......etc.....

Raising a child is the most important job on earth and kudos to you for doing it!

[megs4413]

we're ttc right now and my best friend just had a pregnancy scare...she went off bc for no apparent reason and then her period was a week late...she took a test at my house today and i'm ashamed to say...i hoped it was negative! I couldn't take seeing another person get pg so easily when we've been trying and trying and can't get it to happen for us!

I relate to the....you just stay at home? thing....my aunt actually said, "but you're so smart! You should be DOING something with your life!" How unbelievably narrow-minded is that? I AM doing something with my life! I am raising my children! It's weird when peopel wonder what I do all day now that "Maddie is a big girl" like being 14 mos is being autonomus....she still can't do anything for herself! Sure she's not an infant, but honestly I think infants are easier cause you don't have to chase/entertain/discipline them. I get more sleep at night but get more worn out during the day!

I have learned that I can only receive validation from myself (and sometimes Dh) for the value of what I do. It also helps when I see DD learn a skill or a word that we've been working on during the day together. I also like thinking about the amazing bond that we are creating by having this special time just to us....only WE know what we do all day...only WE (ok really I) will remember these times together....it's just me and my girl (and hopefully a little bro or sis someday soon!) and it's like a special secret club...i know it's cheesy and dorky, but it helps to realize the exclusivity of it all--i didn't get stuck here, yk? I progressed to here...it's not a step backward from college...it's a step forward! It takes a remarkable amount of skill and determination and patience...and generousity...etc......etc.....

Raising a child is the most important job on earth and kudos to you for doing it!

[randomkid]

Hi there - haven't seen you here in a while. Hope you are doing well. I don't think it's unusual or bad to feel envious. It's only bad if you aren't happy for your friends at the same time. I would love to have #2, but really don't think it will happen for us for many reasons. I am insanely jealous every time someone I know announces their pregnancy, but I also feel very excited for them at the same time and love to talk with them about it. I have helped friends register and have given advice to pregnant friends often. I love it! At the same time, I feel inside that I wish I could have another. But, I remind myself how lucky I am to have DD and look at my friends who are already in their 40s, not married with no prospects and think how they may never have a child of their own. I then feel so fortunate. I have a good friend who would be an awesome mother, but due to life circumstances never had a child. Whenever I start to feel jealous, I think of how she must feel about my life. She would probably give anything to have had just one. Stupid me, I have even mentioned to her before how I "never wanted to have just one" and she answered "one is just fine". I haven't done that again.

I really think that you will continue to have difficulty conceiving if you continue to put so much pressure on yourself and continue to feel so much stress. It took us 8 months to conceive and it finally happened when I sort of gave up and said, whatever happens. My OB wanted me to go to a fertility specialist, but I decided to wait one more month. I started to feel like maybe it wasn't meant to be and I put away the thermometer and the ovulation kits. I think that once I took that stress off myself, that's when I got pregnant.

Don't be so hard on yourself and try not to worry about what others think and say about your life choices. If you and your DH are happy with your choices, that's all that matters. Being a SAHM is one of the most important jobs in the world and you are fortunate that you can financially manage it. Finances (namely child support, half the cost of braces and soon, half the cost of college) are what keeps us from having another. How do you think I feel when child support is the reason I can't have another and DH's ex has 4 kids, doesn't work and takes the two babies (from her current marriage) to a sitter 3x a week? Do you think she really needs our money when her DH makes tons of money? However, I knew going into this marriage that finances would be an issue and that is the choice I made. I would rather have one DC with my DH, than to have multiple children with someone else. I am envious of you that you can stay home and even consider another. Try to look at your blessings and go from there. You can always go back to work when your kids are in school if that is what you choose to do.

Relax and enjoy your DS and your "efforts" to have another!

[randomkid]

Hi there - haven't seen you here in a while. Hope you are doing well. I don't think it's unusual or bad to feel envious. It's only bad if you aren't happy for your friends at the same time. I would love to have #2, but really don't think it will happen for us for many reasons. I am insanely jealous every time someone I know announces their pregnancy, but I also feel very excited for them at the same time and love to talk with them about it. I have helped friends register and have given advice to pregnant friends often. I love it! At the same time, I feel inside that I wish I could have another. But, I remind myself how lucky I am to have DD and look at my friends who are already in their 40s, not married with no prospects and think how they may never have a child of their own. I then feel so fortunate. I have a good friend who would be an awesome mother, but due to life circumstances never had a child. Whenever I start to feel jealous, I think of how she must feel about my life. She would probably give anything to have had just one. Stupid me, I have even mentioned to her before how I "never wanted to have just one" and she answered "one is just fine". I haven't done that again.

I really think that you will continue to have difficulty conceiving if you continue to put so much pressure on yourself and continue to feel so much stress. It took us 8 months to conceive and it finally happened when I sort of gave up and said, whatever happens. My OB wanted me to go to a fertility specialist, but I decided to wait one more month. I started to feel like maybe it wasn't meant to be and I put away the thermometer and the ovulation kits. I think that once I took that stress off myself, that's when I got pregnant.

Don't be so hard on yourself and try not to worry about what others think and say about your life choices. If you and your DH are happy with your choices, that's all that matters. Being a SAHM is one of the most important jobs in the world and you are fortunate that you can financially manage it. Finances (namely child support, half the cost of braces and soon, half the cost of college) are what keeps us from having another. How do you think I feel when child support is the reason I can't have another and DH's ex has 4 kids, doesn't work and takes the two babies (from her current marriage) to a sitter 3x a week? Do you think she really needs our money when her DH makes tons of money? However, I knew going into this marriage that finances would be an issue and that is the choice I made. I would rather have one DC with my DH, than to have multiple children with someone else. I am envious of you that you can stay home and even consider another. Try to look at your blessings and go from there. You can always go back to work when your kids are in school if that is what you choose to do.

Relax and enjoy your DS and your "efforts" to have another!

[randomkid]

Hi there - haven't seen you here in a while. Hope you are doing well. I don't think it's unusual or bad to feel envious. It's only bad if you aren't happy for your friends at the same time. I would love to have #2, but really don't think it will happen for us for many reasons. I am insanely jealous every time someone I know announces their pregnancy, but I also feel very excited for them at the same time and love to talk with them about it. I have helped friends register and have given advice to pregnant friends often. I love it! At the same time, I feel inside that I wish I could have another. But, I remind myself how lucky I am to have DD and look at my friends who are already in their 40s, not married with no prospects and think how they may never have a child of their own. I then feel so fortunate. I have a good friend who would be an awesome mother, but due to life circumstances never had a child. Whenever I start to feel jealous, I think of how she must feel about my life. She would probably give anything to have had just one. Stupid me, I have even mentioned to her before how I "never wanted to have just one" and she answered "one is just fine". I haven't done that again.

I really think that you will continue to have difficulty conceiving if you continue to put so much pressure on yourself and continue to feel so much stress. It took us 8 months to conceive and it finally happened when I sort of gave up and said, whatever happens. My OB wanted me to go to a fertility specialist, but I decided to wait one more month. I started to feel like maybe it wasn't meant to be and I put away the thermometer and the ovulation kits. I think that once I took that stress off myself, that's when I got pregnant.

Don't be so hard on yourself and try not to worry about what others think and say about your life choices. If you and your DH are happy with your choices, that's all that matters. Being a SAHM is one of the most important jobs in the world and you are fortunate that you can financially manage it. Finances (namely child support, half the cost of braces and soon, half the cost of college) are what keeps us from having another. How do you think I feel when child support is the reason I can't have another and DH's ex has 4 kids, doesn't work and takes the two babies (from her current marriage) to a sitter 3x a week? Do you think she really needs our money when her DH makes tons of money? However, I knew going into this marriage that finances would be an issue and that is the choice I made. I would rather have one DC with my DH, than to have multiple children with someone else. I am envious of you that you can stay home and even consider another. Try to look at your blessings and go from there. You can always go back to work when your kids are in school if that is what you choose to do.

Relax and enjoy your DS and your "efforts" to have another!

[randomkid]

Hi there - haven't seen you here in a while. Hope you are doing well. I don't think it's unusual or bad to feel envious. It's only bad if you aren't happy for your friends at the same time. I would love to have #2, but really don't think it will happen for us for many reasons. I am insanely jealous every time someone I know announces their pregnancy, but I also feel very excited for them at the same time and love to talk with them about it. I have helped friends register and have given advice to pregnant friends often. I love it! At the same time, I feel inside that I wish I could have another. But, I remind myself how lucky I am to have DD and look at my friends who are already in their 40s, not married with no prospects and think how they may never have a child of their own. I then feel so fortunate. I have a good friend who would be an awesome mother, but due to life circumstances never had a child. Whenever I start to feel jealous, I think of how she must feel about my life. She would probably give anything to have had just one. Stupid me, I have even mentioned to her before how I "never wanted to have just one" and she answered "one is just fine". I haven't done that again.

I really think that you will continue to have difficulty conceiving if you continue to put so much pressure on yourself and continue to feel so much stress. It took us 8 months to conceive and it finally happened when I sort of gave up and said, whatever happens. My OB wanted me to go to a fertility specialist, but I decided to wait one more month. I started to feel like maybe it wasn't meant to be and I put away the thermometer and the ovulation kits. I think that once I took that stress off myself, that's when I got pregnant.

Don't be so hard on yourself and try not to worry about what others think and say about your life choices. If you and your DH are happy with your choices, that's all that matters. Being a SAHM is one of the most important jobs in the world and you are fortunate that you can financially manage it. Finances (namely child support, half the cost of braces and soon, half the cost of college) are what keeps us from having another. How do you think I feel when child support is the reason I can't have another and DH's ex has 4 kids, doesn't work and takes the two babies (from her current marriage) to a sitter 3x a week? Do you think she really needs our money when her DH makes tons of money? However, I knew going into this marriage that finances would be an issue and that is the choice I made. I would rather have one DC with my DH, than to have multiple children with someone else. I am envious of you that you can stay home and even consider another. Try to look at your blessings and go from there. You can always go back to work when your kids are in school if that is what you choose to do.

Relax and enjoy your DS and your "efforts" to have another!

[randomkid]

Hi there - haven't seen you here in a while. Hope you are doing well. I don't think it's unusual or bad to feel envious. It's only bad if you aren't happy for your friends at the same time. I would love to have #2, but really don't think it will happen for us for many reasons. I am insanely jealous every time someone I know announces their pregnancy, but I also feel very excited for them at the same time and love to talk with them about it. I have helped friends register and have given advice to pregnant friends often. I love it! At the same time, I feel inside that I wish I could have another. But, I remind myself how lucky I am to have DD and look at my friends who are already in their 40s, not married with no prospects and think how they may never have a child of their own. I then feel so fortunate. I have a good friend who would be an awesome mother, but due to life circumstances never had a child. Whenever I start to feel jealous, I think of how she must feel about my life. She would probably give anything to have had just one. Stupid me, I have even mentioned to her before how I "never wanted to have just one" and she answered "one is just fine". I haven't done that again.

I really think that you will continue to have difficulty conceiving if you continue to put so much pressure on yourself and continue to feel so much stress. It took us 8 months to conceive and it finally happened when I sort of gave up and said, whatever happens. My OB wanted me to go to a fertility specialist, but I decided to wait one more month. I started to feel like maybe it wasn't meant to be and I put away the thermometer and the ovulation kits. I think that once I took that stress off myself, that's when I got pregnant.

Don't be so hard on yourself and try not to worry about what others think and say about your life choices. If you and your DH are happy with your choices, that's all that matters. Being a SAHM is one of the most important jobs in the world and you are fortunate that you can financially manage it. Finances (namely child support, half the cost of braces and soon, half the cost of college) are what keeps us from having another. How do you think I feel when child support is the reason I can't have another and DH's ex has 4 kids, doesn't work and takes the two babies (from her current marriage) to a sitter 3x a week? Do you think she really needs our money when her DH makes tons of money? However, I knew going into this marriage that finances would be an issue and that is the choice I made. I would rather have one DC with my DH, than to have multiple children with someone else. I am envious of you that you can stay home and even consider another. Try to look at your blessings and go from there. You can always go back to work when your kids are in school if that is what you choose to do.

Relax and enjoy your DS and your "efforts" to have another!

[randomkid]

Hi there - haven't seen you here in a while. Hope you are doing well. I don't think it's unusual or bad to feel envious. It's only bad if you aren't happy for your friends at the same time. I would love to have #2, but really don't think it will happen for us for many reasons. I am insanely jealous every time someone I know announces their pregnancy, but I also feel very excited for them at the same time and love to talk with them about it. I have helped friends register and have given advice to pregnant friends often. I love it! At the same time, I feel inside that I wish I could have another. But, I remind myself how lucky I am to have DD and look at my friends who are already in their 40s, not married with no prospects and think how they may never have a child of their own. I then feel so fortunate. I have a good friend who would be an awesome mother, but due to life circumstances never had a child. Whenever I start to feel jealous, I think of how she must feel about my life. She would probably give anything to have had just one. Stupid me, I have even mentioned to her before how I "never wanted to have just one" and she answered "one is just fine". I haven't done that again.

I really think that you will continue to have difficulty conceiving if you continue to put so much pressure on yourself and continue to feel so much stress. It took us 8 months to conceive and it finally happened when I sort of gave up and said, whatever happens. My OB wanted me to go to a fertility specialist, but I decided to wait one more month. I started to feel like maybe it wasn't meant to be and I put away the thermometer and the ovulation kits. I think that once I took that stress off myself, that's when I got pregnant.

Don't be so hard on yourself and try not to worry about what others think and say about your life choices. If you and your DH are happy with your choices, that's all that matters. Being a SAHM is one of the most important jobs in the world and you are fortunate that you can financially manage it. Finances (namely child support, half the cost of braces and soon, half the cost of college) are what keeps us from having another. How do you think I feel when child support is the reason I can't have another and DH's ex has 4 kids, doesn't work and takes the two babies (from her current marriage) to a sitter 3x a week? Do you think she really needs our money when her DH makes tons of money? However, I knew going into this marriage that finances would be an issue and that is the choice I made. I would rather have one DC with my DH, than to have multiple children with someone else. I am envious of you that you can stay home and even consider another. Try to look at your blessings and go from there. You can always go back to work when your kids are in school if that is what you choose to do.

Relax and enjoy your DS and your "efforts" to have another!

[randomkid]

Hi there - haven't seen you here in a while. Hope you are doing well. I don't think it's unusual or bad to feel envious. It's only bad if you aren't happy for your friends at the same time. I would love to have #2, but really don't think it will happen for us for many reasons. I am insanely jealous every time someone I know announces their pregnancy, but I also feel very excited for them at the same time and love to talk with them about it. I have helped friends register and have given advice to pregnant friends often. I love it! At the same time, I feel inside that I wish I could have another. But, I remind myself how lucky I am to have DD and look at my friends who are already in their 40s, not married with no prospects and think how they may never have a child of their own. I then feel so fortunate. I have a good friend who would be an awesome mother, but due to life circumstances never had a child. Whenever I start to feel jealous, I think of how she must feel about my life. She would probably give anything to have had just one. Stupid me, I have even mentioned to her before how I "never wanted to have just one" and she answered "one is just fine". I haven't done that again.

I really think that you will continue to have difficulty conceiving if you continue to put so much pressure on yourself and continue to feel so much stress. It took us 8 months to conceive and it finally happened when I sort of gave up and said, whatever happens. My OB wanted me to go to a fertility specialist, but I decided to wait one more month. I started to feel like maybe it wasn't meant to be and I put away the thermometer and the ovulation kits. I think that once I took that stress off myself, that's when I got pregnant.

Don't be so hard on yourself and try not to worry about what others think and say about your life choices. If you and your DH are happy with your choices, that's all that matters. Being a SAHM is one of the most important jobs in the world and you are fortunate that you can financially manage it. Finances (namely child support, half the cost of braces and soon, half the cost of college) are what keeps us from having another. How do you think I feel when child support is the reason I can't have another and DH's ex has 4 kids, doesn't work and takes the two babies (from her current marriage) to a sitter 3x a week? Do you think she really needs our money when her DH makes tons of money? However, I knew going into this marriage that finances would be an issue and that is the choice I made. I would rather have one DC with my DH, than to have multiple children with someone else. I am envious of you that you can stay home and even consider another. Try to look at your blessings and go from there. You can always go back to work when your kids are in school if that is what you choose to do.

Relax and enjoy your DS and your "efforts" to have another!

[randomkid]

Hi there - haven't seen you here in a while. Hope you are doing well. I don't think it's unusual or bad to feel envious. It's only bad if you aren't happy for your friends at the same time. I would love to have #2, but really don't think it will happen for us for many reasons. I am insanely jealous every time someone I know announces their pregnancy, but I also feel very excited for them at the same time and love to talk with them about it. I have helped friends register and have given advice to pregnant friends often. I love it! At the same time, I feel inside that I wish I could have another. But, I remind myself how lucky I am to have DD and look at my friends who are already in their 40s, not married with no prospects and think how they may never have a child of their own. I then feel so fortunate. I have a good friend who would be an awesome mother, but due to life circumstances never had a child. Whenever I start to feel jealous, I think of how she must feel about my life. She would probably give anything to have had just one. Stupid me, I have even mentioned to her before how I "never wanted to have just one" and she answered "one is just fine". I haven't done that again.

I really think that you will continue to have difficulty conceiving if you continue to put so much pressure on yourself and continue to feel so much stress. It took us 8 months to conceive and it finally happened when I sort of gave up and said, whatever happens. My OB wanted me to go to a fertility specialist, but I decided to wait one more month. I started to feel like maybe it wasn't meant to be and I put away the thermometer and the ovulation kits. I think that once I took that stress off myself, that's when I got pregnant.

Don't be so hard on yourself and try not to worry about what others think and say about your life choices. If you and your DH are happy with your choices, that's all that matters. Being a SAHM is one of the most important jobs in the world and you are fortunate that you can financially manage it. Finances (namely child support, half the cost of braces and soon, half the cost of college) are what keeps us from having another. How do you think I feel when child support is the reason I can't have another and DH's ex has 4 kids, doesn't work and takes the two babies (from her current marriage) to a sitter 3x a week? Do you think she really needs our money when her DH makes tons of money? However, I knew going into this marriage that finances would be an issue and that is the choice I made. I would rather have one DC with my DH, than to have multiple children with someone else. I am envious of you that you can stay home and even consider another. Try to look at your blessings and go from there. You can always go back to work when your kids are in school if that is what you choose to do.

Relax and enjoy your DS and your "efforts" to have another!

[randomkid]

Hi there - haven't seen you here in a while. Hope you are doing well. I don't think it's unusual or bad to feel envious. It's only bad if you aren't happy for your friends at the same time. I would love to have #2, but really don't think it will happen for us for many reasons. I am insanely jealous every time someone I know announces their pregnancy, but I also feel very excited for them at the same time and love to talk with them about it. I have helped friends register and have given advice to pregnant friends often. I love it! At the same time, I feel inside that I wish I could have another. But, I remind myself how lucky I am to have DD and look at my friends who are already in their 40s, not married with no prospects and think how they may never have a child of their own. I then feel so fortunate. I have a good friend who would be an awesome mother, but due to life circumstances never had a child. Whenever I start to feel jealous, I think of how she must feel about my life. She would probably give anything to have had just one. Stupid me, I have even mentioned to her before how I "never wanted to have just one" and she answered "one is just fine". I haven't done that again.

I really think that you will continue to have difficulty conceiving if you continue to put so much pressure on yourself and continue to feel so much stress. It took us 8 months to conceive and it finally happened when I sort of gave up and said, whatever happens. My OB wanted me to go to a fertility specialist, but I decided to wait one more month. I started to feel like maybe it wasn't meant to be and I put away the thermometer and the ovulation kits. I think that once I took that stress off myself, that's when I got pregnant.

Don't be so hard on yourself and try not to worry about what others think and say about your life choices. If you and your DH are happy with your choices, that's all that matters. Being a SAHM is one of the most important jobs in the world and you are fortunate that you can financially manage it. Finances (namely child support, half the cost of braces and soon, half the cost of college) are what keeps us from having another. How do you think I feel when child support is the reason I can't have another and DH's ex has 4 kids, doesn't work and takes the two babies (from her current marriage) to a sitter 3x a week? Do you think she really needs our money when her DH makes tons of money? However, I knew going into this marriage that finances would be an issue and that is the choice I made. I would rather have one DC with my DH, than to have multiple children with someone else. I am envious of you that you can stay home and even consider another. Try to look at your blessings and go from there. You can always go back to work when your kids are in school if that is what you choose to do.

Relax and enjoy your DS and your "efforts" to have another!

[kijip]

It is not wrong. However, I felt 100% better when I avoided that emotion. It really does not help you, especially while TTC. Also, you can be glad to have some spacing. Try and focus on the positives. Sorry I don't have better advice.

[kijip]

It is not wrong. However, I felt 100% better when I avoided that emotion. It really does not help you, especially while TTC. Also, you can be glad to have some spacing. Try and focus on the positives. Sorry I don't have better advice.

[kijip]

It is not wrong. However, I felt 100% better when I avoided that emotion. It really does not help you, especially while TTC. Also, you can be glad to have some spacing. Try and focus on the positives. Sorry I don't have better advice.

[kijip]

It is not wrong. However, I felt 100% better when I avoided that emotion. It really does not help you, especially while TTC. Also, you can be glad to have some spacing. Try and focus on the positives. Sorry I don't have better advice.

[kijip]

It is not wrong. However, I felt 100% better when I avoided that emotion. It really does not help you, especially while TTC. Also, you can be glad to have some spacing. Try and focus on the positives. Sorry I don't have better advice.

[kijip]

It is not wrong. However, I felt 100% better when I avoided that emotion. It really does not help you, especially while TTC. Also, you can be glad to have some spacing. Try and focus on the positives. Sorry I don't have better advice.

[kijip]

It is not wrong. However, I felt 100% better when I avoided that emotion. It really does not help you, especially while TTC. Also, you can be glad to have some spacing. Try and focus on the positives. Sorry I don't have better advice.

[kijip]

It is not wrong. However, I felt 100% better when I avoided that emotion. It really does not help you, especially while TTC. Also, you can be glad to have some spacing. Try and focus on the positives. Sorry I don't have better advice.

[kijip]

It is not wrong. However, I felt 100% better when I avoided that emotion. It really does not help you, especially while TTC. Also, you can be glad to have some spacing. Try and focus on the positives. Sorry I don't have better advice.

[alicia67]

When DH and I were TTC I was miserable whenever I learned of pregnancies. Not so much with my friends, I could handle that okay because my friendships mean a lot to me, but with the acquaintances and such. I literaly wished evil things on them. One day I learned that a coworker, who had had a m/c a couple months before was pregnant again. I called DH to him about it and said I hoped she had another m/c. Later on, I found out she and another coworker had overheard me. Not my proudest moment at all. But it happened and that's where I was at the time. Looking back, I just wanted everyone around me to have to experience the heartache I experienced- a poor me pity party.

After ten+ years of TTC and all that goes with that, DH and I became foster parents with the ultimate goal of adopting. Although I have twinges of jealousy here and there, it seems to have subsided and I'm feeling more content with the twists my life has taken.

So, I guess my thoughts are, try not to beat yourself up about it but allow yourself to feel what you feel. Maybe put less value in what others think you should be doing and more value on what you want to do with your life. It's your life, not theirs!

[alicia67]

When DH and I were TTC I was miserable whenever I learned of pregnancies. Not so much with my friends, I could handle that okay because my friendships mean a lot to me, but with the acquaintances and such. I literaly wished evil things on them. One day I learned that a coworker, who had had a m/c a couple months before was pregnant again. I called DH to him about it and said I hoped she had another m/c. Later on, I found out she and another coworker had overheard me. Not my proudest moment at all. But it happened and that's where I was at the time. Looking back, I just wanted everyone around me to have to experience the heartache I experienced- a poor me pity party.

After ten+ years of TTC and all that goes with that, DH and I became foster parents with the ultimate goal of adopting. Although I have twinges of jealousy here and there, it seems to have subsided and I'm feeling more content with the twists my life has taken.

So, I guess my thoughts are, try not to beat yourself up about it but allow yourself to feel what you feel. Maybe put less value in what others think you should be doing and more value on what you want to do with your life. It's your life, not theirs!

[alicia67]

When DH and I were TTC I was miserable whenever I learned of pregnancies. Not so much with my friends, I could handle that okay because my friendships mean a lot to me, but with the acquaintances and such. I literaly wished evil things on them. One day I learned that a coworker, who had had a m/c a couple months before was pregnant again. I called DH to him about it and said I hoped she had another m/c. Later on, I found out she and another coworker had overheard me. Not my proudest moment at all. But it happened and that's where I was at the time. Looking back, I just wanted everyone around me to have to experience the heartache I experienced- a poor me pity party.

After ten+ years of TTC and all that goes with that, DH and I became foster parents with the ultimate goal of adopting. Although I have twinges of jealousy here and there, it seems to have subsided and I'm feeling more content with the twists my life has taken.

So, I guess my thoughts are, try not to beat yourself up about it but allow yourself to feel what you feel. Maybe put less value in what others think you should be doing and more value on what you want to do with your life. It's your life, not theirs!

[alicia67]

When DH and I were TTC I was miserable whenever I learned of pregnancies. Not so much with my friends, I could handle that okay because my friendships mean a lot to me, but with the acquaintances and such. I literaly wished evil things on them. One day I learned that a coworker, who had had a m/c a couple months before was pregnant again. I called DH to him about it and said I hoped she had another m/c. Later on, I found out she and another coworker had overheard me. Not my proudest moment at all. But it happened and that's where I was at the time. Looking back, I just wanted everyone around me to have to experience the heartache I experienced- a poor me pity party.

After ten+ years of TTC and all that goes with that, DH and I became foster parents with the ultimate goal of adopting. Although I have twinges of jealousy here and there, it seems to have subsided and I'm feeling more content with the twists my life has taken.

So, I guess my thoughts are, try not to beat yourself up about it but allow yourself to feel what you feel. Maybe put less value in what others think you should be doing and more value on what you want to do with your life. It's your life, not theirs!

[alicia67]

When DH and I were TTC I was miserable whenever I learned of pregnancies. Not so much with my friends, I could handle that okay because my friendships mean a lot to me, but with the acquaintances and such. I literaly wished evil things on them. One day I learned that a coworker, who had had a m/c a couple months before was pregnant again. I called DH to him about it and said I hoped she had another m/c. Later on, I found out she and another coworker had overheard me. Not my proudest moment at all. But it happened and that's where I was at the time. Looking back, I just wanted everyone around me to have to experience the heartache I experienced- a poor me pity party.

After ten+ years of TTC and all that goes with that, DH and I became foster parents with the ultimate goal of adopting. Although I have twinges of jealousy here and there, it seems to have subsided and I'm feeling more content with the twists my life has taken.

So, I guess my thoughts are, try not to beat yourself up about it but allow yourself to feel what you feel. Maybe put less value in what others think you should be doing and more value on what you want to do with your life. It's your life, not theirs!

[alicia67]

When DH and I were TTC I was miserable whenever I learned of pregnancies. Not so much with my friends, I could handle that okay because my friendships mean a lot to me, but with the acquaintances and such. I literaly wished evil things on them. One day I learned that a coworker, who had had a m/c a couple months before was pregnant again. I called DH to him about it and said I hoped she had another m/c. Later on, I found out she and another coworker had overheard me. Not my proudest moment at all. But it happened and that's where I was at the time. Looking back, I just wanted everyone around me to have to experience the heartache I experienced- a poor me pity party.

After ten+ years of TTC and all that goes with that, DH and I became foster parents with the ultimate goal of adopting. Although I have twinges of jealousy here and there, it seems to have subsided and I'm feeling more content with the twists my life has taken.

So, I guess my thoughts are, try not to beat yourself up about it but allow yourself to feel what you feel. Maybe put less value in what others think you should be doing and more value on what you want to do with your life. It's your life, not theirs!

[alicia67]

When DH and I were TTC I was miserable whenever I learned of pregnancies. Not so much with my friends, I could handle that okay because my friendships mean a lot to me, but with the acquaintances and such. I literaly wished evil things on them. One day I learned that a coworker, who had had a m/c a couple months before was pregnant again. I called DH to him about it and said I hoped she had another m/c. Later on, I found out she and another coworker had overheard me. Not my proudest moment at all. But it happened and that's where I was at the time. Looking back, I just wanted everyone around me to have to experience the heartache I experienced- a poor me pity party.

After ten+ years of TTC and all that goes with that, DH and I became foster parents with the ultimate goal of adopting. Although I have twinges of jealousy here and there, it seems to have subsided and I'm feeling more content with the twists my life has taken.

So, I guess my thoughts are, try not to beat yourself up about it but allow yourself to feel what you feel. Maybe put less value in what others think you should be doing and more value on what you want to do with your life. It's your life, not theirs!

[alicia67]

When DH and I were TTC I was miserable whenever I learned of pregnancies. Not so much with my friends, I could handle that okay because my friendships mean a lot to me, but with the acquaintances and such. I literaly wished evil things on them. One day I learned that a coworker, who had had a m/c a couple months before was pregnant again. I called DH to him about it and said I hoped she had another m/c. Later on, I found out she and another coworker had overheard me. Not my proudest moment at all. But it happened and that's where I was at the time. Looking back, I just wanted everyone around me to have to experience the heartache I experienced- a poor me pity party.

After ten+ years of TTC and all that goes with that, DH and I became foster parents with the ultimate goal of adopting. Although I have twinges of jealousy here and there, it seems to have subsided and I'm feeling more content with the twists my life has taken.

So, I guess my thoughts are, try not to beat yourself up about it but allow yourself to feel what you feel. Maybe put less value in what others think you should be doing and more value on what you want to do with your life. It's your life, not theirs!

[alicia67]

When DH and I were TTC I was miserable whenever I learned of pregnancies. Not so much with my friends, I could handle that okay because my friendships mean a lot to me, but with the acquaintances and such. I literaly wished evil things on them. One day I learned that a coworker, who had had a m/c a couple months before was pregnant again. I called DH to him about it and said I hoped she had another m/c. Later on, I found out she and another coworker had overheard me. Not my proudest moment at all. But it happened and that's where I was at the time. Looking back, I just wanted everyone around me to have to experience the heartache I experienced- a poor me pity party.

After ten+ years of TTC and all that goes with that, DH and I became foster parents with the ultimate goal of adopting. Although I have twinges of jealousy here and there, it seems to have subsided and I'm feeling more content with the twists my life has taken.

So, I guess my thoughts are, try not to beat yourself up about it but allow yourself to feel what you feel. Maybe put less value in what others think you should be doing and more value on what you want to do with your life. It's your life, not theirs!

[SpaceGal]

Thank you all for sharing your thoughts and experiences. I was beginning to feel awful for being jealous or envious.

I do think that it will happen when it's meant to, but it's so annoying to hear and have people ask when you plan to try again and all that. Ugh so annoying. A friend of ours that had #2 only 14 months after #1 was telling me how she HAD to go on brith control for now because they aren't ready for #3 and asks me so when are you guys going for #2. I was so bothered. Plus I know friends that had difficulty having kids that I don't even want to come off as "complaining" when they go through years and ordeals just trying to have children.

I know I'm so fortunate to have DS who has a great personality and is tons of fun so I don't let it get to me all the time...but it's almost like the "peer pressure" gets you for some stupid reason.

[SpaceGal]

Thank you all for sharing your thoughts and experiences. I was beginning to feel awful for being jealous or envious.

I do think that it will happen when it's meant to, but it's so annoying to hear and have people ask when you plan to try again and all that. Ugh so annoying. A friend of ours that had #2 only 14 months after #1 was telling me how she HAD to go on brith control for now because they aren't ready for #3 and asks me so when are you guys going for #2. I was so bothered. Plus I know friends that had difficulty having kids that I don't even want to come off as "complaining" when they go through years and ordeals just trying to have children.

I know I'm so fortunate to have DS who has a great personality and is tons of fun so I don't let it get to me all the time...but it's almost like the "peer pressure" gets you for some stupid reason.

[SpaceGal]

Thank you all for sharing your thoughts and experiences. I was beginning to feel awful for being jealous or envious.

I do think that it will happen when it's meant to, but it's so annoying to hear and have people ask when you plan to try again and all that. Ugh so annoying. A friend of ours that had #2 only 14 months after #1 was telling me how she HAD to go on brith control for now because they aren't ready for #3 and asks me so when are you guys going for #2. I was so bothered. Plus I know friends that had difficulty having kids that I don't even want to come off as "complaining" when they go through years and ordeals just trying to have children.

I know I'm so fortunate to have DS who has a great personality and is tons of fun so I don't let it get to me all the time...but it's almost like the "peer pressure" gets you for some stupid reason.

[SpaceGal]

Thank you all for sharing your thoughts and experiences. I was beginning to feel awful for being jealous or envious.

I do think that it will happen when it's meant to, but it's so annoying to hear and have people ask when you plan to try again and all that. Ugh so annoying. A friend of ours that had #2 only 14 months after #1 was telling me how she HAD to go on brith control for now because they aren't ready for #3 and asks me so when are you guys going for #2. I was so bothered. Plus I know friends that had difficulty having kids that I don't even want to come off as "complaining" when they go through years and ordeals just trying to have children.

I know I'm so fortunate to have DS who has a great personality and is tons of fun so I don't let it get to me all the time...but it's almost like the "peer pressure" gets you for some stupid reason.

[SpaceGal]

Thank you all for sharing your thoughts and experiences. I was beginning to feel awful for being jealous or envious.

I do think that it will happen when it's meant to, but it's so annoying to hear and have people ask when you plan to try again and all that. Ugh so annoying. A friend of ours that had #2 only 14 months after #1 was telling me how she HAD to go on brith control for now because they aren't ready for #3 and asks me so when are you guys going for #2. I was so bothered. Plus I know friends that had difficulty having kids that I don't even want to come off as "complaining" when they go through years and ordeals just trying to have children.

I know I'm so fortunate to have DS who has a great personality and is tons of fun so I don't let it get to me all the time...but it's almost like the "peer pressure" gets you for some stupid reason.

[SpaceGal]

Thank you all for sharing your thoughts and experiences. I was beginning to feel awful for being jealous or envious.

I do think that it will happen when it's meant to, but it's so annoying to hear and have people ask when you plan to try again and all that. Ugh so annoying. A friend of ours that had #2 only 14 months after #1 was telling me how she HAD to go on brith control for now because they aren't ready for #3 and asks me so when are you guys going for #2. I was so bothered. Plus I know friends that had difficulty having kids that I don't even want to come off as "complaining" when they go through years and ordeals just trying to have children.

I know I'm so fortunate to have DS who has a great personality and is tons of fun so I don't let it get to me all the time...but it's almost like the "peer pressure" gets you for some stupid reason.

[SpaceGal]

Thank you all for sharing your thoughts and experiences. I was beginning to feel awful for being jealous or envious.

I do think that it will happen when it's meant to, but it's so annoying to hear and have people ask when you plan to try again and all that. Ugh so annoying. A friend of ours that had #2 only 14 months after #1 was telling me how she HAD to go on brith control for now because they aren't ready for #3 and asks me so when are you guys going for #2. I was so bothered. Plus I know friends that had difficulty having kids that I don't even want to come off as "complaining" when they go through years and ordeals just trying to have children.

I know I'm so fortunate to have DS who has a great personality and is tons of fun so I don't let it get to me all the time...but it's almost like the "peer pressure" gets you for some stupid reason.

[SpaceGal]

Thank you all for sharing your thoughts and experiences. I was beginning to feel awful for being jealous or envious.

I do think that it will happen when it's meant to, but it's so annoying to hear and have people ask when you plan to try again and all that. Ugh so annoying. A friend of ours that had #2 only 14 months after #1 was telling me how she HAD to go on brith control for now because they aren't ready for #3 and asks me so when are you guys going for #2. I was so bothered. Plus I know friends that had difficulty having kids that I don't even want to come off as "complaining" when they go through years and ordeals just trying to have children.

I know I'm so fortunate to have DS who has a great personality and is tons of fun so I don't let it get to me all the time...but it's almost like the "peer pressure" gets you for some stupid reason.

[SpaceGal]

Thank you all for sharing your thoughts and experiences. I was beginning to feel awful for being jealous or envious.

I do think that it will happen when it's meant to, but it's so annoying to hear and have people ask when you plan to try again and all that. Ugh so annoying. A friend of ours that had #2 only 14 months after #1 was telling me how she HAD to go on brith control for now because they aren't ready for #3 and asks me so when are you guys going for #2. I was so bothered. Plus I know friends that had difficulty having kids that I don't even want to come off as "complaining" when they go through years and ordeals just trying to have children.

I know I'm so fortunate to have DS who has a great personality and is tons of fun so I don't let it get to me all the time...but it's almost like the "peer pressure" gets you for some stupid reason.

[brittone2]

Late to this, but I wanted to say that I think it is 100 percent normal given your situation.

We went through a lot ttc DC #1, ultimately requiring injectables/IUI. Those were very, very dark days for me for a long time. I had NO response at all to clomid and the less invasive fixes. I had constant RE appointments, which made it had to be or feel "normal" in any way, shape, or form.

DS and I were young and healthy by all appearances (I have PCOS). So since we had been married for a few years, *everyone* felt inclined to ask when we were going to have a baby at every event. It was painful.

For a while, in the darkest of times, I had a hard time with pg'cy announcements, particularly when I wasn't expecting them. Being blindsided is really hard. I still remember dropping off a gift for my neighbors on Christmas morning when we were ttc, and they brought out their first US photo. I didn't expect it, and Christmas for some reason was already hitting me hard emotionally. I went home and collapsed in tears.

I had trouble watching moms pushing strollers at the mall, and had trouble watching how people treated their children. I couldn't walk by baby departments in stores. I hated movies and TV shows that made pregnancy seem easy.

DS was eventually conceived. I think it was a little less difficult for me watching it all happen after his birth, but I was totally envious of my friends' "happy accidents" and just seeing how easy/"normal" it was for everyone else. I longed for that, and wished for it. I desperately wanted to ttc #2, but for a long time the timing wasn't right. Also DS was/is still nursing and I wasn't ready to wean to do injectables again.

Lo and behold, #2 was a happy surprise. I was on metformin (a medicine for PCOS but not a fertility drug, although it can help women w/ pcos resume normal cycles). It didn't help me w/ DS, but this time I wanted to give it some time to see if I could at least get cycles back on my own. I never got a warning cycle, but instead, a BFP. My DC will be almost 3 years apart, and now I'm panicking about how I'll ever manage two.

I don't think the envious feelings ever go away once you've had some difficulties becoming pg. I still email with some women that were ttc when we were ttc Logan, and we've talked about this many times (3 of the 4 went on to conceive biologically). We all feel/felt envious even after having one child of our own.

From some of what I've read on the topic, it is also okay to give your permission to feel what you are feeling. It is okay to politely decline invitations to baby showers, etc. if they are going to be too painful to be tolerable.

I definitely put on a happy face publicly most of the time, and cried about it at home. Sometimes I avoided baby-related things if I wasn't in the right place emotionally.

Hugs. It is a very stressful and emotionally overwhelming experience.

I'm not sure if you consider yourself as having infertility issues at this point or whether it is just taking longer than you'd like, but being diagnosed with infertility is actually listed as one of the most stressful experiences someone can go through, up there with getting a diagnosis like cancer, etc. according to some sources. So IMO very normal to have very loaded emotions.

[brittone2]

Late to this, but I wanted to say that I think it is 100 percent normal given your situation.

We went through a lot ttc DC #1, ultimately requiring injectables/IUI. Those were very, very dark days for me for a long time. I had NO response at all to clomid and the less invasive fixes. I had constant RE appointments, which made it had to be or feel "normal" in any way, shape, or form.

DS and I were young and healthy by all appearances (I have PCOS). So since we had been married for a few years, *everyone* felt inclined to ask when we were going to have a baby at every event. It was painful.

For a while, in the darkest of times, I had a hard time with pg'cy announcements, particularly when I wasn't expecting them. Being blindsided is really hard. I still remember dropping off a gift for my neighbors on Christmas morning when we were ttc, and they brought out their first US photo. I didn't expect it, and Christmas for some reason was already hitting me hard emotionally. I went home and collapsed in tears.

I had trouble watching moms pushing strollers at the mall, and had trouble watching how people treated their children. I couldn't walk by baby departments in stores. I hated movies and TV shows that made pregnancy seem easy.

DS was eventually conceived. I think it was a little less difficult for me watching it all happen after his birth, but I was totally envious of my friends' "happy accidents" and just seeing how easy/"normal" it was for everyone else. I longed for that, and wished for it. I desperately wanted to ttc #2, but for a long time the timing wasn't right. Also DS was/is still nursing and I wasn't ready to wean to do injectables again.

Lo and behold, #2 was a happy surprise. I was on metformin (a medicine for PCOS but not a fertility drug, although it can help women w/ pcos resume normal cycles). It didn't help me w/ DS, but this time I wanted to give it some time to see if I could at least get cycles back on my own. I never got a warning cycle, but instead, a BFP. My DC will be almost 3 years apart, and now I'm panicking about how I'll ever manage two.

I don't think the envious feelings ever go away once you've had some difficulties becoming pg. I still email with some women that were ttc when we were ttc Logan, and we've talked about this many times (3 of the 4 went on to conceive biologically). We all feel/felt envious even after having one child of our own.

From some of what I've read on the topic, it is also okay to give your permission to feel what you are feeling. It is okay to politely decline invitations to baby showers, etc. if they are going to be too painful to be tolerable.

I definitely put on a happy face publicly most of the time, and cried about it at home. Sometimes I avoided baby-related things if I wasn't in the right place emotionally.

Hugs. It is a very stressful and emotionally overwhelming experience.

I'm not sure if you consider yourself as having infertility issues at this point or whether it is just taking longer than you'd like, but being diagnosed with infertility is actually listed as one of the most stressful experiences someone can go through, up there with getting a diagnosis like cancer, etc. according to some sources. So IMO very normal to have very loaded emotions.

[brittone2]

Late to this, but I wanted to say that I think it is 100 percent normal given your situation.

We went through a lot ttc DC #1, ultimately requiring injectables/IUI. Those were very, very dark days for me for a long time. I had NO response at all to clomid and the less invasive fixes. I had constant RE appointments, which made it had to be or feel "normal" in any way, shape, or form.

DS and I were young and healthy by all appearances (I have PCOS). So since we had been married for a few years, *everyone* felt inclined to ask when we were going to have a baby at every event. It was painful.

For a while, in the darkest of times, I had a hard time with pg'cy announcements, particularly when I wasn't expecting them. Being blindsided is really hard. I still remember dropping off a gift for my neighbors on Christmas morning when we were ttc, and they brought out their first US photo. I didn't expect it, and Christmas for some reason was already hitting me hard emotionally. I went home and collapsed in tears.

I had trouble watching moms pushing strollers at the mall, and had trouble watching how people treated their children. I couldn't walk by baby departments in stores. I hated movies and TV shows that made pregnancy seem easy.

DS was eventually conceived. I think it was a little less difficult for me watching it all happen after his birth, but I was totally envious of my friends' "happy accidents" and just seeing how easy/"normal" it was for everyone else. I longed for that, and wished for it. I desperately wanted to ttc #2, but for a long time the timing wasn't right. Also DS was/is still nursing and I wasn't ready to wean to do injectables again.

Lo and behold, #2 was a happy surprise. I was on metformin (a medicine for PCOS but not a fertility drug, although it can help women w/ pcos resume normal cycles). It didn't help me w/ DS, but this time I wanted to give it some time to see if I could at least get cycles back on my own. I never got a warning cycle, but instead, a BFP. My DC will be almost 3 years apart, and now I'm panicking about how I'll ever manage two.

I don't think the envious feelings ever go away once you've had some difficulties becoming pg. I still email with some women that were ttc when we were ttc Logan, and we've talked about this many times (3 of the 4 went on to conceive biologically). We all feel/felt envious even after having one child of our own.

From some of what I've read on the topic, it is also okay to give your permission to feel what you are feeling. It is okay to politely decline invitations to baby showers, etc. if they are going to be too painful to be tolerable.

I definitely put on a happy face publicly most of the time, and cried about it at home. Sometimes I avoided baby-related things if I wasn't in the right place emotionally.

Hugs. It is a very stressful and emotionally overwhelming experience.

I'm not sure if you consider yourself as having infertility issues at this point or whether it is just taking longer than you'd like, but being diagnosed with infertility is actually listed as one of the most stressful experiences someone can go through, up there with getting a diagnosis like cancer, etc. according to some sources. So IMO very normal to have very loaded emotions.

[brittone2]

Late to this, but I wanted to say that I think it is 100 percent normal given your situation.

We went through a lot ttc DC #1, ultimately requiring injectables/IUI. Those were very, very dark days for me for a long time. I had NO response at all to clomid and the less invasive fixes. I had constant RE appointments, which made it had to be or feel "normal" in any way, shape, or form.

DS and I were young and healthy by all appearances (I have PCOS). So since we had been married for a few years, *everyone* felt inclined to ask when we were going to have a baby at every event. It was painful.

For a while, in the darkest of times, I had a hard time with pg'cy announcements, particularly when I wasn't expecting them. Being blindsided is really hard. I still remember dropping off a gift for my neighbors on Christmas morning when we were ttc, and they brought out their first US photo. I didn't expect it, and Christmas for some reason was already hitting me hard emotionally. I went home and collapsed in tears.

I had trouble watching moms pushing strollers at the mall, and had trouble watching how people treated their children. I couldn't walk by baby departments in stores. I hated movies and TV shows that made pregnancy seem easy.

DS was eventually conceived. I think it was a little less difficult for me watching it all happen after his birth, but I was totally envious of my friends' "happy accidents" and just seeing how easy/"normal" it was for everyone else. I longed for that, and wished for it. I desperately wanted to ttc #2, but for a long time the timing wasn't right. Also DS was/is still nursing and I wasn't ready to wean to do injectables again.

Lo and behold, #2 was a happy surprise. I was on metformin (a medicine for PCOS but not a fertility drug, although it can help women w/ pcos resume normal cycles). It didn't help me w/ DS, but this time I wanted to give it some time to see if I could at least get cycles back on my own. I never got a warning cycle, but instead, a BFP. My DC will be almost 3 years apart, and now I'm panicking about how I'll ever manage two.

I don't think the envious feelings ever go away once you've had some difficulties becoming pg. I still email with some women that were ttc when we were ttc Logan, and we've talked about this many times (3 of the 4 went on to conceive biologically). We all feel/felt envious even after having one child of our own.

From some of what I've read on the topic, it is also okay to give your permission to feel what you are feeling. It is okay to politely decline invitations to baby showers, etc. if they are going to be too painful to be tolerable.

I definitely put on a happy face publicly most of the time, and cried about it at home. Sometimes I avoided baby-related things if I wasn't in the right place emotionally.

Hugs. It is a very stressful and emotionally overwhelming experience.

I'm not sure if you consider yourself as having infertility issues at this point or whether it is just taking longer than you'd like, but being diagnosed with infertility is actually listed as one of the most stressful experiences someone can go through, up there with getting a diagnosis like cancer, etc. according to some sources. So IMO very normal to have very loaded emotions.

[brittone2]

Late to this, but I wanted to say that I think it is 100 percent normal given your situation.

We went through a lot ttc DC #1, ultimately requiring injectables/IUI. Those were very, very dark days for me for a long time. I had NO response at all to clomid and the less invasive fixes. I had constant RE appointments, which made it had to be or feel "normal" in any way, shape, or form.

DS and I were young and healthy by all appearances (I have PCOS). So since we had been married for a few years, *everyone* felt inclined to ask when we were going to have a baby at every event. It was painful.

For a while, in the darkest of times, I had a hard time with pg'cy announcements, particularly when I wasn't expecting them. Being blindsided is really hard. I still remember dropping off a gift for my neighbors on Christmas morning when we were ttc, and they brought out their first US photo. I didn't expect it, and Christmas for some reason was already hitting me hard emotionally. I went home and collapsed in tears.

I had trouble watching moms pushing strollers at the mall, and had trouble watching how people treated their children. I couldn't walk by baby departments in stores. I hated movies and TV shows that made pregnancy seem easy.

DS was eventually conceived. I think it was a little less difficult for me watching it all happen after his birth, but I was totally envious of my friends' "happy accidents" and just seeing how easy/"normal" it was for everyone else. I longed for that, and wished for it. I desperately wanted to ttc #2, but for a long time the timing wasn't right. Also DS was/is still nursing and I wasn't ready to wean to do injectables again.

Lo and behold, #2 was a happy surprise. I was on metformin (a medicine for PCOS but not a fertility drug, although it can help women w/ pcos resume normal cycles). It didn't help me w/ DS, but this time I wanted to give it some time to see if I could at least get cycles back on my own. I never got a warning cycle, but instead, a BFP. My DC will be almost 3 years apart, and now I'm panicking about how I'll ever manage two.

I don't think the envious feelings ever go away once you've had some difficulties becoming pg. I still email with some women that were ttc when we were ttc Logan, and we've talked about this many times (3 of the 4 went on to conceive biologically). We all feel/felt envious even after having one child of our own.

From some of what I've read on the topic, it is also okay to give your permission to feel what you are feeling. It is okay to politely decline invitations to baby showers, etc. if they are going to be too painful to be tolerable.

I definitely put on a happy face publicly most of the time, and cried about it at home. Sometimes I avoided baby-related things if I wasn't in the right place emotionally.

Hugs. It is a very stressful and emotionally overwhelming experience.

I'm not sure if you consider yourself as having infertility issues at this point or whether it is just taking longer than you'd like, but being diagnosed with infertility is actually listed as one of the most stressful experiences someone can go through, up there with getting a diagnosis like cancer, etc. according to some sources. So IMO very normal to have very loaded emotions.

[brittone2]

Late to this, but I wanted to say that I think it is 100 percent normal given your situation.

We went through a lot ttc DC #1, ultimately requiring injectables/IUI. Those were very, very dark days for me for a long time. I had NO response at all to clomid and the less invasive fixes. I had constant RE appointments, which made it had to be or feel "normal" in any way, shape, or form.

DS and I were young and healthy by all appearances (I have PCOS). So since we had been married for a few years, *everyone* felt inclined to ask when we were going to have a baby at every event. It was painful.

For a while, in the darkest of times, I had a hard time with pg'cy announcements, particularly when I wasn't expecting them. Being blindsided is really hard. I still remember dropping off a gift for my neighbors on Christmas morning when we were ttc, and they brought out their first US photo. I didn't expect it, and Christmas for some reason was already hitting me hard emotionally. I went home and collapsed in tears.

I had trouble watching moms pushing strollers at the mall, and had trouble watching how people treated their children. I couldn't walk by baby departments in stores. I hated movies and TV shows that made pregnancy seem easy.

DS was eventually conceived. I think it was a little less difficult for me watching it all happen after his birth, but I was totally envious of my friends' "happy accidents" and just seeing how easy/"normal" it was for everyone else. I longed for that, and wished for it. I desperately wanted to ttc #2, but for a long time the timing wasn't right. Also DS was/is still nursing and I wasn't ready to wean to do injectables again.

Lo and behold, #2 was a happy surprise. I was on metformin (a medicine for PCOS but not a fertility drug, although it can help women w/ pcos resume normal cycles). It didn't help me w/ DS, but this time I wanted to give it some time to see if I could at least get cycles back on my own. I never got a warning cycle, but instead, a BFP. My DC will be almost 3 years apart, and now I'm panicking about how I'll ever manage two.

I don't think the envious feelings ever go away once you've had some difficulties becoming pg. I still email with some women that were ttc when we were ttc Logan, and we've talked about this many times (3 of the 4 went on to conceive biologically). We all feel/felt envious even after having one child of our own.

From some of what I've read on the topic, it is also okay to give your permission to feel what you are feeling. It is okay to politely decline invitations to baby showers, etc. if they are going to be too painful to be tolerable.

I definitely put on a happy face publicly most of the time, and cried about it at home. Sometimes I avoided baby-related things if I wasn't in the right place emotionally.

Hugs. It is a very stressful and emotionally overwhelming experience.

I'm not sure if you consider yourself as having infertility issues at this point or whether it is just taking longer than you'd like, but being diagnosed with infertility is actually listed as one of the most stressful experiences someone can go through, up there with getting a diagnosis like cancer, etc. according to some sources. So IMO very normal to have very loaded emotions.

[brittone2]

Late to this, but I wanted to say that I think it is 100 percent normal given your situation.

We went through a lot ttc DC #1, ultimately requiring injectables/IUI. Those were very, very dark days for me for a long time. I had NO response at all to clomid and the less invasive fixes. I had constant RE appointments, which made it had to be or feel "normal" in any way, shape, or form.

DS and I were young and healthy by all appearances (I have PCOS). So since we had been married for a few years, *everyone* felt inclined to ask when we were going to have a baby at every event. It was painful.

For a while, in the darkest of times, I had a hard time with pg'cy announcements, particularly when I wasn't expecting them. Being blindsided is really hard. I still remember dropping off a gift for my neighbors on Christmas morning when we were ttc, and they brought out their first US photo. I didn't expect it, and Christmas for some reason was already hitting me hard emotionally. I went home and collapsed in tears.

I had trouble watching moms pushing strollers at the mall, and had trouble watching how people treated their children. I couldn't walk by baby departments in stores. I hated movies and TV shows that made pregnancy seem easy.

DS was eventually conceived. I think it was a little less difficult for me watching it all happen after his birth, but I was totally envious of my friends' "happy accidents" and just seeing how easy/"normal" it was for everyone else. I longed for that, and wished for it. I desperately wanted to ttc #2, but for a long time the timing wasn't right. Also DS was/is still nursing and I wasn't ready to wean to do injectables again.

Lo and behold, #2 was a happy surprise. I was on metformin (a medicine for PCOS but not a fertility drug, although it can help women w/ pcos resume normal cycles). It didn't help me w/ DS, but this time I wanted to give it some time to see if I could at least get cycles back on my own. I never got a warning cycle, but instead, a BFP. My DC will be almost 3 years apart, and now I'm panicking about how I'll ever manage two.

I don't think the envious feelings ever go away once you've had some difficulties becoming pg. I still email with some women that were ttc when we were ttc Logan, and we've talked about this many times (3 of the 4 went on to conceive biologically). We all feel/felt envious even after having one child of our own.

From some of what I've read on the topic, it is also okay to give your permission to feel what you are feeling. It is okay to politely decline invitations to baby showers, etc. if they are going to be too painful to be tolerable.

I definitely put on a happy face publicly most of the time, and cried about it at home. Sometimes I avoided baby-related things if I wasn't in the right place emotionally.

Hugs. It is a very stressful and emotionally overwhelming experience.

I'm not sure if you consider yourself as having infertility issues at this point or whether it is just taking longer than you'd like, but being diagnosed with infertility is actually listed as one of the most stressful experiences someone can go through, up there with getting a diagnosis like cancer, etc. according to some sources. So IMO very normal to have very loaded emotions.

[brittone2]

Late to this, but I wanted to say that I think it is 100 percent normal given your situation.

We went through a lot ttc DC #1, ultimately requiring injectables/IUI. Those were very, very dark days for me for a long time. I had NO response at all to clomid and the less invasive fixes. I had constant RE appointments, which made it had to be or feel "normal" in any way, shape, or form.

DS and I were young and healthy by all appearances (I have PCOS). So since we had been married for a few years, *everyone* felt inclined to ask when we were going to have a baby at every event. It was painful.

For a while, in the darkest of times, I had a hard time with pg'cy announcements, particularly when I wasn't expecting them. Being blindsided is really hard. I still remember dropping off a gift for my neighbors on Christmas morning when we were ttc, and they brought out their first US photo. I didn't expect it, and Christmas for some reason was already hitting me hard emotionally. I went home and collapsed in tears.

I had trouble watching moms pushing strollers at the mall, and had trouble watching how people treated their children. I couldn't walk by baby departments in stores. I hated movies and TV shows that made pregnancy seem easy.

DS was eventually conceived. I think it was a little less difficult for me watching it all happen after his birth, but I was totally envious of my friends' "happy accidents" and just seeing how easy/"normal" it was for everyone else. I longed for that, and wished for it. I desperately wanted to ttc #2, but for a long time the timing wasn't right. Also DS was/is still nursing and I wasn't ready to wean to do injectables again.

Lo and behold, #2 was a happy surprise. I was on metformin (a medicine for PCOS but not a fertility drug, although it can help women w/ pcos resume normal cycles). It didn't help me w/ DS, but this time I wanted to give it some time to see if I could at least get cycles back on my own. I never got a warning cycle, but instead, a BFP. My DC will be almost 3 years apart, and now I'm panicking about how I'll ever manage two.

I don't think the envious feelings ever go away once you've had some difficulties becoming pg. I still email with some women that were ttc when we were ttc Logan, and we've talked about this many times (3 of the 4 went on to conceive biologically). We all feel/felt envious even after having one child of our own.

From some of what I've read on the topic, it is also okay to give your permission to feel what you are feeling. It is okay to politely decline invitations to baby showers, etc. if they are going to be too painful to be tolerable.

I definitely put on a happy face publicly most of the time, and cried about it at home. Sometimes I avoided baby-related things if I wasn't in the right place emotionally.

Hugs. It is a very stressful and emotionally overwhelming experience.

I'm not sure if you consider yourself as having infertility issues at this point or whether it is just taking longer than you'd like, but being diagnosed with infertility is actually listed as one of the most stressful experiences someone can go through, up there with getting a diagnosis like cancer, etc. according to some sources. So IMO very normal to have very loaded emotions.

[brittone2]

Late to this, but I wanted to say that I think it is 100 percent normal given your situation.

We went through a lot ttc DC #1, ultimately requiring injectables/IUI. Those were very, very dark days for me for a long time. I had NO response at all to clomid and the less invasive fixes. I had constant RE appointments, which made it had to be or feel "normal" in any way, shape, or form.

DS and I were young and healthy by all appearances (I have PCOS). So since we had been married for a few years, *everyone* felt inclined to ask when we were going to have a baby at every event. It was painful.

For a while, in the darkest of times, I had a hard time with pg'cy announcements, particularly when I wasn't expecting them. Being blindsided is really hard. I still remember dropping off a gift for my neighbors on Christmas morning when we were ttc, and they brought out their first US photo. I didn't expect it, and Christmas for some reason was already hitting me hard emotionally. I went home and collapsed in tears.

I had trouble watching moms pushing strollers at the mall, and had trouble watching how people treated their children. I couldn't walk by baby departments in stores. I hated movies and TV shows that made pregnancy seem easy.

DS was eventually conceived. I think it was a little less difficult for me watching it all happen after his birth, but I was totally envious of my friends' "happy accidents" and just seeing how easy/"normal" it was for everyone else. I longed for that, and wished for it. I desperately wanted to ttc #2, but for a long time the timing wasn't right. Also DS was/is still nursing and I wasn't ready to wean to do injectables again.

Lo and behold, #2 was a happy surprise. I was on metformin (a medicine for PCOS but not a fertility drug, although it can help women w/ pcos resume normal cycles). It didn't help me w/ DS, but this time I wanted to give it some time to see if I could at least get cycles back on my own. I never got a warning cycle, but instead, a BFP. My DC will be almost 3 years apart, and now I'm panicking about how I'll ever manage two.

I don't think the envious feelings ever go away once you've had some difficulties becoming pg. I still email with some women that were ttc when we were ttc Logan, and we've talked about this many times (3 of the 4 went on to conceive biologically). We all feel/felt envious even after having one child of our own.

From some of what I've read on the topic, it is also okay to give your permission to feel what you are feeling. It is okay to politely decline invitations to baby showers, etc. if they are going to be too painful to be tolerable.

I definitely put on a happy face publicly most of the time, and cried about it at home. Sometimes I avoided baby-related things if I wasn't in the right place emotionally.

Hugs. It is a very stressful and emotionally overwhelming experience.

I'm not sure if you consider yourself as having infertility issues at this point or whether it is just taking longer than you'd like, but being diagnosed with infertility is actually listed as one of the most stressful experiences someone can go through, up there with getting a diagnosis like cancer, etc. according to some sources. So IMO very normal to have very loaded emotions.

[jarrettsmom9705]

I went through this as well. During the 13 months DH and I were TTC 6 of my co-workers and 1 student (I taught high school) got pregnant and had babies. Most weren't even trying. In fact, 1 co-worker was in her late 40's, on birth control, and only saw her husband once a month and still managed to do what I couldn't. Talk about a heartache.

Every time I heard that another woman was pregnant, I would start crying. When they brought their babies to school for a visit, I would have to leave the room. It was too much for me.

Although I eventually conceived, I began to really understand the heartache of those women who are never able, but still have a burning desire, to have a child.

As for the SAHM issue, don't let anyone make you feel like you are less of a person for choosing to nurture your child. I feel that my choice to stay at home and raise my son is the best decision I could have made. It isn't a sacrifice, its a privilege and I refuse to let anyone make me feel that my life is somehow less fulfilling. Funny enough, the only people who say "How can you stay home. It would drive me crazy not working" are the other young moms who work. Everyone else praises my decision, including and most importantly, my husband.
Tracy

[jarrettsmom9705]

I went through this as well. During the 13 months DH and I were TTC 6 of my co-workers and 1 student (I taught high school) got pregnant and had babies. Most weren't even trying. In fact, 1 co-worker was in her late 40's, on birth control, and only saw her husband once a month and still managed to do what I couldn't. Talk about a heartache.

Every time I heard that another woman was pregnant, I would start crying. When they brought their babies to school for a visit, I would have to leave the room. It was too much for me.

Although I eventually conceived, I began to really understand the heartache of those women who are never able, but still have a burning desire, to have a child.

As for the SAHM issue, don't let anyone make you feel like you are less of a person for choosing to nurture your child. I feel that my choice to stay at home and raise my son is the best decision I could have made. It isn't a sacrifice, its a privilege and I refuse to let anyone make me feel that my life is somehow less fulfilling. Funny enough, the only people who say "How can you stay home. It would drive me crazy not working" are the other young moms who work. Everyone else praises my decision, including and most importantly, my husband.
Tracy

[jarrettsmom9705]

I went through this as well. During the 13 months DH and I were TTC 6 of my co-workers and 1 student (I taught high school) got pregnant and had babies. Most weren't even trying. In fact, 1 co-worker was in her late 40's, on birth control, and only saw her husband once a month and still managed to do what I couldn't. Talk about a heartache.

Every time I heard that another woman was pregnant, I would start crying. When they brought their babies to school for a visit, I would have to leave the room. It was too much for me.

Although I eventually conceived, I began to really understand the heartache of those women who are never able, but still have a burning desire, to have a child.

As for the SAHM issue, don't let anyone make you feel like you are less of a person for choosing to nurture your child. I feel that my choice to stay at home and raise my son is the best decision I could have made. It isn't a sacrifice, its a privilege and I refuse to let anyone make me feel that my life is somehow less fulfilling. Funny enough, the only people who say "How can you stay home. It would drive me crazy not working" are the other young moms who work. Everyone else praises my decision, including and most importantly, my husband.
Tracy

[jarrettsmom9705]

I went through this as well. During the 13 months DH and I were TTC 6 of my co-workers and 1 student (I taught high school) got pregnant and had babies. Most weren't even trying. In fact, 1 co-worker was in her late 40's, on birth control, and only saw her husband once a month and still managed to do what I couldn't. Talk about a heartache.

Every time I heard that another woman was pregnant, I would start crying. When they brought their babies to school for a visit, I would have to leave the room. It was too much for me.

Although I eventually conceived, I began to really understand the heartache of those women who are never able, but still have a burning desire, to have a child.

As for the SAHM issue, don't let anyone make you feel like you are less of a person for choosing to nurture your child. I feel that my choice to stay at home and raise my son is the best decision I could have made. It isn't a sacrifice, its a privilege and I refuse to let anyone make me feel that my life is somehow less fulfilling. Funny enough, the only people who say "How can you stay home. It would drive me crazy not working" are the other young moms who work. Everyone else praises my decision, including and most importantly, my husband.
Tracy

[jarrettsmom9705]

I went through this as well. During the 13 months DH and I were TTC 6 of my co-workers and 1 student (I taught high school) got pregnant and had babies. Most weren't even trying. In fact, 1 co-worker was in her late 40's, on birth control, and only saw her husband once a month and still managed to do what I couldn't. Talk about a heartache.

Every time I heard that another woman was pregnant, I would start crying. When they brought their babies to school for a visit, I would have to leave the room. It was too much for me.

Although I eventually conceived, I began to really understand the heartache of those women who are never able, but still have a burning desire, to have a child.

As for the SAHM issue, don't let anyone make you feel like you are less of a person for choosing to nurture your child. I feel that my choice to stay at home and raise my son is the best decision I could have made. It isn't a sacrifice, its a privilege and I refuse to let anyone make me feel that my life is somehow less fulfilling. Funny enough, the only people who say "How can you stay home. It would drive me crazy not working" are the other young moms who work. Everyone else praises my decision, including and most importantly, my husband.
Tracy

[jarrettsmom9705]

I went through this as well. During the 13 months DH and I were TTC 6 of my co-workers and 1 student (I taught high school) got pregnant and had babies. Most weren't even trying. In fact, 1 co-worker was in her late 40's, on birth control, and only saw her husband once a month and still managed to do what I couldn't. Talk about a heartache.

Every time I heard that another woman was pregnant, I would start crying. When they brought their babies to school for a visit, I would have to leave the room. It was too much for me.

Although I eventually conceived, I began to really understand the heartache of those women who are never able, but still have a burning desire, to have a child.

As for the SAHM issue, don't let anyone make you feel like you are less of a person for choosing to nurture your child. I feel that my choice to stay at home and raise my son is the best decision I could have made. It isn't a sacrifice, its a privilege and I refuse to let anyone make me feel that my life is somehow less fulfilling. Funny enough, the only people who say "How can you stay home. It would drive me crazy not working" are the other young moms who work. Everyone else praises my decision, including and most importantly, my husband.
Tracy

[jarrettsmom9705]

I went through this as well. During the 13 months DH and I were TTC 6 of my co-workers and 1 student (I taught high school) got pregnant and had babies. Most weren't even trying. In fact, 1 co-worker was in her late 40's, on birth control, and only saw her husband once a month and still managed to do what I couldn't. Talk about a heartache.

Every time I heard that another woman was pregnant, I would start crying. When they brought their babies to school for a visit, I would have to leave the room. It was too much for me.

Although I eventually conceived, I began to really understand the heartache of those women who are never able, but still have a burning desire, to have a child.

As for the SAHM issue, don't let anyone make you feel like you are less of a person for choosing to nurture your child. I feel that my choice to stay at home and raise my son is the best decision I could have made. It isn't a sacrifice, its a privilege and I refuse to let anyone make me feel that my life is somehow less fulfilling. Funny enough, the only people who say "How can you stay home. It would drive me crazy not working" are the other young moms who work. Everyone else praises my decision, including and most importantly, my husband.
Tracy

[jarrettsmom9705]

I went through this as well. During the 13 months DH and I were TTC 6 of my co-workers and 1 student (I taught high school) got pregnant and had babies. Most weren't even trying. In fact, 1 co-worker was in her late 40's, on birth control, and only saw her husband once a month and still managed to do what I couldn't. Talk about a heartache.

Every time I heard that another woman was pregnant, I would start crying. When they brought their babies to school for a visit, I would have to leave the room. It was too much for me.

Although I eventually conceived, I began to really understand the heartache of those women who are never able, but still have a burning desire, to have a child.

As for the SAHM issue, don't let anyone make you feel like you are less of a person for choosing to nurture your child. I feel that my choice to stay at home and raise my son is the best decision I could have made. It isn't a sacrifice, its a privilege and I refuse to let anyone make me feel that my life is somehow less fulfilling. Funny enough, the only people who say "How can you stay home. It would drive me crazy not working" are the other young moms who work. Everyone else praises my decision, including and most importantly, my husband.
Tracy

[jarrettsmom9705]

I went through this as well. During the 13 months DH and I were TTC 6 of my co-workers and 1 student (I taught high school) got pregnant and had babies. Most weren't even trying. In fact, 1 co-worker was in her late 40's, on birth control, and only saw her husband once a month and still managed to do what I couldn't. Talk about a heartache.

Every time I heard that another woman was pregnant, I would start crying. When they brought their babies to school for a visit, I would have to leave the room. It was too much for me.

Although I eventually conceived, I began to really understand the heartache of those women who are never able, but still have a burning desire, to have a child.

As for the SAHM issue, don't let anyone make you feel like you are less of a person for choosing to nurture your child. I feel that my choice to stay at home and raise my son is the best decision I could have made. It isn't a sacrifice, its a privilege and I refuse to let anyone make me feel that my life is somehow less fulfilling. Funny enough, the only people who say "How can you stay home. It would drive me crazy not working" are the other young moms who work. Everyone else praises my decision, including and most importantly, my husband.
Tracy

[C99]

No, it's not wrong. I feel like this sometimes and I am decidedly NOT TTCing.

[C99]

No, it's not wrong. I feel like this sometimes and I am decidedly NOT TTCing.

[C99]

No, it's not wrong. I feel like this sometimes and I am decidedly NOT TTCing.

[C99]

No, it's not wrong. I feel like this sometimes and I am decidedly NOT TTCing.

[C99]

No, it's not wrong. I feel like this sometimes and I am decidedly NOT TTCing.

[C99]

No, it's not wrong. I feel like this sometimes and I am decidedly NOT TTCing.

[C99]

No, it's not wrong. I feel like this sometimes and I am decidedly NOT TTCing.

[C99]

No, it's not wrong. I feel like this sometimes and I am decidedly NOT TTCing.

[C99]

No, it's not wrong. I feel like this sometimes and I am decidedly NOT TTCing.

[elephantmeg]

DH's cousin got pregnant a year after they were married and I couldn't talk my DH into trying even though we had been married for 3 years, I was so jellous (and it didn't help that AF was 2 wks late and I thought I was pregnant right when I found out she was). It's only since I've been pregnant/had my baby that I found that I liked this cousin! Totally petty, probably but just they way I felt. I ended up scrapbooking a page about "hanging on the moon"--my family always said that before you are conceived/born you are "hanging on the moon" and we always made up stories about all the cool stuff we did then. It was comforting for me to think that I had a little one "hanging on the moon" waiting to join our family.

Hugs and good luck!

[elephantmeg]

DH's cousin got pregnant a year after they were married and I couldn't talk my DH into trying even though we had been married for 3 years, I was so jellous (and it didn't help that AF was 2 wks late and I thought I was pregnant right when I found out she was). It's only since I've been pregnant/had my baby that I found that I liked this cousin! Totally petty, probably but just they way I felt. I ended up scrapbooking a page about "hanging on the moon"--my family always said that before you are conceived/born you are "hanging on the moon" and we always made up stories about all the cool stuff we did then. It was comforting for me to think that I had a little one "hanging on the moon" waiting to join our family.

Hugs and good luck!

[elephantmeg]

DH's cousin got pregnant a year after they were married and I couldn't talk my DH into trying even though we had been married for 3 years, I was so jellous (and it didn't help that AF was 2 wks late and I thought I was pregnant right when I found out she was). It's only since I've been pregnant/had my baby that I found that I liked this cousin! Totally petty, probably but just they way I felt. I ended up scrapbooking a page about "hanging on the moon"--my family always said that before you are conceived/born you are "hanging on the moon" and we always made up stories about all the cool stuff we did then. It was comforting for me to think that I had a little one "hanging on the moon" waiting to join our family.

Hugs and good luck!

[elephantmeg]

DH's cousin got pregnant a year after they were married and I couldn't talk my DH into trying even though we had been married for 3 years, I was so jellous (and it didn't help that AF was 2 wks late and I thought I was pregnant right when I found out she was). It's only since I've been pregnant/had my baby that I found that I liked this cousin! Totally petty, probably but just they way I felt. I ended up scrapbooking a page about "hanging on the moon"--my family always said that before you are conceived/born you are "hanging on the moon" and we always made up stories about all the cool stuff we did then. It was comforting for me to think that I had a little one "hanging on the moon" waiting to join our family.

Hugs and good luck!

[elephantmeg]

DH's cousin got pregnant a year after they were married and I couldn't talk my DH into trying even though we had been married for 3 years, I was so jellous (and it didn't help that AF was 2 wks late and I thought I was pregnant right when I found out she was). It's only since I've been pregnant/had my baby that I found that I liked this cousin! Totally petty, probably but just they way I felt. I ended up scrapbooking a page about "hanging on the moon"--my family always said that before you are conceived/born you are "hanging on the moon" and we always made up stories about all the cool stuff we did then. It was comforting for me to think that I had a little one "hanging on the moon" waiting to join our family.

Hugs and good luck!

[elephantmeg]

DH's cousin got pregnant a year after they were married and I couldn't talk my DH into trying even though we had been married for 3 years, I was so jellous (and it didn't help that AF was 2 wks late and I thought I was pregnant right when I found out she was). It's only since I've been pregnant/had my baby that I found that I liked this cousin! Totally petty, probably but just they way I felt. I ended up scrapbooking a page about "hanging on the moon"--my family always said that before you are conceived/born you are "hanging on the moon" and we always made up stories about all the cool stuff we did then. It was comforting for me to think that I had a little one "hanging on the moon" waiting to join our family.

Hugs and good luck!

[elephantmeg]

DH's cousin got pregnant a year after they were married and I couldn't talk my DH into trying even though we had been married for 3 years, I was so jellous (and it didn't help that AF was 2 wks late and I thought I was pregnant right when I found out she was). It's only since I've been pregnant/had my baby that I found that I liked this cousin! Totally petty, probably but just they way I felt. I ended up scrapbooking a page about "hanging on the moon"--my family always said that before you are conceived/born you are "hanging on the moon" and we always made up stories about all the cool stuff we did then. It was comforting for me to think that I had a little one "hanging on the moon" waiting to join our family.

Hugs and good luck!

[elephantmeg]

DH's cousin got pregnant a year after they were married and I couldn't talk my DH into trying even though we had been married for 3 years, I was so jellous (and it didn't help that AF was 2 wks late and I thought I was pregnant right when I found out she was). It's only since I've been pregnant/had my baby that I found that I liked this cousin! Totally petty, probably but just they way I felt. I ended up scrapbooking a page about "hanging on the moon"--my family always said that before you are conceived/born you are "hanging on the moon" and we always made up stories about all the cool stuff we did then. It was comforting for me to think that I had a little one "hanging on the moon" waiting to join our family.

Hugs and good luck!

[elephantmeg]

DH's cousin got pregnant a year after they were married and I couldn't talk my DH into trying even though we had been married for 3 years, I was so jellous (and it didn't help that AF was 2 wks late and I thought I was pregnant right when I found out she was). It's only since I've been pregnant/had my baby that I found that I liked this cousin! Totally petty, probably but just they way I felt. I ended up scrapbooking a page about "hanging on the moon"--my family always said that before you are conceived/born you are "hanging on the moon" and we always made up stories about all the cool stuff we did then. It was comforting for me to think that I had a little one "hanging on the moon" waiting to join our family.

Hugs and good luck!