Is it wrong to wish someone would die?

[Emmas Mom]

How sad it is to even ask that question but I think that for the rest of my life I'll look back on yesterday as one of the worst days of my life. My throat is raw from screaming & crying so much. This is all about my DH's Nana.

Need to preface this by saying we live with my MIL & her mother (the Nana). They moved from CA to AZ last February (2005) & lived with us in our house while MIL/FIL's house was being built. Then last October we all moved here & are renting our house out. My IL's are great & I really love them dearly. They are letting us live here rent free while DH is in school doing some pre-reqs for Pharmacy school. Ok...here's the long, pathetic story:

I was in the kitchen last night & starting to make dinner. DH was at the library studying for a test he has today. MIL is in California (she's coming back today). Anyway, his Nana came up to me & asked me in this accusing tone of voice where her "crate" was. I had no idea what she was talking about & asked her "what crate". She then proceeded to tell me that she KNEW I took a crate from the top shelf of her closet. Then she started in on this tirade wanting to know where the keys to her desk were because she knew I had copies made & wanted to know where I got the copies made. Then she accused me of damaging her "high boy"....some piece of furniture she has....and taking all her drawers out & dumping the contents on the bed to see what I could steal from her. Then she accuses me of conspiring with my step mom (SM) when she was here in February, w/my Dad, FOR ONE AFTERNOON. That I somehow, when the house was FULL of people, "covered" for SM while she rifled through the Nana's room. She said she HEARD me say to SM "did you get anything good" & that she "patted her pockets" (like she had something in them). Never mind that the old biddy can't hear or see well. When I told her I don't even really know SM that well (my Dad's 3rd wife that he's only been married to for about 7 years & they've lived in a different state the whole time), she doesn't believe me & tells me I have "long" conversations with her. Which I never do & how in the world would she know that anyway?? When we were in our old house she accused my Dad & SM of stealing from her then, which everyone dismissed but apparently she's been "making a list", so to speak. She tells me I stole her phone with the big buttons on it....yes, her old, dirty, landline phone that was a huge eye sore & that no one would use but her. I think MIL conveniently LOST the phone in the move because she didn't like it. Then she starts saying do I want DH & his family to know what kind of a person I am & what kind of a family I come from. That I'm a liar & a thief. Nothing I said mattered to her. In her mind she knows, beyond a shadow of a doubt, that I'm guilty of these things. I have known from stories DH's family has told me that she is a negative person who "sees conspiracies", as they said. But I have never in my life been the target of such harsh & hurtful & utterly false accusations. I have honestly & continually tried to be nice to this woman. Not because I'm overly fond of her but because I feel sorry for her. No one in this house does more for her than I do & that's the honest truth. MIL isn't here all the time. DH is a guy, enough said. And this is what I get for my efforts. Let me just say here....WE LET THIS WOMAN LIVE WITH US!! We asked her for nothing, we wouldn't take her money when she tried to pay us for room & board. I do the grocery shopping around here. She eats my food that I buy with MY money that I make. Not DH, because he's a full time student. Not MIL, cause she's not here all the time (although she does also buy groceries when she's here). She uses our things. I am in hell living with her. No one believes her, everyone's telling me that but THAT'S NOT THE POINT! I know I didn't do anything she accused me of, I know they are behind me but for the rest of DH's Nana's life she is going to believe these things about me!! And we have to LIVE with her!! I don't know how to just ignore her. I don't know how to be the better person when she has hurt me so much. I don't know how to get through this time living with her.

DH should be done with his pre-requisites for Pharmacy school by next May. That is the soonest we can move. I'm trying so hard to look at the big picture right now...we live here rent free, we have virtually no bills & are really blessed to have DH's parents helping us this way. I know it's not going to last forever. I have my two little angels & need to focus on them & DH & MIL, not her. But still, she's here. This negative, pathetic, sad presence in the house. I was talking to FIL & he was so sad for me & knows how it feels to be on the receiving end of her filthy lies & accusations. He actually told me that the reason he's not living here is because of her. Because she's always treated HIM badly since he & MIL got married. He's not living with his wife because his MIL lives here! Sad.

I feel badly too because I don't want to cause drama for MIL. She is the Nana's only daughter & is a saint for letting her live with her & not putting her in a home. I've also been told that the Nana has been harsh with MIL her whole life too. I've seen it on a couple occasions, but nothing like she was with me yesterday. I guess I'm the scapegoat cause I'm not her blood family. If that was my mother, I could never live with her. She doesn't hear or see very well, but other than that she's pretty healthy. Though people are starting to think she has some form of dementia or something.

And here's the kicker. The part that makes it ALMOST humorous. The things that are being stolen from her...yeah, an old electric can opener, old half used bottles of shampoo & nail polish remover. You know, things that are REALLY hot commodities & everyone would want (insert very heavy sarcasm). I mean...come on! Are you freaking serious?! Oh...and other things she apparently cannot remember but "knows" are missing. How do you argue that??

I hate that she made me so upset that DD was crying & kept trying to hug me & comfort me. I hate that she got to me like that. I know that no one believes her but it doesn't matter. I've never been so falsely & viciously accused of anything like that before. I've never really hated someone before. I'm not sure I know what real hatred is like but I imagine it's something like what I'm feeling towards her. And that's just sad, just really, really sad. Nice, huh?

Edited to correct spelling (too upset still to spell right...feeble attempt at humour).

[Emmas Mom]

How sad it is to even ask that question but I think that for the rest of my life I'll look back on yesterday as one of the worst days of my life. My throat is raw from screaming & crying so much. This is all about my DH's Nana.

Need to preface this by saying we live with my MIL & her mother (the Nana). They moved from CA to AZ last February (2005) & lived with us in our house while MIL/FIL's house was being built. Then last October we all moved here & are renting our house out. My IL's are great & I really love them dearly. They are letting us live here rent free while DH is in school doing some pre-reqs for Pharmacy school. Ok...here's the long, pathetic story:

I was in the kitchen last night & starting to make dinner. DH was at the library studying for a test he has today. MIL is in California (she's coming back today). Anyway, his Nana came up to me & asked me in this accusing tone of voice where her "crate" was. I had no idea what she was talking about & asked her "what crate". She then proceeded to tell me that she KNEW I took a crate from the top shelf of her closet. Then she started in on this tirade wanting to know where the keys to her desk were because she knew I had copies made & wanted to know where I got the copies made. Then she accused me of damaging her "high boy"....some piece of furniture she has....and taking all her drawers out & dumping the contents on the bed to see what I could steal from her. Then she accuses me of conspiring with my step mom (SM) when she was here in February, w/my Dad, FOR ONE AFTERNOON. That I somehow, when the house was FULL of people, "covered" for SM while she rifled through the Nana's room. She said she HEARD me say to SM "did you get anything good" & that she "patted her pockets" (like she had something in them). Never mind that the old biddy can't hear or see well. When I told her I don't even really know SM that well (my Dad's 3rd wife that he's only been married to for about 7 years & they've lived in a different state the whole time), she doesn't believe me & tells me I have "long" conversations with her. Which I never do & how in the world would she know that anyway?? When we were in our old house she accused my Dad & SM of stealing from her then, which everyone dismissed but apparently she's been "making a list", so to speak. She tells me I stole her phone with the big buttons on it....yes, her old, dirty, landline phone that was a huge eye sore & that no one would use but her. I think MIL conveniently LOST the phone in the move because she didn't like it. Then she starts saying do I want DH & his family to know what kind of a person I am & what kind of a family I come from. That I'm a liar & a thief. Nothing I said mattered to her. In her mind she knows, beyond a shadow of a doubt, that I'm guilty of these things. I have known from stories DH's family has told me that she is a negative person who "sees conspiracies", as they said. But I have never in my life been the target of such harsh & hurtful & utterly false accusations. I have honestly & continually tried to be nice to this woman. Not because I'm overly fond of her but because I feel sorry for her. No one in this house does more for her than I do & that's the honest truth. MIL isn't here all the time. DH is a guy, enough said. And this is what I get for my efforts. Let me just say here....WE LET THIS WOMAN LIVE WITH US!! We asked her for nothing, we wouldn't take her money when she tried to pay us for room & board. I do the grocery shopping around here. She eats my food that I buy with MY money that I make. Not DH, because he's a full time student. Not MIL, cause she's not here all the time (although she does also buy groceries when she's here). She uses our things. I am in hell living with her. No one believes her, everyone's telling me that but THAT'S NOT THE POINT! I know I didn't do anything she accused me of, I know they are behind me but for the rest of DH's Nana's life she is going to believe these things about me!! And we have to LIVE with her!! I don't know how to just ignore her. I don't know how to be the better person when she has hurt me so much. I don't know how to get through this time living with her.

DH should be done with his pre-requisites for Pharmacy school by next May. That is the soonest we can move. I'm trying so hard to look at the big picture right now...we live here rent free, we have virtually no bills & are really blessed to have DH's parents helping us this way. I know it's not going to last forever. I have my two little angels & need to focus on them & DH & MIL, not her. But still, she's here. This negative, pathetic, sad presence in the house. I was talking to FIL & he was so sad for me & knows how it feels to be on the receiving end of her filthy lies & accusations. He actually told me that the reason he's not living here is because of her. Because she's always treated HIM badly since he & MIL got married. He's not living with his wife because his MIL lives here! Sad.

I feel badly too because I don't want to cause drama for MIL. She is the Nana's only daughter & is a saint for letting her live with her & not putting her in a home. I've also been told that the Nana has been harsh with MIL her whole life too. I've seen it on a couple occasions, but nothing like she was with me yesterday. I guess I'm the scapegoat cause I'm not her blood family. If that was my mother, I could never live with her. She doesn't hear or see very well, but other than that she's pretty healthy. Though people are starting to think she has some form of dementia or something.

And here's the kicker. The part that makes it ALMOST humorous. The things that are being stolen from her...yeah, an old electric can opener, old half used bottles of shampoo & nail polish remover. You know, things that are REALLY hot commodities & everyone would want (insert very heavy sarcasm). I mean...come on! Are you freaking serious?! Oh...and other things she apparently cannot remember but "knows" are missing. How do you argue that??

I hate that she made me so upset that DD was crying & kept trying to hug me & comfort me. I hate that she got to me like that. I know that no one believes her but it doesn't matter. I've never been so falsely & viciously accused of anything like that before. I've never really hated someone before. I'm not sure I know what real hatred is like but I imagine it's something like what I'm feeling towards her. And that's just sad, just really, really sad. Nice, huh?

Edited to correct spelling (too upset still to spell right...feeble attempt at humour).

[Emmas Mom]

How sad it is to even ask that question but I think that for the rest of my life I'll look back on yesterday as one of the worst days of my life. My throat is raw from screaming & crying so much. This is all about my DH's Nana.

Need to preface this by saying we live with my MIL & her mother (the Nana). They moved from CA to AZ last February (2005) & lived with us in our house while MIL/FIL's house was being built. Then last October we all moved here & are renting our house out. My IL's are great & I really love them dearly. They are letting us live here rent free while DH is in school doing some pre-reqs for Pharmacy school. Ok...here's the long, pathetic story:

I was in the kitchen last night & starting to make dinner. DH was at the library studying for a test he has today. MIL is in California (she's coming back today). Anyway, his Nana came up to me & asked me in this accusing tone of voice where her "crate" was. I had no idea what she was talking about & asked her "what crate". She then proceeded to tell me that she KNEW I took a crate from the top shelf of her closet. Then she started in on this tirade wanting to know where the keys to her desk were because she knew I had copies made & wanted to know where I got the copies made. Then she accused me of damaging her "high boy"....some piece of furniture she has....and taking all her drawers out & dumping the contents on the bed to see what I could steal from her. Then she accuses me of conspiring with my step mom (SM) when she was here in February, w/my Dad, FOR ONE AFTERNOON. That I somehow, when the house was FULL of people, "covered" for SM while she rifled through the Nana's room. She said she HEARD me say to SM "did you get anything good" & that she "patted her pockets" (like she had something in them). Never mind that the old biddy can't hear or see well. When I told her I don't even really know SM that well (my Dad's 3rd wife that he's only been married to for about 7 years & they've lived in a different state the whole time), she doesn't believe me & tells me I have "long" conversations with her. Which I never do & how in the world would she know that anyway?? When we were in our old house she accused my Dad & SM of stealing from her then, which everyone dismissed but apparently she's been "making a list", so to speak. She tells me I stole her phone with the big buttons on it....yes, her old, dirty, landline phone that was a huge eye sore & that no one would use but her. I think MIL conveniently LOST the phone in the move because she didn't like it. Then she starts saying do I want DH & his family to know what kind of a person I am & what kind of a family I come from. That I'm a liar & a thief. Nothing I said mattered to her. In her mind she knows, beyond a shadow of a doubt, that I'm guilty of these things. I have known from stories DH's family has told me that she is a negative person who "sees conspiracies", as they said. But I have never in my life been the target of such harsh & hurtful & utterly false accusations. I have honestly & continually tried to be nice to this woman. Not because I'm overly fond of her but because I feel sorry for her. No one in this house does more for her than I do & that's the honest truth. MIL isn't here all the time. DH is a guy, enough said. And this is what I get for my efforts. Let me just say here....WE LET THIS WOMAN LIVE WITH US!! We asked her for nothing, we wouldn't take her money when she tried to pay us for room & board. I do the grocery shopping around here. She eats my food that I buy with MY money that I make. Not DH, because he's a full time student. Not MIL, cause she's not here all the time (although she does also buy groceries when she's here). She uses our things. I am in hell living with her. No one believes her, everyone's telling me that but THAT'S NOT THE POINT! I know I didn't do anything she accused me of, I know they are behind me but for the rest of DH's Nana's life she is going to believe these things about me!! And we have to LIVE with her!! I don't know how to just ignore her. I don't know how to be the better person when she has hurt me so much. I don't know how to get through this time living with her.

DH should be done with his pre-requisites for Pharmacy school by next May. That is the soonest we can move. I'm trying so hard to look at the big picture right now...we live here rent free, we have virtually no bills & are really blessed to have DH's parents helping us this way. I know it's not going to last forever. I have my two little angels & need to focus on them & DH & MIL, not her. But still, she's here. This negative, pathetic, sad presence in the house. I was talking to FIL & he was so sad for me & knows how it feels to be on the receiving end of her filthy lies & accusations. He actually told me that the reason he's not living here is because of her. Because she's always treated HIM badly since he & MIL got married. He's not living with his wife because his MIL lives here! Sad.

I feel badly too because I don't want to cause drama for MIL. She is the Nana's only daughter & is a saint for letting her live with her & not putting her in a home. I've also been told that the Nana has been harsh with MIL her whole life too. I've seen it on a couple occasions, but nothing like she was with me yesterday. I guess I'm the scapegoat cause I'm not her blood family. If that was my mother, I could never live with her. She doesn't hear or see very well, but other than that she's pretty healthy. Though people are starting to think she has some form of dementia or something.

And here's the kicker. The part that makes it ALMOST humorous. The things that are being stolen from her...yeah, an old electric can opener, old half used bottles of shampoo & nail polish remover. You know, things that are REALLY hot commodities & everyone would want (insert very heavy sarcasm). I mean...come on! Are you freaking serious?! Oh...and other things she apparently cannot remember but "knows" are missing. How do you argue that??

I hate that she made me so upset that DD was crying & kept trying to hug me & comfort me. I hate that she got to me like that. I know that no one believes her but it doesn't matter. I've never been so falsely & viciously accused of anything like that before. I've never really hated someone before. I'm not sure I know what real hatred is like but I imagine it's something like what I'm feeling towards her. And that's just sad, just really, really sad. Nice, huh?

Edited to correct spelling (too upset still to spell right...feeble attempt at humour).

[Emmas Mom]

How sad it is to even ask that question but I think that for the rest of my life I'll look back on yesterday as one of the worst days of my life. My throat is raw from screaming & crying so much. This is all about my DH's Nana.

Need to preface this by saying we live with my MIL & her mother (the Nana). They moved from CA to AZ last February (2005) & lived with us in our house while MIL/FIL's house was being built. Then last October we all moved here & are renting our house out. My IL's are great & I really love them dearly. They are letting us live here rent free while DH is in school doing some pre-reqs for Pharmacy school. Ok...here's the long, pathetic story:

I was in the kitchen last night & starting to make dinner. DH was at the library studying for a test he has today. MIL is in California (she's coming back today). Anyway, his Nana came up to me & asked me in this accusing tone of voice where her "crate" was. I had no idea what she was talking about & asked her "what crate". She then proceeded to tell me that she KNEW I took a crate from the top shelf of her closet. Then she started in on this tirade wanting to know where the keys to her desk were because she knew I had copies made & wanted to know where I got the copies made. Then she accused me of damaging her "high boy"....some piece of furniture she has....and taking all her drawers out & dumping the contents on the bed to see what I could steal from her. Then she accuses me of conspiring with my step mom (SM) when she was here in February, w/my Dad, FOR ONE AFTERNOON. That I somehow, when the house was FULL of people, "covered" for SM while she rifled through the Nana's room. She said she HEARD me say to SM "did you get anything good" & that she "patted her pockets" (like she had something in them). Never mind that the old biddy can't hear or see well. When I told her I don't even really know SM that well (my Dad's 3rd wife that he's only been married to for about 7 years & they've lived in a different state the whole time), she doesn't believe me & tells me I have "long" conversations with her. Which I never do & how in the world would she know that anyway?? When we were in our old house she accused my Dad & SM of stealing from her then, which everyone dismissed but apparently she's been "making a list", so to speak. She tells me I stole her phone with the big buttons on it....yes, her old, dirty, landline phone that was a huge eye sore & that no one would use but her. I think MIL conveniently LOST the phone in the move because she didn't like it. Then she starts saying do I want DH & his family to know what kind of a person I am & what kind of a family I come from. That I'm a liar & a thief. Nothing I said mattered to her. In her mind she knows, beyond a shadow of a doubt, that I'm guilty of these things. I have known from stories DH's family has told me that she is a negative person who "sees conspiracies", as they said. But I have never in my life been the target of such harsh & hurtful & utterly false accusations. I have honestly & continually tried to be nice to this woman. Not because I'm overly fond of her but because I feel sorry for her. No one in this house does more for her than I do & that's the honest truth. MIL isn't here all the time. DH is a guy, enough said. And this is what I get for my efforts. Let me just say here....WE LET THIS WOMAN LIVE WITH US!! We asked her for nothing, we wouldn't take her money when she tried to pay us for room & board. I do the grocery shopping around here. She eats my food that I buy with MY money that I make. Not DH, because he's a full time student. Not MIL, cause she's not here all the time (although she does also buy groceries when she's here). She uses our things. I am in hell living with her. No one believes her, everyone's telling me that but THAT'S NOT THE POINT! I know I didn't do anything she accused me of, I know they are behind me but for the rest of DH's Nana's life she is going to believe these things about me!! And we have to LIVE with her!! I don't know how to just ignore her. I don't know how to be the better person when she has hurt me so much. I don't know how to get through this time living with her.

DH should be done with his pre-requisites for Pharmacy school by next May. That is the soonest we can move. I'm trying so hard to look at the big picture right now...we live here rent free, we have virtually no bills & are really blessed to have DH's parents helping us this way. I know it's not going to last forever. I have my two little angels & need to focus on them & DH & MIL, not her. But still, she's here. This negative, pathetic, sad presence in the house. I was talking to FIL & he was so sad for me & knows how it feels to be on the receiving end of her filthy lies & accusations. He actually told me that the reason he's not living here is because of her. Because she's always treated HIM badly since he & MIL got married. He's not living with his wife because his MIL lives here! Sad.

I feel badly too because I don't want to cause drama for MIL. She is the Nana's only daughter & is a saint for letting her live with her & not putting her in a home. I've also been told that the Nana has been harsh with MIL her whole life too. I've seen it on a couple occasions, but nothing like she was with me yesterday. I guess I'm the scapegoat cause I'm not her blood family. If that was my mother, I could never live with her. She doesn't hear or see very well, but other than that she's pretty healthy. Though people are starting to think she has some form of dementia or something.

And here's the kicker. The part that makes it ALMOST humorous. The things that are being stolen from her...yeah, an old electric can opener, old half used bottles of shampoo & nail polish remover. You know, things that are REALLY hot commodities & everyone would want (insert very heavy sarcasm). I mean...come on! Are you freaking serious?! Oh...and other things she apparently cannot remember but "knows" are missing. How do you argue that??

I hate that she made me so upset that DD was crying & kept trying to hug me & comfort me. I hate that she got to me like that. I know that no one believes her but it doesn't matter. I've never been so falsely & viciously accused of anything like that before. I've never really hated someone before. I'm not sure I know what real hatred is like but I imagine it's something like what I'm feeling towards her. And that's just sad, just really, really sad. Nice, huh?

Edited to correct spelling (too upset still to spell right...feeble attempt at humour).

[Emmas Mom]

How sad it is to even ask that question but I think that for the rest of my life I'll look back on yesterday as one of the worst days of my life. My throat is raw from screaming & crying so much. This is all about my DH's Nana.

Need to preface this by saying we live with my MIL & her mother (the Nana). They moved from CA to AZ last February (2005) & lived with us in our house while MIL/FIL's house was being built. Then last October we all moved here & are renting our house out. My IL's are great & I really love them dearly. They are letting us live here rent free while DH is in school doing some pre-reqs for Pharmacy school. Ok...here's the long, pathetic story:

I was in the kitchen last night & starting to make dinner. DH was at the library studying for a test he has today. MIL is in California (she's coming back today). Anyway, his Nana came up to me & asked me in this accusing tone of voice where her "crate" was. I had no idea what she was talking about & asked her "what crate". She then proceeded to tell me that she KNEW I took a crate from the top shelf of her closet. Then she started in on this tirade wanting to know where the keys to her desk were because she knew I had copies made & wanted to know where I got the copies made. Then she accused me of damaging her "high boy"....some piece of furniture she has....and taking all her drawers out & dumping the contents on the bed to see what I could steal from her. Then she accuses me of conspiring with my step mom (SM) when she was here in February, w/my Dad, FOR ONE AFTERNOON. That I somehow, when the house was FULL of people, "covered" for SM while she rifled through the Nana's room. She said she HEARD me say to SM "did you get anything good" & that she "patted her pockets" (like she had something in them). Never mind that the old biddy can't hear or see well. When I told her I don't even really know SM that well (my Dad's 3rd wife that he's only been married to for about 7 years & they've lived in a different state the whole time), she doesn't believe me & tells me I have "long" conversations with her. Which I never do & how in the world would she know that anyway?? When we were in our old house she accused my Dad & SM of stealing from her then, which everyone dismissed but apparently she's been "making a list", so to speak. She tells me I stole her phone with the big buttons on it....yes, her old, dirty, landline phone that was a huge eye sore & that no one would use but her. I think MIL conveniently LOST the phone in the move because she didn't like it. Then she starts saying do I want DH & his family to know what kind of a person I am & what kind of a family I come from. That I'm a liar & a thief. Nothing I said mattered to her. In her mind she knows, beyond a shadow of a doubt, that I'm guilty of these things. I have known from stories DH's family has told me that she is a negative person who "sees conspiracies", as they said. But I have never in my life been the target of such harsh & hurtful & utterly false accusations. I have honestly & continually tried to be nice to this woman. Not because I'm overly fond of her but because I feel sorry for her. No one in this house does more for her than I do & that's the honest truth. MIL isn't here all the time. DH is a guy, enough said. And this is what I get for my efforts. Let me just say here....WE LET THIS WOMAN LIVE WITH US!! We asked her for nothing, we wouldn't take her money when she tried to pay us for room & board. I do the grocery shopping around here. She eats my food that I buy with MY money that I make. Not DH, because he's a full time student. Not MIL, cause she's not here all the time (although she does also buy groceries when she's here). She uses our things. I am in hell living with her. No one believes her, everyone's telling me that but THAT'S NOT THE POINT! I know I didn't do anything she accused me of, I know they are behind me but for the rest of DH's Nana's life she is going to believe these things about me!! And we have to LIVE with her!! I don't know how to just ignore her. I don't know how to be the better person when she has hurt me so much. I don't know how to get through this time living with her.

DH should be done with his pre-requisites for Pharmacy school by next May. That is the soonest we can move. I'm trying so hard to look at the big picture right now...we live here rent free, we have virtually no bills & are really blessed to have DH's parents helping us this way. I know it's not going to last forever. I have my two little angels & need to focus on them & DH & MIL, not her. But still, she's here. This negative, pathetic, sad presence in the house. I was talking to FIL & he was so sad for me & knows how it feels to be on the receiving end of her filthy lies & accusations. He actually told me that the reason he's not living here is because of her. Because she's always treated HIM badly since he & MIL got married. He's not living with his wife because his MIL lives here! Sad.

I feel badly too because I don't want to cause drama for MIL. She is the Nana's only daughter & is a saint for letting her live with her & not putting her in a home. I've also been told that the Nana has been harsh with MIL her whole life too. I've seen it on a couple occasions, but nothing like she was with me yesterday. I guess I'm the scapegoat cause I'm not her blood family. If that was my mother, I could never live with her. She doesn't hear or see very well, but other than that she's pretty healthy. Though people are starting to think she has some form of dementia or something.

And here's the kicker. The part that makes it ALMOST humorous. The things that are being stolen from her...yeah, an old electric can opener, old half used bottles of shampoo & nail polish remover. You know, things that are REALLY hot commodities & everyone would want (insert very heavy sarcasm). I mean...come on! Are you freaking serious?! Oh...and other things she apparently cannot remember but "knows" are missing. How do you argue that??

I hate that she made me so upset that DD was crying & kept trying to hug me & comfort me. I hate that she got to me like that. I know that no one believes her but it doesn't matter. I've never been so falsely & viciously accused of anything like that before. I've never really hated someone before. I'm not sure I know what real hatred is like but I imagine it's something like what I'm feeling towards her. And that's just sad, just really, really sad. Nice, huh?

Edited to correct spelling (too upset still to spell right...feeble attempt at humour).

[Emmas Mom]

How sad it is to even ask that question but I think that for the rest of my life I'll look back on yesterday as one of the worst days of my life. My throat is raw from screaming & crying so much. This is all about my DH's Nana.

Need to preface this by saying we live with my MIL & her mother (the Nana). They moved from CA to AZ last February (2005) & lived with us in our house while MIL/FIL's house was being built. Then last October we all moved here & are renting our house out. My IL's are great & I really love them dearly. They are letting us live here rent free while DH is in school doing some pre-reqs for Pharmacy school. Ok...here's the long, pathetic story:

I was in the kitchen last night & starting to make dinner. DH was at the library studying for a test he has today. MIL is in California (she's coming back today). Anyway, his Nana came up to me & asked me in this accusing tone of voice where her "crate" was. I had no idea what she was talking about & asked her "what crate". She then proceeded to tell me that she KNEW I took a crate from the top shelf of her closet. Then she started in on this tirade wanting to know where the keys to her desk were because she knew I had copies made & wanted to know where I got the copies made. Then she accused me of damaging her "high boy"....some piece of furniture she has....and taking all her drawers out & dumping the contents on the bed to see what I could steal from her. Then she accuses me of conspiring with my step mom (SM) when she was here in February, w/my Dad, FOR ONE AFTERNOON. That I somehow, when the house was FULL of people, "covered" for SM while she rifled through the Nana's room. She said she HEARD me say to SM "did you get anything good" & that she "patted her pockets" (like she had something in them). Never mind that the old biddy can't hear or see well. When I told her I don't even really know SM that well (my Dad's 3rd wife that he's only been married to for about 7 years & they've lived in a different state the whole time), she doesn't believe me & tells me I have "long" conversations with her. Which I never do & how in the world would she know that anyway?? When we were in our old house she accused my Dad & SM of stealing from her then, which everyone dismissed but apparently she's been "making a list", so to speak. She tells me I stole her phone with the big buttons on it....yes, her old, dirty, landline phone that was a huge eye sore & that no one would use but her. I think MIL conveniently LOST the phone in the move because she didn't like it. Then she starts saying do I want DH & his family to know what kind of a person I am & what kind of a family I come from. That I'm a liar & a thief. Nothing I said mattered to her. In her mind she knows, beyond a shadow of a doubt, that I'm guilty of these things. I have known from stories DH's family has told me that she is a negative person who "sees conspiracies", as they said. But I have never in my life been the target of such harsh & hurtful & utterly false accusations. I have honestly & continually tried to be nice to this woman. Not because I'm overly fond of her but because I feel sorry for her. No one in this house does more for her than I do & that's the honest truth. MIL isn't here all the time. DH is a guy, enough said. And this is what I get for my efforts. Let me just say here....WE LET THIS WOMAN LIVE WITH US!! We asked her for nothing, we wouldn't take her money when she tried to pay us for room & board. I do the grocery shopping around here. She eats my food that I buy with MY money that I make. Not DH, because he's a full time student. Not MIL, cause she's not here all the time (although she does also buy groceries when she's here). She uses our things. I am in hell living with her. No one believes her, everyone's telling me that but THAT'S NOT THE POINT! I know I didn't do anything she accused me of, I know they are behind me but for the rest of DH's Nana's life she is going to believe these things about me!! And we have to LIVE with her!! I don't know how to just ignore her. I don't know how to be the better person when she has hurt me so much. I don't know how to get through this time living with her.

DH should be done with his pre-requisites for Pharmacy school by next May. That is the soonest we can move. I'm trying so hard to look at the big picture right now...we live here rent free, we have virtually no bills & are really blessed to have DH's parents helping us this way. I know it's not going to last forever. I have my two little angels & need to focus on them & DH & MIL, not her. But still, she's here. This negative, pathetic, sad presence in the house. I was talking to FIL & he was so sad for me & knows how it feels to be on the receiving end of her filthy lies & accusations. He actually told me that the reason he's not living here is because of her. Because she's always treated HIM badly since he & MIL got married. He's not living with his wife because his MIL lives here! Sad.

I feel badly too because I don't want to cause drama for MIL. She is the Nana's only daughter & is a saint for letting her live with her & not putting her in a home. I've also been told that the Nana has been harsh with MIL her whole life too. I've seen it on a couple occasions, but nothing like she was with me yesterday. I guess I'm the scapegoat cause I'm not her blood family. If that was my mother, I could never live with her. She doesn't hear or see very well, but other than that she's pretty healthy. Though people are starting to think she has some form of dementia or something.

And here's the kicker. The part that makes it ALMOST humorous. The things that are being stolen from her...yeah, an old electric can opener, old half used bottles of shampoo & nail polish remover. You know, things that are REALLY hot commodities & everyone would want (insert very heavy sarcasm). I mean...come on! Are you freaking serious?! Oh...and other things she apparently cannot remember but "knows" are missing. How do you argue that??

I hate that she made me so upset that DD was crying & kept trying to hug me & comfort me. I hate that she got to me like that. I know that no one believes her but it doesn't matter. I've never been so falsely & viciously accused of anything like that before. I've never really hated someone before. I'm not sure I know what real hatred is like but I imagine it's something like what I'm feeling towards her. And that's just sad, just really, really sad. Nice, huh?

Edited to correct spelling (too upset still to spell right...feeble attempt at humour).

[Emmas Mom]

How sad it is to even ask that question but I think that for the rest of my life I'll look back on yesterday as one of the worst days of my life. My throat is raw from screaming & crying so much. This is all about my DH's Nana.

Need to preface this by saying we live with my MIL & her mother (the Nana). They moved from CA to AZ last February (2005) & lived with us in our house while MIL/FIL's house was being built. Then last October we all moved here & are renting our house out. My IL's are great & I really love them dearly. They are letting us live here rent free while DH is in school doing some pre-reqs for Pharmacy school. Ok...here's the long, pathetic story:

I was in the kitchen last night & starting to make dinner. DH was at the library studying for a test he has today. MIL is in California (she's coming back today). Anyway, his Nana came up to me & asked me in this accusing tone of voice where her "crate" was. I had no idea what she was talking about & asked her "what crate". She then proceeded to tell me that she KNEW I took a crate from the top shelf of her closet. Then she started in on this tirade wanting to know where the keys to her desk were because she knew I had copies made & wanted to know where I got the copies made. Then she accused me of damaging her "high boy"....some piece of furniture she has....and taking all her drawers out & dumping the contents on the bed to see what I could steal from her. Then she accuses me of conspiring with my step mom (SM) when she was here in February, w/my Dad, FOR ONE AFTERNOON. That I somehow, when the house was FULL of people, "covered" for SM while she rifled through the Nana's room. She said she HEARD me say to SM "did you get anything good" & that she "patted her pockets" (like she had something in them). Never mind that the old biddy can't hear or see well. When I told her I don't even really know SM that well (my Dad's 3rd wife that he's only been married to for about 7 years & they've lived in a different state the whole time), she doesn't believe me & tells me I have "long" conversations with her. Which I never do & how in the world would she know that anyway?? When we were in our old house she accused my Dad & SM of stealing from her then, which everyone dismissed but apparently she's been "making a list", so to speak. She tells me I stole her phone with the big buttons on it....yes, her old, dirty, landline phone that was a huge eye sore & that no one would use but her. I think MIL conveniently LOST the phone in the move because she didn't like it. Then she starts saying do I want DH & his family to know what kind of a person I am & what kind of a family I come from. That I'm a liar & a thief. Nothing I said mattered to her. In her mind she knows, beyond a shadow of a doubt, that I'm guilty of these things. I have known from stories DH's family has told me that she is a negative person who "sees conspiracies", as they said. But I have never in my life been the target of such harsh & hurtful & utterly false accusations. I have honestly & continually tried to be nice to this woman. Not because I'm overly fond of her but because I feel sorry for her. No one in this house does more for her than I do & that's the honest truth. MIL isn't here all the time. DH is a guy, enough said. And this is what I get for my efforts. Let me just say here....WE LET THIS WOMAN LIVE WITH US!! We asked her for nothing, we wouldn't take her money when she tried to pay us for room & board. I do the grocery shopping around here. She eats my food that I buy with MY money that I make. Not DH, because he's a full time student. Not MIL, cause she's not here all the time (although she does also buy groceries when she's here). She uses our things. I am in hell living with her. No one believes her, everyone's telling me that but THAT'S NOT THE POINT! I know I didn't do anything she accused me of, I know they are behind me but for the rest of DH's Nana's life she is going to believe these things about me!! And we have to LIVE with her!! I don't know how to just ignore her. I don't know how to be the better person when she has hurt me so much. I don't know how to get through this time living with her.

DH should be done with his pre-requisites for Pharmacy school by next May. That is the soonest we can move. I'm trying so hard to look at the big picture right now...we live here rent free, we have virtually no bills & are really blessed to have DH's parents helping us this way. I know it's not going to last forever. I have my two little angels & need to focus on them & DH & MIL, not her. But still, she's here. This negative, pathetic, sad presence in the house. I was talking to FIL & he was so sad for me & knows how it feels to be on the receiving end of her filthy lies & accusations. He actually told me that the reason he's not living here is because of her. Because she's always treated HIM badly since he & MIL got married. He's not living with his wife because his MIL lives here! Sad.

I feel badly too because I don't want to cause drama for MIL. She is the Nana's only daughter & is a saint for letting her live with her & not putting her in a home. I've also been told that the Nana has been harsh with MIL her whole life too. I've seen it on a couple occasions, but nothing like she was with me yesterday. I guess I'm the scapegoat cause I'm not her blood family. If that was my mother, I could never live with her. She doesn't hear or see very well, but other than that she's pretty healthy. Though people are starting to think she has some form of dementia or something.

And here's the kicker. The part that makes it ALMOST humorous. The things that are being stolen from her...yeah, an old electric can opener, old half used bottles of shampoo & nail polish remover. You know, things that are REALLY hot commodities & everyone would want (insert very heavy sarcasm). I mean...come on! Are you freaking serious?! Oh...and other things she apparently cannot remember but "knows" are missing. How do you argue that??

I hate that she made me so upset that DD was crying & kept trying to hug me & comfort me. I hate that she got to me like that. I know that no one believes her but it doesn't matter. I've never been so falsely & viciously accused of anything like that before. I've never really hated someone before. I'm not sure I know what real hatred is like but I imagine it's something like what I'm feeling towards her. And that's just sad, just really, really sad. Nice, huh?

Edited to correct spelling (too upset still to spell right...feeble attempt at humour).

[Emmas Mom]

How sad it is to even ask that question but I think that for the rest of my life I'll look back on yesterday as one of the worst days of my life. My throat is raw from screaming & crying so much. This is all about my DH's Nana.

Need to preface this by saying we live with my MIL & her mother (the Nana). They moved from CA to AZ last February (2005) & lived with us in our house while MIL/FIL's house was being built. Then last October we all moved here & are renting our house out. My IL's are great & I really love them dearly. They are letting us live here rent free while DH is in school doing some pre-reqs for Pharmacy school. Ok...here's the long, pathetic story:

I was in the kitchen last night & starting to make dinner. DH was at the library studying for a test he has today. MIL is in California (she's coming back today). Anyway, his Nana came up to me & asked me in this accusing tone of voice where her "crate" was. I had no idea what she was talking about & asked her "what crate". She then proceeded to tell me that she KNEW I took a crate from the top shelf of her closet. Then she started in on this tirade wanting to know where the keys to her desk were because she knew I had copies made & wanted to know where I got the copies made. Then she accused me of damaging her "high boy"....some piece of furniture she has....and taking all her drawers out & dumping the contents on the bed to see what I could steal from her. Then she accuses me of conspiring with my step mom (SM) when she was here in February, w/my Dad, FOR ONE AFTERNOON. That I somehow, when the house was FULL of people, "covered" for SM while she rifled through the Nana's room. She said she HEARD me say to SM "did you get anything good" & that she "patted her pockets" (like she had something in them). Never mind that the old biddy can't hear or see well. When I told her I don't even really know SM that well (my Dad's 3rd wife that he's only been married to for about 7 years & they've lived in a different state the whole time), she doesn't believe me & tells me I have "long" conversations with her. Which I never do & how in the world would she know that anyway?? When we were in our old house she accused my Dad & SM of stealing from her then, which everyone dismissed but apparently she's been "making a list", so to speak. She tells me I stole her phone with the big buttons on it....yes, her old, dirty, landline phone that was a huge eye sore & that no one would use but her. I think MIL conveniently LOST the phone in the move because she didn't like it. Then she starts saying do I want DH & his family to know what kind of a person I am & what kind of a family I come from. That I'm a liar & a thief. Nothing I said mattered to her. In her mind she knows, beyond a shadow of a doubt, that I'm guilty of these things. I have known from stories DH's family has told me that she is a negative person who "sees conspiracies", as they said. But I have never in my life been the target of such harsh & hurtful & utterly false accusations. I have honestly & continually tried to be nice to this woman. Not because I'm overly fond of her but because I feel sorry for her. No one in this house does more for her than I do & that's the honest truth. MIL isn't here all the time. DH is a guy, enough said. And this is what I get for my efforts. Let me just say here....WE LET THIS WOMAN LIVE WITH US!! We asked her for nothing, we wouldn't take her money when she tried to pay us for room & board. I do the grocery shopping around here. She eats my food that I buy with MY money that I make. Not DH, because he's a full time student. Not MIL, cause she's not here all the time (although she does also buy groceries when she's here). She uses our things. I am in hell living with her. No one believes her, everyone's telling me that but THAT'S NOT THE POINT! I know I didn't do anything she accused me of, I know they are behind me but for the rest of DH's Nana's life she is going to believe these things about me!! And we have to LIVE with her!! I don't know how to just ignore her. I don't know how to be the better person when she has hurt me so much. I don't know how to get through this time living with her.

DH should be done with his pre-requisites for Pharmacy school by next May. That is the soonest we can move. I'm trying so hard to look at the big picture right now...we live here rent free, we have virtually no bills & are really blessed to have DH's parents helping us this way. I know it's not going to last forever. I have my two little angels & need to focus on them & DH & MIL, not her. But still, she's here. This negative, pathetic, sad presence in the house. I was talking to FIL & he was so sad for me & knows how it feels to be on the receiving end of her filthy lies & accusations. He actually told me that the reason he's not living here is because of her. Because she's always treated HIM badly since he & MIL got married. He's not living with his wife because his MIL lives here! Sad.

I feel badly too because I don't want to cause drama for MIL. She is the Nana's only daughter & is a saint for letting her live with her & not putting her in a home. I've also been told that the Nana has been harsh with MIL her whole life too. I've seen it on a couple occasions, but nothing like she was with me yesterday. I guess I'm the scapegoat cause I'm not her blood family. If that was my mother, I could never live with her. She doesn't hear or see very well, but other than that she's pretty healthy. Though people are starting to think she has some form of dementia or something.

And here's the kicker. The part that makes it ALMOST humorous. The things that are being stolen from her...yeah, an old electric can opener, old half used bottles of shampoo & nail polish remover. You know, things that are REALLY hot commodities & everyone would want (insert very heavy sarcasm). I mean...come on! Are you freaking serious?! Oh...and other things she apparently cannot remember but "knows" are missing. How do you argue that??

I hate that she made me so upset that DD was crying & kept trying to hug me & comfort me. I hate that she got to me like that. I know that no one believes her but it doesn't matter. I've never been so falsely & viciously accused of anything like that before. I've never really hated someone before. I'm not sure I know what real hatred is like but I imagine it's something like what I'm feeling towards her. And that's just sad, just really, really sad. Nice, huh?

Edited to correct spelling (too upset still to spell right...feeble attempt at humour).

[Emmas Mom]

How sad it is to even ask that question but I think that for the rest of my life I'll look back on yesterday as one of the worst days of my life. My throat is raw from screaming & crying so much. This is all about my DH's Nana.

Need to preface this by saying we live with my MIL & her mother (the Nana). They moved from CA to AZ last February (2005) & lived with us in our house while MIL/FIL's house was being built. Then last October we all moved here & are renting our house out. My IL's are great & I really love them dearly. They are letting us live here rent free while DH is in school doing some pre-reqs for Pharmacy school. Ok...here's the long, pathetic story:

I was in the kitchen last night & starting to make dinner. DH was at the library studying for a test he has today. MIL is in California (she's coming back today). Anyway, his Nana came up to me & asked me in this accusing tone of voice where her "crate" was. I had no idea what she was talking about & asked her "what crate". She then proceeded to tell me that she KNEW I took a crate from the top shelf of her closet. Then she started in on this tirade wanting to know where the keys to her desk were because she knew I had copies made & wanted to know where I got the copies made. Then she accused me of damaging her "high boy"....some piece of furniture she has....and taking all her drawers out & dumping the contents on the bed to see what I could steal from her. Then she accuses me of conspiring with my step mom (SM) when she was here in February, w/my Dad, FOR ONE AFTERNOON. That I somehow, when the house was FULL of people, "covered" for SM while she rifled through the Nana's room. She said she HEARD me say to SM "did you get anything good" & that she "patted her pockets" (like she had something in them). Never mind that the old biddy can't hear or see well. When I told her I don't even really know SM that well (my Dad's 3rd wife that he's only been married to for about 7 years & they've lived in a different state the whole time), she doesn't believe me & tells me I have "long" conversations with her. Which I never do & how in the world would she know that anyway?? When we were in our old house she accused my Dad & SM of stealing from her then, which everyone dismissed but apparently she's been "making a list", so to speak. She tells me I stole her phone with the big buttons on it....yes, her old, dirty, landline phone that was a huge eye sore & that no one would use but her. I think MIL conveniently LOST the phone in the move because she didn't like it. Then she starts saying do I want DH & his family to know what kind of a person I am & what kind of a family I come from. That I'm a liar & a thief. Nothing I said mattered to her. In her mind she knows, beyond a shadow of a doubt, that I'm guilty of these things. I have known from stories DH's family has told me that she is a negative person who "sees conspiracies", as they said. But I have never in my life been the target of such harsh & hurtful & utterly false accusations. I have honestly & continually tried to be nice to this woman. Not because I'm overly fond of her but because I feel sorry for her. No one in this house does more for her than I do & that's the honest truth. MIL isn't here all the time. DH is a guy, enough said. And this is what I get for my efforts. Let me just say here....WE LET THIS WOMAN LIVE WITH US!! We asked her for nothing, we wouldn't take her money when she tried to pay us for room & board. I do the grocery shopping around here. She eats my food that I buy with MY money that I make. Not DH, because he's a full time student. Not MIL, cause she's not here all the time (although she does also buy groceries when she's here). She uses our things. I am in hell living with her. No one believes her, everyone's telling me that but THAT'S NOT THE POINT! I know I didn't do anything she accused me of, I know they are behind me but for the rest of DH's Nana's life she is going to believe these things about me!! And we have to LIVE with her!! I don't know how to just ignore her. I don't know how to be the better person when she has hurt me so much. I don't know how to get through this time living with her.

DH should be done with his pre-requisites for Pharmacy school by next May. That is the soonest we can move. I'm trying so hard to look at the big picture right now...we live here rent free, we have virtually no bills & are really blessed to have DH's parents helping us this way. I know it's not going to last forever. I have my two little angels & need to focus on them & DH & MIL, not her. But still, she's here. This negative, pathetic, sad presence in the house. I was talking to FIL & he was so sad for me & knows how it feels to be on the receiving end of her filthy lies & accusations. He actually told me that the reason he's not living here is because of her. Because she's always treated HIM badly since he & MIL got married. He's not living with his wife because his MIL lives here! Sad.

I feel badly too because I don't want to cause drama for MIL. She is the Nana's only daughter & is a saint for letting her live with her & not putting her in a home. I've also been told that the Nana has been harsh with MIL her whole life too. I've seen it on a couple occasions, but nothing like she was with me yesterday. I guess I'm the scapegoat cause I'm not her blood family. If that was my mother, I could never live with her. She doesn't hear or see very well, but other than that she's pretty healthy. Though people are starting to think she has some form of dementia or something.

And here's the kicker. The part that makes it ALMOST humorous. The things that are being stolen from her...yeah, an old electric can opener, old half used bottles of shampoo & nail polish remover. You know, things that are REALLY hot commodities & everyone would want (insert very heavy sarcasm). I mean...come on! Are you freaking serious?! Oh...and other things she apparently cannot remember but "knows" are missing. How do you argue that??

I hate that she made me so upset that DD was crying & kept trying to hug me & comfort me. I hate that she got to me like that. I know that no one believes her but it doesn't matter. I've never been so falsely & viciously accused of anything like that before. I've never really hated someone before. I'm not sure I know what real hatred is like but I imagine it's something like what I'm feeling towards her. And that's just sad, just really, really sad. Nice, huh?

Edited to correct spelling (too upset still to spell right...feeble attempt at humour).

[Puddy73]

Big hugs! It is so, so hard to be the brunt of such negativity and to not want to respond in a like manner.

DH's grandmother occasionally behaves like this and it turns out that small strokes are a contributing factor. Or perhaps another medical condition is causing the problem. Would your MIL be willing to take her to a neurologist to be evaluated?

Jennifer
Mommy to Annabelle 9/08/03 & Finn 10/31/05

"If we couldn't laugh, we would all go insane." - Jimmy Buffett

[Puddy73]

Big hugs! It is so, so hard to be the brunt of such negativity and to not want to respond in a like manner.

DH's grandmother occasionally behaves like this and it turns out that small strokes are a contributing factor. Or perhaps another medical condition is causing the problem. Would your MIL be willing to take her to a neurologist to be evaluated?

Jennifer
Mommy to Annabelle 9/08/03 & Finn 10/31/05

"If we couldn't laugh, we would all go insane." - Jimmy Buffett

[Puddy73]

Big hugs! It is so, so hard to be the brunt of such negativity and to not want to respond in a like manner.

DH's grandmother occasionally behaves like this and it turns out that small strokes are a contributing factor. Or perhaps another medical condition is causing the problem. Would your MIL be willing to take her to a neurologist to be evaluated?

Jennifer
Mommy to Annabelle 9/08/03 & Finn 10/31/05

"If we couldn't laugh, we would all go insane." - Jimmy Buffett

[Puddy73]

Big hugs! It is so, so hard to be the brunt of such negativity and to not want to respond in a like manner.

DH's grandmother occasionally behaves like this and it turns out that small strokes are a contributing factor. Or perhaps another medical condition is causing the problem. Would your MIL be willing to take her to a neurologist to be evaluated?

Jennifer
Mommy to Annabelle 9/08/03 & Finn 10/31/05

"If we couldn't laugh, we would all go insane." - Jimmy Buffett

[Puddy73]

Big hugs! It is so, so hard to be the brunt of such negativity and to not want to respond in a like manner.

DH's grandmother occasionally behaves like this and it turns out that small strokes are a contributing factor. Or perhaps another medical condition is causing the problem. Would your MIL be willing to take her to a neurologist to be evaluated?

Jennifer
Mommy to Annabelle 9/08/03 & Finn 10/31/05

"If we couldn't laugh, we would all go insane." - Jimmy Buffett

[Puddy73]

Big hugs! It is so, so hard to be the brunt of such negativity and to not want to respond in a like manner.

DH's grandmother occasionally behaves like this and it turns out that small strokes are a contributing factor. Or perhaps another medical condition is causing the problem. Would your MIL be willing to take her to a neurologist to be evaluated?

Jennifer
Mommy to Annabelle 9/08/03 & Finn 10/31/05

"If we couldn't laugh, we would all go insane." - Jimmy Buffett

[Puddy73]

Big hugs! It is so, so hard to be the brunt of such negativity and to not want to respond in a like manner.

DH's grandmother occasionally behaves like this and it turns out that small strokes are a contributing factor. Or perhaps another medical condition is causing the problem. Would your MIL be willing to take her to a neurologist to be evaluated?

Jennifer
Mommy to Annabelle 9/08/03 & Finn 10/31/05

"If we couldn't laugh, we would all go insane." - Jimmy Buffett

[Puddy73]

Big hugs! It is so, so hard to be the brunt of such negativity and to not want to respond in a like manner.

DH's grandmother occasionally behaves like this and it turns out that small strokes are a contributing factor. Or perhaps another medical condition is causing the problem. Would your MIL be willing to take her to a neurologist to be evaluated?

Jennifer
Mommy to Annabelle 9/08/03 & Finn 10/31/05

"If we couldn't laugh, we would all go insane." - Jimmy Buffett

[Puddy73]

Big hugs! It is so, so hard to be the brunt of such negativity and to not want to respond in a like manner.

DH's grandmother occasionally behaves like this and it turns out that small strokes are a contributing factor. Or perhaps another medical condition is causing the problem. Would your MIL be willing to take her to a neurologist to be evaluated?

Jennifer
Mommy to Annabelle 9/08/03 & Finn 10/31/05

"If we couldn't laugh, we would all go insane." - Jimmy Buffett

[Emmas Mom]

I'll ask her. Or maybe some adult day care so she can get out of the house & around others her own age. I don't know. She's 92 years old & she's just the type of person to hang on for another 10 years just to spite everyone.

[Emmas Mom]

I'll ask her. Or maybe some adult day care so she can get out of the house & around others her own age. I don't know. She's 92 years old & she's just the type of person to hang on for another 10 years just to spite everyone.

[Emmas Mom]

I'll ask her. Or maybe some adult day care so she can get out of the house & around others her own age. I don't know. She's 92 years old & she's just the type of person to hang on for another 10 years just to spite everyone.

[Emmas Mom]

I'll ask her. Or maybe some adult day care so she can get out of the house & around others her own age. I don't know. She's 92 years old & she's just the type of person to hang on for another 10 years just to spite everyone.

[Emmas Mom]

I'll ask her. Or maybe some adult day care so she can get out of the house & around others her own age. I don't know. She's 92 years old & she's just the type of person to hang on for another 10 years just to spite everyone.

[Emmas Mom]

I'll ask her. Or maybe some adult day care so she can get out of the house & around others her own age. I don't know. She's 92 years old & she's just the type of person to hang on for another 10 years just to spite everyone.

[Emmas Mom]

I'll ask her. Or maybe some adult day care so she can get out of the house & around others her own age. I don't know. She's 92 years old & she's just the type of person to hang on for another 10 years just to spite everyone.

[Emmas Mom]

I'll ask her. Or maybe some adult day care so she can get out of the house & around others her own age. I don't know. She's 92 years old & she's just the type of person to hang on for another 10 years just to spite everyone.

[Emmas Mom]

I'll ask her. Or maybe some adult day care so she can get out of the house & around others her own age. I don't know. She's 92 years old & she's just the type of person to hang on for another 10 years just to spite everyone.

[HannaAddict]

I am sorry you had to go through that, it would be awful. But based on her age and what she is alleging, it really sounds like she has dementia, Alzheimers or some form of mental illness. These sorts of accusations are pretty typical of different mental illnesses. If she was into conspiracy theories before her advanced age set in, then I would think she's probably had some sort of long term mental illness versus just being mean or getting an age related illness.

But, no matter what the reason, I am really sorry you are going through this and if she continues this, you have to protect your family and child and have the in-laws look into some other long term care option for her. Try not to view the accusations as accusations, but rather symptoms of something going seriously wrong with her mental state. I hope your in-laws are understanding and understand that the Nana has something seriously wrong. Hang in there, you should get a huge thank you for taking in all these house guests too!

Kimberly

[HannaAddict]

I am sorry you had to go through that, it would be awful. But based on her age and what she is alleging, it really sounds like she has dementia, Alzheimers or some form of mental illness. These sorts of accusations are pretty typical of different mental illnesses. If she was into conspiracy theories before her advanced age set in, then I would think she's probably had some sort of long term mental illness versus just being mean or getting an age related illness.

But, no matter what the reason, I am really sorry you are going through this and if she continues this, you have to protect your family and child and have the in-laws look into some other long term care option for her. Try not to view the accusations as accusations, but rather symptoms of something going seriously wrong with her mental state. I hope your in-laws are understanding and understand that the Nana has something seriously wrong. Hang in there, you should get a huge thank you for taking in all these house guests too!

Kimberly

[HannaAddict]

I am sorry you had to go through that, it would be awful. But based on her age and what she is alleging, it really sounds like she has dementia, Alzheimers or some form of mental illness. These sorts of accusations are pretty typical of different mental illnesses. If she was into conspiracy theories before her advanced age set in, then I would think she's probably had some sort of long term mental illness versus just being mean or getting an age related illness.

But, no matter what the reason, I am really sorry you are going through this and if she continues this, you have to protect your family and child and have the in-laws look into some other long term care option for her. Try not to view the accusations as accusations, but rather symptoms of something going seriously wrong with her mental state. I hope your in-laws are understanding and understand that the Nana has something seriously wrong. Hang in there, you should get a huge thank you for taking in all these house guests too!

Kimberly

[HannaAddict]

I am sorry you had to go through that, it would be awful. But based on her age and what she is alleging, it really sounds like she has dementia, Alzheimers or some form of mental illness. These sorts of accusations are pretty typical of different mental illnesses. If she was into conspiracy theories before her advanced age set in, then I would think she's probably had some sort of long term mental illness versus just being mean or getting an age related illness.

But, no matter what the reason, I am really sorry you are going through this and if she continues this, you have to protect your family and child and have the in-laws look into some other long term care option for her. Try not to view the accusations as accusations, but rather symptoms of something going seriously wrong with her mental state. I hope your in-laws are understanding and understand that the Nana has something seriously wrong. Hang in there, you should get a huge thank you for taking in all these house guests too!

Kimberly

[HannaAddict]

I am sorry you had to go through that, it would be awful. But based on her age and what she is alleging, it really sounds like she has dementia, Alzheimers or some form of mental illness. These sorts of accusations are pretty typical of different mental illnesses. If she was into conspiracy theories before her advanced age set in, then I would think she's probably had some sort of long term mental illness versus just being mean or getting an age related illness.

But, no matter what the reason, I am really sorry you are going through this and if she continues this, you have to protect your family and child and have the in-laws look into some other long term care option for her. Try not to view the accusations as accusations, but rather symptoms of something going seriously wrong with her mental state. I hope your in-laws are understanding and understand that the Nana has something seriously wrong. Hang in there, you should get a huge thank you for taking in all these house guests too!

Kimberly

[HannaAddict]

I am sorry you had to go through that, it would be awful. But based on her age and what she is alleging, it really sounds like she has dementia, Alzheimers or some form of mental illness. These sorts of accusations are pretty typical of different mental illnesses. If she was into conspiracy theories before her advanced age set in, then I would think she's probably had some sort of long term mental illness versus just being mean or getting an age related illness.

But, no matter what the reason, I am really sorry you are going through this and if she continues this, you have to protect your family and child and have the in-laws look into some other long term care option for her. Try not to view the accusations as accusations, but rather symptoms of something going seriously wrong with her mental state. I hope your in-laws are understanding and understand that the Nana has something seriously wrong. Hang in there, you should get a huge thank you for taking in all these house guests too!

Kimberly

[HannaAddict]

I am sorry you had to go through that, it would be awful. But based on her age and what she is alleging, it really sounds like she has dementia, Alzheimers or some form of mental illness. These sorts of accusations are pretty typical of different mental illnesses. If she was into conspiracy theories before her advanced age set in, then I would think she's probably had some sort of long term mental illness versus just being mean or getting an age related illness.

But, no matter what the reason, I am really sorry you are going through this and if she continues this, you have to protect your family and child and have the in-laws look into some other long term care option for her. Try not to view the accusations as accusations, but rather symptoms of something going seriously wrong with her mental state. I hope your in-laws are understanding and understand that the Nana has something seriously wrong. Hang in there, you should get a huge thank you for taking in all these house guests too!

Kimberly

[HannaAddict]

I am sorry you had to go through that, it would be awful. But based on her age and what she is alleging, it really sounds like she has dementia, Alzheimers or some form of mental illness. These sorts of accusations are pretty typical of different mental illnesses. If she was into conspiracy theories before her advanced age set in, then I would think she's probably had some sort of long term mental illness versus just being mean or getting an age related illness.

But, no matter what the reason, I am really sorry you are going through this and if she continues this, you have to protect your family and child and have the in-laws look into some other long term care option for her. Try not to view the accusations as accusations, but rather symptoms of something going seriously wrong with her mental state. I hope your in-laws are understanding and understand that the Nana has something seriously wrong. Hang in there, you should get a huge thank you for taking in all these house guests too!

Kimberly

[HannaAddict]

I am sorry you had to go through that, it would be awful. But based on her age and what she is alleging, it really sounds like she has dementia, Alzheimers or some form of mental illness. These sorts of accusations are pretty typical of different mental illnesses. If she was into conspiracy theories before her advanced age set in, then I would think she's probably had some sort of long term mental illness versus just being mean or getting an age related illness.

But, no matter what the reason, I am really sorry you are going through this and if she continues this, you have to protect your family and child and have the in-laws look into some other long term care option for her. Try not to view the accusations as accusations, but rather symptoms of something going seriously wrong with her mental state. I hope your in-laws are understanding and understand that the Nana has something seriously wrong. Hang in there, you should get a huge thank you for taking in all these house guests too!

Kimberly

[Jenn98]

Wow. I have a lot of respect for people who can live with their families - especuially parents-in-law!! I'm so sorry you are going through this. As I read it I immediatley thought that she was showing some serious signs of mental illness, which doesn't excuse her behavior or make your feelings hurt any less.
The only thing you can do is kill her with kindness. I had to work with one person about 5 years ago that I couldn't stand and the only thing that ever made me feel better was to be really nice to them. It sounds crazy, I know. But I knew they didn't like me as much as I didn't like them and so I knew it annoyed them for me to be so nice. Plus the whole office thought I was the bigger person and that the other person was nutty. It's passive aggressive, I know, but it really did help me and it made for a much nicer office environment since we weren't openly bickering.
Maybe you could just try to be nice to her to annoy her. Or, the next time you're alone with her you could tell her you did indeed steal all those things and you have plans to steal more! I'm kidding! I'm kidding!
Good luck!

[Jenn98]

Wow. I have a lot of respect for people who can live with their families - especuially parents-in-law!! I'm so sorry you are going through this. As I read it I immediatley thought that she was showing some serious signs of mental illness, which doesn't excuse her behavior or make your feelings hurt any less.
The only thing you can do is kill her with kindness. I had to work with one person about 5 years ago that I couldn't stand and the only thing that ever made me feel better was to be really nice to them. It sounds crazy, I know. But I knew they didn't like me as much as I didn't like them and so I knew it annoyed them for me to be so nice. Plus the whole office thought I was the bigger person and that the other person was nutty. It's passive aggressive, I know, but it really did help me and it made for a much nicer office environment since we weren't openly bickering.
Maybe you could just try to be nice to her to annoy her. Or, the next time you're alone with her you could tell her you did indeed steal all those things and you have plans to steal more! I'm kidding! I'm kidding!
Good luck!

[Jenn98]

Wow. I have a lot of respect for people who can live with their families - especuially parents-in-law!! I'm so sorry you are going through this. As I read it I immediatley thought that she was showing some serious signs of mental illness, which doesn't excuse her behavior or make your feelings hurt any less.
The only thing you can do is kill her with kindness. I had to work with one person about 5 years ago that I couldn't stand and the only thing that ever made me feel better was to be really nice to them. It sounds crazy, I know. But I knew they didn't like me as much as I didn't like them and so I knew it annoyed them for me to be so nice. Plus the whole office thought I was the bigger person and that the other person was nutty. It's passive aggressive, I know, but it really did help me and it made for a much nicer office environment since we weren't openly bickering.
Maybe you could just try to be nice to her to annoy her. Or, the next time you're alone with her you could tell her you did indeed steal all those things and you have plans to steal more! I'm kidding! I'm kidding!
Good luck!

[Jenn98]

Wow. I have a lot of respect for people who can live with their families - especuially parents-in-law!! I'm so sorry you are going through this. As I read it I immediatley thought that she was showing some serious signs of mental illness, which doesn't excuse her behavior or make your feelings hurt any less.
The only thing you can do is kill her with kindness. I had to work with one person about 5 years ago that I couldn't stand and the only thing that ever made me feel better was to be really nice to them. It sounds crazy, I know. But I knew they didn't like me as much as I didn't like them and so I knew it annoyed them for me to be so nice. Plus the whole office thought I was the bigger person and that the other person was nutty. It's passive aggressive, I know, but it really did help me and it made for a much nicer office environment since we weren't openly bickering.
Maybe you could just try to be nice to her to annoy her. Or, the next time you're alone with her you could tell her you did indeed steal all those things and you have plans to steal more! I'm kidding! I'm kidding!
Good luck!

[Jenn98]

Wow. I have a lot of respect for people who can live with their families - especuially parents-in-law!! I'm so sorry you are going through this. As I read it I immediatley thought that she was showing some serious signs of mental illness, which doesn't excuse her behavior or make your feelings hurt any less.
The only thing you can do is kill her with kindness. I had to work with one person about 5 years ago that I couldn't stand and the only thing that ever made me feel better was to be really nice to them. It sounds crazy, I know. But I knew they didn't like me as much as I didn't like them and so I knew it annoyed them for me to be so nice. Plus the whole office thought I was the bigger person and that the other person was nutty. It's passive aggressive, I know, but it really did help me and it made for a much nicer office environment since we weren't openly bickering.
Maybe you could just try to be nice to her to annoy her. Or, the next time you're alone with her you could tell her you did indeed steal all those things and you have plans to steal more! I'm kidding! I'm kidding!
Good luck!

[Jenn98]

Wow. I have a lot of respect for people who can live with their families - especuially parents-in-law!! I'm so sorry you are going through this. As I read it I immediatley thought that she was showing some serious signs of mental illness, which doesn't excuse her behavior or make your feelings hurt any less.
The only thing you can do is kill her with kindness. I had to work with one person about 5 years ago that I couldn't stand and the only thing that ever made me feel better was to be really nice to them. It sounds crazy, I know. But I knew they didn't like me as much as I didn't like them and so I knew it annoyed them for me to be so nice. Plus the whole office thought I was the bigger person and that the other person was nutty. It's passive aggressive, I know, but it really did help me and it made for a much nicer office environment since we weren't openly bickering.
Maybe you could just try to be nice to her to annoy her. Or, the next time you're alone with her you could tell her you did indeed steal all those things and you have plans to steal more! I'm kidding! I'm kidding!
Good luck!

[Jenn98]

Wow. I have a lot of respect for people who can live with their families - especuially parents-in-law!! I'm so sorry you are going through this. As I read it I immediatley thought that she was showing some serious signs of mental illness, which doesn't excuse her behavior or make your feelings hurt any less.
The only thing you can do is kill her with kindness. I had to work with one person about 5 years ago that I couldn't stand and the only thing that ever made me feel better was to be really nice to them. It sounds crazy, I know. But I knew they didn't like me as much as I didn't like them and so I knew it annoyed them for me to be so nice. Plus the whole office thought I was the bigger person and that the other person was nutty. It's passive aggressive, I know, but it really did help me and it made for a much nicer office environment since we weren't openly bickering.
Maybe you could just try to be nice to her to annoy her. Or, the next time you're alone with her you could tell her you did indeed steal all those things and you have plans to steal more! I'm kidding! I'm kidding!
Good luck!

[Jenn98]

Wow. I have a lot of respect for people who can live with their families - especuially parents-in-law!! I'm so sorry you are going through this. As I read it I immediatley thought that she was showing some serious signs of mental illness, which doesn't excuse her behavior or make your feelings hurt any less.
The only thing you can do is kill her with kindness. I had to work with one person about 5 years ago that I couldn't stand and the only thing that ever made me feel better was to be really nice to them. It sounds crazy, I know. But I knew they didn't like me as much as I didn't like them and so I knew it annoyed them for me to be so nice. Plus the whole office thought I was the bigger person and that the other person was nutty. It's passive aggressive, I know, but it really did help me and it made for a much nicer office environment since we weren't openly bickering.
Maybe you could just try to be nice to her to annoy her. Or, the next time you're alone with her you could tell her you did indeed steal all those things and you have plans to steal more! I'm kidding! I'm kidding!
Good luck!

[Jenn98]

Wow. I have a lot of respect for people who can live with their families - especuially parents-in-law!! I'm so sorry you are going through this. As I read it I immediatley thought that she was showing some serious signs of mental illness, which doesn't excuse her behavior or make your feelings hurt any less.
The only thing you can do is kill her with kindness. I had to work with one person about 5 years ago that I couldn't stand and the only thing that ever made me feel better was to be really nice to them. It sounds crazy, I know. But I knew they didn't like me as much as I didn't like them and so I knew it annoyed them for me to be so nice. Plus the whole office thought I was the bigger person and that the other person was nutty. It's passive aggressive, I know, but it really did help me and it made for a much nicer office environment since we weren't openly bickering.
Maybe you could just try to be nice to her to annoy her. Or, the next time you're alone with her you could tell her you did indeed steal all those things and you have plans to steal more! I'm kidding! I'm kidding!
Good luck!

[californiagirl]

Oh, that's so terrible. But yes, it's a classic symptom of dementia.

[californiagirl]

Oh, that's so terrible. But yes, it's a classic symptom of dementia.

[californiagirl]

Oh, that's so terrible. But yes, it's a classic symptom of dementia.

[californiagirl]

Oh, that's so terrible. But yes, it's a classic symptom of dementia.

[californiagirl]

Oh, that's so terrible. But yes, it's a classic symptom of dementia.

[californiagirl]

Oh, that's so terrible. But yes, it's a classic symptom of dementia.

[californiagirl]

Oh, that's so terrible. But yes, it's a classic symptom of dementia.

[californiagirl]

Oh, that's so terrible. But yes, it's a classic symptom of dementia.

[californiagirl]

Oh, that's so terrible. But yes, it's a classic symptom of dementia.

[mommy_someday]

Oh, honey, it is ***SO*** hard to live with someone that has a mental illness! Major (((hugs))) to you! My dad is paranoid schizophrenic so I totally understand the false accusations, irrationality and paranoia. It's incredibly frustrating. Please take care of yourself and do what you can to keep from letting it get to you (WAY easier said than done). I hope that the Nana can get some help, but in the meantime, protect yourself and your loved ones as much as possible given the situation. Sending lots of hugs and peaceful thoughts your way.

[mommy_someday]

Oh, honey, it is ***SO*** hard to live with someone that has a mental illness! Major (((hugs))) to you! My dad is paranoid schizophrenic so I totally understand the false accusations, irrationality and paranoia. It's incredibly frustrating. Please take care of yourself and do what you can to keep from letting it get to you (WAY easier said than done). I hope that the Nana can get some help, but in the meantime, protect yourself and your loved ones as much as possible given the situation. Sending lots of hugs and peaceful thoughts your way.

[mommy_someday]

Oh, honey, it is ***SO*** hard to live with someone that has a mental illness! Major (((hugs))) to you! My dad is paranoid schizophrenic so I totally understand the false accusations, irrationality and paranoia. It's incredibly frustrating. Please take care of yourself and do what you can to keep from letting it get to you (WAY easier said than done). I hope that the Nana can get some help, but in the meantime, protect yourself and your loved ones as much as possible given the situation. Sending lots of hugs and peaceful thoughts your way.

[mommy_someday]

Oh, honey, it is ***SO*** hard to live with someone that has a mental illness! Major (((hugs))) to you! My dad is paranoid schizophrenic so I totally understand the false accusations, irrationality and paranoia. It's incredibly frustrating. Please take care of yourself and do what you can to keep from letting it get to you (WAY easier said than done). I hope that the Nana can get some help, but in the meantime, protect yourself and your loved ones as much as possible given the situation. Sending lots of hugs and peaceful thoughts your way.

[mommy_someday]

Oh, honey, it is ***SO*** hard to live with someone that has a mental illness! Major (((hugs))) to you! My dad is paranoid schizophrenic so I totally understand the false accusations, irrationality and paranoia. It's incredibly frustrating. Please take care of yourself and do what you can to keep from letting it get to you (WAY easier said than done). I hope that the Nana can get some help, but in the meantime, protect yourself and your loved ones as much as possible given the situation. Sending lots of hugs and peaceful thoughts your way.

[mommy_someday]

Oh, honey, it is ***SO*** hard to live with someone that has a mental illness! Major (((hugs))) to you! My dad is paranoid schizophrenic so I totally understand the false accusations, irrationality and paranoia. It's incredibly frustrating. Please take care of yourself and do what you can to keep from letting it get to you (WAY easier said than done). I hope that the Nana can get some help, but in the meantime, protect yourself and your loved ones as much as possible given the situation. Sending lots of hugs and peaceful thoughts your way.

[mommy_someday]

Oh, honey, it is ***SO*** hard to live with someone that has a mental illness! Major (((hugs))) to you! My dad is paranoid schizophrenic so I totally understand the false accusations, irrationality and paranoia. It's incredibly frustrating. Please take care of yourself and do what you can to keep from letting it get to you (WAY easier said than done). I hope that the Nana can get some help, but in the meantime, protect yourself and your loved ones as much as possible given the situation. Sending lots of hugs and peaceful thoughts your way.

[mommy_someday]

Oh, honey, it is ***SO*** hard to live with someone that has a mental illness! Major (((hugs))) to you! My dad is paranoid schizophrenic so I totally understand the false accusations, irrationality and paranoia. It's incredibly frustrating. Please take care of yourself and do what you can to keep from letting it get to you (WAY easier said than done). I hope that the Nana can get some help, but in the meantime, protect yourself and your loved ones as much as possible given the situation. Sending lots of hugs and peaceful thoughts your way.

[mommy_someday]

Oh, honey, it is ***SO*** hard to live with someone that has a mental illness! Major (((hugs))) to you! My dad is paranoid schizophrenic so I totally understand the false accusations, irrationality and paranoia. It's incredibly frustrating. Please take care of yourself and do what you can to keep from letting it get to you (WAY easier said than done). I hope that the Nana can get some help, but in the meantime, protect yourself and your loved ones as much as possible given the situation. Sending lots of hugs and peaceful thoughts your way.

[cbm]

I am sorry you are going through this. She sounds like she could have dementia or atheroschlerosis. The latter is the narrowing of her blood vessels of the head and neck due to gradual deposition of cholesterol. This causes mini strokes and eventually a big one. I knew someone who had this problem and she was always ranting about something being done to her. She was very irrational and suspicious. Your MIL may want to ask the doctor next time she takes her in. Again I am sorry you had to experience this. As hard as it is, trying to ignore her and I hope you move out soon.
Best of luck.

Claudia
DS 12/18/04

[cbm]

I am sorry you are going through this. She sounds like she could have dementia or atheroschlerosis. The latter is the narrowing of her blood vessels of the head and neck due to gradual deposition of cholesterol. This causes mini strokes and eventually a big one. I knew someone who had this problem and she was always ranting about something being done to her. She was very irrational and suspicious. Your MIL may want to ask the doctor next time she takes her in. Again I am sorry you had to experience this. As hard as it is, trying to ignore her and I hope you move out soon.
Best of luck.

Claudia
DS 12/18/04

[cbm]

I am sorry you are going through this. She sounds like she could have dementia or atheroschlerosis. The latter is the narrowing of her blood vessels of the head and neck due to gradual deposition of cholesterol. This causes mini strokes and eventually a big one. I knew someone who had this problem and she was always ranting about something being done to her. She was very irrational and suspicious. Your MIL may want to ask the doctor next time she takes her in. Again I am sorry you had to experience this. As hard as it is, trying to ignore her and I hope you move out soon.
Best of luck.

Claudia
DS 12/18/04

[cbm]

I am sorry you are going through this. She sounds like she could have dementia or atheroschlerosis. The latter is the narrowing of her blood vessels of the head and neck due to gradual deposition of cholesterol. This causes mini strokes and eventually a big one. I knew someone who had this problem and she was always ranting about something being done to her. She was very irrational and suspicious. Your MIL may want to ask the doctor next time she takes her in. Again I am sorry you had to experience this. As hard as it is, trying to ignore her and I hope you move out soon.
Best of luck.

Claudia
DS 12/18/04

[cbm]

I am sorry you are going through this. She sounds like she could have dementia or atheroschlerosis. The latter is the narrowing of her blood vessels of the head and neck due to gradual deposition of cholesterol. This causes mini strokes and eventually a big one. I knew someone who had this problem and she was always ranting about something being done to her. She was very irrational and suspicious. Your MIL may want to ask the doctor next time she takes her in. Again I am sorry you had to experience this. As hard as it is, trying to ignore her and I hope you move out soon.
Best of luck.

Claudia
DS 12/18/04

[cbm]

I am sorry you are going through this. She sounds like she could have dementia or atheroschlerosis. The latter is the narrowing of her blood vessels of the head and neck due to gradual deposition of cholesterol. This causes mini strokes and eventually a big one. I knew someone who had this problem and she was always ranting about something being done to her. She was very irrational and suspicious. Your MIL may want to ask the doctor next time she takes her in. Again I am sorry you had to experience this. As hard as it is, trying to ignore her and I hope you move out soon.
Best of luck.

Claudia
DS 12/18/04

[cbm]

I am sorry you are going through this. She sounds like she could have dementia or atheroschlerosis. The latter is the narrowing of her blood vessels of the head and neck due to gradual deposition of cholesterol. This causes mini strokes and eventually a big one. I knew someone who had this problem and she was always ranting about something being done to her. She was very irrational and suspicious. Your MIL may want to ask the doctor next time she takes her in. Again I am sorry you had to experience this. As hard as it is, trying to ignore her and I hope you move out soon.
Best of luck.

Claudia
DS 12/18/04

[cbm]

I am sorry you are going through this. She sounds like she could have dementia or atheroschlerosis. The latter is the narrowing of her blood vessels of the head and neck due to gradual deposition of cholesterol. This causes mini strokes and eventually a big one. I knew someone who had this problem and she was always ranting about something being done to her. She was very irrational and suspicious. Your MIL may want to ask the doctor next time she takes her in. Again I am sorry you had to experience this. As hard as it is, trying to ignore her and I hope you move out soon.
Best of luck.

Claudia
DS 12/18/04

[cbm]

I am sorry you are going through this. She sounds like she could have dementia or atheroschlerosis. The latter is the narrowing of her blood vessels of the head and neck due to gradual deposition of cholesterol. This causes mini strokes and eventually a big one. I knew someone who had this problem and she was always ranting about something being done to her. She was very irrational and suspicious. Your MIL may want to ask the doctor next time she takes her in. Again I am sorry you had to experience this. As hard as it is, trying to ignore her and I hope you move out soon.
Best of luck.

Claudia
DS 12/18/04

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[elliput]

Some medical issue is going on, and Nana needs to see a specialist ASAP for the sanity of the ENTIRE family. I encourage you to speak with your MIL and DH about this today, and get something happening now. The sooner Nana is getting the correct type of medical care the better off everyone will be.

I have very good friends that dealt with a very similiar situation, and it ended up being a major issue in their now defunct marriage.

((((HUGS)))) I wish I could send you a Calgon moment. :-)

[elliput]

Some medical issue is going on, and Nana needs to see a specialist ASAP for the sanity of the ENTIRE family. I encourage you to speak with your MIL and DH about this today, and get something happening now. The sooner Nana is getting the correct type of medical care the better off everyone will be.

I have very good friends that dealt with a very similiar situation, and it ended up being a major issue in their now defunct marriage.

((((HUGS)))) I wish I could send you a Calgon moment. :-)

[elliput]

Some medical issue is going on, and Nana needs to see a specialist ASAP for the sanity of the ENTIRE family. I encourage you to speak with your MIL and DH about this today, and get something happening now. The sooner Nana is getting the correct type of medical care the better off everyone will be.

I have very good friends that dealt with a very similiar situation, and it ended up being a major issue in their now defunct marriage.

((((HUGS)))) I wish I could send you a Calgon moment. :-)

[elliput]

Some medical issue is going on, and Nana needs to see a specialist ASAP for the sanity of the ENTIRE family. I encourage you to speak with your MIL and DH about this today, and get something happening now. The sooner Nana is getting the correct type of medical care the better off everyone will be.

I have very good friends that dealt with a very similiar situation, and it ended up being a major issue in their now defunct marriage.

((((HUGS)))) I wish I could send you a Calgon moment. :-)

[elliput]

Some medical issue is going on, and Nana needs to see a specialist ASAP for the sanity of the ENTIRE family. I encourage you to speak with your MIL and DH about this today, and get something happening now. The sooner Nana is getting the correct type of medical care the better off everyone will be.

I have very good friends that dealt with a very similiar situation, and it ended up being a major issue in their now defunct marriage.

((((HUGS)))) I wish I could send you a Calgon moment. :-)

[elliput]

Some medical issue is going on, and Nana needs to see a specialist ASAP for the sanity of the ENTIRE family. I encourage you to speak with your MIL and DH about this today, and get something happening now. The sooner Nana is getting the correct type of medical care the better off everyone will be.

I have very good friends that dealt with a very similiar situation, and it ended up being a major issue in their now defunct marriage.

((((HUGS)))) I wish I could send you a Calgon moment. :-)

[elliput]

Some medical issue is going on, and Nana needs to see a specialist ASAP for the sanity of the ENTIRE family. I encourage you to speak with your MIL and DH about this today, and get something happening now. The sooner Nana is getting the correct type of medical care the better off everyone will be.

I have very good friends that dealt with a very similiar situation, and it ended up being a major issue in their now defunct marriage.

((((HUGS)))) I wish I could send you a Calgon moment. :-)

[elliput]

Some medical issue is going on, and Nana needs to see a specialist ASAP for the sanity of the ENTIRE family. I encourage you to speak with your MIL and DH about this today, and get something happening now. The sooner Nana is getting the correct type of medical care the better off everyone will be.

I have very good friends that dealt with a very similiar situation, and it ended up being a major issue in their now defunct marriage.

((((HUGS)))) I wish I could send you a Calgon moment. :-)

[elliput]

Some medical issue is going on, and Nana needs to see a specialist ASAP for the sanity of the ENTIRE family. I encourage you to speak with your MIL and DH about this today, and get something happening now. The sooner Nana is getting the correct type of medical care the better off everyone will be.

I have very good friends that dealt with a very similiar situation, and it ended up being a major issue in their now defunct marriage.

((((HUGS)))) I wish I could send you a Calgon moment. :-)

[mommato2boys]

She needs medicine...sounds to me she has some early signs of ....something....but I would make a call to her doctor.

[mommato2boys]

She needs medicine...sounds to me she has some early signs of ....something....but I would make a call to her doctor.

[mommato2boys]

She needs medicine...sounds to me she has some early signs of ....something....but I would make a call to her doctor.

[mommato2boys]

She needs medicine...sounds to me she has some early signs of ....something....but I would make a call to her doctor.

[mommato2boys]

She needs medicine...sounds to me she has some early signs of ....something....but I would make a call to her doctor.

[mommato2boys]

She needs medicine...sounds to me she has some early signs of ....something....but I would make a call to her doctor.

[mommato2boys]

She needs medicine...sounds to me she has some early signs of ....something....but I would make a call to her doctor.

[mommato2boys]

She needs medicine...sounds to me she has some early signs of ....something....but I would make a call to her doctor.

[mommato2boys]

She needs medicine...sounds to me she has some early signs of ....something....but I would make a call to her doctor.

[pb&j]

Nothing to add that hasn't already been said. Many, many hugs to you.


-Ry,
mom to Emma, stillborn 11/04/04
and Max, 01/05/06

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[pb&j]

Nothing to add that hasn't already been said. Many, many hugs to you.


-Ry,
mom to Emma, stillborn 11/04/04
and Max, 01/05/06

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[pb&j]

Nothing to add that hasn't already been said. Many, many hugs to you.


-Ry,
mom to Emma, stillborn 11/04/04
and Max, 01/05/06

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[pb&j]

Nothing to add that hasn't already been said. Many, many hugs to you.


-Ry,
mom to Emma, stillborn 11/04/04
and Max, 01/05/06

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[pb&j]

Nothing to add that hasn't already been said. Many, many hugs to you.


-Ry,
mom to Emma, stillborn 11/04/04
and Max, 01/05/06

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http://b1.lilypie.com/aKGqm5/.png[/img] ([img)

[pb&j]

Nothing to add that hasn't already been said. Many, many hugs to you.


-Ry,
mom to Emma, stillborn 11/04/04
and Max, 01/05/06

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http://b1.lilypie.com/aKGqm5/.png[/img] ([img)

[pb&j]

Nothing to add that hasn't already been said. Many, many hugs to you.


-Ry,
mom to Emma, stillborn 11/04/04
and Max, 01/05/06

http://www.windsorpeak.com/dc/user_files/32812.gif
http://b1.lilypie.com/aKGqm5/.png[/img] ([img)

[pb&j]

Nothing to add that hasn't already been said. Many, many hugs to you.


-Ry,
mom to Emma, stillborn 11/04/04
and Max, 01/05/06

http://www.windsorpeak.com/dc/user_files/32812.gif
http://b1.lilypie.com/aKGqm5/.png[/img] ([img)

[pb&j]

Nothing to add that hasn't already been said. Many, many hugs to you.


-Ry,
mom to Emma, stillborn 11/04/04
and Max, 01/05/06

http://www.windsorpeak.com/dc/user_files/32812.gif
http://b1.lilypie.com/aKGqm5/.png[/img] ([img)

[mamato1]

First, big hugs to you. Second ditto everyone else, she needs to see a doctor ASAP. Sounds like dementia to me.

Chris

Mama to Brendan (aka Boomer) 01/16/04


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[mamato1]

First, big hugs to you. Second ditto everyone else, she needs to see a doctor ASAP. Sounds like dementia to me.

Chris

Mama to Brendan (aka Boomer) 01/16/04


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[mamato1]

First, big hugs to you. Second ditto everyone else, she needs to see a doctor ASAP. Sounds like dementia to me.

Chris

Mama to Brendan (aka Boomer) 01/16/04


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[mamato1]

First, big hugs to you. Second ditto everyone else, she needs to see a doctor ASAP. Sounds like dementia to me.

Chris

Mama to Brendan (aka Boomer) 01/16/04


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[mamato1]

First, big hugs to you. Second ditto everyone else, she needs to see a doctor ASAP. Sounds like dementia to me.

Chris

Mama to Brendan (aka Boomer) 01/16/04


http://b3.lilypie.com/FnI6m5/.png

[mamato1]

First, big hugs to you. Second ditto everyone else, she needs to see a doctor ASAP. Sounds like dementia to me.

Chris

Mama to Brendan (aka Boomer) 01/16/04


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[mamato1]

First, big hugs to you. Second ditto everyone else, she needs to see a doctor ASAP. Sounds like dementia to me.

Chris

Mama to Brendan (aka Boomer) 01/16/04


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[mamato1]

First, big hugs to you. Second ditto everyone else, she needs to see a doctor ASAP. Sounds like dementia to me.

Chris

Mama to Brendan (aka Boomer) 01/16/04


http://b3.lilypie.com/FnI6m5/.png

[mamato1]

First, big hugs to you. Second ditto everyone else, she needs to see a doctor ASAP. Sounds like dementia to me.

Chris

Mama to Brendan (aka Boomer) 01/16/04


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[mommy111]

Sounds like she needs a doc. That doesn't make it any easier for you to put up with this, though, so sorry you're having to gop through this :(

[mommy111]

Sounds like she needs a doc. That doesn't make it any easier for you to put up with this, though, so sorry you're having to gop through this :(

[mommy111]

Sounds like she needs a doc. That doesn't make it any easier for you to put up with this, though, so sorry you're having to gop through this :(

[mommy111]

Sounds like she needs a doc. That doesn't make it any easier for you to put up with this, though, so sorry you're having to gop through this :(

[mommy111]

Sounds like she needs a doc. That doesn't make it any easier for you to put up with this, though, so sorry you're having to gop through this :(

[mommy111]

Sounds like she needs a doc. That doesn't make it any easier for you to put up with this, though, so sorry you're having to gop through this :(

[mommy111]

Sounds like she needs a doc. That doesn't make it any easier for you to put up with this, though, so sorry you're having to gop through this :(

[mommy111]

Sounds like she needs a doc. That doesn't make it any easier for you to put up with this, though, so sorry you're having to gop through this :(

[mommy111]

Sounds like she needs a doc. That doesn't make it any easier for you to put up with this, though, so sorry you're having to gop through this :(

[KBecks]

Honey, I didn't read all the gory details, but.... how old is nana?

I believe she has dementia and is not in control of her thoughts. My mom has Alzheimers and was ugly with family members before she moved into a nursing home. My mom was nasty to her own grandkids, paranoid, all that. I think old fears and baggage comes up and gets all dumped out and makes no sense whatsoever.

I don't think it's "her" trying to be that way, I think her mind is just plain old screwed up.

I'm sorry you had to deal with all the crap. But, don't you worry because you did nothing wrong.

Perhaps you need to have a private, out of the house meeting with MIL to discuss what happened and see if nana would be better off with professional care. Just a thought.

Take care, and please don't let any of the crap get to you. Nothing is true, nana is suffering something that is out of her control, IMO.

ETA: I hope you can move out soon and not have to deal with it, because it's got to be incredibly hard and you don't need that. I hope that your MIL finds some care (drugs, nursing home, whatever) to help relieve the burden. I'm so sorry you were a target of nana's venom, you surely don't deserve it.

[KBecks]

Honey, I didn't read all the gory details, but.... how old is nana?

I believe she has dementia and is not in control of her thoughts. My mom has Alzheimers and was ugly with family members before she moved into a nursing home. My mom was nasty to her own grandkids, paranoid, all that. I think old fears and baggage comes up and gets all dumped out and makes no sense whatsoever.

I don't think it's "her" trying to be that way, I think her mind is just plain old screwed up.

I'm sorry you had to deal with all the crap. But, don't you worry because you did nothing wrong.

Perhaps you need to have a private, out of the house meeting with MIL to discuss what happened and see if nana would be better off with professional care. Just a thought.

Take care, and please don't let any of the crap get to you. Nothing is true, nana is suffering something that is out of her control, IMO.

ETA: I hope you can move out soon and not have to deal with it, because it's got to be incredibly hard and you don't need that. I hope that your MIL finds some care (drugs, nursing home, whatever) to help relieve the burden. I'm so sorry you were a target of nana's venom, you surely don't deserve it.

[KBecks]

Honey, I didn't read all the gory details, but.... how old is nana?

I believe she has dementia and is not in control of her thoughts. My mom has Alzheimers and was ugly with family members before she moved into a nursing home. My mom was nasty to her own grandkids, paranoid, all that. I think old fears and baggage comes up and gets all dumped out and makes no sense whatsoever.

I don't think it's "her" trying to be that way, I think her mind is just plain old screwed up.

I'm sorry you had to deal with all the crap. But, don't you worry because you did nothing wrong.

Perhaps you need to have a private, out of the house meeting with MIL to discuss what happened and see if nana would be better off with professional care. Just a thought.

Take care, and please don't let any of the crap get to you. Nothing is true, nana is suffering something that is out of her control, IMO.

ETA: I hope you can move out soon and not have to deal with it, because it's got to be incredibly hard and you don't need that. I hope that your MIL finds some care (drugs, nursing home, whatever) to help relieve the burden. I'm so sorry you were a target of nana's venom, you surely don't deserve it.

[KBecks]

Honey, I didn't read all the gory details, but.... how old is nana?

I believe she has dementia and is not in control of her thoughts. My mom has Alzheimers and was ugly with family members before she moved into a nursing home. My mom was nasty to her own grandkids, paranoid, all that. I think old fears and baggage comes up and gets all dumped out and makes no sense whatsoever.

I don't think it's "her" trying to be that way, I think her mind is just plain old screwed up.

I'm sorry you had to deal with all the crap. But, don't you worry because you did nothing wrong.

Perhaps you need to have a private, out of the house meeting with MIL to discuss what happened and see if nana would be better off with professional care. Just a thought.

Take care, and please don't let any of the crap get to you. Nothing is true, nana is suffering something that is out of her control, IMO.

ETA: I hope you can move out soon and not have to deal with it, because it's got to be incredibly hard and you don't need that. I hope that your MIL finds some care (drugs, nursing home, whatever) to help relieve the burden. I'm so sorry you were a target of nana's venom, you surely don't deserve it.

[KBecks]

Honey, I didn't read all the gory details, but.... how old is nana?

I believe she has dementia and is not in control of her thoughts. My mom has Alzheimers and was ugly with family members before she moved into a nursing home. My mom was nasty to her own grandkids, paranoid, all that. I think old fears and baggage comes up and gets all dumped out and makes no sense whatsoever.

I don't think it's "her" trying to be that way, I think her mind is just plain old screwed up.

I'm sorry you had to deal with all the crap. But, don't you worry because you did nothing wrong.

Perhaps you need to have a private, out of the house meeting with MIL to discuss what happened and see if nana would be better off with professional care. Just a thought.

Take care, and please don't let any of the crap get to you. Nothing is true, nana is suffering something that is out of her control, IMO.

ETA: I hope you can move out soon and not have to deal with it, because it's got to be incredibly hard and you don't need that. I hope that your MIL finds some care (drugs, nursing home, whatever) to help relieve the burden. I'm so sorry you were a target of nana's venom, you surely don't deserve it.

[KBecks]

Honey, I didn't read all the gory details, but.... how old is nana?

I believe she has dementia and is not in control of her thoughts. My mom has Alzheimers and was ugly with family members before she moved into a nursing home. My mom was nasty to her own grandkids, paranoid, all that. I think old fears and baggage comes up and gets all dumped out and makes no sense whatsoever.

I don't think it's "her" trying to be that way, I think her mind is just plain old screwed up.

I'm sorry you had to deal with all the crap. But, don't you worry because you did nothing wrong.

Perhaps you need to have a private, out of the house meeting with MIL to discuss what happened and see if nana would be better off with professional care. Just a thought.

Take care, and please don't let any of the crap get to you. Nothing is true, nana is suffering something that is out of her control, IMO.

ETA: I hope you can move out soon and not have to deal with it, because it's got to be incredibly hard and you don't need that. I hope that your MIL finds some care (drugs, nursing home, whatever) to help relieve the burden. I'm so sorry you were a target of nana's venom, you surely don't deserve it.

[KBecks]

Honey, I didn't read all the gory details, but.... how old is nana?

I believe she has dementia and is not in control of her thoughts. My mom has Alzheimers and was ugly with family members before she moved into a nursing home. My mom was nasty to her own grandkids, paranoid, all that. I think old fears and baggage comes up and gets all dumped out and makes no sense whatsoever.

I don't think it's "her" trying to be that way, I think her mind is just plain old screwed up.

I'm sorry you had to deal with all the crap. But, don't you worry because you did nothing wrong.

Perhaps you need to have a private, out of the house meeting with MIL to discuss what happened and see if nana would be better off with professional care. Just a thought.

Take care, and please don't let any of the crap get to you. Nothing is true, nana is suffering something that is out of her control, IMO.

ETA: I hope you can move out soon and not have to deal with it, because it's got to be incredibly hard and you don't need that. I hope that your MIL finds some care (drugs, nursing home, whatever) to help relieve the burden. I'm so sorry you were a target of nana's venom, you surely don't deserve it.

[KBecks]

Honey, I didn't read all the gory details, but.... how old is nana?

I believe she has dementia and is not in control of her thoughts. My mom has Alzheimers and was ugly with family members before she moved into a nursing home. My mom was nasty to her own grandkids, paranoid, all that. I think old fears and baggage comes up and gets all dumped out and makes no sense whatsoever.

I don't think it's "her" trying to be that way, I think her mind is just plain old screwed up.

I'm sorry you had to deal with all the crap. But, don't you worry because you did nothing wrong.

Perhaps you need to have a private, out of the house meeting with MIL to discuss what happened and see if nana would be better off with professional care. Just a thought.

Take care, and please don't let any of the crap get to you. Nothing is true, nana is suffering something that is out of her control, IMO.

ETA: I hope you can move out soon and not have to deal with it, because it's got to be incredibly hard and you don't need that. I hope that your MIL finds some care (drugs, nursing home, whatever) to help relieve the burden. I'm so sorry you were a target of nana's venom, you surely don't deserve it.

[KBecks]

Honey, I didn't read all the gory details, but.... how old is nana?

I believe she has dementia and is not in control of her thoughts. My mom has Alzheimers and was ugly with family members before she moved into a nursing home. My mom was nasty to her own grandkids, paranoid, all that. I think old fears and baggage comes up and gets all dumped out and makes no sense whatsoever.

I don't think it's "her" trying to be that way, I think her mind is just plain old screwed up.

I'm sorry you had to deal with all the crap. But, don't you worry because you did nothing wrong.

Perhaps you need to have a private, out of the house meeting with MIL to discuss what happened and see if nana would be better off with professional care. Just a thought.

Take care, and please don't let any of the crap get to you. Nothing is true, nana is suffering something that is out of her control, IMO.

ETA: I hope you can move out soon and not have to deal with it, because it's got to be incredibly hard and you don't need that. I hope that your MIL finds some care (drugs, nursing home, whatever) to help relieve the burden. I'm so sorry you were a target of nana's venom, you surely don't deserve it.

[janeybwild]

Kristine, I can't even begin to imagine how horrible this is for you. To have to deal with such negativity and venom day in and day out. I can see that just because none of it is true doesn’t make it any bit easier to deal with. If anything, it’s worse! Ughhhh. Hugs to you.

[janeybwild]

Kristine, I can't even begin to imagine how horrible this is for you. To have to deal with such negativity and venom day in and day out. I can see that just because none of it is true doesn’t make it any bit easier to deal with. If anything, it’s worse! Ughhhh. Hugs to you.

[janeybwild]

Kristine, I can't even begin to imagine how horrible this is for you. To have to deal with such negativity and venom day in and day out. I can see that just because none of it is true doesn’t make it any bit easier to deal with. If anything, it’s worse! Ughhhh. Hugs to you.

[janeybwild]

Kristine, I can't even begin to imagine how horrible this is for you. To have to deal with such negativity and venom day in and day out. I can see that just because none of it is true doesn’t make it any bit easier to deal with. If anything, it’s worse! Ughhhh. Hugs to you.

[janeybwild]

Kristine, I can't even begin to imagine how horrible this is for you. To have to deal with such negativity and venom day in and day out. I can see that just because none of it is true doesn’t make it any bit easier to deal with. If anything, it’s worse! Ughhhh. Hugs to you.

[janeybwild]

Kristine, I can't even begin to imagine how horrible this is for you. To have to deal with such negativity and venom day in and day out. I can see that just because none of it is true doesn’t make it any bit easier to deal with. If anything, it’s worse! Ughhhh. Hugs to you.

[janeybwild]

Kristine, I can't even begin to imagine how horrible this is for you. To have to deal with such negativity and venom day in and day out. I can see that just because none of it is true doesn’t make it any bit easier to deal with. If anything, it’s worse! Ughhhh. Hugs to you.

[janeybwild]

Kristine, I can't even begin to imagine how horrible this is for you. To have to deal with such negativity and venom day in and day out. I can see that just because none of it is true doesn’t make it any bit easier to deal with. If anything, it’s worse! Ughhhh. Hugs to you.

[janeybwild]

Kristine, I can't even begin to imagine how horrible this is for you. To have to deal with such negativity and venom day in and day out. I can see that just because none of it is true doesn’t make it any bit easier to deal with. If anything, it’s worse! Ughhhh. Hugs to you.

[Emmas Mom]

Thank you all. We will sit down with my MIL tonight when she gets back. I'm not strong enough to handle this until next May. She was on the phone with her sister Sylvia earlier today. I know my MIL talked to Sylvia yesterday to see what Sylvia thought about the Nana. So I answered the phone when Sylvia called today & she told me not to pay any attention to her. The Nana called me the "enemy" & said I am a kleptomaniac & Sylvia sided with me & Nana said that she's not crazy & not imagining it. She's said that my Dad & step mom (last February) were stealing bank documents & money & she saw my Dad walk by her with a handful of papers (though she says she doesn't know what they were) & she "has an idea" that it was something of DH's! Um...his stuff if MY stuff! Hello?! She said that we are just bad people & not like her family & the people they know. That I was probably on the other line listening to her & recording her conversation. Well, anyone with normal hearing can HEAR her talking as her voice carries in this house! Unbelievable.

I just can't do this! I cannot stay here. How is anyone supposed to live with someone who feels this way about you & calls you these things?? We're selling our house in a couple of months (keep your fingers crossed that is sells fast) & I would rather use all the money we get from the sale of the house & move into an apartment until we figure out where DH going to school. I don't care if it cost us $50,000.00 or whatever! I cannot live in this house with her until next May! I can't do it. I feel just broken. I can't do this to my girls. Every time she thinks something of hers is missing or gone it'll be MY fault. I don't even want to come over to this house because if my Dad & step mom can come for ONE afternoon & "steal" from her than I'm sure she'd say the same thing about me. I can't do this. I can't sleep. I got maybe 2-3 hours of sleep last night. I'm so tired & I laid down because both girls are asleep & I cannot get her mindless accusations out of my head. I can't stop crying & I hate her for making me feel this way.

ETA: I haven't talked to DH yet about moving into an apartment once we sell our house, but I know he'll support that idea. He called earlier from school to see how it was going & I told him about her conversation with Sylvia. He just said "what a bitch". How sad too that he feels that way about his own grandmother.

[Emmas Mom]

Thank you all. We will sit down with my MIL tonight when she gets back. I'm not strong enough to handle this until next May. She was on the phone with her sister Sylvia earlier today. I know my MIL talked to Sylvia yesterday to see what Sylvia thought about the Nana. So I answered the phone when Sylvia called today & she told me not to pay any attention to her. The Nana called me the "enemy" & said I am a kleptomaniac & Sylvia sided with me & Nana said that she's not crazy & not imagining it. She's said that my Dad & step mom (last February) were stealing bank documents & money & she saw my Dad walk by her with a handful of papers (though she says she doesn't know what they were) & she "has an idea" that it was something of DH's! Um...his stuff if MY stuff! Hello?! She said that we are just bad people & not like her family & the people they know. That I was probably on the other line listening to her & recording her conversation. Well, anyone with normal hearing can HEAR her talking as her voice carries in this house! Unbelievable.

I just can't do this! I cannot stay here. How is anyone supposed to live with someone who feels this way about you & calls you these things?? We're selling our house in a couple of months (keep your fingers crossed that is sells fast) & I would rather use all the money we get from the sale of the house & move into an apartment until we figure out where DH going to school. I don't care if it cost us $50,000.00 or whatever! I cannot live in this house with her until next May! I can't do it. I feel just broken. I can't do this to my girls. Every time she thinks something of hers is missing or gone it'll be MY fault. I don't even want to come over to this house because if my Dad & step mom can come for ONE afternoon & "steal" from her than I'm sure she'd say the same thing about me. I can't do this. I can't sleep. I got maybe 2-3 hours of sleep last night. I'm so tired & I laid down because both girls are asleep & I cannot get her mindless accusations out of my head. I can't stop crying & I hate her for making me feel this way.

ETA: I haven't talked to DH yet about moving into an apartment once we sell our house, but I know he'll support that idea. He called earlier from school to see how it was going & I told him about her conversation with Sylvia. He just said "what a bitch". How sad too that he feels that way about his own grandmother.

[Emmas Mom]

Thank you all. We will sit down with my MIL tonight when she gets back. I'm not strong enough to handle this until next May. She was on the phone with her sister Sylvia earlier today. I know my MIL talked to Sylvia yesterday to see what Sylvia thought about the Nana. So I answered the phone when Sylvia called today & she told me not to pay any attention to her. The Nana called me the "enemy" & said I am a kleptomaniac & Sylvia sided with me & Nana said that she's not crazy & not imagining it. She's said that my Dad & step mom (last February) were stealing bank documents & money & she saw my Dad walk by her with a handful of papers (though she says she doesn't know what they were) & she "has an idea" that it was something of DH's! Um...his stuff if MY stuff! Hello?! She said that we are just bad people & not like her family & the people they know. That I was probably on the other line listening to her & recording her conversation. Well, anyone with normal hearing can HEAR her talking as her voice carries in this house! Unbelievable.

I just can't do this! I cannot stay here. How is anyone supposed to live with someone who feels this way about you & calls you these things?? We're selling our house in a couple of months (keep your fingers crossed that is sells fast) & I would rather use all the money we get from the sale of the house & move into an apartment until we figure out where DH going to school. I don't care if it cost us $50,000.00 or whatever! I cannot live in this house with her until next May! I can't do it. I feel just broken. I can't do this to my girls. Every time she thinks something of hers is missing or gone it'll be MY fault. I don't even want to come over to this house because if my Dad & step mom can come for ONE afternoon & "steal" from her than I'm sure she'd say the same thing about me. I can't do this. I can't sleep. I got maybe 2-3 hours of sleep last night. I'm so tired & I laid down because both girls are asleep & I cannot get her mindless accusations out of my head. I can't stop crying & I hate her for making me feel this way.

ETA: I haven't talked to DH yet about moving into an apartment once we sell our house, but I know he'll support that idea. He called earlier from school to see how it was going & I told him about her conversation with Sylvia. He just said "what a bitch". How sad too that he feels that way about his own grandmother.

[Emmas Mom]

Thank you all. We will sit down with my MIL tonight when she gets back. I'm not strong enough to handle this until next May. She was on the phone with her sister Sylvia earlier today. I know my MIL talked to Sylvia yesterday to see what Sylvia thought about the Nana. So I answered the phone when Sylvia called today & she told me not to pay any attention to her. The Nana called me the "enemy" & said I am a kleptomaniac & Sylvia sided with me & Nana said that she's not crazy & not imagining it. She's said that my Dad & step mom (last February) were stealing bank documents & money & she saw my Dad walk by her with a handful of papers (though she says she doesn't know what they were) & she "has an idea" that it was something of DH's! Um...his stuff if MY stuff! Hello?! She said that we are just bad people & not like her family & the people they know. That I was probably on the other line listening to her & recording her conversation. Well, anyone with normal hearing can HEAR her talking as her voice carries in this house! Unbelievable.

I just can't do this! I cannot stay here. How is anyone supposed to live with someone who feels this way about you & calls you these things?? We're selling our house in a couple of months (keep your fingers crossed that is sells fast) & I would rather use all the money we get from the sale of the house & move into an apartment until we figure out where DH going to school. I don't care if it cost us $50,000.00 or whatever! I cannot live in this house with her until next May! I can't do it. I feel just broken. I can't do this to my girls. Every time she thinks something of hers is missing or gone it'll be MY fault. I don't even want to come over to this house because if my Dad & step mom can come for ONE afternoon & "steal" from her than I'm sure she'd say the same thing about me. I can't do this. I can't sleep. I got maybe 2-3 hours of sleep last night. I'm so tired & I laid down because both girls are asleep & I cannot get her mindless accusations out of my head. I can't stop crying & I hate her for making me feel this way.

ETA: I haven't talked to DH yet about moving into an apartment once we sell our house, but I know he'll support that idea. He called earlier from school to see how it was going & I told him about her conversation with Sylvia. He just said "what a bitch". How sad too that he feels that way about his own grandmother.

[Emmas Mom]

Thank you all. We will sit down with my MIL tonight when she gets back. I'm not strong enough to handle this until next May. She was on the phone with her sister Sylvia earlier today. I know my MIL talked to Sylvia yesterday to see what Sylvia thought about the Nana. So I answered the phone when Sylvia called today & she told me not to pay any attention to her. The Nana called me the "enemy" & said I am a kleptomaniac & Sylvia sided with me & Nana said that she's not crazy & not imagining it. She's said that my Dad & step mom (last February) were stealing bank documents & money & she saw my Dad walk by her with a handful of papers (though she says she doesn't know what they were) & she "has an idea" that it was something of DH's! Um...his stuff if MY stuff! Hello?! She said that we are just bad people & not like her family & the people they know. That I was probably on the other line listening to her & recording her conversation. Well, anyone with normal hearing can HEAR her talking as her voice carries in this house! Unbelievable.

I just can't do this! I cannot stay here. How is anyone supposed to live with someone who feels this way about you & calls you these things?? We're selling our house in a couple of months (keep your fingers crossed that is sells fast) & I would rather use all the money we get from the sale of the house & move into an apartment until we figure out where DH going to school. I don't care if it cost us $50,000.00 or whatever! I cannot live in this house with her until next May! I can't do it. I feel just broken. I can't do this to my girls. Every time she thinks something of hers is missing or gone it'll be MY fault. I don't even want to come over to this house because if my Dad & step mom can come for ONE afternoon & "steal" from her than I'm sure she'd say the same thing about me. I can't do this. I can't sleep. I got maybe 2-3 hours of sleep last night. I'm so tired & I laid down because both girls are asleep & I cannot get her mindless accusations out of my head. I can't stop crying & I hate her for making me feel this way.

ETA: I haven't talked to DH yet about moving into an apartment once we sell our house, but I know he'll support that idea. He called earlier from school to see how it was going & I told him about her conversation with Sylvia. He just said "what a bitch". How sad too that he feels that way about his own grandmother.

[Emmas Mom]

Thank you all. We will sit down with my MIL tonight when she gets back. I'm not strong enough to handle this until next May. She was on the phone with her sister Sylvia earlier today. I know my MIL talked to Sylvia yesterday to see what Sylvia thought about the Nana. So I answered the phone when Sylvia called today & she told me not to pay any attention to her. The Nana called me the "enemy" & said I am a kleptomaniac & Sylvia sided with me & Nana said that she's not crazy & not imagining it. She's said that my Dad & step mom (last February) were stealing bank documents & money & she saw my Dad walk by her with a handful of papers (though she says she doesn't know what they were) & she "has an idea" that it was something of DH's! Um...his stuff if MY stuff! Hello?! She said that we are just bad people & not like her family & the people they know. That I was probably on the other line listening to her & recording her conversation. Well, anyone with normal hearing can HEAR her talking as her voice carries in this house! Unbelievable.

I just can't do this! I cannot stay here. How is anyone supposed to live with someone who feels this way about you & calls you these things?? We're selling our house in a couple of months (keep your fingers crossed that is sells fast) & I would rather use all the money we get from the sale of the house & move into an apartment until we figure out where DH going to school. I don't care if it cost us $50,000.00 or whatever! I cannot live in this house with her until next May! I can't do it. I feel just broken. I can't do this to my girls. Every time she thinks something of hers is missing or gone it'll be MY fault. I don't even want to come over to this house because if my Dad & step mom can come for ONE afternoon & "steal" from her than I'm sure she'd say the same thing about me. I can't do this. I can't sleep. I got maybe 2-3 hours of sleep last night. I'm so tired & I laid down because both girls are asleep & I cannot get her mindless accusations out of my head. I can't stop crying & I hate her for making me feel this way.

ETA: I haven't talked to DH yet about moving into an apartment once we sell our house, but I know he'll support that idea. He called earlier from school to see how it was going & I told him about her conversation with Sylvia. He just said "what a bitch". How sad too that he feels that way about his own grandmother.

[Emmas Mom]

Thank you all. We will sit down with my MIL tonight when she gets back. I'm not strong enough to handle this until next May. She was on the phone with her sister Sylvia earlier today. I know my MIL talked to Sylvia yesterday to see what Sylvia thought about the Nana. So I answered the phone when Sylvia called today & she told me not to pay any attention to her. The Nana called me the "enemy" & said I am a kleptomaniac & Sylvia sided with me & Nana said that she's not crazy & not imagining it. She's said that my Dad & step mom (last February) were stealing bank documents & money & she saw my Dad walk by her with a handful of papers (though she says she doesn't know what they were) & she "has an idea" that it was something of DH's! Um...his stuff if MY stuff! Hello?! She said that we are just bad people & not like her family & the people they know. That I was probably on the other line listening to her & recording her conversation. Well, anyone with normal hearing can HEAR her talking as her voice carries in this house! Unbelievable.

I just can't do this! I cannot stay here. How is anyone supposed to live with someone who feels this way about you & calls you these things?? We're selling our house in a couple of months (keep your fingers crossed that is sells fast) & I would rather use all the money we get from the sale of the house & move into an apartment until we figure out where DH going to school. I don't care if it cost us $50,000.00 or whatever! I cannot live in this house with her until next May! I can't do it. I feel just broken. I can't do this to my girls. Every time she thinks something of hers is missing or gone it'll be MY fault. I don't even want to come over to this house because if my Dad & step mom can come for ONE afternoon & "steal" from her than I'm sure she'd say the same thing about me. I can't do this. I can't sleep. I got maybe 2-3 hours of sleep last night. I'm so tired & I laid down because both girls are asleep & I cannot get her mindless accusations out of my head. I can't stop crying & I hate her for making me feel this way.

ETA: I haven't talked to DH yet about moving into an apartment once we sell our house, but I know he'll support that idea. He called earlier from school to see how it was going & I told him about her conversation with Sylvia. He just said "what a bitch". How sad too that he feels that way about his own grandmother.

[Emmas Mom]

Thank you all. We will sit down with my MIL tonight when she gets back. I'm not strong enough to handle this until next May. She was on the phone with her sister Sylvia earlier today. I know my MIL talked to Sylvia yesterday to see what Sylvia thought about the Nana. So I answered the phone when Sylvia called today & she told me not to pay any attention to her. The Nana called me the "enemy" & said I am a kleptomaniac & Sylvia sided with me & Nana said that she's not crazy & not imagining it. She's said that my Dad & step mom (last February) were stealing bank documents & money & she saw my Dad walk by her with a handful of papers (though she says she doesn't know what they were) & she "has an idea" that it was something of DH's! Um...his stuff if MY stuff! Hello?! She said that we are just bad people & not like her family & the people they know. That I was probably on the other line listening to her & recording her conversation. Well, anyone with normal hearing can HEAR her talking as her voice carries in this house! Unbelievable.

I just can't do this! I cannot stay here. How is anyone supposed to live with someone who feels this way about you & calls you these things?? We're selling our house in a couple of months (keep your fingers crossed that is sells fast) & I would rather use all the money we get from the sale of the house & move into an apartment until we figure out where DH going to school. I don't care if it cost us $50,000.00 or whatever! I cannot live in this house with her until next May! I can't do it. I feel just broken. I can't do this to my girls. Every time she thinks something of hers is missing or gone it'll be MY fault. I don't even want to come over to this house because if my Dad & step mom can come for ONE afternoon & "steal" from her than I'm sure she'd say the same thing about me. I can't do this. I can't sleep. I got maybe 2-3 hours of sleep last night. I'm so tired & I laid down because both girls are asleep & I cannot get her mindless accusations out of my head. I can't stop crying & I hate her for making me feel this way.

ETA: I haven't talked to DH yet about moving into an apartment once we sell our house, but I know he'll support that idea. He called earlier from school to see how it was going & I told him about her conversation with Sylvia. He just said "what a bitch". How sad too that he feels that way about his own grandmother.

[Emmas Mom]

Thank you all. We will sit down with my MIL tonight when she gets back. I'm not strong enough to handle this until next May. She was on the phone with her sister Sylvia earlier today. I know my MIL talked to Sylvia yesterday to see what Sylvia thought about the Nana. So I answered the phone when Sylvia called today & she told me not to pay any attention to her. The Nana called me the "enemy" & said I am a kleptomaniac & Sylvia sided with me & Nana said that she's not crazy & not imagining it. She's said that my Dad & step mom (last February) were stealing bank documents & money & she saw my Dad walk by her with a handful of papers (though she says she doesn't know what they were) & she "has an idea" that it was something of DH's! Um...his stuff if MY stuff! Hello?! She said that we are just bad people & not like her family & the people they know. That I was probably on the other line listening to her & recording her conversation. Well, anyone with normal hearing can HEAR her talking as her voice carries in this house! Unbelievable.

I just can't do this! I cannot stay here. How is anyone supposed to live with someone who feels this way about you & calls you these things?? We're selling our house in a couple of months (keep your fingers crossed that is sells fast) & I would rather use all the money we get from the sale of the house & move into an apartment until we figure out where DH going to school. I don't care if it cost us $50,000.00 or whatever! I cannot live in this house with her until next May! I can't do it. I feel just broken. I can't do this to my girls. Every time she thinks something of hers is missing or gone it'll be MY fault. I don't even want to come over to this house because if my Dad & step mom can come for ONE afternoon & "steal" from her than I'm sure she'd say the same thing about me. I can't do this. I can't sleep. I got maybe 2-3 hours of sleep last night. I'm so tired & I laid down because both girls are asleep & I cannot get her mindless accusations out of my head. I can't stop crying & I hate her for making me feel this way.

ETA: I haven't talked to DH yet about moving into an apartment once we sell our house, but I know he'll support that idea. He called earlier from school to see how it was going & I told him about her conversation with Sylvia. He just said "what a bitch". How sad too that he feels that way about his own grandmother.

[almostamom]

Kristine,
DH's grandmother went through some of these same issues in the last few years of her life. I was never on the receiving end of any accusations and only saw the wonderful side of her, but her daughter (my MIL) and son-in-law (step FIL) were both accused of stealing from her. I agree that "Nana" needs some type of medical evaluation. In the meantime, where are you in AZ? I'm in Anthem. Are you close to me? Please feel free to PM me through the boards. You are welcome to come hang out with us whenever you and your girls need a break. I'm sending you lots of hugs.


~Linda~
http://lilypie.com/pic/060427/fDdc.jpg http://b2.lilypie.com/qW3mm7.png

[almostamom]

Kristine,
DH's grandmother went through some of these same issues in the last few years of her life. I was never on the receiving end of any accusations and only saw the wonderful side of her, but her daughter (my MIL) and son-in-law (step FIL) were both accused of stealing from her. I agree that "Nana" needs some type of medical evaluation. In the meantime, where are you in AZ? I'm in Anthem. Are you close to me? Please feel free to PM me through the boards. You are welcome to come hang out with us whenever you and your girls need a break. I'm sending you lots of hugs.


~Linda~
http://lilypie.com/pic/060427/fDdc.jpg http://b2.lilypie.com/qW3mm7.png

[almostamom]

Kristine,
DH's grandmother went through some of these same issues in the last few years of her life. I was never on the receiving end of any accusations and only saw the wonderful side of her, but her daughter (my MIL) and son-in-law (step FIL) were both accused of stealing from her. I agree that "Nana" needs some type of medical evaluation. In the meantime, where are you in AZ? I'm in Anthem. Are you close to me? Please feel free to PM me through the boards. You are welcome to come hang out with us whenever you and your girls need a break. I'm sending you lots of hugs.


~Linda~
http://lilypie.com/pic/060427/fDdc.jpg http://b2.lilypie.com/qW3mm7.png

[almostamom]

Kristine,
DH's grandmother went through some of these same issues in the last few years of her life. I was never on the receiving end of any accusations and only saw the wonderful side of her, but her daughter (my MIL) and son-in-law (step FIL) were both accused of stealing from her. I agree that "Nana" needs some type of medical evaluation. In the meantime, where are you in AZ? I'm in Anthem. Are you close to me? Please feel free to PM me through the boards. You are welcome to come hang out with us whenever you and your girls need a break. I'm sending you lots of hugs.


~Linda~
http://lilypie.com/pic/060427/fDdc.jpg http://b2.lilypie.com/qW3mm7.png

[almostamom]

Kristine,
DH's grandmother went through some of these same issues in the last few years of her life. I was never on the receiving end of any accusations and only saw the wonderful side of her, but her daughter (my MIL) and son-in-law (step FIL) were both accused of stealing from her. I agree that "Nana" needs some type of medical evaluation. In the meantime, where are you in AZ? I'm in Anthem. Are you close to me? Please feel free to PM me through the boards. You are welcome to come hang out with us whenever you and your girls need a break. I'm sending you lots of hugs.


~Linda~
http://lilypie.com/pic/060427/fDdc.jpg http://b2.lilypie.com/qW3mm7.png

[almostamom]

Kristine,
DH's grandmother went through some of these same issues in the last few years of her life. I was never on the receiving end of any accusations and only saw the wonderful side of her, but her daughter (my MIL) and son-in-law (step FIL) were both accused of stealing from her. I agree that "Nana" needs some type of medical evaluation. In the meantime, where are you in AZ? I'm in Anthem. Are you close to me? Please feel free to PM me through the boards. You are welcome to come hang out with us whenever you and your girls need a break. I'm sending you lots of hugs.


~Linda~
http://lilypie.com/pic/060427/fDdc.jpg http://b2.lilypie.com/qW3mm7.png

[almostamom]

Kristine,
DH's grandmother went through some of these same issues in the last few years of her life. I was never on the receiving end of any accusations and only saw the wonderful side of her, but her daughter (my MIL) and son-in-law (step FIL) were both accused of stealing from her. I agree that "Nana" needs some type of medical evaluation. In the meantime, where are you in AZ? I'm in Anthem. Are you close to me? Please feel free to PM me through the boards. You are welcome to come hang out with us whenever you and your girls need a break. I'm sending you lots of hugs.


~Linda~
http://lilypie.com/pic/060427/fDdc.jpg http://b2.lilypie.com/qW3mm7.png

[almostamom]

Kristine,
DH's grandmother went through some of these same issues in the last few years of her life. I was never on the receiving end of any accusations and only saw the wonderful side of her, but her daughter (my MIL) and son-in-law (step FIL) were both accused of stealing from her. I agree that "Nana" needs some type of medical evaluation. In the meantime, where are you in AZ? I'm in Anthem. Are you close to me? Please feel free to PM me through the boards. You are welcome to come hang out with us whenever you and your girls need a break. I'm sending you lots of hugs.


~Linda~
http://lilypie.com/pic/060427/fDdc.jpg http://b2.lilypie.com/qW3mm7.png

[almostamom]

Kristine,
DH's grandmother went through some of these same issues in the last few years of her life. I was never on the receiving end of any accusations and only saw the wonderful side of her, but her daughter (my MIL) and son-in-law (step FIL) were both accused of stealing from her. I agree that "Nana" needs some type of medical evaluation. In the meantime, where are you in AZ? I'm in Anthem. Are you close to me? Please feel free to PM me through the boards. You are welcome to come hang out with us whenever you and your girls need a break. I'm sending you lots of hugs.


~Linda~
http://lilypie.com/pic/060427/fDdc.jpg http://b2.lilypie.com/qW3mm7.png

[cmdunn1972]

It sounds like your ILs have noticed a pattern of her behavior and, based on that, think that she may have a neurological disorder. It's good that they're behind you and are moved to get her help from a doctor.

I'm sorry that her illness makes you feel so unappreciated! It's a lot of burden for you to manage this stuff. Really, it should be left to the hands of professionals who are trained to deal with it. For your own sanity, is there any way that you and DH can get away for a weekend, or even just a day? (It doesn't have to be fancy. Maybe just spend a night in a hotel.) Sometimes some distance helps when you're under this much stress.

Other than that, I have nothing really to add since others have already given you such sage advice! Hang in there, and please keep us posted.

[cmdunn1972]

It sounds like your ILs have noticed a pattern of her behavior and, based on that, think that she may have a neurological disorder. It's good that they're behind you and are moved to get her help from a doctor.

I'm sorry that her illness makes you feel so unappreciated! It's a lot of burden for you to manage this stuff. Really, it should be left to the hands of professionals who are trained to deal with it. For your own sanity, is there any way that you and DH can get away for a weekend, or even just a day? (It doesn't have to be fancy. Maybe just spend a night in a hotel.) Sometimes some distance helps when you're under this much stress.

Other than that, I have nothing really to add since others have already given you such sage advice! Hang in there, and please keep us posted.

[cmdunn1972]

It sounds like your ILs have noticed a pattern of her behavior and, based on that, think that she may have a neurological disorder. It's good that they're behind you and are moved to get her help from a doctor.

I'm sorry that her illness makes you feel so unappreciated! It's a lot of burden for you to manage this stuff. Really, it should be left to the hands of professionals who are trained to deal with it. For your own sanity, is there any way that you and DH can get away for a weekend, or even just a day? (It doesn't have to be fancy. Maybe just spend a night in a hotel.) Sometimes some distance helps when you're under this much stress.

Other than that, I have nothing really to add since others have already given you such sage advice! Hang in there, and please keep us posted.

[cmdunn1972]

It sounds like your ILs have noticed a pattern of her behavior and, based on that, think that she may have a neurological disorder. It's good that they're behind you and are moved to get her help from a doctor.

I'm sorry that her illness makes you feel so unappreciated! It's a lot of burden for you to manage this stuff. Really, it should be left to the hands of professionals who are trained to deal with it. For your own sanity, is there any way that you and DH can get away for a weekend, or even just a day? (It doesn't have to be fancy. Maybe just spend a night in a hotel.) Sometimes some distance helps when you're under this much stress.

Other than that, I have nothing really to add since others have already given you such sage advice! Hang in there, and please keep us posted.

[cmdunn1972]

It sounds like your ILs have noticed a pattern of her behavior and, based on that, think that she may have a neurological disorder. It's good that they're behind you and are moved to get her help from a doctor.

I'm sorry that her illness makes you feel so unappreciated! It's a lot of burden for you to manage this stuff. Really, it should be left to the hands of professionals who are trained to deal with it. For your own sanity, is there any way that you and DH can get away for a weekend, or even just a day? (It doesn't have to be fancy. Maybe just spend a night in a hotel.) Sometimes some distance helps when you're under this much stress.

Other than that, I have nothing really to add since others have already given you such sage advice! Hang in there, and please keep us posted.

[cmdunn1972]

It sounds like your ILs have noticed a pattern of her behavior and, based on that, think that she may have a neurological disorder. It's good that they're behind you and are moved to get her help from a doctor.

I'm sorry that her illness makes you feel so unappreciated! It's a lot of burden for you to manage this stuff. Really, it should be left to the hands of professionals who are trained to deal with it. For your own sanity, is there any way that you and DH can get away for a weekend, or even just a day? (It doesn't have to be fancy. Maybe just spend a night in a hotel.) Sometimes some distance helps when you're under this much stress.

Other than that, I have nothing really to add since others have already given you such sage advice! Hang in there, and please keep us posted.

[cmdunn1972]

It sounds like your ILs have noticed a pattern of her behavior and, based on that, think that she may have a neurological disorder. It's good that they're behind you and are moved to get her help from a doctor.

I'm sorry that her illness makes you feel so unappreciated! It's a lot of burden for you to manage this stuff. Really, it should be left to the hands of professionals who are trained to deal with it. For your own sanity, is there any way that you and DH can get away for a weekend, or even just a day? (It doesn't have to be fancy. Maybe just spend a night in a hotel.) Sometimes some distance helps when you're under this much stress.

Other than that, I have nothing really to add since others have already given you such sage advice! Hang in there, and please keep us posted.

[cmdunn1972]

It sounds like your ILs have noticed a pattern of her behavior and, based on that, think that she may have a neurological disorder. It's good that they're behind you and are moved to get her help from a doctor.

I'm sorry that her illness makes you feel so unappreciated! It's a lot of burden for you to manage this stuff. Really, it should be left to the hands of professionals who are trained to deal with it. For your own sanity, is there any way that you and DH can get away for a weekend, or even just a day? (It doesn't have to be fancy. Maybe just spend a night in a hotel.) Sometimes some distance helps when you're under this much stress.

Other than that, I have nothing really to add since others have already given you such sage advice! Hang in there, and please keep us posted.

[cmdunn1972]

It sounds like your ILs have noticed a pattern of her behavior and, based on that, think that she may have a neurological disorder. It's good that they're behind you and are moved to get her help from a doctor.

I'm sorry that her illness makes you feel so unappreciated! It's a lot of burden for you to manage this stuff. Really, it should be left to the hands of professionals who are trained to deal with it. For your own sanity, is there any way that you and DH can get away for a weekend, or even just a day? (It doesn't have to be fancy. Maybe just spend a night in a hotel.) Sometimes some distance helps when you're under this much stress.

Other than that, I have nothing really to add since others have already given you such sage advice! Hang in there, and please keep us posted.

[californiagirl]

Honestly, this is textbook stuff for dementia (whether it's caused by Alzheimers, or mini-strokes, or whatever). She needs medical treatment, and you need appropriate help for living with somebody with a mental illness. It's very upsetting, and you need to take it as a symptom, not as anything "real". Don't get caught up in the details -- if they're upsetting, don't even listen to them. That's her universe. You live in a different universe and share it with lots of other people. You should be as compassionate to her as you can, but you don't need to start taking her universe seriously. It's not about you. If you weren't there, it would just be somebody else. (I'm lucky; I was the good one when my stepfather was demented. But the voices would tell him they'd kidnapped me and beat me up and raped me, which was pretty upsetting for me, even. So I do have some idea where you're coming from. And we did have a friend living with us who got to be the bad one, but she got very good at apologizing for her incessant loud parties without actually paying any attention -- the rest of the family also ran interference for her so she didn't have to listen to too many harangues on the subject of her alleged bad behavior.) Don't get me wrong, I think moving out when you can is perfectly reasonable, but meanwhile, she needs treatment and you need coping skills for this very difficult but unfortunately relatively common situation. The family members who tell you not to pay attention are right, although they need to be giving you a lot more support than that. For instance, insisting that you are a member of the family and must be treated with politeness (there's no point arguing with her about what you do or don't do, but she can probably be kept from fussing at you as much).

This book was helpful to me: http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0446610410/sr=8-1/qid=1151356850/ref=sr_1_1/103-6453685-9869466?ie=UTF8
Also look for Alzheimers or dementia support groups in your area; knowing you're not alone makes a big difference.

[californiagirl]

Honestly, this is textbook stuff for dementia (whether it's caused by Alzheimers, or mini-strokes, or whatever). She needs medical treatment, and you need appropriate help for living with somebody with a mental illness. It's very upsetting, and you need to take it as a symptom, not as anything "real". Don't get caught up in the details -- if they're upsetting, don't even listen to them. That's her universe. You live in a different universe and share it with lots of other people. You should be as compassionate to her as you can, but you don't need to start taking her universe seriously. It's not about you. If you weren't there, it would just be somebody else. (I'm lucky; I was the good one when my stepfather was demented. But the voices would tell him they'd kidnapped me and beat me up and raped me, which was pretty upsetting for me, even. So I do have some idea where you're coming from. And we did have a friend living with us who got to be the bad one, but she got very good at apologizing for her incessant loud parties without actually paying any attention -- the rest of the family also ran interference for her so she didn't have to listen to too many harangues on the subject of her alleged bad behavior.) Don't get me wrong, I think moving out when you can is perfectly reasonable, but meanwhile, she needs treatment and you need coping skills for this very difficult but unfortunately relatively common situation. The family members who tell you not to pay attention are right, although they need to be giving you a lot more support than that. For instance, insisting that you are a member of the family and must be treated with politeness (there's no point arguing with her about what you do or don't do, but she can probably be kept from fussing at you as much).

This book was helpful to me: http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0446610410/sr=8-1/qid=1151356850/ref=sr_1_1/103-6453685-9869466?ie=UTF8
Also look for Alzheimers or dementia support groups in your area; knowing you're not alone makes a big difference.

[californiagirl]

Honestly, this is textbook stuff for dementia (whether it's caused by Alzheimers, or mini-strokes, or whatever). She needs medical treatment, and you need appropriate help for living with somebody with a mental illness. It's very upsetting, and you need to take it as a symptom, not as anything "real". Don't get caught up in the details -- if they're upsetting, don't even listen to them. That's her universe. You live in a different universe and share it with lots of other people. You should be as compassionate to her as you can, but you don't need to start taking her universe seriously. It's not about you. If you weren't there, it would just be somebody else. (I'm lucky; I was the good one when my stepfather was demented. But the voices would tell him they'd kidnapped me and beat me up and raped me, which was pretty upsetting for me, even. So I do have some idea where you're coming from. And we did have a friend living with us who got to be the bad one, but she got very good at apologizing for her incessant loud parties without actually paying any attention -- the rest of the family also ran interference for her so she didn't have to listen to too many harangues on the subject of her alleged bad behavior.) Don't get me wrong, I think moving out when you can is perfectly reasonable, but meanwhile, she needs treatment and you need coping skills for this very difficult but unfortunately relatively common situation. The family members who tell you not to pay attention are right, although they need to be giving you a lot more support than that. For instance, insisting that you are a member of the family and must be treated with politeness (there's no point arguing with her about what you do or don't do, but she can probably be kept from fussing at you as much).

This book was helpful to me: http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0446610410/sr=8-1/qid=1151356850/ref=sr_1_1/103-6453685-9869466?ie=UTF8
Also look for Alzheimers or dementia support groups in your area; knowing you're not alone makes a big difference.

[californiagirl]

Honestly, this is textbook stuff for dementia (whether it's caused by Alzheimers, or mini-strokes, or whatever). She needs medical treatment, and you need appropriate help for living with somebody with a mental illness. It's very upsetting, and you need to take it as a symptom, not as anything "real". Don't get caught up in the details -- if they're upsetting, don't even listen to them. That's her universe. You live in a different universe and share it with lots of other people. You should be as compassionate to her as you can, but you don't need to start taking her universe seriously. It's not about you. If you weren't there, it would just be somebody else. (I'm lucky; I was the good one when my stepfather was demented. But the voices would tell him they'd kidnapped me and beat me up and raped me, which was pretty upsetting for me, even. So I do have some idea where you're coming from. And we did have a friend living with us who got to be the bad one, but she got very good at apologizing for her incessant loud parties without actually paying any attention -- the rest of the family also ran interference for her so she didn't have to listen to too many harangues on the subject of her alleged bad behavior.) Don't get me wrong, I think moving out when you can is perfectly reasonable, but meanwhile, she needs treatment and you need coping skills for this very difficult but unfortunately relatively common situation. The family members who tell you not to pay attention are right, although they need to be giving you a lot more support than that. For instance, insisting that you are a member of the family and must be treated with politeness (there's no point arguing with her about what you do or don't do, but she can probably be kept from fussing at you as much).

This book was helpful to me: http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0446610410/sr=8-1/qid=1151356850/ref=sr_1_1/103-6453685-9869466?ie=UTF8
Also look for Alzheimers or dementia support groups in your area; knowing you're not alone makes a big difference.

[californiagirl]

Honestly, this is textbook stuff for dementia (whether it's caused by Alzheimers, or mini-strokes, or whatever). She needs medical treatment, and you need appropriate help for living with somebody with a mental illness. It's very upsetting, and you need to take it as a symptom, not as anything "real". Don't get caught up in the details -- if they're upsetting, don't even listen to them. That's her universe. You live in a different universe and share it with lots of other people. You should be as compassionate to her as you can, but you don't need to start taking her universe seriously. It's not about you. If you weren't there, it would just be somebody else. (I'm lucky; I was the good one when my stepfather was demented. But the voices would tell him they'd kidnapped me and beat me up and raped me, which was pretty upsetting for me, even. So I do have some idea where you're coming from. And we did have a friend living with us who got to be the bad one, but she got very good at apologizing for her incessant loud parties without actually paying any attention -- the rest of the family also ran interference for her so she didn't have to listen to too many harangues on the subject of her alleged bad behavior.) Don't get me wrong, I think moving out when you can is perfectly reasonable, but meanwhile, she needs treatment and you need coping skills for this very difficult but unfortunately relatively common situation. The family members who tell you not to pay attention are right, although they need to be giving you a lot more support than that. For instance, insisting that you are a member of the family and must be treated with politeness (there's no point arguing with her about what you do or don't do, but she can probably be kept from fussing at you as much).

This book was helpful to me: http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0446610410/sr=8-1/qid=1151356850/ref=sr_1_1/103-6453685-9869466?ie=UTF8
Also look for Alzheimers or dementia support groups in your area; knowing you're not alone makes a big difference.

[californiagirl]

Honestly, this is textbook stuff for dementia (whether it's caused by Alzheimers, or mini-strokes, or whatever). She needs medical treatment, and you need appropriate help for living with somebody with a mental illness. It's very upsetting, and you need to take it as a symptom, not as anything "real". Don't get caught up in the details -- if they're upsetting, don't even listen to them. That's her universe. You live in a different universe and share it with lots of other people. You should be as compassionate to her as you can, but you don't need to start taking her universe seriously. It's not about you. If you weren't there, it would just be somebody else. (I'm lucky; I was the good one when my stepfather was demented. But the voices would tell him they'd kidnapped me and beat me up and raped me, which was pretty upsetting for me, even. So I do have some idea where you're coming from. And we did have a friend living with us who got to be the bad one, but she got very good at apologizing for her incessant loud parties without actually paying any attention -- the rest of the family also ran interference for her so she didn't have to listen to too many harangues on the subject of her alleged bad behavior.) Don't get me wrong, I think moving out when you can is perfectly reasonable, but meanwhile, she needs treatment and you need coping skills for this very difficult but unfortunately relatively common situation. The family members who tell you not to pay attention are right, although they need to be giving you a lot more support than that. For instance, insisting that you are a member of the family and must be treated with politeness (there's no point arguing with her about what you do or don't do, but she can probably be kept from fussing at you as much).

This book was helpful to me: http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0446610410/sr=8-1/qid=1151356850/ref=sr_1_1/103-6453685-9869466?ie=UTF8
Also look for Alzheimers or dementia support groups in your area; knowing you're not alone makes a big difference.

[californiagirl]

Honestly, this is textbook stuff for dementia (whether it's caused by Alzheimers, or mini-strokes, or whatever). She needs medical treatment, and you need appropriate help for living with somebody with a mental illness. It's very upsetting, and you need to take it as a symptom, not as anything "real". Don't get caught up in the details -- if they're upsetting, don't even listen to them. That's her universe. You live in a different universe and share it with lots of other people. You should be as compassionate to her as you can, but you don't need to start taking her universe seriously. It's not about you. If you weren't there, it would just be somebody else. (I'm lucky; I was the good one when my stepfather was demented. But the voices would tell him they'd kidnapped me and beat me up and raped me, which was pretty upsetting for me, even. So I do have some idea where you're coming from. And we did have a friend living with us who got to be the bad one, but she got very good at apologizing for her incessant loud parties without actually paying any attention -- the rest of the family also ran interference for her so she didn't have to listen to too many harangues on the subject of her alleged bad behavior.) Don't get me wrong, I think moving out when you can is perfectly reasonable, but meanwhile, she needs treatment and you need coping skills for this very difficult but unfortunately relatively common situation. The family members who tell you not to pay attention are right, although they need to be giving you a lot more support than that. For instance, insisting that you are a member of the family and must be treated with politeness (there's no point arguing with her about what you do or don't do, but she can probably be kept from fussing at you as much).

This book was helpful to me: http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0446610410/sr=8-1/qid=1151356850/ref=sr_1_1/103-6453685-9869466?ie=UTF8
Also look for Alzheimers or dementia support groups in your area; knowing you're not alone makes a big difference.

[californiagirl]

Honestly, this is textbook stuff for dementia (whether it's caused by Alzheimers, or mini-strokes, or whatever). She needs medical treatment, and you need appropriate help for living with somebody with a mental illness. It's very upsetting, and you need to take it as a symptom, not as anything "real". Don't get caught up in the details -- if they're upsetting, don't even listen to them. That's her universe. You live in a different universe and share it with lots of other people. You should be as compassionate to her as you can, but you don't need to start taking her universe seriously. It's not about you. If you weren't there, it would just be somebody else. (I'm lucky; I was the good one when my stepfather was demented. But the voices would tell him they'd kidnapped me and beat me up and raped me, which was pretty upsetting for me, even. So I do have some idea where you're coming from. And we did have a friend living with us who got to be the bad one, but she got very good at apologizing for her incessant loud parties without actually paying any attention -- the rest of the family also ran interference for her so she didn't have to listen to too many harangues on the subject of her alleged bad behavior.) Don't get me wrong, I think moving out when you can is perfectly reasonable, but meanwhile, she needs treatment and you need coping skills for this very difficult but unfortunately relatively common situation. The family members who tell you not to pay attention are right, although they need to be giving you a lot more support than that. For instance, insisting that you are a member of the family and must be treated with politeness (there's no point arguing with her about what you do or don't do, but she can probably be kept from fussing at you as much).

This book was helpful to me: http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0446610410/sr=8-1/qid=1151356850/ref=sr_1_1/103-6453685-9869466?ie=UTF8
Also look for Alzheimers or dementia support groups in your area; knowing you're not alone makes a big difference.

[californiagirl]

Honestly, this is textbook stuff for dementia (whether it's caused by Alzheimers, or mini-strokes, or whatever). She needs medical treatment, and you need appropriate help for living with somebody with a mental illness. It's very upsetting, and you need to take it as a symptom, not as anything "real". Don't get caught up in the details -- if they're upsetting, don't even listen to them. That's her universe. You live in a different universe and share it with lots of other people. You should be as compassionate to her as you can, but you don't need to start taking her universe seriously. It's not about you. If you weren't there, it would just be somebody else. (I'm lucky; I was the good one when my stepfather was demented. But the voices would tell him they'd kidnapped me and beat me up and raped me, which was pretty upsetting for me, even. So I do have some idea where you're coming from. And we did have a friend living with us who got to be the bad one, but she got very good at apologizing for her incessant loud parties without actually paying any attention -- the rest of the family also ran interference for her so she didn't have to listen to too many harangues on the subject of her alleged bad behavior.) Don't get me wrong, I think moving out when you can is perfectly reasonable, but meanwhile, she needs treatment and you need coping skills for this very difficult but unfortunately relatively common situation. The family members who tell you not to pay attention are right, although they need to be giving you a lot more support than that. For instance, insisting that you are a member of the family and must be treated with politeness (there's no point arguing with her about what you do or don't do, but she can probably be kept from fussing at you as much).

This book was helpful to me: http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0446610410/sr=8-1/qid=1151356850/ref=sr_1_1/103-6453685-9869466?ie=UTF8
Also look for Alzheimers or dementia support groups in your area; knowing you're not alone makes a big difference.

[nov04]

Sounds like Nana has senile dementia. It's very hard for caretakers to deal with. Maybe have her evaluated by dr. Then you can arrange for respite care so you can have time on your own.

GL

eta: my grandmother had it. it was devastating for all of us.

[nov04]

Sounds like Nana has senile dementia. It's very hard for caretakers to deal with. Maybe have her evaluated by dr. Then you can arrange for respite care so you can have time on your own.

GL

eta: my grandmother had it. it was devastating for all of us.

[nov04]

Sounds like Nana has senile dementia. It's very hard for caretakers to deal with. Maybe have her evaluated by dr. Then you can arrange for respite care so you can have time on your own.

GL

eta: my grandmother had it. it was devastating for all of us.

[nov04]

Sounds like Nana has senile dementia. It's very hard for caretakers to deal with. Maybe have her evaluated by dr. Then you can arrange for respite care so you can have time on your own.

GL

eta: my grandmother had it. it was devastating for all of us.

[nov04]

Sounds like Nana has senile dementia. It's very hard for caretakers to deal with. Maybe have her evaluated by dr. Then you can arrange for respite care so you can have time on your own.

GL

eta: my grandmother had it. it was devastating for all of us.

[nov04]

Sounds like Nana has senile dementia. It's very hard for caretakers to deal with. Maybe have her evaluated by dr. Then you can arrange for respite care so you can have time on your own.

GL

eta: my grandmother had it. it was devastating for all of us.

[nov04]

Sounds like Nana has senile dementia. It's very hard for caretakers to deal with. Maybe have her evaluated by dr. Then you can arrange for respite care so you can have time on your own.

GL

eta: my grandmother had it. it was devastating for all of us.

[nov04]

Sounds like Nana has senile dementia. It's very hard for caretakers to deal with. Maybe have her evaluated by dr. Then you can arrange for respite care so you can have time on your own.

GL

eta: my grandmother had it. it was devastating for all of us.

[nov04]

Sounds like Nana has senile dementia. It's very hard for caretakers to deal with. Maybe have her evaluated by dr. Then you can arrange for respite care so you can have time on your own.

GL

eta: my grandmother had it. it was devastating for all of us.

[tarabenet]

I'm bad: I'm skipping the rest of the replies before I chime in. I'll read them later.

But it sounds very much like you are dealing with a victime of senile dementia. You must not expect a "crazy person" to act like a sane one. You must not weigh her actions and tirades against you (or others) the same as you would those of someone with sound judegment.

There are lots of things that could cause what she is going through, and that is worth exploring, if only to make her easier to handle. But the most important thing for you to keep in mind, for your own peace of mind, is that she is not rational and you must not allow her tirades to upset you. They have nothing to do with you. They are figments of her own mind. It sounds like whether the rest of the family will put it in quite those terms or not, they do recognize something along these lines.

I'm not trying to lecture you. You don't deserve the pain you are in. But it will be less pain if you will change the filter through which you see her. She is not a fully-functionng, competent person. Do not take her as one.

And as for hating another person, or wishing them dead: let those become only passing feelings, reactions that you overcome. Don't fuel them and feed them and turn them into something real. Because then they will ave the power to tear you apart. Let them wash through you and then wash away.

I wish you peace, and a new understanding of what you are dealing with, and, well, a lot less of Nana to deal with! Hugs.

[tarabenet]

I'm bad: I'm skipping the rest of the replies before I chime in. I'll read them later.

But it sounds very much like you are dealing with a victime of senile dementia. You must not expect a "crazy person" to act like a sane one. You must not weigh her actions and tirades against you (or others) the same as you would those of someone with sound judegment.

There are lots of things that could cause what she is going through, and that is worth exploring, if only to make her easier to handle. But the most important thing for you to keep in mind, for your own peace of mind, is that she is not rational and you must not allow her tirades to upset you. They have nothing to do with you. They are figments of her own mind. It sounds like whether the rest of the family will put it in quite those terms or not, they do recognize something along these lines.

I'm not trying to lecture you. You don't deserve the pain you are in. But it will be less pain if you will change the filter through which you see her. She is not a fully-functionng, competent person. Do not take her as one.

And as for hating another person, or wishing them dead: let those become only passing feelings, reactions that you overcome. Don't fuel them and feed them and turn them into something real. Because then they will ave the power to tear you apart. Let them wash through you and then wash away.

I wish you peace, and a new understanding of what you are dealing with, and, well, a lot less of Nana to deal with! Hugs.

[tarabenet]

I'm bad: I'm skipping the rest of the replies before I chime in. I'll read them later.

But it sounds very much like you are dealing with a victime of senile dementia. You must not expect a "crazy person" to act like a sane one. You must not weigh her actions and tirades against you (or others) the same as you would those of someone with sound judegment.

There are lots of things that could cause what she is going through, and that is worth exploring, if only to make her easier to handle. But the most important thing for you to keep in mind, for your own peace of mind, is that she is not rational and you must not allow her tirades to upset you. They have nothing to do with you. They are figments of her own mind. It sounds like whether the rest of the family will put it in quite those terms or not, they do recognize something along these lines.

I'm not trying to lecture you. You don't deserve the pain you are in. But it will be less pain if you will change the filter through which you see her. She is not a fully-functionng, competent person. Do not take her as one.

And as for hating another person, or wishing them dead: let those become only passing feelings, reactions that you overcome. Don't fuel them and feed them and turn them into something real. Because then they will ave the power to tear you apart. Let them wash through you and then wash away.

I wish you peace, and a new understanding of what you are dealing with, and, well, a lot less of Nana to deal with! Hugs.

[tarabenet]

I'm bad: I'm skipping the rest of the replies before I chime in. I'll read them later.

But it sounds very much like you are dealing with a victime of senile dementia. You must not expect a "crazy person" to act like a sane one. You must not weigh her actions and tirades against you (or others) the same as you would those of someone with sound judegment.

There are lots of things that could cause what she is going through, and that is worth exploring, if only to make her easier to handle. But the most important thing for you to keep in mind, for your own peace of mind, is that she is not rational and you must not allow her tirades to upset you. They have nothing to do with you. They are figments of her own mind. It sounds like whether the rest of the family will put it in quite those terms or not, they do recognize something along these lines.

I'm not trying to lecture you. You don't deserve the pain you are in. But it will be less pain if you will change the filter through which you see her. She is not a fully-functionng, competent person. Do not take her as one.

And as for hating another person, or wishing them dead: let those become only passing feelings, reactions that you overcome. Don't fuel them and feed them and turn them into something real. Because then they will ave the power to tear you apart. Let them wash through you and then wash away.

I wish you peace, and a new understanding of what you are dealing with, and, well, a lot less of Nana to deal with! Hugs.

[tarabenet]

I'm bad: I'm skipping the rest of the replies before I chime in. I'll read them later.

But it sounds very much like you are dealing with a victime of senile dementia. You must not expect a "crazy person" to act like a sane one. You must not weigh her actions and tirades against you (or others) the same as you would those of someone with sound judegment.

There are lots of things that could cause what she is going through, and that is worth exploring, if only to make her easier to handle. But the most important thing for you to keep in mind, for your own peace of mind, is that she is not rational and you must not allow her tirades to upset you. They have nothing to do with you. They are figments of her own mind. It sounds like whether the rest of the family will put it in quite those terms or not, they do recognize something along these lines.

I'm not trying to lecture you. You don't deserve the pain you are in. But it will be less pain if you will change the filter through which you see her. She is not a fully-functionng, competent person. Do not take her as one.

And as for hating another person, or wishing them dead: let those become only passing feelings, reactions that you overcome. Don't fuel them and feed them and turn them into something real. Because then they will ave the power to tear you apart. Let them wash through you and then wash away.

I wish you peace, and a new understanding of what you are dealing with, and, well, a lot less of Nana to deal with! Hugs.

[tarabenet]

I'm bad: I'm skipping the rest of the replies before I chime in. I'll read them later.

But it sounds very much like you are dealing with a victime of senile dementia. You must not expect a "crazy person" to act like a sane one. You must not weigh her actions and tirades against you (or others) the same as you would those of someone with sound judegment.

There are lots of things that could cause what she is going through, and that is worth exploring, if only to make her easier to handle. But the most important thing for you to keep in mind, for your own peace of mind, is that she is not rational and you must not allow her tirades to upset you. They have nothing to do with you. They are figments of her own mind. It sounds like whether the rest of the family will put it in quite those terms or not, they do recognize something along these lines.

I'm not trying to lecture you. You don't deserve the pain you are in. But it will be less pain if you will change the filter through which you see her. She is not a fully-functionng, competent person. Do not take her as one.

And as for hating another person, or wishing them dead: let those become only passing feelings, reactions that you overcome. Don't fuel them and feed them and turn them into something real. Because then they will ave the power to tear you apart. Let them wash through you and then wash away.

I wish you peace, and a new understanding of what you are dealing with, and, well, a lot less of Nana to deal with! Hugs.

[tarabenet]

I'm bad: I'm skipping the rest of the replies before I chime in. I'll read them later.

But it sounds very much like you are dealing with a victime of senile dementia. You must not expect a "crazy person" to act like a sane one. You must not weigh her actions and tirades against you (or others) the same as you would those of someone with sound judegment.

There are lots of things that could cause what she is going through, and that is worth exploring, if only to make her easier to handle. But the most important thing for you to keep in mind, for your own peace of mind, is that she is not rational and you must not allow her tirades to upset you. They have nothing to do with you. They are figments of her own mind. It sounds like whether the rest of the family will put it in quite those terms or not, they do recognize something along these lines.

I'm not trying to lecture you. You don't deserve the pain you are in. But it will be less pain if you will change the filter through which you see her. She is not a fully-functionng, competent person. Do not take her as one.

And as for hating another person, or wishing them dead: let those become only passing feelings, reactions that you overcome. Don't fuel them and feed them and turn them into something real. Because then they will ave the power to tear you apart. Let them wash through you and then wash away.

I wish you peace, and a new understanding of what you are dealing with, and, well, a lot less of Nana to deal with! Hugs.

[tarabenet]

I'm bad: I'm skipping the rest of the replies before I chime in. I'll read them later.

But it sounds very much like you are dealing with a victime of senile dementia. You must not expect a "crazy person" to act like a sane one. You must not weigh her actions and tirades against you (or others) the same as you would those of someone with sound judegment.

There are lots of things that could cause what she is going through, and that is worth exploring, if only to make her easier to handle. But the most important thing for you to keep in mind, for your own peace of mind, is that she is not rational and you must not allow her tirades to upset you. They have nothing to do with you. They are figments of her own mind. It sounds like whether the rest of the family will put it in quite those terms or not, they do recognize something along these lines.

I'm not trying to lecture you. You don't deserve the pain you are in. But it will be less pain if you will change the filter through which you see her. She is not a fully-functionng, competent person. Do not take her as one.

And as for hating another person, or wishing them dead: let those become only passing feelings, reactions that you overcome. Don't fuel them and feed them and turn them into something real. Because then they will ave the power to tear you apart. Let them wash through you and then wash away.

I wish you peace, and a new understanding of what you are dealing with, and, well, a lot less of Nana to deal with! Hugs.

[tarabenet]

I'm bad: I'm skipping the rest of the replies before I chime in. I'll read them later.

But it sounds very much like you are dealing with a victime of senile dementia. You must not expect a "crazy person" to act like a sane one. You must not weigh her actions and tirades against you (or others) the same as you would those of someone with sound judegment.

There are lots of things that could cause what she is going through, and that is worth exploring, if only to make her easier to handle. But the most important thing for you to keep in mind, for your own peace of mind, is that she is not rational and you must not allow her tirades to upset you. They have nothing to do with you. They are figments of her own mind. It sounds like whether the rest of the family will put it in quite those terms or not, they do recognize something along these lines.

I'm not trying to lecture you. You don't deserve the pain you are in. But it will be less pain if you will change the filter through which you see her. She is not a fully-functionng, competent person. Do not take her as one.

And as for hating another person, or wishing them dead: let those become only passing feelings, reactions that you overcome. Don't fuel them and feed them and turn them into something real. Because then they will ave the power to tear you apart. Let them wash through you and then wash away.

I wish you peace, and a new understanding of what you are dealing with, and, well, a lot less of Nana to deal with! Hugs.

[niccig]

You described my grandmother. She's now in a nursing home, and even medicated she still is argumentative, agressive and paranoid. She accuses everyone in the family of stealing, of pushing her down stairs etc. Everyone knows she's mentally ill, we don't aruge with her or try to convince her of anything as she lives in a very different world. Before she was in the nursing home, no one (doctors, her lawyer) would believe us as she could still be quite lucid. One day she put a bowl of oatmeal in the microwave for 8 hours, and nearly burnt her kitchen down. DH"S nana needs care by professionals who are experienced with these mental illnesses. That's not you. PLEASE stress the importance of this to DH, MIL etc. Don't let anyone tell you to just ignore her. It's very serious. You shouldn't be dealing with this, and neither should your girls.
I hope the situation changes soon.
Nicci

ETA. I don't mean to scare you with the whole burnt kitchen story, I was in a hurry as DH just got him. I do think your DH's family are being unfair to you, it sounds like you're shouldering most of nana's care alone. I would stress the need for a medical evaluation and support for you, whether it's a local senior's club she attends or someone who comes to the home. You've got your hands full, and if her mental capacitites are failing, it will only get more difficult. I would also empahsis your concern for DDs, they don't understand that nana is sick and they're hearing her say these awful things to you. My cousin is 17, and she knows our grandmother is sick but she got very upset when she was accused of pushing her down the stairs. If a 17 yr old has difficult coping, how are young children supposed to cope? It can be very difficult to hear that you mother/nana is mentally ill, but they need to take responsibilty for her care. In all honestly, if they refused to do anything, I would refuse to care for nana. Maybe then, if they're with her all the time they will understand. Again speaking from experience, my aunt who barely saw her mother, refused to believe she had dementia and was against the nursing home. She only changed her mind when she was faced with providing full-time care. I really hope things get sorted out quickly.

[niccig]

You described my grandmother. She's now in a nursing home, and even medicated she still is argumentative, agressive and paranoid. She accuses everyone in the family of stealing, of pushing her down stairs etc. Everyone knows she's mentally ill, we don't aruge with her or try to convince her of anything as she lives in a very different world. Before she was in the nursing home, no one (doctors, her lawyer) would believe us as she could still be quite lucid. One day she put a bowl of oatmeal in the microwave for 8 hours, and nearly burnt her kitchen down. DH"S nana needs care by professionals who are experienced with these mental illnesses. That's not you. PLEASE stress the importance of this to DH, MIL etc. Don't let anyone tell you to just ignore her. It's very serious. You shouldn't be dealing with this, and neither should your girls.
I hope the situation changes soon.
Nicci

ETA. I don't mean to scare you with the whole burnt kitchen story, I was in a hurry as DH just got him. I do think your DH's family are being unfair to you, it sounds like you're shouldering most of nana's care alone. I would stress the need for a medical evaluation and support for you, whether it's a local senior's club she attends or someone who comes to the home. You've got your hands full, and if her mental capacitites are failing, it will only get more difficult. I would also empahsis your concern for DDs, they don't understand that nana is sick and they're hearing her say these awful things to you. My cousin is 17, and she knows our grandmother is sick but she got very upset when she was accused of pushing her down the stairs. If a 17 yr old has difficult coping, how are young children supposed to cope? It can be very difficult to hear that you mother/nana is mentally ill, but they need to take responsibilty for her care. In all honestly, if they refused to do anything, I would refuse to care for nana. Maybe then, if they're with her all the time they will understand. Again speaking from experience, my aunt who barely saw her mother, refused to believe she had dementia and was against the nursing home. She only changed her mind when she was faced with providing full-time care. I really hope things get sorted out quickly.

[niccig]

You described my grandmother. She's now in a nursing home, and even medicated she still is argumentative, agressive and paranoid. She accuses everyone in the family of stealing, of pushing her down stairs etc. Everyone knows she's mentally ill, we don't aruge with her or try to convince her of anything as she lives in a very different world. Before she was in the nursing home, no one (doctors, her lawyer) would believe us as she could still be quite lucid. One day she put a bowl of oatmeal in the microwave for 8 hours, and nearly burnt her kitchen down. DH"S nana needs care by professionals who are experienced with these mental illnesses. That's not you. PLEASE stress the importance of this to DH, MIL etc. Don't let anyone tell you to just ignore her. It's very serious. You shouldn't be dealing with this, and neither should your girls.
I hope the situation changes soon.
Nicci

ETA. I don't mean to scare you with the whole burnt kitchen story, I was in a hurry as DH just got him. I do think your DH's family are being unfair to you, it sounds like you're shouldering most of nana's care alone. I would stress the need for a medical evaluation and support for you, whether it's a local senior's club she attends or someone who comes to the home. You've got your hands full, and if her mental capacitites are failing, it will only get more difficult. I would also empahsis your concern for DDs, they don't understand that nana is sick and they're hearing her say these awful things to you. My cousin is 17, and she knows our grandmother is sick but she got very upset when she was accused of pushing her down the stairs. If a 17 yr old has difficult coping, how are young children supposed to cope? It can be very difficult to hear that you mother/nana is mentally ill, but they need to take responsibilty for her care. In all honestly, if they refused to do anything, I would refuse to care for nana. Maybe then, if they're with her all the time they will understand. Again speaking from experience, my aunt who barely saw her mother, refused to believe she had dementia and was against the nursing home. She only changed her mind when she was faced with providing full-time care. I really hope things get sorted out quickly.

[niccig]

You described my grandmother. She's now in a nursing home, and even medicated she still is argumentative, agressive and paranoid. She accuses everyone in the family of stealing, of pushing her down stairs etc. Everyone knows she's mentally ill, we don't aruge with her or try to convince her of anything as she lives in a very different world. Before she was in the nursing home, no one (doctors, her lawyer) would believe us as she could still be quite lucid. One day she put a bowl of oatmeal in the microwave for 8 hours, and nearly burnt her kitchen down. DH"S nana needs care by professionals who are experienced with these mental illnesses. That's not you. PLEASE stress the importance of this to DH, MIL etc. Don't let anyone tell you to just ignore her. It's very serious. You shouldn't be dealing with this, and neither should your girls.
I hope the situation changes soon.
Nicci

ETA. I don't mean to scare you with the whole burnt kitchen story, I was in a hurry as DH just got him. I do think your DH's family are being unfair to you, it sounds like you're shouldering most of nana's care alone. I would stress the need for a medical evaluation and support for you, whether it's a local senior's club she attends or someone who comes to the home. You've got your hands full, and if her mental capacitites are failing, it will only get more difficult. I would also empahsis your concern for DDs, they don't understand that nana is sick and they're hearing her say these awful things to you. My cousin is 17, and she knows our grandmother is sick but she got very upset when she was accused of pushing her down the stairs. If a 17 yr old has difficult coping, how are young children supposed to cope? It can be very difficult to hear that you mother/nana is mentally ill, but they need to take responsibilty for her care. In all honestly, if they refused to do anything, I would refuse to care for nana. Maybe then, if they're with her all the time they will understand. Again speaking from experience, my aunt who barely saw her mother, refused to believe she had dementia and was against the nursing home. She only changed her mind when she was faced with providing full-time care. I really hope things get sorted out quickly.

[niccig]

You described my grandmother. She's now in a nursing home, and even medicated she still is argumentative, agressive and paranoid. She accuses everyone in the family of stealing, of pushing her down stairs etc. Everyone knows she's mentally ill, we don't aruge with her or try to convince her of anything as she lives in a very different world. Before she was in the nursing home, no one (doctors, her lawyer) would believe us as she could still be quite lucid. One day she put a bowl of oatmeal in the microwave for 8 hours, and nearly burnt her kitchen down. DH"S nana needs care by professionals who are experienced with these mental illnesses. That's not you. PLEASE stress the importance of this to DH, MIL etc. Don't let anyone tell you to just ignore her. It's very serious. You shouldn't be dealing with this, and neither should your girls.
I hope the situation changes soon.
Nicci

ETA. I don't mean to scare you with the whole burnt kitchen story, I was in a hurry as DH just got him. I do think your DH's family are being unfair to you, it sounds like you're shouldering most of nana's care alone. I would stress the need for a medical evaluation and support for you, whether it's a local senior's club she attends or someone who comes to the home. You've got your hands full, and if her mental capacitites are failing, it will only get more difficult. I would also empahsis your concern for DDs, they don't understand that nana is sick and they're hearing her say these awful things to you. My cousin is 17, and she knows our grandmother is sick but she got very upset when she was accused of pushing her down the stairs. If a 17 yr old has difficult coping, how are young children supposed to cope? It can be very difficult to hear that you mother/nana is mentally ill, but they need to take responsibilty for her care. In all honestly, if they refused to do anything, I would refuse to care for nana. Maybe then, if they're with her all the time they will understand. Again speaking from experience, my aunt who barely saw her mother, refused to believe she had dementia and was against the nursing home. She only changed her mind when she was faced with providing full-time care. I really hope things get sorted out quickly.

[niccig]

You described my grandmother. She's now in a nursing home, and even medicated she still is argumentative, agressive and paranoid. She accuses everyone in the family of stealing, of pushing her down stairs etc. Everyone knows she's mentally ill, we don't aruge with her or try to convince her of anything as she lives in a very different world. Before she was in the nursing home, no one (doctors, her lawyer) would believe us as she could still be quite lucid. One day she put a bowl of oatmeal in the microwave for 8 hours, and nearly burnt her kitchen down. DH"S nana needs care by professionals who are experienced with these mental illnesses. That's not you. PLEASE stress the importance of this to DH, MIL etc. Don't let anyone tell you to just ignore her. It's very serious. You shouldn't be dealing with this, and neither should your girls.
I hope the situation changes soon.
Nicci

ETA. I don't mean to scare you with the whole burnt kitchen story, I was in a hurry as DH just got him. I do think your DH's family are being unfair to you, it sounds like you're shouldering most of nana's care alone. I would stress the need for a medical evaluation and support for you, whether it's a local senior's club she attends or someone who comes to the home. You've got your hands full, and if her mental capacitites are failing, it will only get more difficult. I would also empahsis your concern for DDs, they don't understand that nana is sick and they're hearing her say these awful things to you. My cousin is 17, and she knows our grandmother is sick but she got very upset when she was accused of pushing her down the stairs. If a 17 yr old has difficult coping, how are young children supposed to cope? It can be very difficult to hear that you mother/nana is mentally ill, but they need to take responsibilty for her care. In all honestly, if they refused to do anything, I would refuse to care for nana. Maybe then, if they're with her all the time they will understand. Again speaking from experience, my aunt who barely saw her mother, refused to believe she had dementia and was against the nursing home. She only changed her mind when she was faced with providing full-time care. I really hope things get sorted out quickly.

[niccig]

You described my grandmother. She's now in a nursing home, and even medicated she still is argumentative, agressive and paranoid. She accuses everyone in the family of stealing, of pushing her down stairs etc. Everyone knows she's mentally ill, we don't aruge with her or try to convince her of anything as she lives in a very different world. Before she was in the nursing home, no one (doctors, her lawyer) would believe us as she could still be quite lucid. One day she put a bowl of oatmeal in the microwave for 8 hours, and nearly burnt her kitchen down. DH"S nana needs care by professionals who are experienced with these mental illnesses. That's not you. PLEASE stress the importance of this to DH, MIL etc. Don't let anyone tell you to just ignore her. It's very serious. You shouldn't be dealing with this, and neither should your girls.
I hope the situation changes soon.
Nicci

ETA. I don't mean to scare you with the whole burnt kitchen story, I was in a hurry as DH just got him. I do think your DH's family are being unfair to you, it sounds like you're shouldering most of nana's care alone. I would stress the need for a medical evaluation and support for you, whether it's a local senior's club she attends or someone who comes to the home. You've got your hands full, and if her mental capacitites are failing, it will only get more difficult. I would also empahsis your concern for DDs, they don't understand that nana is sick and they're hearing her say these awful things to you. My cousin is 17, and she knows our grandmother is sick but she got very upset when she was accused of pushing her down the stairs. If a 17 yr old has difficult coping, how are young children supposed to cope? It can be very difficult to hear that you mother/nana is mentally ill, but they need to take responsibilty for her care. In all honestly, if they refused to do anything, I would refuse to care for nana. Maybe then, if they're with her all the time they will understand. Again speaking from experience, my aunt who barely saw her mother, refused to believe she had dementia and was against the nursing home. She only changed her mind when she was faced with providing full-time care. I really hope things get sorted out quickly.

[niccig]

You described my grandmother. She's now in a nursing home, and even medicated she still is argumentative, agressive and paranoid. She accuses everyone in the family of stealing, of pushing her down stairs etc. Everyone knows she's mentally ill, we don't aruge with her or try to convince her of anything as she lives in a very different world. Before she was in the nursing home, no one (doctors, her lawyer) would believe us as she could still be quite lucid. One day she put a bowl of oatmeal in the microwave for 8 hours, and nearly burnt her kitchen down. DH"S nana needs care by professionals who are experienced with these mental illnesses. That's not you. PLEASE stress the importance of this to DH, MIL etc. Don't let anyone tell you to just ignore her. It's very serious. You shouldn't be dealing with this, and neither should your girls.
I hope the situation changes soon.
Nicci

ETA. I don't mean to scare you with the whole burnt kitchen story, I was in a hurry as DH just got him. I do think your DH's family are being unfair to you, it sounds like you're shouldering most of nana's care alone. I would stress the need for a medical evaluation and support for you, whether it's a local senior's club she attends or someone who comes to the home. You've got your hands full, and if her mental capacitites are failing, it will only get more difficult. I would also empahsis your concern for DDs, they don't understand that nana is sick and they're hearing her say these awful things to you. My cousin is 17, and she knows our grandmother is sick but she got very upset when she was accused of pushing her down the stairs. If a 17 yr old has difficult coping, how are young children supposed to cope? It can be very difficult to hear that you mother/nana is mentally ill, but they need to take responsibilty for her care. In all honestly, if they refused to do anything, I would refuse to care for nana. Maybe then, if they're with her all the time they will understand. Again speaking from experience, my aunt who barely saw her mother, refused to believe she had dementia and was against the nursing home. She only changed her mind when she was faced with providing full-time care. I really hope things get sorted out quickly.

[niccig]

You described my grandmother. She's now in a nursing home, and even medicated she still is argumentative, agressive and paranoid. She accuses everyone in the family of stealing, of pushing her down stairs etc. Everyone knows she's mentally ill, we don't aruge with her or try to convince her of anything as she lives in a very different world. Before she was in the nursing home, no one (doctors, her lawyer) would believe us as she could still be quite lucid. One day she put a bowl of oatmeal in the microwave for 8 hours, and nearly burnt her kitchen down. DH"S nana needs care by professionals who are experienced with these mental illnesses. That's not you. PLEASE stress the importance of this to DH, MIL etc. Don't let anyone tell you to just ignore her. It's very serious. You shouldn't be dealing with this, and neither should your girls.
I hope the situation changes soon.
Nicci

ETA. I don't mean to scare you with the whole burnt kitchen story, I was in a hurry as DH just got him. I do think your DH's family are being unfair to you, it sounds like you're shouldering most of nana's care alone. I would stress the need for a medical evaluation and support for you, whether it's a local senior's club she attends or someone who comes to the home. You've got your hands full, and if her mental capacitites are failing, it will only get more difficult. I would also empahsis your concern for DDs, they don't understand that nana is sick and they're hearing her say these awful things to you. My cousin is 17, and she knows our grandmother is sick but she got very upset when she was accused of pushing her down the stairs. If a 17 yr old has difficult coping, how are young children supposed to cope? It can be very difficult to hear that you mother/nana is mentally ill, but they need to take responsibilty for her care. In all honestly, if they refused to do anything, I would refuse to care for nana. Maybe then, if they're with her all the time they will understand. Again speaking from experience, my aunt who barely saw her mother, refused to believe she had dementia and was against the nursing home. She only changed her mind when she was faced with providing full-time care. I really hope things get sorted out quickly.

[lvales]

You sort of described my father. He's had one medium stroke and tons of smaller ones, and he has atrophy of the brain as well. He doesn't accuse family members of stealing or anything like that, but he sees things that are supposedly happening down the street, or things that aren't there. He has macular degeneration and can't see the TV 5 feet in front of him so we know he's not really seeing something happening 500 feet down the street through blinds that my mom has closed for the afternoon, but you can't convince him of that.

At one point he was accusing my mom of having men in the house at night - he said they were sneaking in through her window and he could hear them.

He's on medication now (I think for schizophrenia) and the 'visions' have decreased substantially. Definitely see about getting Nana some help, and don't take anything she says personally. She probably truly believes that she saw those things, and you will not be able to convince her otherwise.

[lvales]

You sort of described my father. He's had one medium stroke and tons of smaller ones, and he has atrophy of the brain as well. He doesn't accuse family members of stealing or anything like that, but he sees things that are supposedly happening down the street, or things that aren't there. He has macular degeneration and can't see the TV 5 feet in front of him so we know he's not really seeing something happening 500 feet down the street through blinds that my mom has closed for the afternoon, but you can't convince him of that.

At one point he was accusing my mom of having men in the house at night - he said they were sneaking in through her window and he could hear them.

He's on medication now (I think for schizophrenia) and the 'visions' have decreased substantially. Definitely see about getting Nana some help, and don't take anything she says personally. She probably truly believes that she saw those things, and you will not be able to convince her otherwise.

[lvales]

You sort of described my father. He's had one medium stroke and tons of smaller ones, and he has atrophy of the brain as well. He doesn't accuse family members of stealing or anything like that, but he sees things that are supposedly happening down the street, or things that aren't there. He has macular degeneration and can't see the TV 5 feet in front of him so we know he's not really seeing something happening 500 feet down the street through blinds that my mom has closed for the afternoon, but you can't convince him of that.

At one point he was accusing my mom of having men in the house at night - he said they were sneaking in through her window and he could hear them.

He's on medication now (I think for schizophrenia) and the 'visions' have decreased substantially. Definitely see about getting Nana some help, and don't take anything she says personally. She probably truly believes that she saw those things, and you will not be able to convince her otherwise.

[lvales]

You sort of described my father. He's had one medium stroke and tons of smaller ones, and he has atrophy of the brain as well. He doesn't accuse family members of stealing or anything like that, but he sees things that are supposedly happening down the street, or things that aren't there. He has macular degeneration and can't see the TV 5 feet in front of him so we know he's not really seeing something happening 500 feet down the street through blinds that my mom has closed for the afternoon, but you can't convince him of that.

At one point he was accusing my mom of having men in the house at night - he said they were sneaking in through her window and he could hear them.

He's on medication now (I think for schizophrenia) and the 'visions' have decreased substantially. Definitely see about getting Nana some help, and don't take anything she says personally. She probably truly believes that she saw those things, and you will not be able to convince her otherwise.

[lvales]

You sort of described my father. He's had one medium stroke and tons of smaller ones, and he has atrophy of the brain as well. He doesn't accuse family members of stealing or anything like that, but he sees things that are supposedly happening down the street, or things that aren't there. He has macular degeneration and can't see the TV 5 feet in front of him so we know he's not really seeing something happening 500 feet down the street through blinds that my mom has closed for the afternoon, but you can't convince him of that.

At one point he was accusing my mom of having men in the house at night - he said they were sneaking in through her window and he could hear them.

He's on medication now (I think for schizophrenia) and the 'visions' have decreased substantially. Definitely see about getting Nana some help, and don't take anything she says personally. She probably truly believes that she saw those things, and you will not be able to convince her otherwise.

[lvales]

You sort of described my father. He's had one medium stroke and tons of smaller ones, and he has atrophy of the brain as well. He doesn't accuse family members of stealing or anything like that, but he sees things that are supposedly happening down the street, or things that aren't there. He has macular degeneration and can't see the TV 5 feet in front of him so we know he's not really seeing something happening 500 feet down the street through blinds that my mom has closed for the afternoon, but you can't convince him of that.

At one point he was accusing my mom of having men in the house at night - he said they were sneaking in through her window and he could hear them.

He's on medication now (I think for schizophrenia) and the 'visions' have decreased substantially. Definitely see about getting Nana some help, and don't take anything she says personally. She probably truly believes that she saw those things, and you will not be able to convince her otherwise.

[lvales]

You sort of described my father. He's had one medium stroke and tons of smaller ones, and he has atrophy of the brain as well. He doesn't accuse family members of stealing or anything like that, but he sees things that are supposedly happening down the street, or things that aren't there. He has macular degeneration and can't see the TV 5 feet in front of him so we know he's not really seeing something happening 500 feet down the street through blinds that my mom has closed for the afternoon, but you can't convince him of that.

At one point he was accusing my mom of having men in the house at night - he said they were sneaking in through her window and he could hear them.

He's on medication now (I think for schizophrenia) and the 'visions' have decreased substantially. Definitely see about getting Nana some help, and don't take anything she says personally. She probably truly believes that she saw those things, and you will not be able to convince her otherwise.

[lvales]

You sort of described my father. He's had one medium stroke and tons of smaller ones, and he has atrophy of the brain as well. He doesn't accuse family members of stealing or anything like that, but he sees things that are supposedly happening down the street, or things that aren't there. He has macular degeneration and can't see the TV 5 feet in front of him so we know he's not really seeing something happening 500 feet down the street through blinds that my mom has closed for the afternoon, but you can't convince him of that.

At one point he was accusing my mom of having men in the house at night - he said they were sneaking in through her window and he could hear them.

He's on medication now (I think for schizophrenia) and the 'visions' have decreased substantially. Definitely see about getting Nana some help, and don't take anything she says personally. She probably truly believes that she saw those things, and you will not be able to convince her otherwise.

[lvales]

You sort of described my father. He's had one medium stroke and tons of smaller ones, and he has atrophy of the brain as well. He doesn't accuse family members of stealing or anything like that, but he sees things that are supposedly happening down the street, or things that aren't there. He has macular degeneration and can't see the TV 5 feet in front of him so we know he's not really seeing something happening 500 feet down the street through blinds that my mom has closed for the afternoon, but you can't convince him of that.

At one point he was accusing my mom of having men in the house at night - he said they were sneaking in through her window and he could hear them.

He's on medication now (I think for schizophrenia) and the 'visions' have decreased substantially. Definitely see about getting Nana some help, and don't take anything she says personally. She probably truly believes that she saw those things, and you will not be able to convince her otherwise.

[jal]

>But it sounds very much like you are dealing with a victime of
>senile dementia. You must not expect a "crazy person" to act
>like a sane one. You must not weigh her actions and tirades
>against you (or others) the same as you would those of someone
>with sound judegment.
>
>There are lots of things that could cause what she is going
>through, and that is worth exploring, if only to make her
>easier to handle. But the most important thing for you to keep
>in mind, for your own peace of mind, is that she is not
>rational and you must not allow her tirades to upset you.
>They have nothing to do with you. They are figments of her
>own mind. It sounds like whether the rest of the family will
>put it in quite those terms or not, they do recognize
>something along these lines.
>
>I'm not trying to lecture you. You don't deserve the pain you
>are in. But it will be less pain if you will change the
>filter through which you see her. She is not a
>fully-functionng, competent person. Do not take her as one.
>
>
>And as for hating another person, or wishing them dead: let
>those become only passing feelings, reactions that you
>overcome. Don't fuel them and feed them and turn them into
>something real. Because then they will ave the power to tear
>you apart. Let them wash through you and then wash away.
>
>I wish you peace, and a new understanding of what you are
>dealing with, and, well, a lot less of Nana to deal with!
>Hugs.
>
>

tarabenet,
Those were the exact sentiments I was thinging about... very well said.

I would disagree with other posters that suggest Nana needs medical care. Yes, clinically, she may be diagnosed with a sort of "dementia", but from my point of view, she's just old, because as you can see from the other numerous posts, this is not an uncommon occurance.

In our case, it was a beloved Aunt In-Law that lived with my MIL in her later years. She started making rediculous accusations we all knew could not be true regarding FIL. We just all had to learn to live with it.

I realize that it's easy for me to see because I'm not the target of the accusations. But as tarabenet basically stated, as long as the rest of the family knows its the dementia making these accusations, you just have to learn the same thing.

Hugs

[jal]

>But it sounds very much like you are dealing with a victime of
>senile dementia. You must not expect a "crazy person" to act
>like a sane one. You must not weigh her actions and tirades
>against you (or others) the same as you would those of someone
>with sound judegment.
>
>There are lots of things that could cause what she is going
>through, and that is worth exploring, if only to make her
>easier to handle. But the most important thing for you to keep
>in mind, for your own peace of mind, is that she is not
>rational and you must not allow her tirades to upset you.
>They have nothing to do with you. They are figments of her
>own mind. It sounds like whether the rest of the family will
>put it in quite those terms or not, they do recognize
>something along these lines.
>
>I'm not trying to lecture you. You don't deserve the pain you
>are in. But it will be less pain if you will change the
>filter through which you see her. She is not a
>fully-functionng, competent person. Do not take her as one.
>
>
>And as for hating another person, or wishing them dead: let
>those become only passing feelings, reactions that you
>overcome. Don't fuel them and feed them and turn them into
>something real. Because then they will ave the power to tear
>you apart. Let them wash through you and then wash away.
>
>I wish you peace, and a new understanding of what you are
>dealing with, and, well, a lot less of Nana to deal with!
>Hugs.
>
>

tarabenet,
Those were the exact sentiments I was thinging about... very well said.

I would disagree with other posters that suggest Nana needs medical care. Yes, clinically, she may be diagnosed with a sort of "dementia", but from my point of view, she's just old, because as you can see from the other numerous posts, this is not an uncommon occurance.

In our case, it was a beloved Aunt In-Law that lived with my MIL in her later years. She started making rediculous accusations we all knew could not be true regarding FIL. We just all had to learn to live with it.

I realize that it's easy for me to see because I'm not the target of the accusations. But as tarabenet basically stated, as long as the rest of the family knows its the dementia making these accusations, you just have to learn the same thing.

Hugs

[jal]

>But it sounds very much like you are dealing with a victime of
>senile dementia. You must not expect a "crazy person" to act
>like a sane one. You must not weigh her actions and tirades
>against you (or others) the same as you would those of someone
>with sound judegment.
>
>There are lots of things that could cause what she is going
>through, and that is worth exploring, if only to make her
>easier to handle. But the most important thing for you to keep
>in mind, for your own peace of mind, is that she is not
>rational and you must not allow her tirades to upset you.
>They have nothing to do with you. They are figments of her
>own mind. It sounds like whether the rest of the family will
>put it in quite those terms or not, they do recognize
>something along these lines.
>
>I'm not trying to lecture you. You don't deserve the pain you
>are in. But it will be less pain if you will change the
>filter through which you see her. She is not a
>fully-functionng, competent person. Do not take her as one.
>
>
>And as for hating another person, or wishing them dead: let
>those become only passing feelings, reactions that you
>overcome. Don't fuel them and feed them and turn them into
>something real. Because then they will ave the power to tear
>you apart. Let them wash through you and then wash away.
>
>I wish you peace, and a new understanding of what you are
>dealing with, and, well, a lot less of Nana to deal with!
>Hugs.
>
>

tarabenet,
Those were the exact sentiments I was thinging about... very well said.

I would disagree with other posters that suggest Nana needs medical care. Yes, clinically, she may be diagnosed with a sort of "dementia", but from my point of view, she's just old, because as you can see from the other numerous posts, this is not an uncommon occurance.

In our case, it was a beloved Aunt In-Law that lived with my MIL in her later years. She started making rediculous accusations we all knew could not be true regarding FIL. We just all had to learn to live with it.

I realize that it's easy for me to see because I'm not the target of the accusations. But as tarabenet basically stated, as long as the rest of the family knows its the dementia making these accusations, you just have to learn the same thing.

Hugs

[jal]

>But it sounds very much like you are dealing with a victime of
>senile dementia. You must not expect a "crazy person" to act
>like a sane one. You must not weigh her actions and tirades
>against you (or others) the same as you would those of someone
>with sound judegment.
>
>There are lots of things that could cause what she is going
>through, and that is worth exploring, if only to make her
>easier to handle. But the most important thing for you to keep
>in mind, for your own peace of mind, is that she is not
>rational and you must not allow her tirades to upset you.
>They have nothing to do with you. They are figments of her
>own mind. It sounds like whether the rest of the family will
>put it in quite those terms or not, they do recognize
>something along these lines.
>
>I'm not trying to lecture you. You don't deserve the pain you
>are in. But it will be less pain if you will change the
>filter through which you see her. She is not a
>fully-functionng, competent person. Do not take her as one.
>
>
>And as for hating another person, or wishing them dead: let
>those become only passing feelings, reactions that you
>overcome. Don't fuel them and feed them and turn them into
>something real. Because then they will ave the power to tear
>you apart. Let them wash through you and then wash away.
>
>I wish you peace, and a new understanding of what you are
>dealing with, and, well, a lot less of Nana to deal with!
>Hugs.
>
>

tarabenet,
Those were the exact sentiments I was thinging about... very well said.

I would disagree with other posters that suggest Nana needs medical care. Yes, clinically, she may be diagnosed with a sort of "dementia", but from my point of view, she's just old, because as you can see from the other numerous posts, this is not an uncommon occurance.

In our case, it was a beloved Aunt In-Law that lived with my MIL in her later years. She started making rediculous accusations we all knew could not be true regarding FIL. We just all had to learn to live with it.

I realize that it's easy for me to see because I'm not the target of the accusations. But as tarabenet basically stated, as long as the rest of the family knows its the dementia making these accusations, you just have to learn the same thing.

Hugs

[jal]

>But it sounds very much like you are dealing with a victime of
>senile dementia. You must not expect a "crazy person" to act
>like a sane one. You must not weigh her actions and tirades
>against you (or others) the same as you would those of someone
>with sound judegment.
>
>There are lots of things that could cause what she is going
>through, and that is worth exploring, if only to make her
>easier to handle. But the most important thing for you to keep
>in mind, for your own peace of mind, is that she is not
>rational and you must not allow her tirades to upset you.
>They have nothing to do with you. They are figments of her
>own mind. It sounds like whether the rest of the family will
>put it in quite those terms or not, they do recognize
>something along these lines.
>
>I'm not trying to lecture you. You don't deserve the pain you
>are in. But it will be less pain if you will change the
>filter through which you see her. She is not a
>fully-functionng, competent person. Do not take her as one.
>
>
>And as for hating another person, or wishing them dead: let
>those become only passing feelings, reactions that you
>overcome. Don't fuel them and feed them and turn them into
>something real. Because then they will ave the power to tear
>you apart. Let them wash through you and then wash away.
>
>I wish you peace, and a new understanding of what you are
>dealing with, and, well, a lot less of Nana to deal with!
>Hugs.
>
>

tarabenet,
Those were the exact sentiments I was thinging about... very well said.

I would disagree with other posters that suggest Nana needs medical care. Yes, clinically, she may be diagnosed with a sort of "dementia", but from my point of view, she's just old, because as you can see from the other numerous posts, this is not an uncommon occurance.

In our case, it was a beloved Aunt In-Law that lived with my MIL in her later years. She started making rediculous accusations we all knew could not be true regarding FIL. We just all had to learn to live with it.

I realize that it's easy for me to see because I'm not the target of the accusations. But as tarabenet basically stated, as long as the rest of the family knows its the dementia making these accusations, you just have to learn the same thing.

Hugs

[jal]

>But it sounds very much like you are dealing with a victime of
>senile dementia. You must not expect a "crazy person" to act
>like a sane one. You must not weigh her actions and tirades
>against you (or others) the same as you would those of someone
>with sound judegment.
>
>There are lots of things that could cause what she is going
>through, and that is worth exploring, if only to make her
>easier to handle. But the most important thing for you to keep
>in mind, for your own peace of mind, is that she is not
>rational and you must not allow her tirades to upset you.
>They have nothing to do with you. They are figments of her
>own mind. It sounds like whether the rest of the family will
>put it in quite those terms or not, they do recognize
>something along these lines.
>
>I'm not trying to lecture you. You don't deserve the pain you
>are in. But it will be less pain if you will change the
>filter through which you see her. She is not a
>fully-functionng, competent person. Do not take her as one.
>
>
>And as for hating another person, or wishing them dead: let
>those become only passing feelings, reactions that you
>overcome. Don't fuel them and feed them and turn them into
>something real. Because then they will ave the power to tear
>you apart. Let them wash through you and then wash away.
>
>I wish you peace, and a new understanding of what you are
>dealing with, and, well, a lot less of Nana to deal with!
>Hugs.
>
>

tarabenet,
Those were the exact sentiments I was thinging about... very well said.

I would disagree with other posters that suggest Nana needs medical care. Yes, clinically, she may be diagnosed with a sort of "dementia", but from my point of view, she's just old, because as you can see from the other numerous posts, this is not an uncommon occurance.

In our case, it was a beloved Aunt In-Law that lived with my MIL in her later years. She started making rediculous accusations we all knew could not be true regarding FIL. We just all had to learn to live with it.

I realize that it's easy for me to see because I'm not the target of the accusations. But as tarabenet basically stated, as long as the rest of the family knows its the dementia making these accusations, you just have to learn the same thing.

Hugs

[jal]

>But it sounds very much like you are dealing with a victime of
>senile dementia. You must not expect a "crazy person" to act
>like a sane one. You must not weigh her actions and tirades
>against you (or others) the same as you would those of someone
>with sound judegment.
>
>There are lots of things that could cause what she is going
>through, and that is worth exploring, if only to make her
>easier to handle. But the most important thing for you to keep
>in mind, for your own peace of mind, is that she is not
>rational and you must not allow her tirades to upset you.
>They have nothing to do with you. They are figments of her
>own mind. It sounds like whether the rest of the family will
>put it in quite those terms or not, they do recognize
>something along these lines.
>
>I'm not trying to lecture you. You don't deserve the pain you
>are in. But it will be less pain if you will change the
>filter through which you see her. She is not a
>fully-functionng, competent person. Do not take her as one.
>
>
>And as for hating another person, or wishing them dead: let
>those become only passing feelings, reactions that you
>overcome. Don't fuel them and feed them and turn them into
>something real. Because then they will ave the power to tear
>you apart. Let them wash through you and then wash away.
>
>I wish you peace, and a new understanding of what you are
>dealing with, and, well, a lot less of Nana to deal with!
>Hugs.
>
>

tarabenet,
Those were the exact sentiments I was thinging about... very well said.

I would disagree with other posters that suggest Nana needs medical care. Yes, clinically, she may be diagnosed with a sort of "dementia", but from my point of view, she's just old, because as you can see from the other numerous posts, this is not an uncommon occurance.

In our case, it was a beloved Aunt In-Law that lived with my MIL in her later years. She started making rediculous accusations we all knew could not be true regarding FIL. We just all had to learn to live with it.

I realize that it's easy for me to see because I'm not the target of the accusations. But as tarabenet basically stated, as long as the rest of the family knows its the dementia making these accusations, you just have to learn the same thing.

Hugs

[jal]

>But it sounds very much like you are dealing with a victime of
>senile dementia. You must not expect a "crazy person" to act
>like a sane one. You must not weigh her actions and tirades
>against you (or others) the same as you would those of someone
>with sound judegment.
>
>There are lots of things that could cause what she is going
>through, and that is worth exploring, if only to make her
>easier to handle. But the most important thing for you to keep
>in mind, for your own peace of mind, is that she is not
>rational and you must not allow her tirades to upset you.
>They have nothing to do with you. They are figments of her
>own mind. It sounds like whether the rest of the family will
>put it in quite those terms or not, they do recognize
>something along these lines.
>
>I'm not trying to lecture you. You don't deserve the pain you
>are in. But it will be less pain if you will change the
>filter through which you see her. She is not a
>fully-functionng, competent person. Do not take her as one.
>
>
>And as for hating another person, or wishing them dead: let
>those become only passing feelings, reactions that you
>overcome. Don't fuel them and feed them and turn them into
>something real. Because then they will ave the power to tear
>you apart. Let them wash through you and then wash away.
>
>I wish you peace, and a new understanding of what you are
>dealing with, and, well, a lot less of Nana to deal with!
>Hugs.
>
>

tarabenet,
Those were the exact sentiments I was thinging about... very well said.

I would disagree with other posters that suggest Nana needs medical care. Yes, clinically, she may be diagnosed with a sort of "dementia", but from my point of view, she's just old, because as you can see from the other numerous posts, this is not an uncommon occurance.

In our case, it was a beloved Aunt In-Law that lived with my MIL in her later years. She started making rediculous accusations we all knew could not be true regarding FIL. We just all had to learn to live with it.

I realize that it's easy for me to see because I'm not the target of the accusations. But as tarabenet basically stated, as long as the rest of the family knows its the dementia making these accusations, you just have to learn the same thing.

Hugs

[jal]

>But it sounds very much like you are dealing with a victime of
>senile dementia. You must not expect a "crazy person" to act
>like a sane one. You must not weigh her actions and tirades
>against you (or others) the same as you would those of someone
>with sound judegment.
>
>There are lots of things that could cause what she is going
>through, and that is worth exploring, if only to make her
>easier to handle. But the most important thing for you to keep
>in mind, for your own peace of mind, is that she is not
>rational and you must not allow her tirades to upset you.
>They have nothing to do with you. They are figments of her
>own mind. It sounds like whether the rest of the family will
>put it in quite those terms or not, they do recognize
>something along these lines.
>
>I'm not trying to lecture you. You don't deserve the pain you
>are in. But it will be less pain if you will change the
>filter through which you see her. She is not a
>fully-functionng, competent person. Do not take her as one.
>
>
>And as for hating another person, or wishing them dead: let
>those become only passing feelings, reactions that you
>overcome. Don't fuel them and feed them and turn them into
>something real. Because then they will ave the power to tear
>you apart. Let them wash through you and then wash away.
>
>I wish you peace, and a new understanding of what you are
>dealing with, and, well, a lot less of Nana to deal with!
>Hugs.
>
>

tarabenet,
Those were the exact sentiments I was thinging about... very well said.

I would disagree with other posters that suggest Nana needs medical care. Yes, clinically, she may be diagnosed with a sort of "dementia", but from my point of view, she's just old, because as you can see from the other numerous posts, this is not an uncommon occurance.

In our case, it was a beloved Aunt In-Law that lived with my MIL in her later years. She started making rediculous accusations we all knew could not be true regarding FIL. We just all had to learn to live with it.

I realize that it's easy for me to see because I'm not the target of the accusations. But as tarabenet basically stated, as long as the rest of the family knows its the dementia making these accusations, you just have to learn the same thing.

Hugs

[Melanie]

I'm so sorry. Does she have Alzheimer's? SOunds like stories I have heard from family members dealing with that disease.

ETA: I have no first hand advice, but I was wondering...how would it work if you just humored her? Just went along rather? Would it make your life easier? I mean, instead of arguing that you didn't take her papers, instead respond with "Oh yes, Nana...I moved them over HERE. See, here are your papers..." and give her whatever.

Just a thought.

[Melanie]

I'm so sorry. Does she have Alzheimer's? SOunds like stories I have heard from family members dealing with that disease.

ETA: I have no first hand advice, but I was wondering...how would it work if you just humored her? Just went along rather? Would it make your life easier? I mean, instead of arguing that you didn't take her papers, instead respond with "Oh yes, Nana...I moved them over HERE. See, here are your papers..." and give her whatever.

Just a thought.

[Melanie]

I'm so sorry. Does she have Alzheimer's? SOunds like stories I have heard from family members dealing with that disease.

ETA: I have no first hand advice, but I was wondering...how would it work if you just humored her? Just went along rather? Would it make your life easier? I mean, instead of arguing that you didn't take her papers, instead respond with "Oh yes, Nana...I moved them over HERE. See, here are your papers..." and give her whatever.

Just a thought.

[Melanie]

I'm so sorry. Does she have Alzheimer's? SOunds like stories I have heard from family members dealing with that disease.

ETA: I have no first hand advice, but I was wondering...how would it work if you just humored her? Just went along rather? Would it make your life easier? I mean, instead of arguing that you didn't take her papers, instead respond with "Oh yes, Nana...I moved them over HERE. See, here are your papers..." and give her whatever.

Just a thought.

[Melanie]

I'm so sorry. Does she have Alzheimer's? SOunds like stories I have heard from family members dealing with that disease.

ETA: I have no first hand advice, but I was wondering...how would it work if you just humored her? Just went along rather? Would it make your life easier? I mean, instead of arguing that you didn't take her papers, instead respond with "Oh yes, Nana...I moved them over HERE. See, here are your papers..." and give her whatever.

Just a thought.

[Melanie]

I'm so sorry. Does she have Alzheimer's? SOunds like stories I have heard from family members dealing with that disease.

ETA: I have no first hand advice, but I was wondering...how would it work if you just humored her? Just went along rather? Would it make your life easier? I mean, instead of arguing that you didn't take her papers, instead respond with "Oh yes, Nana...I moved them over HERE. See, here are your papers..." and give her whatever.

Just a thought.

[Melanie]

I'm so sorry. Does she have Alzheimer's? SOunds like stories I have heard from family members dealing with that disease.

ETA: I have no first hand advice, but I was wondering...how would it work if you just humored her? Just went along rather? Would it make your life easier? I mean, instead of arguing that you didn't take her papers, instead respond with "Oh yes, Nana...I moved them over HERE. See, here are your papers..." and give her whatever.

Just a thought.

[Melanie]

I'm so sorry. Does she have Alzheimer's? SOunds like stories I have heard from family members dealing with that disease.

ETA: I have no first hand advice, but I was wondering...how would it work if you just humored her? Just went along rather? Would it make your life easier? I mean, instead of arguing that you didn't take her papers, instead respond with "Oh yes, Nana...I moved them over HERE. See, here are your papers..." and give her whatever.

Just a thought.

[Melanie]

I'm so sorry. Does she have Alzheimer's? SOunds like stories I have heard from family members dealing with that disease.

ETA: I have no first hand advice, but I was wondering...how would it work if you just humored her? Just went along rather? Would it make your life easier? I mean, instead of arguing that you didn't take her papers, instead respond with "Oh yes, Nana...I moved them over HERE. See, here are your papers..." and give her whatever.

Just a thought.

[tina-t]

(((Hugs))) This is really hard. I agree with the other posters that this sounds like dementia. She needs to be evaluated by a doctor. Medications may or may not help her behaviour. However, the doctor might know of other community services that can help her and the families deal with this.

Hang in there and try not to take her accusations personally. She is no longer thinking rationally all the time.

[tina-t]

(((Hugs))) This is really hard. I agree with the other posters that this sounds like dementia. She needs to be evaluated by a doctor. Medications may or may not help her behaviour. However, the doctor might know of other community services that can help her and the families deal with this.

Hang in there and try not to take her accusations personally. She is no longer thinking rationally all the time.

[tina-t]

(((Hugs))) This is really hard. I agree with the other posters that this sounds like dementia. She needs to be evaluated by a doctor. Medications may or may not help her behaviour. However, the doctor might know of other community services that can help her and the families deal with this.

Hang in there and try not to take her accusations personally. She is no longer thinking rationally all the time.

[tina-t]

(((Hugs))) This is really hard. I agree with the other posters that this sounds like dementia. She needs to be evaluated by a doctor. Medications may or may not help her behaviour. However, the doctor might know of other community services that can help her and the families deal with this.

Hang in there and try not to take her accusations personally. She is no longer thinking rationally all the time.

[tina-t]

(((Hugs))) This is really hard. I agree with the other posters that this sounds like dementia. She needs to be evaluated by a doctor. Medications may or may not help her behaviour. However, the doctor might know of other community services that can help her and the families deal with this.

Hang in there and try not to take her accusations personally. She is no longer thinking rationally all the time.

[tina-t]

(((Hugs))) This is really hard. I agree with the other posters that this sounds like dementia. She needs to be evaluated by a doctor. Medications may or may not help her behaviour. However, the doctor might know of other community services that can help her and the families deal with this.

Hang in there and try not to take her accusations personally. She is no longer thinking rationally all the time.

[tina-t]

(((Hugs))) This is really hard. I agree with the other posters that this sounds like dementia. She needs to be evaluated by a doctor. Medications may or may not help her behaviour. However, the doctor might know of other community services that can help her and the families deal with this.

Hang in there and try not to take her accusations personally. She is no longer thinking rationally all the time.

[tina-t]

(((Hugs))) This is really hard. I agree with the other posters that this sounds like dementia. She needs to be evaluated by a doctor. Medications may or may not help her behaviour. However, the doctor might know of other community services that can help her and the families deal with this.

Hang in there and try not to take her accusations personally. She is no longer thinking rationally all the time.

[tina-t]

(((Hugs))) This is really hard. I agree with the other posters that this sounds like dementia. She needs to be evaluated by a doctor. Medications may or may not help her behaviour. However, the doctor might know of other community services that can help her and the families deal with this.

Hang in there and try not to take her accusations personally. She is no longer thinking rationally all the time.

[Saccade]

>I would disagree with other posters that suggest Nana needs
>medical care. Yes, clinically, she may be diagnosed with a
>sort of "dementia", but from my point of view, she's just old,
>because as you can see from the other numerous posts, this is
>not an uncommon occurance.

Sorry, but as a neurologist I have to respectfully disagree and recommend that Nana should indeed go to a doctor, if only for one evaluation. There are common and reverbile causes of dementia that should be ruled out before everyone just assumes it's a degenerative dementia (e.g. Alzheimer disease or frontotemporal dementia) and learns to live with the behavior. There are also very useful medications and therapies that can help with specific behavioral problems. To the OP, if you need help finding someone nearby, please PM me.


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[Saccade]

>I would disagree with other posters that suggest Nana needs
>medical care. Yes, clinically, she may be diagnosed with a
>sort of "dementia", but from my point of view, she's just old,
>because as you can see from the other numerous posts, this is
>not an uncommon occurance.

Sorry, but as a neurologist I have to respectfully disagree and recommend that Nana should indeed go to a doctor, if only for one evaluation. There are common and reverbile causes of dementia that should be ruled out before everyone just assumes it's a degenerative dementia (e.g. Alzheimer disease or frontotemporal dementia) and learns to live with the behavior. There are also very useful medications and therapies that can help with specific behavioral problems. To the OP, if you need help finding someone nearby, please PM me.


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[Saccade]

>I would disagree with other posters that suggest Nana needs
>medical care. Yes, clinically, she may be diagnosed with a
>sort of "dementia", but from my point of view, she's just old,
>because as you can see from the other numerous posts, this is
>not an uncommon occurance.

Sorry, but as a neurologist I have to respectfully disagree and recommend that Nana should indeed go to a doctor, if only for one evaluation. There are common and reverbile causes of dementia that should be ruled out before everyone just assumes it's a degenerative dementia (e.g. Alzheimer disease or frontotemporal dementia) and learns to live with the behavior. There are also very useful medications and therapies that can help with specific behavioral problems. To the OP, if you need help finding someone nearby, please PM me.


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[Saccade]

>I would disagree with other posters that suggest Nana needs
>medical care. Yes, clinically, she may be diagnosed with a
>sort of "dementia", but from my point of view, she's just old,
>because as you can see from the other numerous posts, this is
>not an uncommon occurance.

Sorry, but as a neurologist I have to respectfully disagree and recommend that Nana should indeed go to a doctor, if only for one evaluation. There are common and reverbile causes of dementia that should be ruled out before everyone just assumes it's a degenerative dementia (e.g. Alzheimer disease or frontotemporal dementia) and learns to live with the behavior. There are also very useful medications and therapies that can help with specific behavioral problems. To the OP, if you need help finding someone nearby, please PM me.


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[Saccade]

>I would disagree with other posters that suggest Nana needs
>medical care. Yes, clinically, she may be diagnosed with a
>sort of "dementia", but from my point of view, she's just old,
>because as you can see from the other numerous posts, this is
>not an uncommon occurance.

Sorry, but as a neurologist I have to respectfully disagree and recommend that Nana should indeed go to a doctor, if only for one evaluation. There are common and reverbile causes of dementia that should be ruled out before everyone just assumes it's a degenerative dementia (e.g. Alzheimer disease or frontotemporal dementia) and learns to live with the behavior. There are also very useful medications and therapies that can help with specific behavioral problems. To the OP, if you need help finding someone nearby, please PM me.


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[Saccade]

>I would disagree with other posters that suggest Nana needs
>medical care. Yes, clinically, she may be diagnosed with a
>sort of "dementia", but from my point of view, she's just old,
>because as you can see from the other numerous posts, this is
>not an uncommon occurance.

Sorry, but as a neurologist I have to respectfully disagree and recommend that Nana should indeed go to a doctor, if only for one evaluation. There are common and reverbile causes of dementia that should be ruled out before everyone just assumes it's a degenerative dementia (e.g. Alzheimer disease or frontotemporal dementia) and learns to live with the behavior. There are also very useful medications and therapies that can help with specific behavioral problems. To the OP, if you need help finding someone nearby, please PM me.


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[Saccade]

>I would disagree with other posters that suggest Nana needs
>medical care. Yes, clinically, she may be diagnosed with a
>sort of "dementia", but from my point of view, she's just old,
>because as you can see from the other numerous posts, this is
>not an uncommon occurance.

Sorry, but as a neurologist I have to respectfully disagree and recommend that Nana should indeed go to a doctor, if only for one evaluation. There are common and reverbile causes of dementia that should be ruled out before everyone just assumes it's a degenerative dementia (e.g. Alzheimer disease or frontotemporal dementia) and learns to live with the behavior. There are also very useful medications and therapies that can help with specific behavioral problems. To the OP, if you need help finding someone nearby, please PM me.


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