SammyeGail
11-13-2006, 03:36 PM
My MIL is here visiting this week. Our twins first B'day is on the 20th but we had the party this past Saturday because she was here. The second day she was here, she mentioned she didn't get the boys anything because she didn't know what to get. OK, whatever, I'm busy taking care of twins, I can't drag her all over the place to pick stuff out. She's got a rental car, she can drive herself to Wal-Mart or where ever and just get some toys that say 12M+. Later that day she went to the grocery store to get some bananas because we didn't have any. No-where else. DH took Friday off to help get things ready for the party, clean the house really well, etc. She mentions again she didn't buy them anything because she didn't know what to get. So we end up having to go to ToysRUs 35 minutes away. DH and I picked out lots of things, things we were going to get too since my mail-ordered stuff wasn't going to get here in time. We would have never expected her to get it all, not in any sense. We get up to the check out and she looks thru the cart. She picked out 2 things to purchase, they were 14.99 each. That was their B'day present from thier Grandmother, $30 plus tax. She is not short on money, honestly she is loaded financially. DH and I paid the $170 if the rest of the stuff.
It just hurts. Its not all about the amount she spent, it was that she was so cheap about what to get. These are her grandchildren!! She got here last Wed. and has hardly shown any interest in the boys. She goes thru her little daily routine and in her free time sits in the recliner reading. She showed interest in them at the party, but I think it was because other people were around. BUT, of everyone there, she did show the least amount. Mostly she chit-chatted with people there, I guess strangers lives are more interesting to her.
I eventually got over all that by the end of Saturday night. She's always been like this, very unemotional. Some friends of ours stayed overnight at a hotel Sat, he and DH went hiking Sunday and she and I stayed home playing with the boys and their new toys. My MIL did nothing. She just sat in that chair reading her book. I just ignored her, if she has no interest in the boys, thats her loss.
So this is how today goes. Noah woke up at 7:30. We watch Baby Einstein while I give him breakfast. He gets restless when we don't and its harder to get him to eat. Jonas woke up mid way thru Noah's eating, I got him in the highchair and was feeding them both. She comes in the den and mentions the TV woke her up. SO FREAKING WHAT? (ok, evidently I was not 'over' it all, lol!) I didn't reply, what was there to say? This is my day, this is my house, they are my children. She says good morning to the boys (seriously, the only she said was 'good morning', from about 5 feet away) and goes off to fix her breakfast. She mentions we are low on milk, she may not have enough for her cereal. I again didn't reply, wasn't really anything to say. I think she wanted me to go to the store and get her some. I wouldn't dare leave the boys with her. I eventually told her some cereal bars are in the cabinet after she just stood there a few minutes. I take the boys in their room and we all play for a while (just me and them). I had been picking up dirty laundry all morning here and there and dropping it in the washer waiting to get a full load. She comes in their room to ask me to take the stuff out so she could wash some of her things. ARG!! I told her she would have to wait, but that I'll start the washer now. She goes away, I guess to read some more. As soon as the washer finishes, I'm giving the boys their bottles, getting them ready for their nap and she asked me to put the things in the dryer so she could use the washer. I just went and did it because I knew she would keep asking me every 5 minutes, I just wanted her to shut-up. The clothes are in the dryer while the boys are asleep, I hid in my bedroom until they woke up. Her stuff in the washer finished, she comes knocking on the door wanting the stuff out of the dryer. I said "Ummm, they're not dry yet..." she says ok and leaves. The boys wake up and we have lunch. I'm feeding them and she comes and asks me what was for lunch. I told her I was giving the boys Macncheese, veggies, etc. She says she meant her lunch. I told her 'Well, I don't know, whatever is around'. She sits at the kitchen table for 1/2 an hour, I guess waiting on me to fix her some lunch. I throw myself together a sandwich and we go back to their room to play (of course, just me and the boys). She can fix her own damn lunch. I am not here to wait on her hand and foot. So far today the only think she has done pertaining to the boys is say 'good morning'. NO INTEREST WHATSOEVER!!! Why is she even here!?! She is just reading than damn book, literally right this minute.
ok, sorry its so long, its just hurtful. Last Nov. when the boys were born she sent us a Wal-Mart gift card for $50. At Christmas we got one outfit each, purchased at Wal-Mart, seams came undone after being washed once. I just threw them away.
I am just hurt and want her to leave. She can go read her book at her own freaking house. I have 2 more days of this, I wonder how long it will be before DH and I blow up at her. He feels the same way I do, he didn't even want her to come, so at least its not all me.
Just had to get this out.....
Samantha
Mommy to Noah and Jonas
one year on 11/20/06!!
It just hurts. Its not all about the amount she spent, it was that she was so cheap about what to get. These are her grandchildren!! She got here last Wed. and has hardly shown any interest in the boys. She goes thru her little daily routine and in her free time sits in the recliner reading. She showed interest in them at the party, but I think it was because other people were around. BUT, of everyone there, she did show the least amount. Mostly she chit-chatted with people there, I guess strangers lives are more interesting to her.
I eventually got over all that by the end of Saturday night. She's always been like this, very unemotional. Some friends of ours stayed overnight at a hotel Sat, he and DH went hiking Sunday and she and I stayed home playing with the boys and their new toys. My MIL did nothing. She just sat in that chair reading her book. I just ignored her, if she has no interest in the boys, thats her loss.
So this is how today goes. Noah woke up at 7:30. We watch Baby Einstein while I give him breakfast. He gets restless when we don't and its harder to get him to eat. Jonas woke up mid way thru Noah's eating, I got him in the highchair and was feeding them both. She comes in the den and mentions the TV woke her up. SO FREAKING WHAT? (ok, evidently I was not 'over' it all, lol!) I didn't reply, what was there to say? This is my day, this is my house, they are my children. She says good morning to the boys (seriously, the only she said was 'good morning', from about 5 feet away) and goes off to fix her breakfast. She mentions we are low on milk, she may not have enough for her cereal. I again didn't reply, wasn't really anything to say. I think she wanted me to go to the store and get her some. I wouldn't dare leave the boys with her. I eventually told her some cereal bars are in the cabinet after she just stood there a few minutes. I take the boys in their room and we all play for a while (just me and them). I had been picking up dirty laundry all morning here and there and dropping it in the washer waiting to get a full load. She comes in their room to ask me to take the stuff out so she could wash some of her things. ARG!! I told her she would have to wait, but that I'll start the washer now. She goes away, I guess to read some more. As soon as the washer finishes, I'm giving the boys their bottles, getting them ready for their nap and she asked me to put the things in the dryer so she could use the washer. I just went and did it because I knew she would keep asking me every 5 minutes, I just wanted her to shut-up. The clothes are in the dryer while the boys are asleep, I hid in my bedroom until they woke up. Her stuff in the washer finished, she comes knocking on the door wanting the stuff out of the dryer. I said "Ummm, they're not dry yet..." she says ok and leaves. The boys wake up and we have lunch. I'm feeding them and she comes and asks me what was for lunch. I told her I was giving the boys Macncheese, veggies, etc. She says she meant her lunch. I told her 'Well, I don't know, whatever is around'. She sits at the kitchen table for 1/2 an hour, I guess waiting on me to fix her some lunch. I throw myself together a sandwich and we go back to their room to play (of course, just me and the boys). She can fix her own damn lunch. I am not here to wait on her hand and foot. So far today the only think she has done pertaining to the boys is say 'good morning'. NO INTEREST WHATSOEVER!!! Why is she even here!?! She is just reading than damn book, literally right this minute.
ok, sorry its so long, its just hurtful. Last Nov. when the boys were born she sent us a Wal-Mart gift card for $50. At Christmas we got one outfit each, purchased at Wal-Mart, seams came undone after being washed once. I just threw them away.
I am just hurt and want her to leave. She can go read her book at her own freaking house. I have 2 more days of this, I wonder how long it will be before DH and I blow up at her. He feels the same way I do, he didn't even want her to come, so at least its not all me.
Just had to get this out.....
Samantha
Mommy to Noah and Jonas
one year on 11/20/06!!