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deannamorrison
12-16-2006, 09:29 PM
This is a big long......if you have any advice to share, please do...
I work as a salesperson for a large company. I've been for almost a year. My numbers are consistent; I always make goal. I enjoy my job and am fairly well liked.
During the first year of employment, one is placed in a training class. Once the year is up, one moves from the training class to a regular team and a new manager.
Well, I found out who my new manager/team is going to be. I was shocked. It wasn't whom I expected at all. And to complicate the issue, I was told that I would be sitting next to my new "mentor", a very aggressive female who wants to go into management. No flames please , but I have never worked well with another female. This scares me. And I've heard that the manager himself likes to micromanage. I also fear this as I am pretty much left alone on my current team.
Anyhoo, as soon as my current manager told me this, I was visibly upset. I felt cheated(Yeah, I know that sounds dumb). I was the top salesperson in my training class and yet everyone else in the class got the manager of choice but me. My boss explained the reasoning to me. I was still doubtful. He must have told his boss about my feelings because she pulled me into her office and explained things to me,too. My entire week had just sucked(at work,at home and in my personal life) and I spent the rest of the day sulking.
Fast forward a day later. I've calmed down a bit and I'm really embarrassed over the fit I pitched. I've never shown a bad attitude at work until Friday.
Now I have to walk in there on Monday....and I just want to crawl under my deak:(

tarabenet
12-16-2006, 09:58 PM
I'd go with the idea that they figured they had to put *someone* in that slot, and either felt that you would handle it well or would learn some extras that the others weren't quite up for. May or may not be true, but why not tell yourself the story that boosts you up?

As for how to deal with it from here forward? As if it never happened. There is no one appropriate to apologize to. To bring it up in any way is to emphasize it. We all know that everyone has their moments. They will just realize that the incident was one of yours. If you don't do it again, it will all be forgotten. Just make sure that you are showing off your very best side and prove that you can take this stuff in stride. Then *that* is what will be remembered.

Now, try this on for size: your very dear friend, whom you like and admire, has just called you up. She just told you the story above. What would you say to her? What would you think of her? Why would you be any less kind and supportive to yourself?

Stop beating yourself up. Get in there and prove that you are still the star of your "class"!

bcky2
12-17-2006, 09:30 AM
i agree with what Benet said 110%. maybe they put you with her because they knew you had what it takes. go in there on monday and just go about your business and show them that you can take it and make it work :)

cstack
12-17-2006, 11:32 AM
BTDT = go in and act like nothing happened. If you're approached on it, just say "it's ok, i am a professional and i'll behave as such. This won't effect my work at all. I was just momentarily stunned, but it's ok." - then do just that. It will be fine, trust me. You never know, it may even be better for you.

ribbit1019
12-17-2006, 07:09 PM
I have so been there and done that. Only I wasn't in training as long as you. The supervisor I had at my last job was not so great, he sounds like the guy you are under now. I spent countless hours trying to get away from him and was finally promoted a year after I started in his unit. After two or three confrontations with him and practically begging to be reassigned I just dealt by avoiding him unless neccessary. If you do the best job you can then he should leave you alone for the most part. :) GL, and super huge hugs, I totally understand how you are feeling right now.


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