Radosti
12-22-2006, 07:33 AM
OK, I'm Jewish. My holiday is almost over. He's Catholic. His holiday is coming up. Do you think he spent one split second in a store to buy anyone in his family a gift??? NOPE. Did he expect me to? YUP. Did I? Not for a while. I am too tired. When I realized that his family still needs gifts, I was quite unimaginative. I got all of them LL Bean Polar Fleece pull-overs. Nice ones. His nephew, sister, and other sister's DH are also getting $25 Gap gift cards. The other sister is pregnant, so she is getting two Babystyle maternity shirts. DH's dad is also getting a Land's End windbreaker (canvas style zip-up). DH's grandpop is getting 5 $10 gift certificates to his favorite diner. DH's mom was getting just the polar fleece (me being passive aggressive). But DH insists that she won't ever wear it and needs something else. I got myself a $50 bennigan's card from my credit card rewards. He's telling me that I need to give that to her. I told him that I'm returning the fleece then since she won't wear it anyway. I get a very curt "FINE!"
Background. This woman has been passive aggressive to me for a long long time. She can't stand that her son married a Jew and is raising his son Jewish. She is randomly pushing her christianity on us and doesn't acknowledge anything jewish. DS didn't get anything for Hanukkah from her, but I bet there will be a stocking waiting for him. I was fine with all that. But two recent events convinced me she is snubbing my one year old. At Thanksgiving, DH's cousins were there with their kids (not her grandchildren) and she fussed with them and left me to manage a one-year old in a house that was very not child-proofed. DH acts like he's there to relax only and is barely any help with DS while we are there (normally he's a wonderful father). OK, you know, DS was fussy (ear infection) and she didn't want to deal with him. OK, I got it. But then, we celebrated DS's birthday. DH's cousins were here again. Two of their kids were being entertained by the clown. So, that left the cousin with a 6 months old.
DH's mom was holding the 6 months old constantly. My mom asked me if I wasn't letting DH's mom hold DS. I told her she doesn't want him. My mom thought that was preposterous of me to assume. So, she took DS to Dh's mom and gave him to her when DH's mom wasn't holding the 6 months old. Literally, 3 minutes later, she gave him back to my mom because "she had to go help with the 6 months old". The woman didn't kiss DS at any point. She didn't pay attention to him at all at MY house on HIS birthday.
I am through trying to make nice nice with her. DH isn't going to say anything to her. I'm done. Why should I give her something I got for my own family to have a nice dinner with. Grrrr....
Background. This woman has been passive aggressive to me for a long long time. She can't stand that her son married a Jew and is raising his son Jewish. She is randomly pushing her christianity on us and doesn't acknowledge anything jewish. DS didn't get anything for Hanukkah from her, but I bet there will be a stocking waiting for him. I was fine with all that. But two recent events convinced me she is snubbing my one year old. At Thanksgiving, DH's cousins were there with their kids (not her grandchildren) and she fussed with them and left me to manage a one-year old in a house that was very not child-proofed. DH acts like he's there to relax only and is barely any help with DS while we are there (normally he's a wonderful father). OK, you know, DS was fussy (ear infection) and she didn't want to deal with him. OK, I got it. But then, we celebrated DS's birthday. DH's cousins were here again. Two of their kids were being entertained by the clown. So, that left the cousin with a 6 months old.
DH's mom was holding the 6 months old constantly. My mom asked me if I wasn't letting DH's mom hold DS. I told her she doesn't want him. My mom thought that was preposterous of me to assume. So, she took DS to Dh's mom and gave him to her when DH's mom wasn't holding the 6 months old. Literally, 3 minutes later, she gave him back to my mom because "she had to go help with the 6 months old". The woman didn't kiss DS at any point. She didn't pay attention to him at all at MY house on HIS birthday.
I am through trying to make nice nice with her. DH isn't going to say anything to her. I'm done. Why should I give her something I got for my own family to have a nice dinner with. Grrrr....