tarynsmum
12-26-2006, 11:57 AM
I've been going back and forth about posting about this, but maybe if I get it out, I can forget about it (or at least stop letting it bother me).
My mother-in-law is extremely irresponsible,self-centered, and, well, just really annoying. Before I get posts about how I should be grateful DD just has a grandma at all, well, she doesn't really. MIL has seen DD 4 times since she's been born: in the hospital, at Easter (when she happened to stop by while we were visiting GMIL), when DD and I went with DH to visit (she didn't invite us, we just went), and Christmas Eve (again, at GMIL's assisted living apartment). My mom, who lives 800 miles away, has seen her more. MIL lives about 45 minutes away.
She acts like a teenager: she's very skinny, and wears tight, tight hiphugger jeans, and has long hair that she wears in a ponytail with scrunchies (ok, that's not bad, just annoying and sort of embarrassing for DH). She cannot keep a job to save her live, and moves every couple of months because she can't pay her bills. And who goes and moves her stuff for her (even though she is able-bodied and can do it herself): DH. On the weekends, wheh he could be spending time with his family.
Here's the real situation: when DH's father died last September (his parents have been divorced for nearly 30 years, and they very rarely ever saw each other). DH gave his mom his 2000 Chevy Impala (maybe it was a Malibu?) because she needed a car to get to work, and she wrecked hers. This was a really nice car, that DH was planning to use as a second car (he drives a work truck, which obviously DD can't ride in). He offered to sell her the car for $1200 (the car is worth WAAAY more than that) back in September, when he gave it to her. She agreed, but had "no money, but she would pay him back". You see where this is going: it's been over a year NOT A DIME. About a month ago, we get a phone call in the middle of the night: his mom, histerical (drunk) had locked her keys in the car and (I quote) "Wanted to know if it was OK to break the window to get in." UM, NO!!!! Who in their right mind thinks that's a good idea? DH says, "Just call the police, mom, and they'll get it open for you." "But I'll get arrested, since it's not my car" ... "what do you mean, I signed over the title to you a long time ago" "I didn't get it notorized, because I don't have insurance yet." WHAT?!?! So, let's recap: drunk-ass MIL, has been driving OUR car for MONTHS, still in OUR name WITHOUT insurance. If she had an accident, or gotten pulled over, WE would be in huge trouble (because the car is in our name, without insurance, on the road). So I'm still fuming over that (by the way, she wanted DH to drive the hour to where she was, in the middle of the night, to get her car unlocked. No. DH called a friend of his who lived in the area to help her. UGH)
She also STOLE (did not ask) her daughter's SSN to get a phone, electric, etc hooked up in an old apartment. SIL's credit is still really messed up because of it. BIL does not speak to MIL because of it.
So this Christmas Eve: we walk into GMIL's apartment: MIL is 'asleep' (passed out drunk) in the middle of the living room floor. GMIL, DH's aunt and uncle, and hs two young cousins are sitting around the room oblivious, watching TV. SHe finally woke up, was totally drunk, kept trying to play with DD, who was totally scared of her. She acted totally foolish, and left shortly after opening presents.
I apologize for this being so long. If you read all this, wow.
My mother-in-law is extremely irresponsible,self-centered, and, well, just really annoying. Before I get posts about how I should be grateful DD just has a grandma at all, well, she doesn't really. MIL has seen DD 4 times since she's been born: in the hospital, at Easter (when she happened to stop by while we were visiting GMIL), when DD and I went with DH to visit (she didn't invite us, we just went), and Christmas Eve (again, at GMIL's assisted living apartment). My mom, who lives 800 miles away, has seen her more. MIL lives about 45 minutes away.
She acts like a teenager: she's very skinny, and wears tight, tight hiphugger jeans, and has long hair that she wears in a ponytail with scrunchies (ok, that's not bad, just annoying and sort of embarrassing for DH). She cannot keep a job to save her live, and moves every couple of months because she can't pay her bills. And who goes and moves her stuff for her (even though she is able-bodied and can do it herself): DH. On the weekends, wheh he could be spending time with his family.
Here's the real situation: when DH's father died last September (his parents have been divorced for nearly 30 years, and they very rarely ever saw each other). DH gave his mom his 2000 Chevy Impala (maybe it was a Malibu?) because she needed a car to get to work, and she wrecked hers. This was a really nice car, that DH was planning to use as a second car (he drives a work truck, which obviously DD can't ride in). He offered to sell her the car for $1200 (the car is worth WAAAY more than that) back in September, when he gave it to her. She agreed, but had "no money, but she would pay him back". You see where this is going: it's been over a year NOT A DIME. About a month ago, we get a phone call in the middle of the night: his mom, histerical (drunk) had locked her keys in the car and (I quote) "Wanted to know if it was OK to break the window to get in." UM, NO!!!! Who in their right mind thinks that's a good idea? DH says, "Just call the police, mom, and they'll get it open for you." "But I'll get arrested, since it's not my car" ... "what do you mean, I signed over the title to you a long time ago" "I didn't get it notorized, because I don't have insurance yet." WHAT?!?! So, let's recap: drunk-ass MIL, has been driving OUR car for MONTHS, still in OUR name WITHOUT insurance. If she had an accident, or gotten pulled over, WE would be in huge trouble (because the car is in our name, without insurance, on the road). So I'm still fuming over that (by the way, she wanted DH to drive the hour to where she was, in the middle of the night, to get her car unlocked. No. DH called a friend of his who lived in the area to help her. UGH)
She also STOLE (did not ask) her daughter's SSN to get a phone, electric, etc hooked up in an old apartment. SIL's credit is still really messed up because of it. BIL does not speak to MIL because of it.
So this Christmas Eve: we walk into GMIL's apartment: MIL is 'asleep' (passed out drunk) in the middle of the living room floor. GMIL, DH's aunt and uncle, and hs two young cousins are sitting around the room oblivious, watching TV. SHe finally woke up, was totally drunk, kept trying to play with DD, who was totally scared of her. She acted totally foolish, and left shortly after opening presents.
I apologize for this being so long. If you read all this, wow.