Nooknookmom
05-02-2007, 11:01 AM
I really love my Mother. Now I'm going to bitch.
I'm supposed to have a planned C-sect. due to back issues. Dr. hasn't been able to give me exactly the date as his sched won't be out till I see him on 7th. It will be the week of 5/21-5/25. I may/may not make it that long b/c of all the contractions I currently keep having. But that's the plan.
So DM kept pushing & pushing for a date she could come. I'm West coast, she's East coast. Translation-LONG visit, very small house.
I pushed hard for the 1st week of June. To give us time to acclimate to the new arrival and get my house put back together (remodeling M bedr.). We only have 2 bedrooms, DD has one & we the other. Mom leaves msg last night that she is arriving 5/29. Didn't ASK if the date was ok, just booked it. I will most likely still be in the hospital if my C is late in the week. DD will be returning to school that day & DH has our business to run and will be at work.
I DID NOT want to come home from the hospital & have company!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! !!!!!!!! I love her dearly but, you don't know my mother.
This is has completely dampered my spirits about the new arrival. All I can think about is not being able to get baby settled, get any sleep, etc.
She is 77 and very "old-school" when it comes to babies. I'm going to try to BF & I can hear her now, "oh just give her a bottle w/ some cereal in it-she'll sleep better." That kind of thing. I'm going to try CDing, this too will be an issue. She puts babies down on their tummys to sleep, def. a no-no. Argh.
I'm going to go nuts. It would have been better if my Dad could've come too-buffer zone.
I'm sure I could just say "change your ticket" but that would cause WW3. My nephew, who she practically raised - had a DD 16 years ago, the baby had jaundice and his wife politely asked us to wait until baby was better to visit. Mom hasn't spoken to them since. That's her personallity. Grrr...
I'm supposed to have a planned C-sect. due to back issues. Dr. hasn't been able to give me exactly the date as his sched won't be out till I see him on 7th. It will be the week of 5/21-5/25. I may/may not make it that long b/c of all the contractions I currently keep having. But that's the plan.
So DM kept pushing & pushing for a date she could come. I'm West coast, she's East coast. Translation-LONG visit, very small house.
I pushed hard for the 1st week of June. To give us time to acclimate to the new arrival and get my house put back together (remodeling M bedr.). We only have 2 bedrooms, DD has one & we the other. Mom leaves msg last night that she is arriving 5/29. Didn't ASK if the date was ok, just booked it. I will most likely still be in the hospital if my C is late in the week. DD will be returning to school that day & DH has our business to run and will be at work.
I DID NOT want to come home from the hospital & have company!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! !!!!!!!! I love her dearly but, you don't know my mother.
This is has completely dampered my spirits about the new arrival. All I can think about is not being able to get baby settled, get any sleep, etc.
She is 77 and very "old-school" when it comes to babies. I'm going to try to BF & I can hear her now, "oh just give her a bottle w/ some cereal in it-she'll sleep better." That kind of thing. I'm going to try CDing, this too will be an issue. She puts babies down on their tummys to sleep, def. a no-no. Argh.
I'm going to go nuts. It would have been better if my Dad could've come too-buffer zone.
I'm sure I could just say "change your ticket" but that would cause WW3. My nephew, who she practically raised - had a DD 16 years ago, the baby had jaundice and his wife politely asked us to wait until baby was better to visit. Mom hasn't spoken to them since. That's her personallity. Grrr...