alkagift
03-26-2003, 11:05 AM
The MIL sin thread had so many shower flubs that I wanted to air a question about showers...
I know this sounds like an obvious question, but for me it isn't. DH and I live in a big city where most of our family and friends do not. DH's sister (who is due 4/29) lives here, but that's it. To compound things, we are pretty introverted (read: hermits) and don't have crowds of friends.
Here's the situation--both of our offices want to throw a shower, which they will do and I'm sure they will be nice. Most of the people we know will be at one of those, because we mostly know work people (sad, I know). Our immediate neighbors have already given us gifts at a supperclub kind of thing. So, one of our close friends yesterday offered to throw us a baby shower and asked us for a list of people to invite. Who in the world would come?? DH's sister might, as long as she wasn't too miserable, but at this late date the shower would be within 2 weeks of her due date, so it's not likely that she would come. We could invite my family and DH's mother, but they live a minimum of a 6-hour drive from here, as do all of our old friends.
So, I can see all of these invites going out and two people showing up! Would it be better just to tell our friends that we shouldn't have one? Would our families and old friends feel bad that they didn't get to contribute to a shower? I don't care about the gifts but I love my friends and family and I don't want to hurt their feelings by either inviting them to something they can't attend or just not inviting them at all...help!
Allison
Expecting #1 5/27/03
I know this sounds like an obvious question, but for me it isn't. DH and I live in a big city where most of our family and friends do not. DH's sister (who is due 4/29) lives here, but that's it. To compound things, we are pretty introverted (read: hermits) and don't have crowds of friends.
Here's the situation--both of our offices want to throw a shower, which they will do and I'm sure they will be nice. Most of the people we know will be at one of those, because we mostly know work people (sad, I know). Our immediate neighbors have already given us gifts at a supperclub kind of thing. So, one of our close friends yesterday offered to throw us a baby shower and asked us for a list of people to invite. Who in the world would come?? DH's sister might, as long as she wasn't too miserable, but at this late date the shower would be within 2 weeks of her due date, so it's not likely that she would come. We could invite my family and DH's mother, but they live a minimum of a 6-hour drive from here, as do all of our old friends.
So, I can see all of these invites going out and two people showing up! Would it be better just to tell our friends that we shouldn't have one? Would our families and old friends feel bad that they didn't get to contribute to a shower? I don't care about the gifts but I love my friends and family and I don't want to hurt their feelings by either inviting them to something they can't attend or just not inviting them at all...help!
Allison
Expecting #1 5/27/03