jojo2324
04-22-2003, 11:05 PM
Sorry guys, just need an outlet. I'm not sure if you are all aware of FIL's situation, so a quick summary.
DH's mother passed away about 4 years ago. FIL remarried fairly quickly (months), and they started trying to get PG. They were both told that they were unable to have children. So they began the adoption process, and decided to adopt a baby girl from China.
Well, wouldn't you know it, just as soon as they were approved for the adoption, she became pregnant. After much debate, they decided to cancel the adoption. She was very upset by the whole thing, understandably so...She had really started to envision life with her little girl, had bought all the clothes, decorated the nursery, everything, and here she was giving that all up. She had a beautiful baby boy this past February.
They got a call last week letting them know that for whatever reason, their case had NOT been closed, and the agency in China was in the process of matching them with a child. They were absolutely shocked...And I'm sure it really threw her for a loop. She had had a really hard time moving on, and now here it was, her wound being reopened. Anyway, they were all ready to go ahead and continue with the process. However, they would both have to travel to Hong Kong and Thailand. (I don't know why they couldn't just go directly to China, this is what they told me.)
When they realized that they would need to be traveling for about 2-3 weeks, and that it would virtually impossible to not bring their baby along, they decided to not pursue it anymore. Also, the main reason? SARS. And that is what really upsets me, that there are all of these babies waiting for homes and people who need to get to them but can't go for fear of this disease. I do not think that they made an incorrent decision, but my goodness, what a crappy hand. And they are lucky, because they have a beautiful baby. What about all of the other couples who have been waiting for however many years to adopt and have finally gotten the call, only to put themselves and whomever they come into contact with at risk when they finally get that baby? Or who have to give up their dream of having a child because of the risk?
I know that this disease is hitting mainly older people, and that is the other thing. My FIL is no spring chicken, he is nearing 60, so he was worried that there would be a good chance for contacting the disease. The whole thing just bums me out. Thanks for letting me vent.
DH's mother passed away about 4 years ago. FIL remarried fairly quickly (months), and they started trying to get PG. They were both told that they were unable to have children. So they began the adoption process, and decided to adopt a baby girl from China.
Well, wouldn't you know it, just as soon as they were approved for the adoption, she became pregnant. After much debate, they decided to cancel the adoption. She was very upset by the whole thing, understandably so...She had really started to envision life with her little girl, had bought all the clothes, decorated the nursery, everything, and here she was giving that all up. She had a beautiful baby boy this past February.
They got a call last week letting them know that for whatever reason, their case had NOT been closed, and the agency in China was in the process of matching them with a child. They were absolutely shocked...And I'm sure it really threw her for a loop. She had had a really hard time moving on, and now here it was, her wound being reopened. Anyway, they were all ready to go ahead and continue with the process. However, they would both have to travel to Hong Kong and Thailand. (I don't know why they couldn't just go directly to China, this is what they told me.)
When they realized that they would need to be traveling for about 2-3 weeks, and that it would virtually impossible to not bring their baby along, they decided to not pursue it anymore. Also, the main reason? SARS. And that is what really upsets me, that there are all of these babies waiting for homes and people who need to get to them but can't go for fear of this disease. I do not think that they made an incorrent decision, but my goodness, what a crappy hand. And they are lucky, because they have a beautiful baby. What about all of the other couples who have been waiting for however many years to adopt and have finally gotten the call, only to put themselves and whomever they come into contact with at risk when they finally get that baby? Or who have to give up their dream of having a child because of the risk?
I know that this disease is hitting mainly older people, and that is the other thing. My FIL is no spring chicken, he is nearing 60, so he was worried that there would be a good chance for contacting the disease. The whole thing just bums me out. Thanks for letting me vent.